I'm Kathryn but most call me KD. I'm a 16 year old sophomore. I'm rare to come by seeing that I try to solve everything I can for others before myself. I am very honest and I don't lie to make anything seem not as bad as it honestly is. I give suggestions that I myself would do if it were in my case.
I may ask for help or someone's opinion on a personal matter but don't feel bad if I do more for you than you do for me. I don't let people in. My words should tell you exactly what kind of person I am without a picture to second guess.
I'm the type of person who will fall so someone else can stand. I won't stop helping people until the day I die because I know what it is like to be in need of something and no one is there for you.
Don't ever be afraid to send me a message even if it isn't serious. There is only one kid of help to me. The kind that is given at all.
If you can't find me, I'll be walking in the door when the rest of the world walks out.
If you have a very serious matter that you wish to contact me about URGENTLY, then you may use my AIM screen name to reach me or my MySpace. I appreciate feedback to know if my advice helped at all.
Thank you,
-KD
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Location: South Lyon, MI
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this might sound really stupid but how do you know when your in love? i really really really like my boyfriend but i wouldn't wanna say i love you if i didnt mean it...thing is, we've only been dating for like 3 weeks, for anyone in a relationship how long did it take before you said 'i love you' please dont tell me "you'll know when your in love" cause that doesnt really help...tell me anything about your relationships...thankss. (link)
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You know when you're in love when you're able to kiss them passionately and not feel that you're committing some kind of crime. That the world meant you two to be together. That if you didn't have them, you wouldn't feel so "on the go" all of the time. You would feel so inspired you would run a marathon just because of all the confidence and power they give you. you feel like you could rule the world and do it right.
Knowing that you would give your dreams up for them and not regret it because you have something so unreal in your life to love that loves you back that nothing your dreams could do. That you would do anything for each other.
That you would die just to hear them talk because not seeing them is like being on an island all by your lonesome. Cold, dark and treacherous.
When you say "I love you" you never have to question if it is right or wrong because you want them around you so much that if you could be one person, you would be. Just to always be together and never have to be apart.
But 3 weeks is not love. A year or more is like potential love. When you know that you can give up all of yourself to one person knowing they won't abuse anything you have to offer or the knowledge you have given them of yourself. Knowing that trusting them is like kissing them. So easy, you don't even think twice.
That's what love is like. Or at least that is how you should feel to determine if you are.
Honestly if you are under 18, you probably won't find it for a long time. High school sweet hearts are rare and only really truly resided back in about the 40s 50s.
-KD/f/15
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So, I've been dating this girl for a while now. She's really great. I love her and care about her and everything, but I have feelings for this other girl. This other girl is out of this world. We'll call my girlfriend J and the girl I like L ok? ok. Well L knows I like her, and L really likes me. I never see L though. But I get so happy when I talk to her. J pisses me off a lot of the time. We fight over everything. We tried taking a break, but it didn't work out. We missed each other. I care about J, but I have these strong feelings for L also. I don't know what to do. I can't bring myself to end the relationship because I don't want to lose J. J has become one of my best friends, and I don't want to lose that. At the same time, these feelings for L wont go away.
Can someone help me?
(Don't say to sort out your feelings, cause I sorted them up there. I feel confused. And no, who would you rather be with. I get that all the time from my friends.)
Thank you. (link)
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Well if you and J have tried to get things to pull together and they aren't working. That means you have to decrease a level in "closeness." I mean have you guys ever just thought to sit down and say "We're not getting anywhere. What do you want to do?" and actually talked about it? You should. Don't tell her about L until you level it with J.
Maybe you should suggest that being very good friends is the way to go. Obviously living the way you two are is NOT healthy by any means. You're both unhappy, it seems like, so there is no point of being so "on contact" if you know what I'm saying. [[bf/gf]]
You can care for each other the same way you do but just lose the titles and not share so much "affection" as you would if you wanted to be with L.
