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this isnt working anymore
i am 20 my ex bf is 21. we were together fr the pass twoyears. we broke up in febuary and tried to be friends. it didnt work. we stopped talking in march. we just started, i was the one who texted him two weeks ago. we had lunch and he asked how i was doing and life was going. he wanted me to change things about me to make my life better when we were together, like a better job, or move out, etc. i have found a much better job now, i wasnt even looking just came across it and got it. i went on trips and a basketball game from his faorite team. i am planning to move out because i am fiancially set. he thinks im doing this just to get back and him or make hime jealous. we decided to be friends yesterday, and he found out today i might move out and said he cant be my friend because he thinks i didnt make myself better when i was with him and now im growing up and maturing without him. he knows that its spiteful and he should be happy. but he cant be. does anyone see us ever being friends in the future? how an i prove to him iam not doing this to hurt him but make myself better and have him understand.
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It's understandable that he thinks you're trying to get back at him.
Put yourself in his shoes for a second.
You can't make him understand you're not trying to make him jealous. If he doesn't get it, he doesn't get it.
Trying to be friends with an ex is not something I recommend. It's successful 2% of the time.
I don't think your friendship is working out right now, and I don't think it will later on, either. If he's not happy for you and he's holding onto negatives in the past, he's not worth it.
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If this guy is immature as to say that you're doing all of this JUST to get back at him, he obviously needs to open his eyes. You're 21, you're growing up, you have plenty of opportunities open for you now, this guy should be happy for you, not jealous! A true friend will support you, help you, and be happy for you, whether they like it or not. If I had to choose between bettering myself and advancing in life, or being put down by an ex while gaining opportunities, I'd say screw my ex, and keep it moving. You'll meet plenty of other people you can really call your friends, and most likely you'll meet a guy or girl who can make you happy, by being happy FOR you. Good luck, and don't let anything hold you back.
Uniq
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