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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!
chat it up yo.
ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)
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14/f
Hi, I had a problem earlier where I could not put in my tampon for the first time (I have to for a swim unit in gym class) but anyway I finally got it in. I'm pretty sure I broke my hymen, because I couldn't get it in for so long and then I felt something kinda pop and it slipped in. So it felt normal at first but I could feel something inside me. Then, after about ten minutes it felt slightly uncomfortable, and after forty minutes kind of stung. Was this because I inserted the tampon wrong, or because it was my first time? I did everything the box said, and I can't ask my mom because she doesn't use tampons. I have the kind with the plastic applicator. I experienced a bit of soreness as well. Is this normal for the first time? When it started stinging, I got scared I had put it in wrong so I slowly and painfully took it out. I then started bleeding a TON, immediately following removal of the tampon. Was this excessive bleeding because I broke my hymen? It stopped after about five to ten minutes. Was it because of my hymen or some irritation from the tampon? I put a pad on to sleep, but I'm planning on trying a tampon again tomorrow because I only have one day till the swim unit starts and I need to practice. Will putting in a tampon the second time hurt as much as the first time? I'm scared. And because I experienced some discomfort, not excruciating pain, but discomfort while the tampon was in, does it mean I inserted it wrong? Or is it because it was my first time? Thank you so much to anyone who answers this, I'm just freaking out and can't find the answers I need other places online.
It probably hurt because it was your first time. The first time I used a tampon, I had to take it our after like, half an hour because I'm such a baby when it comes to pain.
Yes- it is normal to feel sore the first time.
You may have broken your hymen when inserting the tampon. It can happen and it will cause extra bleeding. As long as the bleeding stopped and isn't so much that you cannot control it, I wouldn't worry. If it becomes excessive and uncontrollable, you need to tell your mom and call your doctor.
The amount of pain the second time varies from person to person. Personally? Yes, it still hurt. But not as bad as the first time, and after a few more tries, it stopped hurting altogether!
A note: it's better to wear pads to bed because it reduces any risk of TSS (toxic shock syndrome). I wouldn't recommend wearing tampons to bed until you're more familiar and comfortable with them.
If you need any more help, feel free to send a question to my inbox. :)
Good luck!
-Laura (19-f)
Hey :D 13/F. I think my mom is over protective coz I am 13 I may not 1.have a BF. 2.Sleep at my friends house. 3.Go to the mall with my friends. 4.wear high heels. 5.go to a party. I know I should enjoy her but she is making me nuts. And I don't want to tell her. Plz help
Honestly, I don't see a problem with most of these. You're only 13 and she's your mother. She's only looking out for you; its what mothers do and you should respect that.
The only one I think you should be allowed to do and that you should talk to her about is going to the mall with your friends.
You need to talk to her, but you need to be calm about it. You need to show her she can trust you and that you are old enough/responsible enough to go out with your friends. You need to CALMLY tell her that you want to be allowed out with friends, because while you ARE young, you're not too young to be out enjoying time with friends.
Let her know you'll tell her where you are and who you're with at all times. Perhaps introduce her to the friends you'd be going out with and/or let your mom talk to one of their moms? Sometimes, hearing another mother's advice helps.
Best of luck!
-Laura (19-f)
while my boyfriend was fingering me precum come out and got all over his pants ? he touch it and keep going ?
No.
-Laura (19-f)
Hi, I'm 14 and am just starting the mandatory swim unit in gym class. Well of course I got my period the day the unit started, and I have no idea what to do because I've been wearing pads ever since I got my period about 9 months ago. I told my mom and we bought me some tampons, which neither my mom nor myself have ever used. To practice, I tried inserting a tampon today and it hurt like HELL. I'm a virgin, of course, and I tried several times throughout the day to get it in. I have the applicator thingies and on one try I got it almost al the way in, got the applicator off but the tampon was giving me this horrible burning sensation so I took it out immediately. I did everything on the box, tried relaxing myself and going in at a forty-five degree angle, and it just KILLS. I have no idea what I'm going to do, because I can't keep missing gym class. I have to swim on Monday, and I can't get the freaking tampon in. Please help!!!! Thank you!!