If you do decide to break it off with J, wait AT LEAST a *month* before dating L because that would make it seem that you lied to J and decided to dump her for L. Then you would realize what you've accomplished with J in the first place, really wasn't worth all of the time and effort because it came to that.
I hope you work it out!
-KD/f/15
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Hi, I'm 16/m I just started at a new school. There is a girl in my Hist. Class that is insanely gorgeous. Like, you don't even know. Crazy gorgeous. Anyway, I don't really know her yet. I'd like to get to know her though. How can I break the ice? And don't tell me to just go up to her and tell her I like her. I know girls like confidence, but you have to at least know them A LITTLE before you start telling them that. So... help? (link)
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Okay one, never just go up to a girl you don't know and confess how you feel. It gets awkward because she thinks you've been stalking her and it will be just...odd...and to avoid the silence I would do the following to build up to that point where it would be normal ^.^
Ask her for help with homework or ask questions you can ask anyone that has to do with your class like "Do you remember when the test is? or when the homework is due?" it will be more natural.
Maybe when you start talking to her in a casual manner such as working together in a group for class but bringing up things you like. Don't be disgusting. Only a few girls love talking about zombies.
And then when it comes off like that you build trust as well. So she would also know that in the future if one of you needed help, it would be normal to work on it together and it wouldn't be so sudden and out of the ordinary.
That is very rare when finding someone you're interested in. To be able to know that you can spend time together but help each other become more successful in a not-as-high area.
Hope this helps!
-KD/f/15
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14/f i was just wondering if kissing comes naturally because i havent kissed a guy b4 and im pretty nervous about it...also if you have any kissing tips that would be great thanks =) muddymidfielder (link)
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Seeing it as it WOULD be your first time, I would let the guy know that and tell him you haven't a clue.
I did that and so the guy, my ex, kind of helped me out with that. I wasn't even sure how to hold your head so I let him do it the first few times. S he just led me through it and I kind of just followed what he was doing with my own "kick" to it.
But everyone is different and I think the older you are, the harder it is how to learn ha ha.
-KD/f/15
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Me and my current boyfriend have been going out for 4 months now, ever since our prom night. Beofre that, me and him have been best friends for 4 years, since grade 9 all the way to the end of highschool. This summer, between university and highschool, I had gone out of this country for vacation for a month and a half. Before leaving, my boyfriend was being the usual guy that i fell in love with. He said he would miss me a lot and everyhitng. When i came back a week ago, he had gotten a job with very long hours. We barely talked for half an hour every night which is very little in comparison to the long hours we would talk before this summer. A few nights ago, we got in a fight about how little we have to say to each other n i said "i think we need a little time away from each other" At that moment, he had said"sure, watever you want" THe next morning i called him and told him i didnt mean that but he insisted I did. Then the next day, he calls me and tells me that i was right, things really weren't the same with us and maybe we should take a break for a week so he can figure out what's wrong. I asked him if this was a break up n he said " no this is just a break because we had something good going on and i wanan fix it" I really love this guy with all my heart but i'm not sure if he does anymore. If he did he wouldn't want a break right? Should I message or call him before the week ends? What do i do? (link)
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Well I would give him his break because if you bug him or whatever it could make things worse because it would feel like he is being rushed and you're not respecting the space he does need to get his life back in order before his job.
I would just sit back and relax because he said it wasn't a break up and if it was, I'm sure he wouldn't drag it out for a few days more. And even if he did break up with you, it is only a few more days whereas compared to what could happen if you called during his "break" time. Then you guys would probably get into a fight over a trust issue.
Maybe you should sit back and think about it as well. Think of things to do together, like a picnic or just go somewhere. Do something you both would like that would just be the two of you without interruptions.
If anything was going to go bad, it probably would have happened already. Boys are very complex and get confused easily. He probably doesn't even know WHY it all changed but give him some time to sort it out. Better off giving him space than taking more of it. Ya know?
Let me know how it works out!
-KD/f/15
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Okay, so I was wondering which one is better?
