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Should I tell my parents about my brother?
Me- f/15 Brother- m/17 going on 18
I am a little worried about my brother. He just graduated high school and will be off to college in August. He got a large amount of new friends during senior year. Some of them known to party and what not. I knew he drank illegally at parties because I heard rumors and stuff. This summer I have seen him going off with his school back pack whenever he goes out. I got a little suspicious and recently found it in his room full of drugs. I am worried about him. I don't want him to go to college and fail out. I know that if I tell my parents they will be surprised because he was always and honor roll student, if I don't tell I feel like I should. Should I keep my mouth shut so that my brother won't be mad at me and never trust me? I feel bad for snooping in his matters, you can tell me it's not my place because he's almost an adult and can make his own decisions but I had to know. So tell or not?
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Hey there,
Yes, it was wrong of you to snoop in his bag.. but, if he is setting himself up for trouble, somebody has to set him back on the right path. Don't believe every rumour you hear, unless you have proof. I am sure he may have been doing bad things, but do not tell your parents unless you are absolutely sure. He could just be having a good time at parties without alcohol..?.. he could just be carrying his pack around with drugs for some of his buddies..?.. you never know.
Before you tell your parents anything, talk to him about it. First, admit that you looked in his pack. He can be mad if he wants, but explain that you were concerned and that if he is doing drugs or drinking, you thought he knew better than that. Do not raise your voice at him, but let him know it is wrong and that if he doesn't tell your parents, in time you will. I am sure he will be mad for a while, but do not tell your parents for at least a few days after confronting him. I know it will be hard, but that way you allow him to think about what he is doing wrong and it gives him time to turn himself in without the hassle of you telling and having a bomb thrown at him.
He will always have some respect for you since you would have given him a chance to do what is right. Talk to him, give him time, then talk to your parents about it calmly. I am glad you know that drugs and alcohol are bad for him and for anyone. It is alright to worry about these kinds of things. Kudos for you looking after your brother. Do what you know is right. Even if it hurts at first, he will appreciate it later <3
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"Almost and adult" is not an adult. Tell your parents before this gets way out of hand. If he gets mad at you, too bad. Tell him you love him and you will never condone drug use or drug dealing and you will do whatever it takes to stop him. Period.
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