First of all- if you have your mother write a note to the PE instructor saying you're on your period, you are excused. They can't MAKE you swim. So if you really can't use tampons, just have your mom write a note and you'll be able to sit out of swimming until the end of your period.
If you'd rather just figure out how to use the tampon- it really isn't too difficult. It is scary at first and it will hurt, especially if you are a virgin. But once you get thru the first time, it doesn't hurt anymore and it will become everyday nature.
The most important thing to do when inserting a tampon is RELAX. If you're nervous and your muscles are tense, it will hurt WORSE. So take a deep breath, take a minute and ready yourself. I know it's hard to calm yourself entirely, trust me, I was just like you when I first started using tampons.
The next most important thing is to make sure that you insert it in a way that works for you. Don't go by the angles on the box. Don't ignore them completely, but modify it to fir YOUR body. If you focus more on the angle rather than your own physical comfort, it is going to continue hurting. Every girls' body is different. The instructions on the box are basic, but aren't patented to fit your specific body. So follow the instructions, but in doing so, modify them so YOU are comfortable. :)
Best of luck!
-Laura (19-f)
Hi(: My boyfriend says he wants to eat me out and I'm ready. Kinda. It would be my first time and I want to know how it feels like so I'm prepared. Is there also anyway that I can imitate that feeling? Or do I just have to wait?
There's really no way to imitate the feeling. You can't really prepare for it..
You're just going to have to wait it out. But most importantly- relax! If you stress out during it, it will make it awkward and unpleasant.
Just wait it out. You'll be fine :)
-Laura (19-f)
I plan on eating healthy and working out.
I'm 5'5" and 145 pounds
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=569112
Best of luck :)
-Laura (19-f)
Side effects of propindol tablets
This could easily be found on Google.
-Laura (19-f)
Anyone have any good ways to gain weight in your legs ?? I gain weight everywhere but there ! I hate chicken legs !!
Start running. I run a lot and I've built up a lot of muscle in my legs.
You can also try biking or hiking. Even using the leg machines at the gym is a good start.
However, it does take time to build muscle. Especially in your legs.
-Laura (19-f)
My bestfriend has liked me a lot for awhile and I told him i just wanted to be friends. Its been a month since then and I think my feelings for him might be changing but im not sure. I want to know what it means if I think about him all the time and imagine us together and sometimes I get butterflies in my stomach when I think about him, but then when I see him at school the feelings go away. Can someone tell me if I might like him or if I still just think of him as a friend?
I was in a semi similar ish situation recently. You have to do like I did. Ask yourself this:
Can you imagine kissing him?
Can you imagine holding his hand and calling him your boyfriend?
Most importantly- do you feel like, yes, you can see those things happening because you genuinely like him? Or just because you know he wants those things.
I can't tell you how you feel. It seems that you don't even know. And that is perfectly ok. It isn't something you can or should decide over night. Give yourself time to really think about it and your true feelings will surface.
-Laura (19-f)
My grandma,and my mom seems to think I have and eating disorder,but I know I don't.
I go days without eating,and feel fine.
But my mom and dad makes me eat something,cause they think I have an eating disorder.
When I do eat,I have puke it right back up.
I don't think I have an eating disorder,but they do.
Do I?
There is definitely something wrong with your eating habits. It is not normal to eat something and then "puke it back up."
Please see a doctor. Before it gets even worse.
-Laura (19-f)
Hey 13/F. I have dated this boy we broke up on the 26 January. Because he is moving tomorrow. We are still friends. But I feels like there is a hole punched in my chest. I am very sad and is crying every 5 min. How do I get over him?????? I really liked him and he me. Pleas help
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711
Honey, you're only 13. Trust me when I say this- it's not the end of the world. It WILL get better. It might not feel like it now, but it will. I promise :)
-Laura (19-f)
I got my belly button pierced about a week ago. I clean it with salt water and I put antibiotic ointment on it. I clean it 4 times a day and add the ointment on every time I clean it. But now there is a red circle around the piercing about the size of the top ball and its peeling. It doesnt hurt anymore unless it gets snaged or its pushed on. I dont touch with my hands not even to put the ointment on I use qtips. In the morning there is crusties but I was told thats normal. What is wrong with my piercing? Is this normal? What do I do to fix it? Should I take it out? Please help. Thank you.