Paint or Photoshop?
Also, what is the difference?
And what is the best like type? Like PhotoShop Pro? Or whatever.
How much do they cost?
Thanks. Because I was planning on getting one or the other and I want one where I can sort of make like banners or layouts or like stuff (for buddy4u, if you've heard of it. That's what I need it for.)
Thanks! Peace, + Love! (link)
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Honestly, I would go with PhotoShop. PaintShopPro is okay but it seems like it has just about everything that something like photofiltre has, which is FREE. If you want here is the link:
http://photofiltre.en.softonic.com/
I use this program all of the time to do banners and icons and what not.
If you REALLY want to get technical, GIMP is another great place to do such things.I think it has more than Photofiltre but is harder to learn everything with. I think it is personally better than Paint but if you wanted, using both Photofiltre and GIMP works well together and both are free.
GIMP: http://www.gimp.org/
But if you're REALLY into only the 2 options you've given, go with Photoshop even though it is more expensive.
I hope this helped!
-KD/f/15
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I've been on and off with this kid for over a year and right now i guess were "together" but anyways, me being really curious and in a way physoctic ,went onto his facebook, like hacked in. I read his inbox and like wall to wall with girls and he acts like hes single and talks dirty to them and it got me soo upset. Like one wall to wall with a girl was like bring a friend, (basically for him)? We go to different schools and barely see eachother so as far as i know he could be living a whole different life, trying to hit on girls and stuff. The problem is i cant confront him and tell him because he'd know and i know what him to find out i hacked in. Anyways i dont know what to do? ahh! (link)
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Well if you want, because he is abusing the trust you have given to him. I would beat him to the chase of breaking up. It doesn't seem like he truly means something to you and he obviously isn't worth all of the trouble. He has sadly, un-admittedly [[ can't think of right word]]decided so about you.
But During that point in time where you would break up with him I would drop a hint letting him know that you knew about the girls. And you wouldn't even HAVE to tell him how you know. Just like guys, girls talk about "slutty" guys and judge them. He doesn't deserve an explanation anyways. All you would have to do, is walk away and let him try and decipher it.
But my advice, next time if you get to a point where you have to hack into your boyfriend's account because you're not sure you CAN trust him. That should tell you something.
-KD/f/15
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16/F
Okay. Well, I'm the same person who posted that my new roomates were having sex in the shower. And I sprained my ankle at the time & I had to sit down. And I was scared that some sperm might have gotten in. Well, it's been a month. And I still haven't gotten my period. What could be wrong? I mean, I've been stressing the last two months. But can you miss your period two months for stressing? And many people say don't think about it. Why do they say that? I mean, I have to think about it. It's been two months already. Thanks in advance. (link)
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I would honestly consult a doctor because it has been two months but I've been down the road you have before. But never that long.
An abnormal amount of stress that you would have to be under to miss your period would feel like you have a hard time sleeping, when you get to sleep you dream about that one thing that is stressing you, you have a hard time eating or no appetite, and your stomach is always up in knots.
If you have things like that happening all of the time, I would STILL see a doctor to see if they can give you some relaxing medication. [[ if they do, be careful with anti-depressants. I've been down that road many times and I personally go out worse that I came in]]
Either of which way, you need to consult a doctor.
-KD/f/15
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OK im 13 but i only weigh 76 lbs and i don't have an eating disorder because i eat all the time
why dont i weigh normal oh and im only 4'8 (link)
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I wouldn't worry about it UNLESS IN TIME you do develop an eating disorder. But I've noticed over the years, the younger generations seem to have shortened in height and have weighed less and are just plain..small and the way around.
I wouldn't worry about it.
