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boyfriend trouble.
my boyfriend is kinda starting to act different towards me, but then sometimes he acts the same.
and the same is being sweet, caring, wanting me ect.
but then somtimes he acts like he doesnt wanna talk or something, idk. i cant explain it.
but can some one tell me why he would be acting like that?
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He's acting distant, right? This is actually normal and usually it doesn't have anything to do with you or your relationship.
I've noticed that whenever my boyfriend is tired or worried (usually about finances) he has a tendency to clam-up and space-out. It's because he's busy thinking about the problem and trying to think of a solution. He will think about it until he feels better about it... And then he'll tell me what he was thinking. When he does this I try not to take it personal because I know it isn't. I let him think and when he's himself again I ask him if he's all right. If he doesn't want to talk about it I try not to push.
I can tell you from past experience that this isn't just my boyfriend... Many men operate this way. The next time your boyfriend is acting 'normal' you might want to tell him that you've noticed an occassional change in his behavior and that it makes you feel insecure and confused about your relationship. You might also want to state that while you understand that he may need time to himself... you would appreciate reassurance about the status of your relationship. As long as you can tell him how you feel and what you would like to happen without implying that he's done anything wrong (because he hasn't) I don't see any reason why he should get defensive. I mean... it works for me.
You might also want to pick up the book, "Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus," by Dr. John Gray. He explains men sooo much better than I do. :)
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Maybe, and quite possibly, he's bored of the relationship. That doesn't mean you, specifically, just that the relationship is losing its "spark" it may have had when it first started.
This is COMPLETELY normal- don't worry.
It isn't anything to really worry about- but, like the person below said, he could be cheating [emphasis on <i>could</i>]. This is pretty unlikely- or he'd be acting different all the time.
Just try talking to him- you should be able to since you're dating. Maybe try doing new things together [not necessarily sexual things]: go new places, talk about new things, do something both of you have never done. Anything will work. Just mix it up a little.
--Jack
(15/m)
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I've went through the same thing with my boyfriend, and I was afraid that he might be cheating on me...then he'd come over and he'd be so sweet...and the next day he'd be....idk...'bleh'. One night I was tired of being upset because I didn't know what was wrong with him and he txtd me...and he knew something was wrong...I told him what it was, because we talk about everything, and ever since then he has been the way he was when we first started dating...give him a chance, talk to him...he might go back to normal...or he may stay the way he has been: "bleh"...if he stays like that, you might want to look into it.
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