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HEY!! U can call me Nikki
Im from that little water state. Im fifteen and a sophmore. I can connect with most teens and their problems but also i think older people need to be open to advice from younger minds as well..so give us a chance. =] I like helping people and giving advice is the one the best ways to help. Ask me anything, i may not always have an answer but ill try. I put in thought and time on the question being asked, something id like people to also do for me. So tell me little pieces of your life and ill see if i can try and put them back together. ;]

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Ok this is going to sound really weird but like im 17 female and like since summer started i have been sweating a lot. I mean a lot. I put on a shirt and within 1 hour the armpit part of my shirt is wet. I'm a skiny girl and I dont no why this happens to me! Sometimes it makes my shirts by the armpits turn like yellowish brown and its disguesting. Ive tried wearing different kinds of deodorants but nothing works! Any advice?

so you say you've tried the deodorants that are for sweating less? Make sure you have tried those. Then if they still dont work, you want to see your doctor, or I think they would refer you to a determatologist. It is important to handle this because you dont want it interfering in your social life. good luck

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Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"

well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it

Well im young so ill give you my young answer lol
I have faith in love. but i dont know how a person could know they are in love [probably since i havent been]. I dont believe in necesarily finding love, i think it just comes to you. Keeping love is a good thing if you know its about to go away and your about to lose it. But i wouldnt say hold on to it to the point where your practically killing yourself to do so. Love is a two way street so I think if that person isnt willing to meet you half way than that love is worth losing. I think that some people never lose love for certain people. You might never see them again but they always have this special spot in your heart. I have not been in love but i have felt like my heart was broken. and even after that, this person still remains in my heart and i know im theirs and i believe that some people cant help but come back together so dont lose faith. I remember i felt like i hated this person and then someone told me that hate is like a form of love. I then realized that I must have some feelings for this person. They consume much of thoughts even though they were negative thoughts, so much of me was focused on them and people dont spend so much time tihnking about someone they dont care for. Im not in love with this guy but I do love him. Love in all forms [family, friend, and romantic love] is pain and happiness. There should be a word that means pain and happiness at the same time.. oh but then again couldnt that word be "love".

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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..

last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?

Im not even sure what to say. Your whole situation is just sad. I cant say I completely understand but I can sort of relate. Many people can say its time to let go. And I wanted to say the same thing to you but I understand that it is hard to let go and sometimes you feel like you just cant and even tell yourself its impossible. How do you let go? I honestly dont know. I think its a process of time and self-thinking. You really need to concentrate on yourself rather than his life and his girlfriends and graduation. thinking of how to make yourself feel better does not involve him because if you guys were to ever get back together and break up again, you might wind up worse than now. So now is the time to get rid of anything reminding you of him, wether that be songs in your ipod, cards, notes, gifts and more. Keeping the memory of him alive only makes the love you have for him seem stronger. And shutting someone out of your life that you once loved..it seems like 'how could he do that' but sometimes that is just the way people handle things. Shutting someone out is a way of saying I care about you, but i need to care about myself more right now. Shutting him out is the way to go. You will definitely experience love again because you are only 15 right now and have so many wonderful years to come. Enjoy your youth and try to stay away from adult problems. I think love is even harder for young people like us to handle. We have these raging hormones and its easier for us to not think rationally. Just always love yourself more than anyone else. If you love yourself first than you realize in some situations its better to take care of yourself and let the other person take care of themself. If you need anyone to talk to I am so gladly here for you. So dont be a stranger. -peachykeen

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16/f.
i recently went to the mall to go shopping, and i could not find anything. anybody know any stores with really cute stuff in it?
PLEASE do not say
American eagle
forever 21
abercrombie
hollister
delias
victorias secret
express
old navy
dillards
macys
jcpenny.

i looked, found hardly anything. anybody know of anywhere else? (price really doesn't matter.) as long as its not over like 500 for a shirt..

wetseal. heritage. pacsun.. < definately.

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Is it okay if you are online on myyearbook (which is like a get to know other people type of site) and you tell other people of the opposite sex that they are pretty,hot,sexy,gorgeous,ect when you are in a relationship?

(im not, my boyfriend is and i dont know if im just being over dramatic and jealous or its really not okay)

thanks!

I know about that site and it is about dating pretty much. there are alot of racy photos of girls and sexual stickers,and flirts,and gifts to buy for them. If a person is in a relationship they should not be on this site period. you are not over reacting. say something to your boyfriend. thinking a girl is hott is one thing but telling her is another. why tell her, what does he expect to get out of it? Thats the real question.

