I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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Last Update: September 11, 2011
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Ok well i just moved from indiana to North Carolina. I know you have a month to change your license over. I am 17. Well long story short i was supposed to go to high school but indiana's credit system didnt match up to Nc's and i ended up two years behind here. So i decided to go for my GED. I know that it is a law here that you have to be in school in order to keep your license if your under eighteen. Since im not in high school will they take it away, or will the let me keep it since im getting my GED and starting college in january? (link)
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That's a question for Indiana's DMV. Go there or call them and ask them what their law say. Or visit them online. You can email and ask specifics about your situation.
https://myweb.in.gov/BMV/mybmvportal/LicensesAndIDCards/DriversLicenses.aspx#New_Indiana_Residents
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i been feeling a bit sad lately.i havent seen my cousins in a while like i cant remember the last time i saw them.and then my family is falling apart like one of my aunt and uncle is devorcing and one of my gradpa died. ifeel like we are slowly growning apart from each other.it makes me sad that i dont get to see my family any more.what should i do? (link)
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You don't say how old you are, but if you are fairly young, this can be a difficult time for you, understandably. Why do you think you haven't seen your cousins lately? Are they getting older and have other interests? That's normal. Divorce? That's always a diffcult thing. Death is never pleasant.
These life changes are things people deal with everyday. Unfortunately, these things are happening to your family all at once which can make it difficult to accept. When it rains it pours, as they say.
There is not much you can do to change the direction these people in your life are heading, but you can try your best to stay close to you cousins, aunt and uncle. Tell them how you feel about these changes and how it makes you sad. I'm betting they will comfort you. Just because you haven't seen your cousins lately, doesn't mean you'll never see them again. It may not be as frequently, but you can still keep in touch and hang out once in a while. As for your Aunt and Uncle, you can see them separately, but see them you should.
As for grandpa, well, keep him in your prayers and think of the times spent with him.
You're sad because your world is changing significantly and the situation that you've grown comfortable and familiar with is no longer in place. This is going to happen one way or another at some time or another. Nothing stays stagnant and this is an opportunity for you to move on in life, though it is a difficult transition right now. Stay stronge and know that there are good things ahead after you weather the storm.
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My husband always want things to be his way,he control my life,i can't do anything of my way,cant even go out by myself,he cant even allow me to use my own money.he's in his 30th while im in 20th.what should i do about it
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What would happen if you defy him and go out by yourself and use your money as you please? What do you think he'll do?
You don't say where you are from, but if you are living in the USA, he cannot hold you a prisoner. There are laws against that.
Only you know your husbands temperament. Only you know if he will get violent. Has he ever been violent with you? If you do the things he forbids you, will he harm you, physically?
What you do depends on how how much courage you have. You could discuss this with him and tell him you no longer wish to live like this and he needs to lighten up on his need for control. If that fails, well, you know where the door is.
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Okay well I'm a teen girl..and I've been suffering with odors since 7th grade. I had an odor from 7th-10th grade, which ruined my life. I barely had any friends, I wasn't social, and it brought down my confidence. During the summer before 11th grade, I lost 20 pounds, when I went back to school, the odor was gone. So, obviously, I felt great and very happy. However, this past summer, I fell into depression (due to different things), but after a few things got resolved, I was okay. But, I gained about 10-12 pounds. I went back to school a week ago...and the odor's back :/. Now let me tell you. I shower every day (even when I was in 7th grade), I'm the cleanest person ever, I brush my teeth, use deoderant, clean my clothes everyday, etc. But I noticed, the odor only came back when I gained the weight again. I've been struggling with a weight issue my whole life. But it just seems since I gained some weight on again, I got back the odor. But it's not as bad as it used to be. I'm working on losing weight agaiin...I'd hate to go through what I did in Junior High. The other day, I used my brothers "Odor blocking soap" and the morning before school I made sure to use deoderant wherever it was needed...but, I still had an odor. It's just so annoying that it popped up randomly again. Do any of you know why this happens? Again, I'm a very clean person so it's obviously not my hygeine. Ugh. Please help. (link)
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You probably need to detoxify.
http://www.health911.com/body_odor
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I always heard that tall people have bigger feet than short people. Is that true? I wouldn't think feet size would be in correlation to height but yeah. (link)
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Yes. People usually grow in proportion.