It's healing and is totally fine. My's doing the same thing and I got worried, so I had my mom (who is a nurse) look at it and she said it is fine :)
-Laura (19-f)
What programs does the Macbook Pro come with?
like does it come with any video editing programs and webcam programs or anything like what comes on a PC or do you have to buy it all when you buy your Mac?
Mine came with iMovie and iPhoto. It also came with iChat.
-Laura (19-f)
I'm trying to stop counting calories because it's gotten to the point where I'm obsessing calorie content. However, I worry that I'll eat too few calories. I don't want to damage my body by not eating enough. What are some signs that will let me know whether or not I'm eating enough? I know that under-eating can lead to loss of menstrual cycle. What are some other cues that will let me know if I'm not eating enough? Thank you!
You will feel more tired, more often.
You may feel light-headed during the day.
You may get sick easier.
You might become pale.
Here are some helpful sites:
http://www.ehow.com/info_8003736_signs-symptoms-not-eating-enough.html
http://www.merckmanuals.com/home/sec12/ch153/ch153a.html
Here's another cool website that might help you:
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/leah1.htm
-Laura (19-f)
Hey have you guys heard that when you wear a rubber band and snap it on you it gets ride of a thought or idea. Aparantly its supposed to get ride of the idea and if you do it enough times it stops the idea completely. Does this actually work?
Logically and scientifically, yes, this can work. The idea behind this is operant conditioning. I could bore you for a few paragraphs with my psychology ramblings, but I'll save you the boredom :P
Anywho, the basic idea behind it is that snapping the rubber band and causing yourself a jolt of pain will eventually automatically become associated with whatever negative thoughts you had in the past when you snapped the rubber band. Your brain will eventually learn that negative thoughts = jolt of pain, and you'll want to stop having negative thoughts.
I do not recommend this method, because to me, it sounds like a basic and simple form of self-harm, which I don't condone.
Instead of punishing yourself for the bad thoughts, why not go the other way and instead, reward yourself for good thoughts? Same concept, opposite end of the spectrum :)
-Laura (19-f)
a few days ago i got fingered for the first time by my friend with benefits, and it hurt!.
but after that, i went to the washroom and this red-ish/brown discharge came out. did my hymen break or is it an infection?
If it was a small amount of blood, your hymen probably broke or he could have cut your with his fingernails. If it continues for more than a day or two, is accompanied by any other strange side effects or becomes more than just a little bit of blood, it's always a safe bet to see your doctor.
-Laura (19-f)
Hey! It's Melody from Advicenators.
I was just wondering about the quote on your column about the mountain. It's absolutely lovely. Did you write it? If not, who was the author? It really touched me and I was simply curious! :)
Hey Melody! It's actually from Grey's Anatomy. Haha! It really touched me when I heard it and I've had it on my column ever since :)
-Laura
Hi:)
I was wondering if anybody knows somebody i can follow on twitter who has really good quotes. I'm a teen so i like life quotes and love quotes...stuff like that. Except i want them in spanish. If anybody follows epic tweets then they know the type of quotes i'm talking about. Ok thanks in advance.xoxo
I follow the Dalai Lama. I know, it seems really weird, but he posts great inspirational stuff and it really makes me smile.
-Laura (18-f)
i was fingered when i was 12- year old and worrying if am still a virgin or if am pregnant.
1. You're only not a virgin once you've had sexual intercourse, as in not just fingering.
2. You can't get pregnant from being fingered.
Learn your facts before your become sexually active.
-Laura (18-f)
Just curious for people's thoughts.
Yes.
-Laura (18-f)