Hi everyone I'm Sean. im 14, very athletic and all of my friends come to me for advice so it gave me the idea of coming here to help everyone I can out. if you need me outside of advicenators you can look up my facebook: sean hoel or send me an AIM...but only if u neeed it cuz i dont want any spam lol.
Gender: Male
Location: St. Louis MO
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Age: 14
AIM: metrostika26
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there's a guy named logan. and last summer, we started hanging out even more and got really close.. most would have even called us "lovers". we both said we liked eachother.. and i waited for him. he never asked me out. 7 months of waiting, i went on to another guy. that didn't work out and i realized i still wanted logan. he and the guy i was dating didn't get along and were both jealous of eachother so i had to confess to both of them. (**he just called me :)**) but yeah logan was upset about it and the other guy didn't mean anything to me... so back in march we were coming home from a party and we ended up telling eachother we loved eachother.. and i believe we do. after almost a year of pretty much being together just not TOGETHER i think most people would be. he pushes my buttons, knows what ticks me off, but still leaves a smile on my face. i just know what its like to be IN love and i'm scared i might be for the first time.. we;ve been hanging out alot more again now and alot of people are thinking we like eachother again. i think we do, and i'm scared cause i don't want to wait for him again.. i just CAN'T do that & i've told him before that i couldn't just wait. most people think we act like a married couple too :) we're cute but i just don't know what to do to not have to wait.. and if i'm in love... HELP! (link)
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haha...i totally agree with the previous answers...but to give you some confidence ill tell you a personal story of how easy it is for a girl to ask a guy out. im a guy. i liked this chick for a while. she confused me because she always talked about stories with others guys and stuff so i thought she didnt like me back. for a whole month we talked every day like that. then a couple nights ago she said "im trying to figure you out" and i asked why, and she said "cuz i wanna know when the hell your gonna ask me out" so i did and we are together happily. she knew i liked her but i didnt know she liked me. moral of the story, tell him you cant figure him out, when he asks why, say why the hell wont you ask me out. if he doesnt ask you out still or he says "idk" then you say "fine then I'll ask you out" and if HE says no....thats just sad.
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I really have been wondering why guys like the 16 year olds and not me? I mean I know I'm 14 and that's 2 years younger but what's the big deal with me and all the other 14 year old girls? (link)
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well im a 14 year old guy and i like girls that are 14, guys just like 16 year olds because of the age and they think they are hotter but i know alot of hottie 14 year olds that im satisfied with. so its not all guys...maybe you just dont have good luck when it comes to guys being attracted. all of the guys i know like girls and dont really care about the age. o well hope it helps
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I really like this guy on my swim team, which is the only place I see him (but it's eight times a week so it's not like I never see him). I am not sure if he likes me, and we rarely talk, but what are some ways I could flirt with him to hint that I like him. We can't really have a conversation because of sets. I am also kind of shy.
All I can think of is squirting water at him. Lol. Help?
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hmm i think you could probly just swim around him and smile at him, maybe grab his leg underwater? idk just listing ideas.
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I have always my whole life been different from everybody I don’t know why, everything about me is wrong my parents and cousins constantly cut me down. Everyone at school think im a freak that will never be fixed I ignore them but I fight back sometimes. Then my best friend and I were in an on and off love. Being best friends then telling each other we loved each other then being zapped so many time over each other and asking out a few times over it then to denying each other in front of our grade a few times. Talking nonstop in a day to not a word in a day or days. I’ve never felt so much love the loves before are nothing compared to this I LOVE him he LOVES me. I think its love now but I’m so confused it was.... All the heartbreak all the people holding us back then now pushing us together and apart again?! Were total opposites in every single way and never been in anyway the same. I’ve spent most of my life with him. Our families were best friends always together. They moved away but still nothing else changed. Then our parents found out we loved each other then tried to keep us apart and never since has he been over or me over there or have we done anything with them. Since our parents are so loudmouth then they told people and NOW EVERYTHING IS WRONG. I do not in anyway get along with my family or relatives so I always went with him. Now my life has been hell or at least going straight down to hell in everyway. Then 2 people tried to get us together…his two other crushes. Pretty much interviewing him in front of everyone asking do you still love her asking why we wont go out everything stuff like that. I told her not to. Then I just left. It was on the 2nd to last day of school and last period. The day before we go on vacations for almost a month. He said I’m third in the people he liked. I don’t care but she told everything to everyone. He always cracks under pressure and is very shy around girls. Now when I sign on aim he signs off. It’s been over a month and we never said a word not even looked at each other not a bye or anything. I’ve seen him 5 times since now by setup. But there is nothing between us not even friends anymore. Idk what really happened. We’ve been friends and best friends our whole lives now absolutely nothing. I spent the night at my friends’ house and went swimming and her cousin stayed with us and he got to bring a friend he brought my best friend although I’m not sure about best friends now. And as I was right about to talk to him her cousin yelled for him then they skated away. Then we went swimming with a lot of people and he just called and left. Never seen him since. Idk what really happened between us there was no fight. Now were just ignoring each other. We never dated because we didn’t wana loose our friendship and now we lost both and everything. I lost my best friend and all the love I have, for life. Im suicidal my friends are what kept me alive over the years now my best friend is gone. I have nowhere to go no one to love no friends who truly understand me actually nobody who understands me I don’t get along with my family at all there only making it worse. What do I do what can I? I feel like shit I feel nothing now I feel like nothing. What can I do? Sorry I just cant take it. (link)