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Today after my 4th lesson I was taking a nap on my desk and listening to music on my phone,then a guy who is always very rude to me hit my desk and I jumped from surprise and the next thing I knew he took out a lighter,lit it in front of my face and burned me a bit,now I have this awful blister on my right cheek -.- my class teacher will talk to him on Monday,I told her what happened,as well as to school psychologist...but what intrigues me is why is he doing such stuff? first he insults me for no reason then he burns my face...What is his problem? I never insulted him or did anything to him,I don't talk to him or look at him...to me it's like he doesn't exist.That is,until he does something like this.I never react to what he does but this was completely insane. (link)
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Hope you've told your parents about this incident. Have someone take a picture of the burn on your face. If the school doesn't follow up on this then your parents should insist that they take corrective action.
The guy is a freak and dangerous. His behavior is completely abnormal and extremely hostile and aggressive.
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Kinda 2 questions in this any help would be great..I have 3 kids with an exhusband in which i was married to for 10 yrs. and inherrited 3 more kids when I got remarried. My kids go back and forth from my house to their dad's. Their dad also remarried. So I have an issue where I have to be notified on EVERYTHING when it comes to my childrens school. Even if it is not my day to have them I still expect their dad to call me and let me know what is going on with school such as were there notes in folders and if so what they say, did my 5 yr old have a good day or was he in trouble, If they have homework did they do it and did you help. It was my choice to leave ex and I realize I chose to not see my kids 24/7 when I left but am I a total biatch for asking him to do this for me. My kids are 9,7,5. am I being over protected of them? Second I feel like I am distant from my 3 step kids when my kids are not around. I feel guilty that they see me more and gets to do alot more with me then my own bio kids. My stepkids mother is no longer apart of their lives (mothers choice.) So I am their only mother. I have no clue why I feel this way I really wish I didnt I love them all very much, I hate feeling guilty that my hubbys kids get hugs and kisses from me every night and my own children only get them half the week. confused, sad,and hurt any help would be nice. Thanks (link)
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I have had joint custody with my husband and my three kids many years ago and I know many woman who share joint custody with their ex's, but I've never known a case where children spent part of the school week with one parent and the other part with the other. Usually, one parent keeps the kids for the week and the other (usually the father) takes them for the weekend. This give the children stability and a routine and prevents what is happening in your situation. Your situation seems odd and I'm sure it's stressful on the children, your ex and yourself. I don't blame you for wanting to know everything that goes on as far as school, and I'm sure you have a measure of guilt regarding your biological children versus your stepchildren.
I would discuss with my ex the wisdom of having them at his house during the school week. It's too disruptive and the most important factor is the well being and happiness of the children. They need to have a stable environment throughout the week and not be ushered back and forth when they need to concentrate on their studies.
I would not feel guilty about seeing my stepchildren and loving them. They need you and your influence as they have no other.
All said, your children are too young to be away from you for more than a weekend. Children of that age still need a mother full time. There will be a time, though, when their father will need to play a bigger picture. They may even want to live with him permanently, but that's usually in the teenage years. Your feelings are very natural, maternal feelings.
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Me- f/15 Brother- m/17 going on 18
I am a little worried about my brother. He just graduated high school and will be off to college in August. He got a large amount of new friends during senior year. Some of them known to party and what not. I knew he drank illegally at parties because I heard rumors and stuff. This summer I have seen him going off with his school back pack whenever he goes out. I got a little suspicious and recently found it in his room full of drugs. I am worried about him. I don't want him to go to college and fail out. I know that if I tell my parents they will be surprised because he was always and honor roll student, if I don't tell I feel like I should. Should I keep my mouth shut so that my brother won't be mad at me and never trust me? I feel bad for snooping in his matters, you can tell me it's not my place because he's almost an adult and can make his own decisions but I had to know. So tell or not? (link)
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"Almost and adult" is not an adult. Tell your parents before this gets way out of hand. If he gets mad at you, too bad. Tell him you love him and you will never condone drug use or drug dealing and you will do whatever it takes to stop him. Period.
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Hi there,
You know the story... I need more time to file my 1040 tax return. How do I get more time to file my taxes? I am SO confused!
Can anyone help?
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http://www.irs.gov/formspubs/article/0,,id=98155,00.html
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does anyone know what those concrete blocks in parking spaces are called?
http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l0p0b5LJI21qal30oo1_500.jpg (link)
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Car stops or curb stops.
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this isn't really an advice question, more of an opinionated question. this question is about hell. anyone, everyone; tell me about your views on hell. do you think its a big, flaming pit? are there different levels? is it based on our greatest fears? tell me what you think, i'm doing a project for school. (link)
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In my opinion, hell is the complete separation from God. God is active in our world and our lives while we are alive on earth, whether we want Him to be or not, but once we're dead and have rejected Him, then our desire to be apart from Him is fulfilled and we are separated from Him for eternity and placed with those who have done the same, including fallen angels.
