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I need to know what jobs are good for these kind of people. I cannot work in retail or some place with a lot of people :/ Just big places...freak me out.
I'm currently trying my best to go to school to be a travel agent, or a pet groomer...
Hi!
I'm not sure if what you mean by socially phobic. I know I have anxiety problems, I always feel like people are judging me and looking at me when I'm outside. It was hard finding a job because every job I've worked at involved me having to socialize with the customers. I currently work in an office, answering phones, filing, e-mails, etc. I despise using the phone to call people, that's where my anxiety kicks in. But if you really need the job, you'd do what you have to. I sure did lol. It also depends on your age. I'm assuming you're in college, being that you're studying to be a travel agent. Though there are many jobs out there that don't require you to have much social interaction, you'll still have to overcome those troubles, considering you'll have to go to interviews and make it seem like you're friendly and comfortable. Good luck, and I hope I've helped!
I'm 28, female
Ok, so this is a partially love/partially friendship topic so sorry for the long back-story thank you for your time!
My ex-boyfriend (my first love/sex/kiss) and I dated for 5 formative years until we finally fizzled out and decided we needed to date around since at 22 and 23 we felt like an old couple. We honestly stopped being in love but neither of us hurt the other one or cheated or anything-it just died and we're still very close.
We get along extremely well, we can tell each other anything and I often confide in him and seek out his advice-even on relationships! I've always expected that we would remain friends for our entire lives and my current boyfriend of 4 years accepts him and enjoys his company.
Everything was great until he met his now fiance. It's not that she sucks or anything- in fact, since he's been with her, I've only managed to see her once even though my ex and I keep some of the same circle of friends in our hometown, so I haven't had the chance to form an opinion of her. Since they started dating, he has distanced himself greatly and I rarely get to see him in person anymore.
I've received a "save the date" thing for their wedding and I really want to go-it looks fun and I wouldn't dream of missing one of my best friend's weddings! It would break my heart to miss it!
Unfortunately though, I've heard through a mutual friend of ours that the fiance hates me and they've fought a great deal over inviting me-she didn't want me to be there, but apparently he won.
This has been very hurtful for me. Ive never said anything bad about her and I don't really think meeting her one time calls for it. Actually, I think she must be a very cool, smart, and kind person if he would choose to share his life with her. I still very much want to remain friends with my ex and I desperately want his wife-to-be to accept me and the weird (it must be difficult to understand) platonic relationship I have with her fiance, and also, I really want to become her friend too!
I know that if she just spent more time with the two of us she would sense the true nature of our relationship and her mind would be put at ease. I know I can win her over if I just get the chance! However, obviously the reason I barely see him is because she's not cool with it so we don't really have a chance.
It sucks. I seriously care about him SO much-not romantically or sexually but definitely on a deep level.
He is my oldest close friend (10 years) and he means more to me than I could possibly express.
So, the real question:
Should I go to their wedding when I now know that she doesn't want me to be there?
Is it wrong for me to pretend as though I don't know this and press for the chance to spend time with her beforehand in order to win her over?
What can I do to reduce the awkwardness if I go to the event?
Bring my boyfriend?
Sit at the back?
Try to look crappy at the wedding?
Thank you guys!
Hello!
Here's what I think, I'll break it down.
Firstly, I give you A LOT of credit. For wanting to get to know her, for respecting their relationship. Not many women do that these days, they rarely want to get to know the woman or man by their best friend's side. So that should be a HUGE plus for her in regards to how she views you.
I can understand why she feels threatened though. You guys had a serious relationship, know each other inside and out, and have been intimate. Still, I see no reason as to why she should dislike you if you haven't done anything wrong while they have been dating/got engaged.
Coming from personal experience, I wouldn't advise trying to hang out with just her and him... She might feel left out, like a third wheel, and judging by the way she is acting that's exactly how it might turn out... You can try to do a group outing, perhaps it can work well if she sees that you're cool with everyone, and that you're not there to get close to her fiance. Personally, I think you should definitely let your best friend know how much you want to meet her, how she seems like a great person, and that a group outing would be fun. Why should she feel threatned if everyone is bringing their own friends to hang out?
-What can I do to reduce the awkwardness if I go to the event?
