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Boys are too confusing...!
13/F - he is 14/M
Okay here are just some questions for boys only (or girls if you think you can answer them) that protain to a problem I am having now: (please answer them like you would if you were 14)
1. Do boys ever play around with girls' emotions for the heck of it? Like do they ever just get a laugh out of messing around with a girl's feelings? If so, WHY??
2. What are boys' reactions when a girl starts crying?
3. What would a boy do if he likes a girl but doesn't want a girlfriend? What should the girl do in this situation?
4. I've heard a lot of diferent girls' opinions, but in you opinion do you prefer to chase a girl or have her come to you?
5. What ( in your boy opinion haha ) should a girl do if the boy she likes (and he says he likes her too) is ignoring her? If he likes her why would he ignore her??
Please help me out guys, this boy is really confusing me... And you say girls are confusing... Ha.
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I am a girl but i have been the victim in most of these questions and i feel like i understand these kinds of guys well enough to try and help you understand them too.
1.) yes. guys are inconsiderate like that and some, not all, but some do it because it makes them feel better about themselves. i would know this because i have recently been a victim in that type of situation and the guys that do this are usually cocky, insecure, or trying to boost their ego in a way.
2.)when a girl starts crying guys are usually thinking, please make her stop crying. they do not know what to do or how to handle something like that. i have also been in that situation. when my boyfriend broke up with me i started crying really hard and he felt awkward and tried to hug me and say dont cry but i dont think he knew what to do.
3.)yet another question where i have expirienced this. haha well in some cases when a guy likes a girl but doesnt want a girlfriend, he will flirt with her. but REMEMBER- try not to get too attatched to this guy. because clearly if he doesnt want a girlfriend this cant be good. i hate to keep using myself as an example for you but its the only way for me to make myself more understandable as to why this is not such a good idea. well, i liked this guy and he liked me but he told me he did not want to go out with me or have a gf. a week later he started talking to me again and told me he liked someone else. then as time went on and we kept talking i realized he talked to other girls too the same way he talked to me. it hurt. so usually when a guy does not want a girlfriend it could mean he either likes someone else, feels there isnt enough time for her, or only wants to get ass but from other girls too. all of those being bad reasons which is a good enough reason for you to try not to get too involved in a guy like that.
4.) again, i am a girl but i feel that i can help you understand this. well usually guys tend to like it betetr if they chase after you. it makes it more exciting and sure some guys would like it if a girl went after them, in the begining. but if she does it too many times as in, more than once, then chances are he will not really enjoy it as much as him going after you. guys are just like that. they want what they cant have and feel that they should be the ones chasing instead. also, guys may like girls who are easy IN THE BEGINING but after a while they get bored of it because it isnt exciting for them since they are not chasing and are just getting what they want too easily. yep. ive been in this too. i was too easy and even chased after him once or twice [not litterally] and now he does not talk to them anymore. i think he got bored with me. so just a tip, make the guy chase after you. trust me
5.)well, if he says he likes you and is ignoring you, chances are he is confused. [ive been in this too. all of these questions, except one, refer to the same guy. yeah uh guys like this are not someone you wanna be with haha trust me on this] so basically he is probobly very confused about what he wants, he likes someone else or multiple girls, or is just plain confused about if he even still likes you. guys can be very confused people. especially ones like these where they dont know what they want. ALSO- if a guy treats you like an object/choice, he is not worth anything. i would know. haha
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im a girl but id still like to answer your questions. 1. Boys definitely play with girls feelings, just like girls do. Girls might flirt with the boy and act like shes likes him, lead him on but really not want the relationship to go anywhere, that is messing with their feelings. Its understandable because its like the person gets a kick out of the other person wanting them. 2.Some boys might try and figure out whats wrong by asking her questions, some might not ask anything but give her a hug, or some might just completely ignore the fact that shes crying and just let her cry because they dont know what to say. 3.If a boy likes a girl but doesnt want a girlfriend he'll probably just try and hook up with her and only have a sexual relationship but nothing serious. The girl should distance herself from this type of guy if she actually DOES want a relationship. 4. I have heard from guys that they enjoy the chase. Not for too long, but for long enough because something easy wouldnt be as fun. The more you have to work for something,the more you appreciate it when you get it. 5. sometimes guys have things going through their heads, such as confusion on whether he likes the girl or not, and its just better to be alone and not talk to her until he gets whatever he is thinking about straight. Everything you just said girls do too, so its not just a guy thing.
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1. Yes YES definatly yes. Some do it because they're just being stupid and need someone to pick on, sorry it had to be you,and some do it yo impress their friends.
2. A guy's initial reaction to a crying girl is whats wrong with you and 'please stop crying' because most guys cant handle it when a girl cries.
3.If a boy likes a girl but doesnt want that relationship more than likely he's just going to flirt and just 'chill' with her with making any sort of intended committment. The girl should decide if she cares that she and this person are not official or if she wants that at all. If this girl wants a boyfiend then she should either encourage an official situation or discourage their behavior all together.
4.I'm a girl... but i have alot of guy friends and most of them say they prefer to be the persuer because it keeps their intrest and if you had to work for something or in this case someone you value it or her more.
5.There could be a number of reasons but in simple guy mind mode more than likely this guys just has other things on his mind right now, not sure if he wants to be with you like that right now, or is already with someone else.
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1. Do boys ever play around with girls' emotions for the heck of it? Like do they ever just get a laugh out of messing around with a girl's feelings? If so, WHY??
WELL. USUALLY NO. MOST BOYS ARE REALLY DECENT! But some of them are really immature, & when they are with their friends, they think its funny to mess with girls & make them cry. Its a huge ego boost, & also, they dont realize how hurtful they really are & how they really affect people.
2. What are boys' reactions when a girl starts crying?
DEPENDS ALSO. REALLY, I WISH I KNEW THE PERSON YOU WERRE TALKING ABOUT. In my dreams, im with the love of my life on the beach, crying about somthing & hes wiping away my tears & promising its all going to be okay. But that dosent really actually happen, usually. From what ive seen, middle school boys think its weak when girls cry over small things, & that we are being insensitive.
3. What would a boy do if he likes a girl but doesn't want a girlfriend? What should the girl do in this situation?
THE BOY WOULD SAY, LETS JUST BE BESST FRIENDS & THE GIRL WOULD SAY OKAY, & THEY WOULD JUST STAY REALLY CLOSE.
4. I've heard a lot of diferent girls' opinions, but in you opinion do you prefer to chase a girl or have her come to you? IM A GIRL, BUT ID RATHER CHASE A BOY A LITTLE BIT, BUT FROM WHAT IVE SEEN BOYS WOULD RATHER CHASE THE GIRL ASLO, UNLESS HES EXTREMELY SHY & THEN HE WOULD RATHER THE GIRL MAKE THE FIRST MOVE.
5. What ( in your boy opinion haha ) should a girl do if the boy she likes (and he says he likes her too) is ignoring her? If he likes her why would he ignore her?? MAYBE HES SHY, OR MAYBE HE DOSENT REALLY LIKE HER, BOYS ARE FUNNY LIKE THAT.
I DO WANT TO WARN YOU NOT TO GET TOO MANY PEOPLES OPINIONS, YOULL GET CONFUSED. USE US TO GUIDE YOU, BUT MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS.
BEST OF LUCK
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