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he still loves her
age:14
gender:female
I think im in love with one of my best friends boyfreinds.. you see im extremely close to him and we talk all the time .. She treats him very very bad and he still loves her and i dont understand why.. It kills me to hear him tlell me how much he loves her but i dont want to losee him . i just idno im not the prettiest or skinniest girtl and i dont think i would ever have a chance with him .. plus hes head over heels for her but idont think she lovs him back..i dont know what to do
help please!
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well i dont think there is an easy answer. you can try to copy past an AIM convo of how bad she talks about him and send it to him, it could break them up and you would lose one of yur best friends with a risk of not even gaining him. if you did do that you could be there for him and talk him through it if they broke up. the problems with that is that he could get mad at you for doing that, or he could just shut everyone out, or he could turn for a rebound girl.
i personally think that one would be a low blow tho.
or you could try to find another love, think of someone else that you like and try to pursue them.
or you could go off on the guy and get him to hate you, you wouldnt have to hear him say how much he loves that girl and u wouldnt have to try to like him.(i dont reccomend this one but im just listing ideas)
or the hardest of all: stay with him just as a good friend and not interfere with this girl. it might not seem hard but it will be in the long run.
the rest is up to you which one u want to try to take, sry if its not wut yur looking for but i hope it helps and good luck
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First off this is a sticky situation and you really need to think through your actions. If your best friend knew how you felt I'm sure she wouldn't be very thrilled, and this isn't typical "mom" advice but I wouldn't tell her. It will be better if she doesn't no because if she does know then it will just make things worse. Now I can't come up with a reason why this guy is still in love with her other than he is the kind of guy that wants a challenge. He is attracted to what he can't have. He is probably wanting and loving your bestfriend because he can't "have" her. I know this all sounds very confusing but stay with me haha! Now I don't know what kind of friendship you have with her but possibly you could say causally "do you love him?" I know that sounds strange but usually if girls are in love with someone they want to share it. Just keep being friends with him. I made the mistake one time in pushing forward and telling him how I felt but it only pushes him away honestly. Again just keep being friends with him. Eventually (could take a long time) he will get over her and if you are there still being friends he will think back and realize you have been there for him and you have treated him nicely. If he is the kind of guy that likes a challenge, and your friend and him do break up. Don't throw yourself at him, make him respect you and don't be afraid to make him work for it. Remember many guys like what they can't have. But this is if they breakup. I am conviniced that he will realize that he can have better! I'm sorry this advice is so very confusing but I tried to make it as simple as I could! Good Luck! Any questions or comments please feel free!
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