To be separated from God is to have no hope. No hope of rescue, relief, peace, love happiness. Just death. Hell is absence of God and it is eternal.
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Does that mean anything? and how would you feel if someone does it to you?
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They're flirting. Does it mean they want anything serious? Maybe, maybe not.
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I've been pretty lazy my whole life, at least that's what I think. Since I was 13 all I did was use the computer, talk on the phone and maybe ice skate or play tennis depending on the season. I didn't really hang out much, maybe I didn't really feel the desire to. Sometimes I was so lazy that I would rather stay in bed and go back to sleep and starve myself rather than going out to look for food, and if I had to use the bathroom then I'd wait until I really had to go. Now that I'm 18 I feel somewhat unmotivated or even lazier. My eating habits have improved though, but when I go out to the mall or anything I feel extremely tired and I sometimes would just want a place to lay down or sit and take a break. Last summer I did this several times with my cousin for probably every 10 to 15 minutes..I'm not fat, and I'm pretty athletic since I've played tennis for 3 years, was mvp, and was athlete of the week. When I'm out with my girlfriend who I've been dating for 7 months I feel really tired and just want to go home, like I was want to shop and leave, or take a couple of laps then leave. We don't have much money to spend anyway. Everything I see is like usual, and its the same every time I go there, just that there might be several sales or whatever. Lately all we do is go back and forth to each other's house, eat, spend the night, watch t.v., have sex, and that's our weekend. And we've been doing that for several months which really sucks because it's getting boring. And today when we went to get supplies for bird house I ended up buying my little cousin a giant coloring book and decided to buy the bird house later, then she offered to go buy paint and I said no lets go home because something kicked it and i felt really tired and just wanted to go home; but that was also after she called me boring because I said no and i felt, I don't know , sad? because i was thinking she'd leave me for someone more fun which might be likely. There are a lot of things I want to do, but it seems like the closer I get to it the more I realize how bored I am of the idea. What the he** is wrong with me? (link)
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Depression certainly could be the problem, but sometimes depression (oftentimes) is caused by vitamin deficiencies. B 12 is the vitamin that doctors give by injection to the elderly when they lack energy and/or are depressed. You may have a deficiency.
If I were you, before I took any other route, I would take a very good powdered supplement, not just B12. There is a product I use called All-One by Nutritech. I've had my days when I didn't think I could crawl out of bed because I was so physically tired. After taking this supplement I was a new person. No exaggeration. I have since recommended it to many people I know and everyone swears by it. The worse you deficiency, the quicker you will see the difference.
Your tiredness overrides your interest in life. Please try the vitamin supplement!
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how long do you leave in the clorox and shampoo in your hair (link)
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Why would you put Clorox in your hair? Are you disinfecting your head?
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Hi, I have original ideas I'd like to sell. I've done my homework and everything. Yet, I can't create by hand my product due to lack of skill. I'm new to this, but I'd like to know who to sell these ideas to. My ideas I've shared with friends and they all agree that I have brilliant ideas to sell. Also, I'd like to know more about copy right usage. I do not want anyone to take my idea and run with it, so I'd like to record my appeals to my buyers. Also I'd like to know more about legit contracting and what to make sure not to do to avoid a mistake. Thanks sincerely, Melody. (link)
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I'm not a lawyer, but I do know some things.
From what I've heard, ideas can't be copy written. Anyone can say they had an idea and anyone can accuse someone else of stealing it. You need a prototype of your idea and then a copy write. The you can go out and sell your idea. I've also heard that even with these safeguards in place, companies steal ideas. Maybe they tweak your idea and then go sell it as if it's their own.
The safest way to go about this is to talk to a copy write lawyer (very expensive) and have a prototype.
Go to this website....http://www.freeadvice.com/ and post your question. Be clear and concise and give the state you are calling from. Organize your thoughts and question on paper before you post. You want to be taken seriously so don't ramble. This is a very good website for free legal advice. Good luck.
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This is REALLY stupid but I'm SO curious about it! My boyfriend was talking about Dr. Seuss because he said he use to LOVE the books when he was little and then I asked him if he knew about the famous green eggs and ham book. He said that was his favorite book. The more we talked, the more curious we were about the actual GREEN eggs thing.
I guess you could put dye in the eggs to make them green but my boyfriend said he thinks there probably is something referred to as "green eggs" that goes along with ham. I'm not really sure.
I'd really like to give him a correct answer tomorrow when I see him so we will both know the truth behind it.