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Well that's good, Sounds like you aren't too bad then I'm glad everything worked out for you. ;) I found you because you added me as one of your favorites and I happened to check out your profile and realized it had too be you. lol, I just wanted to say Hi I don't know any other way of messaging you but going through this thing hmm.


BahaiMa22

ohh yeah im smart, should of thought of that.
well my aim is pleez me pink. this thing funni doin question-answer, question-answer.

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Now I know that everyone has their own personal preferencese when it comes to dating. My question though is, is there something wrong with a 17 year old guy going out with a 15 year old girl? I mean do you see anything wrong with it? I know i'm going to get many different answers and that's what i'm hoping for. There's just this guy that I really like, but he said that youngest he would date is 16, and i'm 15, and he's 17. He's a really great guy. We both have a lot in common, and are a lot alike. I'm not saying that because of these things that we belong together or something I just want to know everyones ideas on this. Any and all answers are greatly appreciated, and thank you in advance.

15 and 17 is perfectly fine. I know plenty of people who are in that situation. Its really no big deal. I would say 18 is not a good idea though because at that age it seems like the 18 year old enters a new level where like 15 year olds shouldnt be, if you get what i mean. For that guy your talking about, its just his personal preference to only date people as young as 16.

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Hi!

Sorry this is not a question, (It's me BahaiMa22)
You messaged me once I just wanted to see how you were doing. :) Hope all is well

-Meeeeee!

hmm haha im still tryna figure out how you knew it was me. but ok. and thank u im doing okay. about the question i asked you, that guy and me.. well hes an asshole and thats all to it. guys will be guys. some part of me still likes him and at this point i have no clue if he likes me or not, we havnt really talked about \"us\" lately. i think i mentioned how my best friend doesnt like him..well were not friends anymore. we were getting distant for a few months and then she started an argument and said i was replacing her with him and all kinds of crap when we arent even going out. so im pretty much assed out both ways..with him and her. hehe

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sorry, its not that i dont want to talk to you, i just dont need any advice right now! =] lol

xomel

umm well im trying to figure out who you are and what you are talking about.. like did you ask me a question before or something ?

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16/F
So my boyfriend and me have been dating for a year, He has cheated on me twice, but not recently. We have never been the fighting type but the past couple of months we have fought a lot. Im kind of losing feelings for him, but on our year anniversary he gave me a promise ring, and i dont know what to do. I mean i love him and i think i always will, and i think im scared to be without him because i've been with him so long and i wont know what to do. Im really confused. can you please help?? Thanks =]

I dont know what reasons you guys are fighting for, but it could possibly be that the cheating is subconsciously getting at you and making it easier for you guys to find something to fight about. Maybe? If you forgave this guy because you really love him that much then thats cool, but have you considered taking a break? Most people dont believe in breaks because they say they dont get back together but thats not always true. You need to talk to your boyfriend before you decide on anything. Tell him you feel like you two have been fighting so much and why he thinks you guys are and from there he'll give his input. You guys both might agree to take a break or agree to try to stop fighting. But if you dont say anything to him you'll be putting all the pressure on your self to make the relationship better when clearly a relationship is a two way street, so let him meet you half way. =]

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so the phrase "thats cool" is overrated.
so instead i now say "thats chill"
but now, a bunch of people in my school are saying it.


i need a new phrase!
like, "thats ________" (beast,bomb,etc.)

please and thank youuu.

thats kickin.
thats bangin.
thats wassup.
thats poppin.
thats cute.
thats sick.
thats ill.
thats nasty.
by those last three, those mean good things too.

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okay so i recently had a question about my boyfriend being a no-show 2 nights in a row and not calling me...that was 2 days ago and he hasnt contacted me in any way since...his phones broken but he could use his little brothers who doesnt use it alot...should i text his brother or wait until he texts me? i really wanted to see him this weekend but im tired of always having to be the one to step up, and i'm trying to be mad at him because i want him to know that he hurt me but its soo hard, especially when he won't text or call me...=/

I disagree with the other person. I wouldnt tell him your mad, because guys tend to think the opposite and he'll think your blowing it out of control. I would say 2 nights or 4, whichever isnt that long, especially since his phone is broken, so you dont necesarily know that he can use his brothers. I wouldnt text the brother, if you guys sort of just started dating you dont want to come off as that attached clingy girlfriend trying to get in contact with him anyway possible, if not then i still wouldnt because if he can use his bro's cell or a house phone then maybe he will call you. If he waits over a week when you guys do talk, be like hey your alive or yeah thanks i am alive, something to show your kinda upset but not directly saying that your mad.