Bring my boyfriend? Yes, that would be nice. Why not?
Sit at the back? I mean, you don't have to sit all the way in the back. Sit somewhere in between so they both see how happy you are for them.
Try to look crappy at the wedding? That;s not necessary, but follow the general guidelines. Don't try to stick out, don't wear white, etc. It's her day, and his too. The less she feels threatned, the more comfortable she'll be. Know your boundaries :) I'm sure you do.
I hope I've helped! Good luck!
-Uniq
I'm an american living in england.
So I'm 18 and in my last year of high school. I have no friends and spend all of my time alone. Part of the reason is because I had health problems last year so had to take a year off of school, drop my college offers and come back to join the year below. So I don't really know anyone and all of my old friends are going to uni across the country. I also have no relatives cause they're all in the USA.
I never had many friends in the first place. I've had an issue with that since the beginning of high school. The school I go to is really preppy, I can afford it because of a scholarship but feel really out of place. A lot of people spend their weekends/vacations horse-riding, going on yachts and visiting each other in country homes in mainland Europe.
I'm just so unhappy being isolated. Can't wait to go to college but I'm really afraid i'll be isolated there too. Sorry that was long. Any advice please?
EDIT: Hey In response to your feedback you can add me, my facebook name is Belkis Marenco OR you can search my email belkislachula@hotmail.com :)
Hey :)
Thanks for the inbox question. That wasn't long at all, and I totally understand where you're coming from. Although it might not be the best option, I would say meet friends online. It won't intimidate you, you'll be able to be friendly, and get to know eachother. You can also join clubs at school. I'm not as social either with my anxiety problems, but when people give me a chance all they see are smiles. Do you have at least one friend who you can go out with and meet new people? As far as college, it might be different. You just have to make yourself available. I'd suggest going out with a friend and taking the city by storm. Meet people online like on facebook or myspace. You can even join groups online and meet people with similar interests! I, for one, wouldn't mind if you wanted me to be someone you can talk to either. Though I'm in the US lol. I hope this helps!
-Uniq.
I am looking for a wedding ring, but I really can't pick a style. I have a budget of $700, but obviously cheaper is better. These are the ones I'm deciding between are these:
http://www.zoara.com/selected-product/11292
http://www.zoara.com/selected-product/11131
http://www.bluenile.com/diamond-ring-white-gold_9736
I really want it to match my engagement ring which has 4 sidestone diamonds along the side of the band on either side of the centerstone round brilliant.
What do you think!?
Hello!
First I want to say congratulations!! That's very exciting. As far as the rings, I'll be honest, they all look the same to me lol. But I like the last one.. Since they look similar, how about considering the value of the ring (if it matters)? Some people care about the Karats, some people care about the price, some people care about the looks. Whichever one you pick though, I bet they'll look gorgeous with your engagement ring ^_^
Good luck, and I hope you live a happily married life!
-Uniq
20f.
I'm comfortable with my body but the only thing I'm not comfortable with is my labia. It's longer than normal ..which makes me SOOO unbelievably self-conscious. Even if I feel comfortable with a guy and want to have sex ..I just can't get over this. Yeah maybe they won't care ...but in my head it's such a big deal. Girls, you should know when you feel self-conscious about something it ALWAYS gets to you no matter what anyone says. I don't know what to do. I shouldn't be afraid to have sex because of this, but I don't want any guy to be grossed out :(
Hello :)
I know where you're coming from. I also am self conscious about many things about myself, and some of these things (intimate or not) people might not even notice! We all come in different shapes, sizes, and colors. I personally feel that if a guy pushes you away JUST because of a longer labia, he's obviously not the right guy to be having sex with. Assuming that you're not sleeping around with every guy you see, of course. So relax, be confident in who you are, and I;m sure the next guy won't care. Have fun!
Uniq
My boyfriend wants to be Kick-Ass for Halloween really bad. We're going to this dance thing and I thought it would be cute if we dressed up alike. Do you think it'd be alright if I went as Hit Girl then? I don't want to look stupid, of course, since my bf will most likely be Kick Ass but nothing really goes with him, you know? So I'm like maybe Hit Girl would be alright? Your opinion? THNX
Hello :)
I think that sounds awesome. Lol it's cute, creative, and sounds kickass, no pun intended. So I would definitely go for it. Have fun!