-KD/f/15
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im soo embarrassed asking this considering how old i am but personally i think i kiss pretty well.All the other guys ive kissed (without being too graphic) when i kiss them our tongues kinda went with the flow like they never fully went totally inside my mouth like it wasent too much tongue you know? and well my ex boyfriend and i are kinda seeing each other again and he was the only one where our kisses were like all about tongue and he like shoves it in my mouth.It's not too forcely but its like all up in my mouth you know what i mean? lol I get totally confused because his tongue just going back and forth which causes me to go back and forth.I then start to back away because it feels weird.I dont know what to do because our tongues arent really i guess you could say "insync"? so it causes me too stop kissing him and laugh it off and smile because it's the most awkward feeling im not sure if its me or him but he's the only one that im like that with.I dont want to tell him that it's weird for me because i dont want to hurt him.He tells me when we kiss that it's great,i mean it's good but everytime the tongue comes into play i dont know what to do its like a totally different kiss for me.So im wondering am i the only one? do i kiss wrong? i tried looking this up online but nothing seems to anwer my question,how can i make my kisses with him better? like how do i tame his tongue? or is it me that's the problem? lol i really need some help on this one,thanks so much :D (link)
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Alrighty, I just had my first kiss not too long ago but with no advice [[Done it more than just once so trust me]] but here is what I'm going to tell you. I developed a strategy.
Obviously he kisses different but I don't believe there IS a right way to it. Everyone is different. There are only pointers to a kiss. No one can actually write a guide about it so don't worry. It isn't you.
Here's my suggestions. He likes to lead I take it just from what you've said. Just let him take the role for a little bit until he starts to not be so "dominant" let's say.
Compare kissing to talking. When one talks the other listens but they need each other to allow it be classified as "talking." He's the person talking and you're the person listening. Pretend he is pouring his heart out to you and that is how he does it. With his tongue. He maybe press against yours more often but everyone is different.
I was told that I am different depending on my mood and day. If I'm in a really good mood, I'm more dominant. If I'm in a more content, relaxed mood, I let the guy do most of the work.
I guess I'm just trying to say everyone is different. Like some like less tongue some like it more. Some like to be dominant all of the time, some don't, and some it depends on their mood. All depends with you personally. But if you want to change the pace up a bit **you need to close your mouth more or use your tongue more.**
Wow I've never given advice about kissing so excuse me. But it isn't you. You just have a certain or ideal way of kissing.
I hope this helps.
-KD/f/15
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I recently became aware that I might've been raped. I don't remember much from the night but there is a possibility. While that scares me a lot, but after I found that out, I've become a lot more sexual, and for lack of a better word horny. =/
And this is the kicker, what turns me on the most are like fantasies about being raped and things like that.
Is this completely crazy? How can I go back to the way I was before all this happened? I mean, I know that I can't but at least stop thinking about this stuff. Also, is there a way to tell if you were raped or not? I've had sex since then, so I don't know. I mean, it upsets me but sometimes I think I'd rather not know... (link)
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Well any evidence of rape is clearly gone. But what you can do is follow up with the people that were..wherever this may have taken place.
Sometimes not knowing is better but clear ignorance isn't. This is a serious matter [[I know thanks for pointing that out captain obvious, right?]] but if you can talk to people that were at that place, then you can narrow it down to almost certainty. Then if you do find out that the sad possibility is true, you need to have them arrested with a witness. If the person did it to you, they will do it to someone else because they didn't get caught.
And there is always a possibility someone knows what happened but hasn't come forward with it. Just have to have hope I imagine.
What I think you should do is try to find out what happened. If you do, your emotional needs for sexual encounters may decrease because you know the truth. This would make you stronger. Maybe feel worse, but mentally make you stronger due to the idea you have the correct knowledge of what really happened [[Even though death would seem to be better, don't let the weak win]]. But if you get ideas there after talking to people that were there at this "social interaction" as I may refer to it, you need to tell someone.
But other than finding out what really happened, you have to stay strong about not going with other guys/men/girls/women whoever you maybe. I'm not into smoking but as a comparison, A smoker may want to quit but can't just do it with a thought. It takes time and resistance and the urge to really stop. Like gum, find something that keeps you occupied. Try art, try writing. Something that gets it out of your system.