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16/f, sorry if this is a bit long, I appreciate your help so so so much :]
So, there is this guy, and he told me he liked me, I told him I liked him, but then a couple days after that he got with his ex girlfriend who basically was just dumped by her boyfriend. the guy and i havent talked for 4 or 5 weeks. [since that happened] he is in one of my classes. math. and i hate that class already.
well on friday, i had to collect homework. and no one was passing it up, so i kind of went down his row [which is right next to mine, and im in the way front, he is like 2 seats behind me in the next row, so awkward. he moved there when we got our seats changed.] but before i got to him, they started passing it up, so then all of the sudden the guy ... we'll call him bob.. leans on his desk and says something like, "[my name] would you mind taking this--" or "[my name] will you do me a favor and--" i've been wanting him to talk to me, but i felt like he was being an asshole so i cut him off and snatched it out of his hand. [with attitude i guess] and then bob was like "thank you" [i think kind of sarcastically. or surprised.]
anyways, that happened and then i've been having wierd dreams involving him [nothing sexual, dont worry hahaha] just like dreams that I'm trying to get him to notice me. or talk to me. or break up with his girlfriend. who doesn't deserve him because she always told people ho annoying he was. and not that bob deserves anyone because i REALLY like/liked him.
sometimes i feel like he's looking at me in math. and when i talk to someone who sits behind him, i feel like he tries to make eye contact with me, and when we do make eye contact, i break away frist really quickly, or he does. and we were put in groups on friday [the day i snatched the paper from him] and he was right next to me [in his group] and i think he was listening to me talk to my group or trying to get my attention because whenever this guy in his group asked me a question, he would look at me and our eyes met and it was so intense. like. i don't even now how to explain it.
and ontop of that, i think i like this freshman now. but i still like bob. im so lost and confused and i can't get bob off of my mind. and sometimes the new guy i like comes into my mind. but not really. wow im so confused. what should i do? talk to bob? I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I AM SO LOST. someone please help me :[ thank you.
and by the way, i don't think that the new guy i liek likes me haha. its a long story but we are starting to become flirtatious and playful :] he is also in one of my classes. and bob is friends with my brother. and so is the freshman.

I love how everyone uses the name bob for a code male name. Bob is a cool name lol. I would say that whether you think you like bob or not you probably do, your having dreams about getting him to like you and its your subconscious talking to you. I dont suggest talking to bob because he has a girlfriend and thats an easy way for you to let go and move on. I think if bob really liked you to begin with than he wouldnt of gotten back with his ex so theres a sign that you have to watch out for this guy. As for the new guy, try to get to know him. If you still have reasons to believe that bob likes you then ask your brother to find out some info, also on the new guy.

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Ok I just turned 19 this past October and my best friend turned 15 this past November. Anyway over Valentine's day weekend we ended up do everything and I mean everything even a couple times we didnt use a condom. Anyway im madly in love with her and she loves me so is this wrong or not.

lol thats illegal hun. you should end that and yeah just end that quick, if she ever decided to tell her parents they could press charges against you which would equal jail time.

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13/F - he is 14/M

Okay here are just some questions for boys only (or girls if you think you can answer them) that protain to a problem I am having now: (please answer them like you would if you were 14)
1. Do boys ever play around with girls' emotions for the heck of it? Like do they ever just get a laugh out of messing around with a girl's feelings? If so, WHY??
2. What are boys' reactions when a girl starts crying?
3. What would a boy do if he likes a girl but doesn't want a girlfriend? What should the girl do in this situation?
4. I've heard a lot of diferent girls' opinions, but in you opinion do you prefer to chase a girl or have her come to you?
5. What ( in your boy opinion haha ) should a girl do if the boy she likes (and he says he likes her too) is ignoring her? If he likes her why would he ignore her??

Please help me out guys, this boy is really confusing me... And you say girls are confusing... Ha.

im a girl but id still like to answer your questions. 1. Boys definitely play with girls feelings, just like girls do. Girls might flirt with the boy and act like shes likes him, lead him on but really not want the relationship to go anywhere, that is messing with their feelings. Its understandable because its like the person gets a kick out of the other person wanting them. 2.Some boys might try and figure out whats wrong by asking her questions, some might not ask anything but give her a hug, or some might just completely ignore the fact that shes crying and just let her cry because they dont know what to say. 3.If a boy likes a girl but doesnt want a girlfriend he'll probably just try and hook up with her and only have a sexual relationship but nothing serious. The girl should distance herself from this type of guy if she actually DOES want a relationship. 4. I have heard from guys that they enjoy the chase. Not for too long, but for long enough because something easy wouldnt be as fun. The more you have to work for something,the more you appreciate it when you get it. 5. sometimes guys have things going through their heads, such as confusion on whether he likes the girl or not, and its just better to be alone and not talk to her until he gets whatever he is thinking about straight. Everything you just said girls do too, so its not just a guy thing.

