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we're not dating but...
i've been talking to this guy all summer but we've said we love each other and we talked on the phone like everynight. but we have this mutual friend Greg and his girlfriend's name is Allison. and lately this guy has been talking to Allison more than me. i mean we're not dating so hes really not cheating on me and im not the jealous type but i just don't know what to do. i mean she has a boyfriend but im not sure Greg knows about it. what should i do??
15/f
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You don't really have a reason to be mad at this guy. I mean- you aren't dating.. so you don't have control over what he can do. Sorry- but its the truth. If you don't like what he's doing- maybe try to hang out with him more- but that might be rude- as he may like Allison, regardless of whether she has a boyfriend or not.
Now onto the conversations between Allison and this guy:
TELL:
Advantage: Greg will know he can rely on you in the future.
Disadvantage: Greg could get mad that you told him.
NOT TELL:
Advantage: You don't get involved in other's business- which is a really good thing. Its sometimes best to mind your own business.
Disadvantage: Greg may want to know- and not telling him may mean he can't trust you anymore- especially since you know what's going on.
I certainly don't think its a big deal that she's talking with this guy [you don't tell us his name]. The problem arises when it becomes a secret being kept from Greg. Personally- I wouldn't get involved with it. It really isn't your job to tell him, is it? But it really is your choice!
--Jack
(15/m)
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wow. omg. it's like we're the same people. i have the same problem.
i know how you're probably feeling. jealous, angry, sad, like you miss him, like he's hurting you. ughh.
ask to hang out with him more. call him more, but not to the extent where it gets annoying. get closer with him and treat him like a very very good friend. tell him a secret that youve "never told anyone else."
I've been doing these things with my other friend and he & I are really getting closer. honestly.
i hope i helped :)
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Um I have one word for this guy... 'Player'.
It's not going to do you or this Allison any good to stick around with this guy...all he's going to do is turn you and Allison against one another, and then he'll make for breaking Allison and Greg up.
I know you might really like this guy, but this guy is definetly going to be hated by someone after everything ends. Don't let him hurt you, is all I'm going to say...
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