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aww thats such a sad story...well i think that this guy has been very much an ass to you and i think you need to let him know it. if you have is number call him and dont stop until he answers. you cant just forget or be forgotten by some guy who youve been best friends with for yours...but then again a best friend wouldnt do that. after you rip him a new one for being such an ass to you i think you should try your best to hang with your other friends to either develop a stronger relationship with them, or get him jealous enough to want to talk to you again. either way can work. and please dont kill yourself, that solves absolutly nothing except making everyone around you sad. good luck and i hope it works out for you
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I’m 16 and I’m upset about (Girl), who is 15.
I understand I’ve already messed up any chance I had with her, and I don’t deserve her because of that. But she doesn’t even want to talk to me. She won’t even let me tell her how I feel about her, or explain why I never asked her out.
I’m really worried my friend (Guy), who is 15, likes her. The reason I never asked her out has to do with my previous girlfriend, (Slut). Long story short, I messed up with (Slut) and she ended up with my best friend. I was miserable for two months. It took me two years to be able to like another girl again, I then I met her, (Girl). I really liked (Girl). I wanted to ask (Girl) out, and I knew she would say yes. But every time I tried to ask her out, for four months, the feeling game back. I kept thinking, what if I mess up and she ends up with my best friend? It was a stupid thing to think, I know. Finally, she got tired of waiting for me and moved on. So, after all, I did mess up, and that’ll set me back another year. But if she ends up with (Guy), one of my best friends, I don’t think I’ll be able to ask a girl out until I’m out of college. She and (Guy) have been flirting like I used to flirt with her.
What should I do? (link)
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yea man just relax and breathe for a moment, if you had enough time to talk to her before then explain to her what your feelins were and tell her the long story. then at the end of it tell her that you stil like and and want to go out. good luck
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so im not the prettiest apple on the tree. But I think I have a really good personality (corny, i know)
I'm really into theater. Obsessed with Broadway.
Yeah, are guys into that stuff and wouldn't mind my looks. Or am I a helpless case destined to be a nun??
14/f
I've never had a bf or someone to like me.
so what should I do?
guys answers very welcome! (link)
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well my answer as a guy would be a personality is the most important part about a girl. looks come second, so what if your not the prettiest, you may be one of he most fun to be around. the easiest way is to make people laugh. sorry its not much but hope it helps
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ok. so i'm 14/f. and i really feel like i have no friends. like, people are nice to me, but i don't feel like i have someone who i can really talk to. and i don't want to talk to my parents about stuff that i would talk to my friends with of course. i have a half-sister that is really easy to talk to, but she works like ALL of the time, and she lives like, 3 hours away. i feel like everytime i get a friend, i loose them. and i feel like if i was in a group of girls and a different group of girls had to be picked out to hang out with, i would be last picked. or, sometimes i feel like i'm a last resort. what i mean is, one time, one of my really good friends called me and asked if i wanted to go shopping, and i was like "sure!!" and we went to the mall and were shopping and stuff, and i said, "we should have seen if so and so could have come too" and my friend said "yeah, i called her first, but she wasn't there" and i was like "oh". ya know what i mean??? so my question is, do you really have to have friends to get through life? i'm going to be going into high school this coming year, so will i make friends who i can actually keep around???? i need help!!!! thanks. (link)
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hmm...well friends do help you get through life and the only way to make them is to meet people. i would suggest getting yourself out there, maybe do something big that people will talk about. youll get your name out and gradually talk to people. nothing too big of course, just something that gets you into peoples minds. then you can just hang around with some of the people you talk to and build a friendship off of that. and if you ever need somethin ill be your friend lol, you can find me on AIM and facebook(info on my column) unless you dont want to of course. good luck, hope it works out
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22/f
Not sure where to put this so I am putting it in both
Hey guys, would you ever be able to have a live in relationship with your girlfriend but respect her wishes in not having sex till she‘s ready( which probably wont be till marriage)? And keeping faithful??? Or would you not live with her? I was curious if you guys would be able to handle it because I might be moving in with my boyfriend but I want to get a good estimate on how many of the average guys would go for this. Would it drive you nuts sleeping next to your girlfriend and not having sex? Or could you tolerate it? I would really like to know. Thank you. Girls feel free to respond too
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i think it would be hard for some guys, but it depends on the amount of trust that you have built up with him. if you can trust him with your life and you love eachother enough, im sure he will respect your wishes.
