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I think I love my best friend his name is alex he has a girlfriend they have been together for two years but I can't help it I don't know what to do
Hello Nice to meet you and sorry to say but this is going to suck big time for you. If his friendship means a lot to you you have to let him be with his girlfriend AND be supportive. The bad news is it will take longer to get over him because your friends but there is a silver linning. You won't lose your friend and you'll be stronger after this. Plus he and his girl break-up and you've been super supportive you'll get closer afterwords....maybe even really close ; ) Good Luck
I'm fourteen he's sixteen. He has mono. I can't kiss him. What am I supposed to do??
Hi I'm Ella. Take advantage of texing and lovey dovey phone calls. Wait until he's better and plan a special date or night to show him how much you miss his lovely kisses. Show him what you're working with (when he's better). HAPPY POST-MONO KISSING! = )
Okay so this is kinda gay but here goes...
I met this guy through my friend and he seemed pretty chill. I only met him one but after we met he started texting ke and was like hey hin I wanna hang out you're so cute and hot andni wanna hang it with you. So I'm kind of prude, I've only hooked up with two guys and I've never had a bf. I've heard from some people that this guy is kind of weird or desperate or whatever but it's not like he's uglyI thought he was pretty cute andnhes obviously interseted in me . So he weants to hang out and hook up so I have two concerns.. .
First of all shouldni hang out with him in the first place, I mean if people say he's desperate I dint want to se desperate or prude cause like he's the only guy. Could yet or somethig like that
and second.... Imnervous to hang out with him because I onlyy met him once in person and then he starts texting me saying you were so cute but j feel like he's gonna see me and be like oh I remembered you diifferently or something idk I guess cause I'm inexperienced I'm ius nervous to hang out with him one on one. Sorry this is so long and lame haha.
Any advice???.
Okay well hey "Scared to be with him..." I'm Ella. First off what I'm not hearing from you is are you genuinly interested? If your not there is no point in the persuit whether he's ugly, cute or desperate. Now if you are interested go for it. People say lots of things but when you're talking to him what do you think? Rely on your own oppinion because thats the one that's going to matter.However, if whenyou're talking or out and you get a creepy feeling RUN! Your gut is your natural intrinct follow it. What are you nervous about when it comes to hanging out? About the physical? If so dont put your self in situatiions that are difficult go with a group, or a crowded area so you dont feel pressured. Or is it inexperience in dating? Be yourself and he doesnt like it he can chew bricks. Best of luck, give yourself a chance, be safe, and own it because you can :).
-Ella
i don't know what to do i'm with a man i don't love, hes like 20 years older than me, i'm going crazy, cause i have no one to turn to. i have social phobia, no friends, i can't talk to ppl, cause i've got trust problems.....
i feel like a dead person just going thru the motions, i beat myself up constantly everyday, cause sometimes i hate myself.
i'm living a lie..
sometimesw i think i'm a evil monster
Okay girl it sounds like first you need to get back to the basics and breathe. Then make a change in you life because if you feeling like this then its time to shake it up and do whats best for you. First of unless you think your relationship with this guy is heading towards love it may be time to end it because it sounds like its apart of the problem. When you decide that go on to the social issues. Realize that using this man as a social crutch, which i think you are, is not the way to go. Take baby steps by first building your self confident and strength that way if people do break your trust you wont break into a million pieces. Once you've build yourself up test yurself with baby steps, getting back out, and putting yourself out there because if you put nothing out there you get nothing back. Best of luck and always rememebr if it gets too much at times get back to basics and breathe because you have to power to change any circumstance you find yourself in = )
13/F - he is 14/M
Okay here are just some questions for boys only (or girls if you think you can answer them) that protain to a problem I am having now: (please answer them like you would if you were 14)
1. Do boys ever play around with girls' emotions for the heck of it? Like do they ever just get a laugh out of messing around with a girl's feelings? If so, WHY??
2. What are boys' reactions when a girl starts crying?
3. What would a boy do if he likes a girl but doesn't want a girlfriend? What should the girl do in this situation?
4. I've heard a lot of diferent girls' opinions, but in you opinion do you prefer to chase a girl or have her come to you?
5. What ( in your boy opinion haha ) should a girl do if the boy she likes (and he says he likes her too) is ignoring her? If he likes her why would he ignore her??
Please help me out guys, this boy is really confusing me... And you say girls are confusing... Ha.
1. Yes YES definatly yes. Some do it because they're just being stupid and need someone to pick on, sorry it had to be you,and some do it yo impress their friends.
2. A guy's initial reaction to a crying girl is whats wrong with you and 'please stop crying' because most guys cant handle it when a girl cries.
3.If a boy likes a girl but doesnt want that relationship more than likely he's just going to flirt and just 'chill' with her with making any sort of intended committment. The girl should decide if she cares that she and this person are not official or if she wants that at all. If this girl wants a boyfiend then she should either encourage an official situation or discourage their behavior all together.
4.I'm a girl... but i have alot of guy friends and most of them say they prefer to be the persuer because it keeps their intrest and if you had to work for something or in this case someone you value it or her more.
5.There could be a number of reasons but in simple guy mind mode more than likely this guys just has other things on his mind right now, not sure if he wants to be with you like that right now, or is already with someone else.