Uniq
I really want to get pregnant. Its not that I want to have a baby as much as just have that feeling of being pregnant. All pregnancy women are so pretty with that pregnancy glow about them and everybody is always rubbing their bellies and so excited about them having a brand new baby. I talked to my bf and said i really wanted him to get me pregnant and he was like kind of unsure but said he would think about it. I was thinking of going on and throwing away the box of condoms i have here so he'd like HAVE to do it with me without them? But then I'm just kind of unsure. I mean a baby is pretty time consuming and I don't want people to think I'm evil if I give it up for adoption. Being pregnant really is so cute though. Advice?
Hello!
Ugh, I went through this phase. Lol up until I found out what responsibility is. No, I didn't get pregnant, but I took up other responsibilities like school, work, bills, and maintaining my long term relationship. After all that, having a baby would be cute, yes, but hard. Babies are time consuming. You need to be mature for your baby, you can't be selfish because you'll have to care for your baby since he or she can't care for themselves, you need to be strong by taking care of yourself throughout the pregnancy, giving labor.. the long nights and days with little sleep. I don't know, but I'd like to have a baby when I have money in my bank, my partner has money in the bank, stable jobs, own place, and plenty of time. I'd also like to know that my partner and I are in a stable position in our lives so there won't be any stupid arguments about how I look, the baby being annoying, etc etc. If I were you, I would not think about throwing that box of condoms away. It might seem so cute now, but will your parents take care of that baby for you? Will they help raising the child while you go to school and work? Will they sacrifice their sleep and time for a child they had no control over creating? Please, do yourself a favor, stay in school. Focus on graduating and becoming someone who will have a decent career and can manage herself without anyone's help. Because it will suck if you become pregnant, the dad abandons you and his child. You're 15, he's probably within three years of your age (13-18), and at those ages mature guys are hard to find. They exist, don't get me wrong lol. Point blank, take everyone's advice, please don't get pregnant anytime soon! Take care, and be safe :D
Uniq
I use to use the dove deodorant and then it just stopped helped me. Then I started using secret brand and it stopped working. I switched to the Degree for women and then my BO came back and that deodorant stick stopped working? What is going on? Why does deodorant not work for me in covering up my body odor?
Hello. :)
Perhaps you'd like to try and buy an anti perspirent instead of a deodorant? I know that will definitely help with your body odor. Hope I've helped!
Uniq
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Hi there! I wanna apologize in advance, seeing as that you asked me this question quite a while ago,and I never saw a notification in my e-mail.
First of all, if he's hiding it, it's because he knows it will upset you, or he doesn't want you to see anything on that page. Either way, he's wrong for doing this! Everyone keeps secrets, even in relationships. Unfortunately, the only way you can decide whether or not you should stay with him is by communicating. I would suggest letting him know that you know about this page, you've read stuff that he's posted, and ask him why did he hide it from you. Let him know that honesty is best when it comes to the relationship. And if he can't trust you and be honest with you, the foundations of the relationships are already destined to fail. I'm not sure how old you guys are, but this definitely doesn't sound like he's a mature guy. When you're in a serious relationship, honestly should come first. Yes, you will always encounter a guy who lies about watching porn, or maybe checking out other girls. But making a group on facebook to talk about YOUR relationship with HIM, seems pretty childish. He obviously has much to say, yet can't say it to his girlfriend. I hope I have helped, and take care!
Uniq :)
I'm 14 and just found out I'm pregnant. I plan to keep my baby as of right now but I haven't broke it to my mom yet. I guess you could say I'm sort-of excited though cause I always wanted to have kids. Anyways I know I'm not alone and that there are lots of people raising babies at a young age. I'm just curious...has anybody here become a young mother? Any personal stories to share about being a young mom? :)
Hello,
I'm happy that you're taking responsibility for your actions, so you have my admiration for that. Although I have never been pregnant, I have many friends who have. Those who decided to keep the baby are strong, and from what I've heard, it's hard but fun. It's hard because you give up what you once had. You have to stay home, take care of the baby in every way possible, there no time for sleep, friends, you! You're lucky if your mom supports you and the baby, and decides to take care of him/her for you. Many of my friends don't have the dad in the baby's life, so that's why it's stressful for them. Although you're giving up everything in your life to raise your baby, they tell me it's a blessing to see your baby grow and realize that you're his/her mommy. They enjoy hearing their baby giggle, spending time with them, etc. It just takes a lot of time, energy, and strength to raise a child, and I hope you have all three :) Good luck, congratulations, and I hope your mom gives you the support you need!!!
