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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!

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uhh how bad is drinking for you actually? I'm 15 I drink almost every day but I'm pretty much an honor student so I don't get it what's so bad with it?

drinking all the time can cause severe damage to your liver... but as far as school and stuff like that... it all depends what kind of person you are... if you handle your responcibilities and then drink you're okay... its when you start going to school or work drunk or with hang overs that it starts to become a life affecting problem

I just started working at office depot and I dont know crap about the register... I start tomorrow. My main question is about Checks. I know what to write on them (state, license, expiration date) but I dont know what information Im supposed to keep (besides the check itself). Any help would be soooooooo appreciated. Thanks guys :)

you just keep the check... you write all the persons info, dont forget the phone # on the check, you frank it, and after that you store it wherever the store wants you too, usually under the register tray... thats all... no worries

I asked a question about how much to pack, and this is what I plan on packing. I'm going away for 5 days.

7 tank tops & shorts sleeved shirts
5 pairs of shorts
1 mini skirt just in case
3 pairs of flip flops (I'm not gunna wear sneakers.)
11 pairs of underwear
1 face cloth
1 hair straightner
tons of earrings necklaces bracelets etc.
all my make up (mascara eyeliner lipgloss etc)
1 pair of sunglasses
3 bras
purses cell phone ipod all that good stuff
1 sweatshirt (its warm there)
3 bathing suits
3 pairs of pajamas
tooth brush and tooth paste
a hair brush and a few elastics and headbands
shaving cream and razor

Does that seem like enough stuff for 5 days of vacation? Or do I need more of something or did I pack too much? Or did I completely forget something?

yo this is a total freakin waste of time... just pack your shit and go... whatever you forget just freakin buy...

Well, last summer I met this guy at camp and he seemed really sweet, so we started hanging out. After a while we started dating and after about a month we had sex. After, we broke up and this guy at my school asked me out. He's really sweet and I like him a lot, but I still have feelings for the guy I met at camp. Then about a week after I started dating the other guy, the guy I met at camp wanted to get back together. Do you think I should get back together with him or is he just using me for sex? I really like the other guy and he's never mentioned sex once and he told me he loved me, what do I do?

well your ex could just want you for sex, or now that he has lost you and sees you with someone new already, he probably is jealous and wants you back. you sound kind of young if i were you i would stay with the current boy friend, the one who cares about you and all that good stuff even though you dont have sex with him, it seems like he respects you more.

When you are getting fingured do you just laying there and do nothing else? like make out

you can do whatever you want... you can lay there, kiss him, grab him too, moan, whatever... but is this a for real question???

ok like i have big bags or circles i dont know what there called under my eyes. and people say to get rid of them you have to get some more sleep. but all i do is sleep. like i go to bed around 10 pm or 11 pm then i wake up the next day at like 11 am. i get like 12 hours asleep per nite or even more. so i was just wonderin how do i get them to go away? i eman there not bg but there dark. it makes me look like bad or like im on drugs or whatever so it like changes my appearance. sorry if this is in the rong category. so... does anyone know like what to do?? thanks

sometimes you can get dark circles from too much sleep.... maybe you should find some things to do with all that spare time

during sex, a guy knows when he is about to cum.. but how does a girl know when she is about to? me and my boyfriend have sex, and he tells me when hes getting ready to, and he'll ask me if i'm about to.. and im like no??... i dont know when it comes!

you probably dont know when you're gonna go for either reason: #1: hes just not doing it right, therefore you are not going
#2: you are too young to be having sex and you dont understand what it is to have an orgasim yet, which probably means you should wait until your old enough to understand it because right now you are just wasting your time having pointless sex

my boyfriend and i have had sex with a condom a few times about a week before my period was supposed to start he broke my hymen and i did bleed for about three days, and the next time i bled more. i am 15 and my boyfriend is 16.
my period is not completely regular yet, i have had it for about 2 years. but, my period is late 11 days, it has been later in the past, but because i am sexually active, i'm worried.
is it possible to have gotten pregnant ?
what are some symptoms of pregnancy ?
i think that i've been stressed about it, and thats why i'm late, but i'm worried.
any advice would help =)
also .. if you go to planned parenthood, does it cost anything for birth control ? and will it be confidential ? will it be mailed to your house ?
sorry for so many questions.
thank you !!

chances are if you are stressing you're period will come late.... so start relaxing. there is a possibilty that you could have gotten pregnant with a condom, but the chnaces are very slim. this happens with young girls all the time, and its because honestly, they are too young to be having sex and they cant handle the idea of the circumstances that come along with sex and they get themselves all thinking and freaked out. just relax. and as far as planned parenthood, i wouldnt go there, they make you feel like crap, b ut it is confidential, and they shouldnt charge you as long as you say you dont have any insurance. you should see a family doctor or like your mom's gyno, someone you can trust. i understand you probably dont want to let your parents know you are having sex, but hey if you cant talk to your parents about an adult thing, maybe that means you're too young to be doing adult things.

What are some good ways to flirt with a guy but not making it seem desperate? Thanks!!!

just make casual conversation and smile... try to throw some not so corny jokes in there too... but just be yourself. if guy likes you, he will come around and you will be able to know if he does or not, just dont push it or stress yourself, hes not the only fish in the fish bowl.