As for the rape fetish, I think it maybe on the lines of some normal...I think. I'm not specialized in that stuff but it might just be a pleasurable thing for you.I think as long as if you were being raped you wouldn't all of a sudden enjoy it.
But if it just started after that night, I would seriously think you may have something stored in your mind that you maybe can't release or you don't really TRULY know what happened. If you're in denial get out of it, because it MAY uncover something. As harsh as that sounds I'm sorry. But if you are the only way you can find out for sure is to accept that 50/50 chance that you were.
I'd like to help further but I don't have much information to go off.
I'm sorry if you find out that you might have been. I'm here if you ever need more help.
-KD/f/15
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so iam the girl who posted "bestfriend" and the feedback i got from people were great!! but something else has happened and so i need some more advice...what if i told him how i felt but he didnt respond instesd he just acted as if i never even told him at all..were great friends and no things didnt get awkward but he keeps going on like my feelings don't matter..not only that but some people at school say that it isint right to go after somone younger then me and some say age is just a #...(he is 3 yrs younger then me BTW)....what should i do or how should i react???? HELP PLEASE!!! (link)
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Well if he keeps going on like your feelings don't matter, then I'd say, leave it. He obviously doesn't care enough to respect what you have to say and accept the truth about what you did say.After you worked on telling him for a while and fought with yourself with "how to do it" and "should I?".
If he doesn't change then it goes to show you he doesn't care. He left his cards right open on the table with that answer.
But before just leaving without closure, if you decide to take that road, I would ask him if he needed help with it [[changing]] and if not, let it go.
People in life walk in and walk out. It is rare to find someone that will stick by your side forever.
I hope this helps.
-KD/f/15
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hay.. ok so im 17 and im still a virgin. i broke up with my bf last year after goin out with him for a couple of monthes cos he wanted to have sex and i wasnt ready and cos my friends didnt like him.
but now i think im ready and i really want to have sex but i want it to be the right time and right person. i think about gettin back with my x so we can do it but i now it wouldnt work.
im scared that ill never find someone and that ill be alone for the rest of my life. i think iv just lost hope. wat do i do?
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Well I'm glad you were not pressured into having sex with him. If you've stayed strong about it then when you made the decision to break up, don't let your guard down now by making it not worth the trip.
It isn't the end of the world quite yet so I would relax a little about finding the right person. That could take time and years. You should think about finding the right person to have sex with when you're sure about the person and you're established with both feet on the ground.
I would personally advise you to wait AT LEAST a year before having sex with someone. For the simple reason that you don't have to worry that the person will hook up with you and then you have sex and then what do you know, 3 months later he breaks up with you because that was a done deal. Not saying it wouldn't happen for sure but why would a guy wait for a year just to have sex with someone?
Having sex should mean a lot. It should be a way to show that you care and would do anything for that person. Yes sex maybe a desirable trait to have every once in a while [[I wouldn't know, I'm still a virgin and plan to STAY that way]]but really you should only think about it at an age when you know you can handle it. Then you won't be worried that the guy IS the right person and if he does love you.
I'm trying to tell you something that a lot of girls have regretted. Save it for someone special. EVEN if it means you have to wait 5 or 10 years. You wouldn't want to look back at your first time and know you did it with the wrong person and you did it just to do it would you?
And then there is the baby factor but I think that is self explanatory.
Just think about it. The LONGER you wait the more SPECIAL it will be.
I really hope you consider
-KD/f/15
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fifteen/ female
My mother suffered from agoraphobia (fear of wide open spaces) for years. That was in her twenties and thirties, but she had me after that when she was forty-one. She was afraid to leave her house and talk on the phone, and she had social anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, she was bipolar, depressed..all of these different illnesses.
Ive inherited some things from her, but not all of them. And I have a sleep disorder.
