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My Boyfriend always works and we always fight
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I care about him alot. With the Christmas season here he has been having to work about 60 hours a week with no days off(since about the begining of November). Now all we do is fight. I know it is because he is stressed and exhausted and I never feel like I get to see him; I also know that it will get back to normal after holiday season calms down in about a month. I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time. I don't want us to break up but I don't know how to calm my mood swings and fighting so he won't get tired of me. Please help... I have been so depressed because of this.
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if you guys are close, all you really have to do is talk to him. tell him you're sorry about all the stress or whatever.
as for your moodswings, if you're not feeling happy, don't talk to him. tell him you need cooldown time or you just need an hour to yourself or whatnot. moodswings make everything worse, trust me.
and since he's totally exhausted from working (which i also know how that feels) be nice when you call him, say you love him or whatever you might say, and if things start getting a little hot tempered, just say you have to go so it won't make things worse.
things take time and patience, and lots of control. it's hard but you'll get through it.
good luck :)
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You said: I just don't know what to do to make him not hate me for fighting with him all of the time.
The answer: Don't fight with him.
If you really think the only problem here is YOU, that is great! Because you can control yourself.
Take deep breaths, remind yourself that it's not reasonable for you to feel that way and tell yourself firmly that when you do speak to him, you need to cerish that time, not beat him up about it.
Only you can control you. There aren't any real tricks to it, you just have to decide to change.
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mabey you should let him work and talk to him when he not tired or working and you know you can always count on him to love you.
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You are being really unrealistic if you think you can add more stress on him and that he won't hate you for it. The little time you have together is precious and you should be letting him know how important it is to you, by treating him with respect and love. Be considerate of his feelings and not just focused on your own needs. Love is seeing and doing something to fulfill someone other than yourself. Only you can save or ruin this relationship with your words and actions. Which will you choose? Whatever you do, give it 100 percent.
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if he has to work so much, why don't you try bringing him lunch and/or dinner to work. this will show him you care, and will give you a chance to see him. this will calm you down, and not make you so angry. and remember he might be working as much as he is to get you something really nice for christmas. he isn't doing it to be mean. so try the bringing him lunch and/or dinner thing. and if he gets off late, you could try waiting up for him, and be at his house, and have something like dessert, or his favorite food, and movie. this is perfect for him to relax after a long day of work, and it will give you guys a chance to hang out, even if you both just fall asleep, at least you guys will be falling asleep in eachothers arms.
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wat you could do is try to help him or sumthing when he gets home or maybe just dont say nothing....but i would be mad if my boyfriend had to work all the time and never had tyme for me or anything......how old are u.....i thihk yall should chill out for a while and maybe see other people.....and then just talk cause maybeits not meant to be for you guys right now.....you can come back later and start all over again and hopefully he has time for you
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Just try really hard not to fight with him. If you happen to talk on the phone, bring up things you know he likes. Compliment him, make him feel good. Find time to see each other, there must be some time, even if its for 30 minutes before he goes to work. Seeing each other just that little bit will hopefully put some spark back into the relationship and he'll be dying to spend some actual time with you. Once he stops working so much and you can spend a day together, that day will be awesome.
Also, if you talk on the phone constantly,(after he gets home from work or whatever) you should probably stop. I've found that in many cases phone conversations help ruin the relationship. Lots of fights happen over the phone due to misunderstanding or irritability late at night.
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