...so does anybody know if there really is something called green eggs? (link)
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No, there's no such thing, unless you put green food coloring in your ham ad eggs, or maybe let them sit out on the counter for a week.
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i'm a 24 years old f and my bf is 40.We've been together for 3 years we were planning to get married in the summer and last week i've found out that he got his ex pregnant.i love him very much a part of me want me to leave and a big part of me is telling me to forgive him.She knows about me, knows that we leaving together.she told me once she'll do anything to destroy our relationship because she don't like me for him.But i feel i'm gonna be miserable and i will never love the baby.when i asked him why he did it he said that because she was bothering him by sending him nasty messages.please tell me what you think i should do? (link)
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He slept with her for one reason and one reason only. He wanted to. Ditch him. He's a cheat and a liar.
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Hello i was wondering what is the difference between cover up, foundation, and concealer. I've been told i have good skin, i dont have acne or anything. But i hate my freckles! I want to cover them up. But i dont know what to buy, and i dont want my face to break out. So in a nutshell whats the difference between the 3?
Thanks and i rate :) (link)
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A foundation evens out skin tone. It's good for blotchy skin and just gives an overall even color.
Cover-ups and concealers are one and the same. They have heavier consistency and hide blemishes, birthmarks, freckles, age spots, etc. There is a limit, though, to how much they can "conceal".
It's one thing to hide a blemish, it's another thing to hide a bunch of freckles. Since concealers are thicker than foundation, if you tried to cover all your freckles with it, you might end up looking like you've got a mask on, which you might find more unattractive than the freckles.
If you just use a foundation on your entire face, it will soften the look of the freckles, but it won't hide them.
Freckles are cute! Live with them as they are a part of who you are.
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I was in the tanning bed the other day and noticed that when I was lying down I felt like someone was tugging my stomach or something like that.
It didn't hurt, it was just like someone was pulling my stomach, trying to stretch it out or something.
But when I started to put just a little pressure on my stomach, it hurt.
Not too bad, but more of an ache.
But I felt it everywhere I pushed on my stomach.
The lower I pushed, the more it hurt until I pushed like an inch below the belt line.
My period has been whack the past two months.
I get it a week or two early.
And it's very light (Like not even enough to fill a pantyliner in a day), and it would last about 4 days each time.
I was explaining it to my boyfriend because he was wondering why I kept pushing his head off of my stomach when we were laying down.
So I got him to push just like I had to explain why I was pushing him away.
He said that my stomach felt harder.
I think it actually does feel harder.
I'm not sure though, I don't touch my stomach much, but he's always touching it so he would notice more than I would.
It feels fine with jeans on and everything.
Like when I sit, it doesn't hurt when my jeans push into my body.
But then again that might be because it's pushing lower?
I was getting pretty nauseous last month, but not so much this month. Just a little every now and then.
I still get lightheaded a lot though.
Not jsut when I stand but also when I sit.
And lately, whenever I close my eyes while laying down, I feel like the room is shaking?
I don't know.
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It's time to see a doctor.
Maybe you're pregnant, but I've never heard of a symptom where it feels like someone is pulling on your stomach. You shouldn't have pain, pregnant or not, when you push on your stomach, unless you are pushing terribly hard.
If you were pregnant, you wouldn't get your period. You might bleed if there was a problem though.
I wouldn't hesitate to get to the doctor, having nausea and feeling the room shake. This isn't normal. At least he can rule out a major problem and give you peace of mind.
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I have messed up seriously because of my temper and mouth and my wife said she is not in love with me anymore and doesnt even want me to touch her. How can I save my marriage and get her to be in love with me again like she was before? (link)
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You may never be able to save your marriage. That's the risk you take when you don't keep your temper under control. People with anger problems always have mouth problems. They don't care what they say, no matter how hurtful, they have to blurt it out. Like a 5 yr. old, they say whatever comes into their minds, and let the chips fall where they may. Well, the chips have fallen and your wife is so wounded from the battle that she doesn't trust you, period. How can you love someone who verbally destroys you? You probably tell her how sorry you are and you'll change, etc., but you don't. She's thinking..."How much could he love me to say such awful things to me? To be so belligerent to me?" THAT is not love. THAT is abuse and emotional bullying. I'll guarantee, she knows you need psychological help for some deep seated problems from the past.
You can try to get her back only by getting counseling and actually changing and not just talking about it. The change must be permanent or it's useless and a complete waste of time. The change has to be for you and not for her. You have to want the change in yourself or you won't change.
Even if she decides she's had it and the marriage is over, you would be wise to take this advice for the next relationship you get involved in, otherwise, you may find yourself very alone.
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