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my name is Rachel and iam 18 years old and my 26 year old siter is bi and i didn't find out until recentally my other 24 year old sister told me and iam under so much shock right now how do i get over the shock of finding out my sister is bi?
How do i help my sister? (link)
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well its the same way finding out someone is gay, they havnt changed as a person, your perspective of them has changed. you can get over the shock by remembering "hey shes my sister and shes the same person as i knew her before". you really cant help her because she doesnt need help, this was her decision. hope it helps
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What would be a good senior prank? Nothing like graffiti or vandalism. I'd prefer something funny and "legal." But I'm fine with anything illegal as long as it doesn't hurt anyone physically and cost more than a few hundred dollars in damages. (link)
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well my friend and his friends burned a penis into his brand new baseball field, that might cost alot to fix tho lol...hmm you could take somethin off of highschool stories and call a local radio statioin and tell them to broadcast that your school is off taht day for a water main break?
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Ok I this guy that I used to like wants me to go out with him but the reason I stopped was because he use to pick on me(big sign of love)Now I think I should go out with him but the school years almost up and he isn't going to be at the same middle school that we were in last year so what should I do if he decides to ask me I mean we talk on the phone now.But we have been friends for so long what if it doesn't work out and our friendship is ruined by this little feeling.What should I do? (link)
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i think that you should cool your feelings for him down, what ive learned is that if your TOO good of friends with someone, it gets weird cuz they are like a brother or sister to you. you could be one of his best friends or you could just say to hell with it and pursue him as a BF. if it didnt work out you could tell him "cant we be friends like we used to be" or somethin like that. im still friends with some of my Xs...just not all of them =P. you could still maintain a frienship after you broke up...it just depends on why you might break up in the first place. or you could last a long time with him and have a great relationship. i would just go for it if i were you because you dont have much to lose. in most situations you will remain friends anyway. good luck.
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My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out? (link)
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this sort of thing your have to just let go. you have to remember that you broke up for a reason, whatever the reason was it may probly come up again if you went back to your ex. maybe you arent ready for any BF tho if your still having feelings for your ex. now too the answers: i think you should see if you can get a transfer as far away from yur ex as you can. you can sort this out by doing your absolute best to forget about the past and to remember that hes an ex. or if it gets way too bad, tell your boss either he leaves or you leave, the only problem with that is youd have to find a new job =/. well best of luck through the summer, im sure youll do fine tho.
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Two questions, long explanation!
My boyfriend and I had been going out for a year when he started liking another girl who was always flirting with him. They were at a party and he told her he was gonna break up with me the next day, and they kissed & stuff. The next morning he called and told me what had happened, but that he realized it was a mistake and didn't want to break up. He called the girl and told her he was sorry, he couldn't go out with her. He and I spent the whole weekend crying, and from what I hear, so did she. The next time I saw her (she's on my dance team) she hugged me and said she was sorry. I know it was mostly my boyfriends fault for leading her on, so I said "its ok" and i've tried to be really nice to her, since I have to see her every day. But secretly I hate her guts, because she knew he had a girlfriend and threw herself at him anyway. Plus, she still talks to him all the time (it's been 6 months since this happened) and I'm pretty sure they have feelings for each other, even though he swears he loves me and doesn't like her. I've told my boyfriend I don't like him talking to her, but I know he does when I'm not around.
So now, my two questions:
#1: How should I act around her? She's told people that she thinks I don't like her and doesn't know if I want to be her friend. Actually, she and I have a lot in common and I'd probably really like her if I didn't totally hate her (haha). Should I try to get past this and be her friend, or would that make it seem like I don't mind that she's trying to steal my boyfriend?