Uniq
20 -female.
So i love being pleasured, but then I feel bad when I can't/don't return the favor to the guy because i'm embarassed i've never given a handjob or a blowjob. I mean i'd be up for it but I have no idea what I'd be doing. I don't have a boyfriend, don't preach ..but how do I come about saying I've never touched a penis before and don't know what i'm doing without sounding like an idiot??
If you're going to say..only do this with someone you're comfortable with ..don't even bother. I'm comfortable with some guys pleasuring me..and i'd be willing to do the same back to them I just have never done it because I don't know how, and feel like I should at 20yrs old. And everyone says ..google it ..but honestly looking at a screen does not help me at all or make me more confident. I'd love to experiment with a guy though:)
Hello :)
I'm going to try and be as decent as possible, so Advicenators doesn't ban me lol!
You said it yourself, experiment!! Don't let your 'innocence' in certain areas discourage you, use them to your advantage. Many guys love knowing that they're the ones to teach you how to do something. You can always roleplay, he can be the teacher, you're the student. If you happen to be close to the person you're doing things with, you can let him know in a way that won't make you 'sound like an idiot'. Do the foreplay, and just tell him you want to (insert action here) and you want him to teach you. You won't sound stupid if you're turning him on lol.
Also, reading and watching videos online are a big advantage! You say it doesn't help you at all or make you any more confident, but it will if you remember to do it when you're with a guy and drive him crazy. Don't shy away from these resources on the internet, because they truly are your best friend... Good luck!
Uniq
14 f
I will try to make this quick, because I don't want to take to much of your guy's time. Now I've been miserable for a while now, because of what people are saying about my boyfriend. I've been dating my boyfriend sense July, 5, 2010
Hi :)
You might not like the advice I'm about to give you, but just consider it. You and your boyfriend have only been together for a month. Do you REALLY know him inside and out? Do you really think anything he thinks about doing will stop him from doing it? I'm assuming your boyfriend is 14, like you. At this age, his hormones are running all over the place, and if he feels like doing something he's most likely to proceed in doing so. Since you two have only been together for a month, he's probably not as serious about the relationship as you think he is. Just remember, you two are young, you're still discovering who you are and what you want to do. Honestly, if I were you, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt, but keep your eyes and ears open. Don't trust him soooo much. Don't blind yourself. Even some of the most innocent people have evil in them. Let him know that in order for a relationship to work, honesty is necessary. Let him know he can tell you anything, and that you will truly listen. If anything goes wrong, you warned him, and you then have the option to stay single and find someone who will respect your wishes. Good luck!
Uniq
I recently took a mid management position with a retail chain , this being after I held a temp position at another retail chain. While working the temp position I was basiclly tormented and then assualted by a black coworker for no reason other than she just did not like me. I now have the duty of supervising a "young lady" who is also black and has given me hell since I walked in the door. When it is convenient she bullies me and will go to "the bathroom" and talk on the cell for for up to an hour if possible. I am a married woman, I am 5'0 tall, slender because I work my --- off, blond and blue eyed and at the same time probally 20 years older than this employee-but was told that she resents me because of my appearance. - I have already talked to my manager but she makes sure she acts okay when he or coworkers are watching.
Hello :)
Aren't there any security cameras? Perhaps one around the bathroom (outside of course) that shows when she goes in and comes out? Do the cameras have sounds around where you supervise them? The only thing you can have on your side is something that records what they say or do. I'm sorry something so childish is happening, but to be honest, that's the only thing you can do. Have evidence other than your word. I hope everything works out okay.