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This question has been bothering me for the last week. If you didn't know Katelyn was a transgender, would you suspect?

She has masculine features...but does her voice give her away?

I dont think the voice gives it away at all. Plenty of girls have more manly voices. I dont think her voice is even that manly. But its her face and body structure that is. Her facial structure is very masculine, she has broad shoulders, and if you add her tallness, flat boobs, and sexuality, I would assume she is a man, or was a man.

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yes i have been posting a lot about this situation, im sorry to keep doing this but i just dont know who to tell anymore..
this guy that i met a while ago yeah we talk online and ive seen him twice and ill probobly see him at my friend's in a few weekends but anyways, first he pressured me into sending him pictures which i didnt do. now he is pressuring me badly and keeps asking me to give him a bj. ive said, no sorry i dont think thats gonna happen , tons of times. but then he makes me feel so bad. and no i dont want to, and i wont. but its almost like i feel like this is sexual harrasment. the way he talks to me now..its like he doesnt even care about my feelings or what I want. its only what HE wants. he keeps on saying things like, yeah so just suck it. or, oh yeah your a good girl who doesnt give bjs, i forgot.
this is pissing me off and he is making me feel stupid and bad about myself, really bad. like im only good for one thing for him. i am being so pressured by him. and last night after I IMed him. [usually he IMs me but he hadnt talked to me since saturday night and i didnt know why] anyways after i kept saying sorry but i dont think so [in other words, no] yeah he was on for two hours today same time as me, never IMed me. why not. i know im paranoid but..ugh. i dont even know why i want him to talk to me. i wish i didnt care so much and could just get over him. he doesnt even treat me nice, at all. he orders me to do things for him. and then whenever i try to stick up for myself in a nice way, he just says k. or basically doesnt give a shit. or he just makes me feel dumb. like the whole picture thing? saturday night he was begging for pictures. and..i didnt know what to do..i said, would you be mad if i didnt send any..and he goes, um yeah kinda.
he is mean. doesnt even treat me fairly. i cant do this anymore. and then i have to deal with him going on and off with talking to me. i wonder why he does that..i know that he likes this other girl who lives in new york who is obsessed with him [seems like it] an writes on his wall I LOVE YOU. dont know what thats supposed to mean....

someone please help me

First Id like to say your smart for not sending him pictures. If you sent him pictures then he will only try to go further with you and if you dont want any of that than what you did was right. Also did you know that it is illegal for teens to send other teens pictures that expose themselves and you can be arrested. Him pressuring you and not taking no for an answer the first time, shows that he truly does not care for you and only wants to use you. I know sometimes your heart can tell you one thing but you really need to listen to your head and not talk to this guy. Dont im him, let him im you, and if you want to talk then okay, but I wouldnt want someone like him in my life.

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hey i was wondering to send a text from computer to phone is the example (123-456-7899@at&t.com) or whatever but does anyone know what it is for sprint?
thanks

1-area code-your number @ messaging.sprintpcs.com

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I was just wondering how I could delete my internet history; completely. I just bought my own desktop computer and I would like to know how to erase my history from my internet. I use Mozilla Firefox. I was also wondering if the main computer other people in my house use could see my internet history. If they can, how can i make it so they can't see it?
Thank you very much.

go to tools .. then clear private data and it lets you check off what you want to delete. i was just wondering the same thing and did it too so that was coincedence.

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People have always told me my whole life I was thin/ skinny/ had a great body.. etc. I was dating this guy and he was a real jerk and made me really insecure about my weight. He told me I wasnt as skinny as most girls he goes for and when I lost 10 lbs from the mono he gave me, he told me how much better I looked and how I shouldnt gain my weight back. That was summer, I've gained my weight back now. I don't know if it's because of him or what but I'm really insecure about my weight now. Is 113, c cup, and 5'5 normal? I swear I have a little fat on my stomach. It's sick. Do you know of any exercises I can do that target the lower stomach?(Crunches don't help!)

Ok the weight for someone 5'5 according to what my doc told me when i was 5'5 was lik 115-135 or sumthin. You are skinny. Dontlose weight, keep your weight. If your boyfriend likes you as much as he says then he will not be an ass and told you to lose weight when your perfectly normal. But if you really want to know the exercise, then try getting those exercise ball and sit on them on the wall strengthens your stomach. or lying down and lifting your knees to your chest over n over, targets your lower abs..

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