Question #2: I've told my boyfriend that if I see him flirting with her again, I'm gonna break up with him. We're going to a party soon and she will be there, so he's probably going to at least say "hi" to her. He'll say he's just trying to be friendly. I don't want to over react and break up if that's really the case, but I also don't want to let him get away with anything else. Where should I draw the line?
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i think you should be secretly hating your BFs guts, but in a loving way(if that makes sence) he did this to you knowing u would be upset, then comes crawling back when he figures out what the hell he just did. i think that the girl just didnt care about wut you thought because she liked him and thot that he was hers. it may not be what you want to hear but i think that your BF has got to go....he told a girl he would break up with you for her, and to me thats not really forgivable. he basically said he liked some girl more than you, even if he felt sorry i kno he cant give up a girl he liked enuff to cheat on you with in a matter of days.
2.were should you draw the line? the line has already been crossed, you should not even let him see that girl because of what he did.
probly not what you wanted to hear but its just an unbiased opinion. hope it helps and best of luck
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Hello!
There is this ex-boyfriend from five years ago that I've allowed to keep in touch with me. It helped a lot when I moved out of the country when he couldn't call me anymore, and he would occasionally e-mail me and after I was in a new relationship, I decided to completely cut him out of my life. I didn't answer his pleas to know how I was doing, or how much he says I'll always be a part of my life even if we never speak and I'll always have a place in his heart and of course, that he loves me.
It's like some sort of therapy for him. I don't feel comfortable with having any kind of relationship because it doesn't feel real to me to be 'friends.'
He found me on myspace today and I'm not sure why he insists on keeping in touch? What's his MO, for doing this? According to his myspace page he's involved, and I'm the only ex-girlfriend that he's like this with, the other's they don't keep in touch.
I can be really straight forward about things so what is a humanitarian way of saying: "Thanks for taking the time to say hello. Great. Not necessary to do that anymore. Thank you!"
Signed,
Two Feathers
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hes sounding like a true ex. he still wants you but you have moved on. i would send him an email saying "my BF is not comfortable with us talking, thank you for being their for me but if you really love me you will understand" or something of that nature, and if he keeps talking to you then you can cut him down saying "well i guess you really dont love me then because you wont respect my wishes" good luck with this
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age:14
gender:female
I think im in love with one of my best friends boyfreinds.. you see im extremely close to him and we talk all the time .. She treats him very very bad and he still loves her and i dont understand why.. It kills me to hear him tlell me how much he loves her but i dont want to losee him . i just idno im not the prettiest or skinniest girtl and i dont think i would ever have a chance with him .. plus hes head over heels for her but idont think she lovs him back..i dont know what to do
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well i dont think there is an easy answer. you can try to copy past an AIM convo of how bad she talks about him and send it to him, it could break them up and you would lose one of yur best friends with a risk of not even gaining him. if you did do that you could be there for him and talk him through it if they broke up. the problems with that is that he could get mad at you for doing that, or he could just shut everyone out, or he could turn for a rebound girl.
i personally think that one would be a low blow tho.
or you could try to find another love, think of someone else that you like and try to pursue them.
or you could go off on the guy and get him to hate you, you wouldnt have to hear him say how much he loves that girl and u wouldnt have to try to like him.(i dont reccomend this one but im just listing ideas)
or the hardest of all: stay with him just as a good friend and not interfere with this girl. it might not seem hard but it will be in the long run.
the rest is up to you which one u want to try to take, sry if its not wut yur looking for but i hope it helps and good luck
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I hooked up with this kid(joe) who likes me last friday. On saturday, I hooked up with this other kid, (tom). Well now, Joe's friend keeps telling me Joe is going to ask me out and he really likes me. I don't like him though and I don't want to go out with him, especcially since summer is soon. Should I tell Joe I don't want to go out with him cause it's almost summer or because I hooked up with someone else and I don't want to hurt him cause of it? (that is really the truth) (link)
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well i think you should just wait till he asks and tell him that you want to be free of commitments for the summer, im sure his feelings will blow over by the end of summer. hope it helps
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theres these two boys. Both of them are my good friends. One is always on my mind, and i really like him. But when the other one looks at me and talks to me, he makes me feel happy. When he smiles at me, i get, allrite this will sound lame, he gives me butterflies in my stomach. But i dont think of him as much as i think of the other one. I used to have a crush on the one that makes me feel happy, and i never knew why. Now i know, but i dont want to like him again, cause i cant see myself with him, but i can see myself with the other one. Im so confused about them. (link)
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this one is hard to answer because of so many possible outcomes...but ill try my best. myabe you could try to hook up with the one that you can see yourself with. many things can happen
1.he takes your mind off liking the other guy and u and the other guy can just be good friends.