Uniq
I just graduated from college with an education degree and am now uncertain if I want to be a teacher...plus I'm having trouble finding a job anyway. I'm living back at home, while the rest of my friends have either not yet graduated or have found jobs and moved away. I'm trying to decide what to do with my life...I'm only 22 and still looking to have some fun...but at the same time want to utilize my degree. I know grad school is an option, but then I'm really over-qualified if I do decide to become a teacher. What should I do?
Hello :)
Just a heads up, I'm taking a stab at your question, considering I'm not sure what you should do.
You mentioned you want to be a teacher, so I'm thinking you want to work anywhere from pre-k through 12th grade. How about becoming a Professor at a University? You won't be overqualified then.
In my opinion, if you don't mind school, I say get another degree in another field you like. So what if you have 2 degrees? That shows that you think outside the box. I know many people who have gone to school for teaching or nursing, and now they're on totally different tracks! It's all about how patient and determined you are. I'm sorry you're not able to find a job right now... I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do! And I'm sorry if I wasn't much help.
How do you find a good job? Do you work anywhere? How much do you work during the school year? I can't figure it out =(
Hey :)
Yeah, it all depends on where you live and your age. For example, I live in NY and everyone I know has been looking for a job since about 2 years ago. Some have landed a job, some are still looking. I actually found a job by posting things on Craigslist. For example, the fact that I need a job, and if anyone could help me that I'd really appreciate it. Several people contacted me. Some were spam, and few were actual employers. In the end, I got hired! So if you're 17 and up, I'd go for craigslist and look around stores, apply online to big companies like Home Depot, Old Navy, Etc. If you're younger, you can try places like fast food, restaurants, local stores, or even things like babysitting! Good luck!
Uniq
Guys say that I am too innocent and wouldn't want to date me bc they could really mess up things. Why would guys not be attracted to innocent girls?
Hi :)
I agree with the other two answers, and also, maybe because they don't wanna feel like big a-holes for hurting your feelings if they start dating you and betray. I know plenty of guys who are into the innocent girl thing because they wanna feel like they're teaching you how to become... out there, if you know what I mean. Hope I helped.
Uniq
Everyone hates me and makes fun of me. I hate going to school even tho I make good grades. I have no friends and everyone uses me. My acne is ruining my life. I don't like looking in the mirror because I think Im so ugly. I have scars and red bumps on my face from acne. I feel Like i have the worse acne ever. I have never seen a person with worse acne than me. I need a quick way to get rid of my acne. I'm nice to people and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I haven't done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I don't give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, this year I hated my first 2 classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. Ive tried neutrogena, Pro Active, clininque, putting egg on my face and all kinds of masks and a lot more. none of it works. My doctor says its hard to find a dermatologist that will take my insurance and they cant find me one. Its embarrassing that I have to go to school with a huge red bump on my face and pp staring and laughing. Im going to be a junior next year and I dont want to be miserable again. I trie to cover my face with make up and it does nothing and sometimes it makes it look worse :'(.
Hi :)
Gosh, I'm so sorry that people are so abusive of you!!! It's hard, because I was the same person you are. Throughout my whole life, I let people step all over me, I could never say no, and that led me to go through some horrible events in life. I wish I could just tell you "Stand up for yourself!", and that you'd do it, but it doesn't work that way. Me and you are very similar, I have horrible self esteem issues about my weight and my facial features, and I have always felt like everyone has judged me because of my weight, not because of the person I am on the inside. I just want you to know, that your HS may be like hell, but hopefully, college will be easier. In my opinion, the only reason girls pick on other girls is because they want to feel powerful, superior, and want to fit in with the cool people, so they'll do whatever to feel cooler. You shouldn't listen to all these people who make fun of you. I'm extremely sensitive too, but I always looked the other way, pretended like I didn't hear anything, and went about my day. It takes a toll on you, because your self esteem does suffer. I'm not sure if your parents would transfer you to another school, but that would be nice also. Don't call yourself ugly, because I bet you if you sent me a picture of yourself, I would say you're pretty. Plus, everyone has a different perspective of what's beautiful and what isn't. Many people would say you need to see a psychologist for your self esteem issues and whatnot, but you have to start with yourself. By not putting yourself down. Use your talents to shine. I used to write poetry since middle school, all the way to college, and that's what helped me through my bad times. Do you sing, write, paint, etc? Use it :)
DON'T let ANYONE use you anymore :/ Say NO. Do whatever it takes. It's not fair how these hypocrites want to be your friends when they need or want something, but will turn around and talk about you. Try and eat from the inside of your bookbag, only take enough school supllies for YOU. Extras? Keep em somewhere no one can ever see them. These kids see you as a HUGE target, which is why they are always after you. They see you as a supply store, deli, and a way to feel better about THEMSELVES.