I need some inspiration.....Its embarrising to get a friend to help me lose weight im 5'2 and i weigh 117lbs please tell me how to get in the mood to lose weight!!?!?!!?! Thanx XOXOX

sweety, you should be embarrassed if you're 5'2, 117 lbs and you want to lose weight because you are freakin skinny. listen, you are healthy, you dont need to drop any lbs. but if you feel out of shape then do some toning exercises like crunches, you can do them while you are watching tv, or put a walkman on and go running. but seriously, you dont need to lose any weight.

i've been soooo in love with this guy for a year now and we never talked that much and were not friends and now he's moving....and now i'm really depressed cause i really love that guy and now i will never see him again and he does'nt like me that much anyways but i just love him soooo much. and as i was saying i'm crying every day now and i'm just so sad!!! how can i get over him? please help!!1

ummm.... question: how are you in love with this guy if you babrely talk and are NOT EVEN FRIENDS???? not to be mean... but girl WAKE UP! he dont like you! what are you doing sitting around crying over some guy who doesnt give 2 shits about you? you just like putting yourself down. why dont you try getting into someone who is actually into you.

my armpit's been hurting my mom says its caus I slept wrong
HELP!!!!!

well what did you do to your armpit? do you shave them? maybe you have an ingrown hair.....

well i like this guy. but he does'nt like me and that sucks. he never talkes to me or anything just because i'm not thaaaat popular. i dont know why he does'nt like me but i just wanna be friends! so what should i do now? i really want him to notice me and like me........heeeelp

well hun you cant make anyone like you if they dont, but it seems to me like he doesnt even really know you to like you. and if he doesnt talk to you because you are not popular, he may be kind of shallow, you probably dont want a guy like that anyway. and honestly, you shouldnt try to change yourself just to get a guy to like or notice you. and how is it that you like him so much, if you guys never talk? sounds to me like you need to get over this little crush.

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allright so here's the deal. one of my best friends is my cousin. im over there like everyday and i feel like such a loser because i mean ..its my cousin? and people are like gosh your always over there...shes your best friend? and im like yeahh one of them. i mean sometimes i will do other things with my friends but my cousin doesnt have many friends so she always asks me to come over. for some reason we dont do mcuh but i still have fun :D but i feel retarded because there is this cute kid that lives by them and he always sees me over there and i talk to him sometimes and he probably thinks i have no life or friends since im always over at my cousins. do you think there is something wrong with this situation? i mean i love doing things with my other friends but its always so hard to go through with plans with them because they're always working or busy! but i was just checkin to see what you guys thought. thanks

hey... i think its a good thing to be real good friends with your cousin. its great to be close with family, family will always stick around. plus, you have a cutey to hang around you, sounds like you got a pretty good thing going over there. so, NO i dont think its u8nhealthy at all.

sometimes..i feel uneedded...like if i died no one would care...no one loves me....my parents say they do but never show it....i think my parents think i'm useless...i wish i was loved...or had a purpose in the world...wat do i do...

sounds to me like you are depressed. you should really see a therapist. i know how it is. you might need a prescription drug because you can have a chemical imbalance in your brain that makes you feel sad all the time. or you might just need someone to talk to. family therapy might help too. just try it out. i think you will feel alot better.

I want a good facewash that has a few different parts to it ex) blackhead remover, cleansing wash

does anybody know some really good facewash that is pretty cheap?I dont mean like proactiv or anything big like that, like something that i can just buy at a drugstore.
Thankz!

anything st.ives brand is good... i use this blemish and blackhead clenser, its the only one in a pump bottle, the rest are in tubes, just pick the formula that suits you best.

So there's this guy at work (we're both 17) that I really like. When ever we work together, I always talk to him, sit with him on my break and stuff. My other 2 friends that work with him in his department keep joking around that we should hook up, which makes me wonder if he talks about me or has told them something. I also don't want it to get out that I like him because he's a good friend of mine and i don't want it to be weird at work if i did make a move or if he knew I liked him. I gave him my e-mail address 30 days ago, so like a month ago, and he never did anything with it. no e-mails or anything. so i don't know if he does actually like me like that and i would prefer not to have to tell anyone about it 'cause i don't want him to find out......

What should I do??¿??

well soumds to me like you are a little confused... you like him yet you dont want him to know??? then what do you want??? if you dont want him to know then you must not really want to pursue anything with him because if you did then you would want to tell him something. so think about it... what do you really want? something or nothing? if you want something then make a move and just take the chance, if you dont want to risk it then you're gonna have to find a way to stop liking him, and i have a feeling that thats gonna be hard. so looks like you have some hard thinking to do.

ok me and my boyfriend want to have sex im a virgin but he isnt i love him 2 bits and our relationship is goin well im just nervous about us having sex im 14 and u really wna do it were obviously guna use protection and that stuff but what advice have u got for me for when i do have sex?

Just WAIT!!!! Close your legs and fuckin WAIT.

a wiz wonderin can u get pregnaunt by havin sex up ur ass hole?

NO.... but you are an ASSHOLE.

im a virgin but my boyfriend isnt we wna have sex soon but im nervous i dnt no wat to expect he says he loves me and he would take it slow the first time i love him to and i really wna do it i no im 14 but im feel that im ready have you got any advice for me wen i get 2 the point of me havin sex help plz thnx xxx

uhhh.... the choice is yours but i think you are too young to be having sex, trust me. if you wait til you are more mature its better. if you do it now you're gonna regret it.

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