2.you still are attracted to the other guy even tho you have a BF and problems come up.
3.you put too much time into yur BF and the other guy just kind of fades out of you\
4.hook up with none of them and try to just be friends
5.let the other guy kno that he is one of your closest friends so he doesnt get any hard feelings about it.
those are all i can pull off the top of my head. sry if its not that clear but i hope it helps
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Okay, so my 'friends' were the best of friends a girl could ever have, in the beginning of the school year (long ass time ago) Then in the middle of the year things started to change. I didn't feel the love that friends are supposed to have for eachother (in a friend way). And they are constantly labeling me goth. And I am always the one that is made fun of. But then a girl named Haley started hanging out with us. At first it was all the same for me. But then they all started talking behind her back. I would NEVER join in on those conversations, I would defend her. Then one day me and Haley were still eating lunch, and they left. So when we are done we go find them. And they start bitching on how Haley should just leave, so she leaves and I go with her. And that is the start of our great friendship. I mean, it's like we are sisters. We constantly hang out. (of course it isn't just us isolating (sp?) ourselves, we hang out with MANY more people, but we are always together, no matter who we hang out with) And we always have something to talk about, anyways I haven't hung out with my other 'friends' for awhile. Then a few days ago, I hung out with them after school, and they kept saying 'Why are you hanging out with Haley, she is some goth freak, is that why you hang out with her? I hate Haley, just stop hanging out with her!' And I don't want to stop hanging out with her, but my 'friends' won't stop bugging me about it, I don't want to go back to the old ways with them making fun of me, and them being rude and labeling me. And I can't ditch Haley, what should I do?? (link)
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well i would explain to your "friends" that you two connected and your not gonna stop being friends with her just because the others dont like her. if your real "friends" think that is too complicated or dont like it, then they arent your real friends anyway. say wut u mean because the people that mind dont matter and the people that matter dont mind. they probobly talked about you behind your back if they did it to her too. sad to say but the cliques think they are too cool to be friends with someone if that person is friends with an "outcast". hope it helps
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I forget what the flavors were.. but their colors are YELLOW, ORANGE, PINK, OR RED. pick any one of those 4 colors. please dont say something else like "green" because that wont help me at all.. its for this project i have to do in school. thanks for helping! ♥ (link)
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i love pink(strawberry).....i dont kno it just tastes really good. with the other i just east them but the pink one makes me suck on it lol
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Okay, this isn't a joke at all and I'm really in a bit of a bind here and I don't know what to do. I'm a 16 year old graduating sophomore male and I'm also a homosexual. My life so far has been pretty lonely and I've been waiting for that special someone to sweep me off my feet. A couple weeks ago, I found him! His name was Justin and he was my type: gay, handsome, smart, loving, sweet, every woman or gay male's dream guy. I got to know him and we totally connected. Three weeks ago, we got together and I've never been happier in my entire life! It was more amazing than anything I've ever felt and I was completely and totally happy for the first time in my life. Now here comes the part that's dramatic. A few days ago, he tells me his uncle's dog died and he was really beaten up about it. He ended up breaking up with me because he told me he was unsure of things because apparently he had been physically and emotionally connected to this dog. When he clarified on the physical part, I realized that he had had sex with the dog in the past! I love this guy so much that I supported him through it and we got back together. Two days ago however, he had his friend break up with me and he wouldn't tell me why. WHen I went to school today, he came up to me and said that he had made a decision not to date or do 'people' anymore and that things weren't going to work out between us. I am completely heartbroken and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should talk to him about it or if he'll just think I'm trying to control or change him. I don't even know if it's possible not to like "people" as a whole and only have "relationships" with animals, is it? All I know is I'm still desperately in love with him and that I feel sick being away from him. What should I do, say, feel, act upon? I just think this entire situation is so messed up but I finally found love, I just don't know how I'm going to fight to get it back. Help Me Please!!!!! :-) (link)
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well having studied psychiatric stuff im almost positive that your friend is messed up in the head literally. i can ALMOST garuntee you that he has been raped, molested, abused, or had a shitty home life as a kid or had something very frightening happen to him because that his not normal behavior at all. what happens when your younger that frightens you or scares you becomes increasingly attractive when your older. i think you should try to talk about his past and see why he acts like this. if you try to help him through it he may come to his senses. he should also see a councelor or psychologist to discuss his attraction for...animals. if you really love this guy dont let him go that easily because i think hes just in a rough time right now. hope this works out for you
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