Makeup will ruin your face, please don't use it! Eyeliner, mascara, lip gloos okay that's fine. But because you have severe acne, I wouldn't suggest using makeup. Hell, I don't even use a ton of makeup lol! Go on google, type in where you live, and check to see if there are any support groups you can join. You can make friends with people who know how you feel, and won't ever judge you based on your looks. That's just petty. I really hope HS goes quickly for you, and that the best years of life may come to you. Good luck, and if you ever need someone to talk to, you can count on me too :D
Uniq
P.S.- I'm sorry I couldn't help you with the acne part of your question, and that my answer is quite long lol.
Hi, Im 13 and i am a girl. This guy that i really like is 14 and going into high school while i'm only going into 8th grade. I am obsessed with him and he knows it also. Since i was in 5th grade i have liked him from soccer. He defiantly didn't use to like me, he was really shy. but then this year and this summer, he began to answer my texts. I always say the wrong things though, and then i admit that im embarrased, and he always tells me not to worry or to chill. He is so sweet to me and he says all the right things. Can you please give me advice on what to say to him? He doesnt mind me talking to him, but iwant to win him.
Hi :)
If I were you, I would ask him out. Yes, it's weird and a bit nerve wrecking, but sometimes guys are just as nervous as we are. How about asking him what he's doing next weekend(or whenever you want to go out)? If he says nothing, then say wanna come to the movies (or park,bowling,diner,WHATEVER) with me? If he says yes, then awesome! If he says no, then you can say well if it makes you uncomfortable being alone, we can bring some friends. That's the worst than can happen! Good luck, and hope you win him over.
Uniq
i am 20 my ex bf is 21. we were together fr the pass twoyears. we broke up in febuary and tried to be friends. it didnt work. we stopped talking in march. we just started, i was the one who texted him two weeks ago. we had lunch and he asked how i was doing and life was going. he wanted me to change things about me to make my life better when we were together, like a better job, or move out, etc. i have found a much better job now, i wasnt even looking just came across it and got it. i went on trips and a basketball game from his faorite team. i am planning to move out because i am fiancially set. he thinks im doing this just to get back and him or make hime jealous. we decided to be friends yesterday, and he found out today i might move out and said he cant be my friend because he thinks i didnt make myself better when i was with him and now im growing up and maturing without him. he knows that its spiteful and he should be happy. but he cant be. does anyone see us ever being friends in the future? how an i prove to him iam not doing this to hurt him but make myself better and have him understand.
Hello :)
If this guy is immature as to say that you're doing all of this JUST to get back at him, he obviously needs to open his eyes. You're 21, you're growing up, you have plenty of opportunities open for you now, this guy should be happy for you, not jealous! A true friend will support you, help you, and be happy for you, whether they like it or not. If I had to choose between bettering myself and advancing in life, or being put down by an ex while gaining opportunities, I'd say screw my ex, and keep it moving. You'll meet plenty of other people you can really call your friends, and most likely you'll meet a guy or girl who can make you happy, by being happy FOR you. Good luck, and don't let anything hold you back.
Uniq
This girl that goes to my school put videos up of me on YouTube under my full name, and it honestly freaks me out a lot. I want them down, but she won't take them down. They're not scandalous or anything; I just don't want videos of me online under my full name.
Please tell me there's someone I can contact to get them off?
Hello :)
http://www.youtube.com/t/privacy_at_youtube
click that link, and go to the paragraph that says "reporting a privacy violation", then click the link in that paragraph. Basically, if you're filing this complaint, it's because the video makes you clearly identifiable, and the uploader did not have your consent to upload the video. Youtube will give them one more chance to do something about it, and if they don't, they'll take down the video. Good luck! And let me know how it goes.
Uniq