Well school starts in a bit less than a week for me and Ill be in high school. I LOVE to go to amusement parks, shopping, the mall, carnivals..you name it. Well not carnivals theyre icky x]
But when Im in my house, I get nervous. Really really nervous. I might shake a bit and sometimes Ill cry. Its mostly when Im either in the kitchen or the family room..and itll seem like Im looking through a fisheye lens and the room feels sooo much bigger than it really is! So I usually have to spend my time in my bedroom or outside. I think I feel more comfortable cuddled up in my room with the lights down real low, or just in the computer room because theyre the smallest parts of the house. Is it possible that I inherited Agorophobia from my mom? If I did then why can I still go out in public? Oh but sometimes when Im out in public my eyes get real sleepy and I have to walk looking at the floor, though. (link)
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You might have it but only to a certain degree. If I were you, consulting a doctor is in your best interest. They can diagnose you and possibly give you medication. It would also be useful for when and if in the future you decide to have children.
If you wait, it won't get better. This is a serious matter that won't just heal up and go away on its own.
The sooner you talk to a doctor, the better your life will be.
-KD/f/15
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I've been obsessed with this guy since February of last year. We hit it off at my school's valentine's dance, and "dated" for maybe a week after that. I was so nuts about this guy, I couldn't make speech when he talked to me. He could come over and ask "what's up?" and my only response would be "I dunno." That was one of the big reasons he broke up with me. I don't know if I've been obsessed because the relationship didn't really happen despite the fact that I wanted it to, or because there was no closure to whatever did happen. Since the breakup, I was able to have a relationship with another guy (which lasted 9 months), but I was still distracted by the other guy.
My real question is: Is there a way for me to get over this guy??
Note: I've tried talking to him, but he's not very responsive. I'm also about 80% sure he likes another girl. (link)
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I have had something similar about that happen to me. This guy was in my life for 9 months, but 2 years total. All I wanted to do was love and care for him. He broke my heart and we never even went out. He was like an opposite for me. Someone I thought I could have. Someone I thought would make me happy and forget all of my pain.
Anyways when I did find a boyfriend recently, I could never stop thinking about him. When I would hug my ex, I saw another person. I also thought before hand, if I had went out with my ex [[which wasn't my ex at the time]] I would forget about the boy, Elliot.
But I never did. But the real reasons is to why is because
1. I never tried to love someone so much as I loved him. He was a child to me to take care of before anything else [[in a non-creepy way]]
2. He was my first love that last a very long time. He gave me something no had before. Hope.
But sometimes when you care about someone a lot but you don't really see them, you often think of what they'd be doing and then at the same time what you'd be doing.
It's like creating a complete story to satisfy what you need. Then there's that point in time where you eventually see him and you don't know what to say. It could be because you're shy or whatever. Maybe it was only good for you went you weren't around him so you could fantasize about him.
But anywho. You need to find someway to let go, it looks like he has. It maybe very hard. It might even feel impossible. But if you want to be able to move on and not let the image of a boy who has, keep you stuck, then you need to work on knowing "he's only in the past."
I hoped this helped somehow.
-KD/f/15
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[dont know what cagegory this goes in]
im so self concious about myself and iv lost all my confidents. i dont know why b'cos i used to be so comfortable with myself. but now im so quiet and i dont have many friends. i just want to feel comfortable and feel good about myself again like the old me...
whats wrong with me and what should i do? i feel like im a loser and i hate myself. =[ (link)
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What you feel is exactly what I feel all of the time.
Like you have no purpose and you have yet to find it. I know that helping people, that is mine. Maybe you're just changing and you don't know what to expect.
But even if you do find what your reason is, it still isn't enough.
What I highly suggest is going to a book store and spending the day there. You might not be a true fan of reading but you will just have to trust me on this.
Pick out your favorite things in life. Vampires, ghosts, high school drama, etc. and find a book that has that in store.
A book maybe what you need to just be able to grasp what has ever come your way. You probably don't know what is going on but serching through books to find a story that is told like yours, will help you. More ways than one.
That is what I did. Whenever I fell into a deep dark hole or I needed to tune out the drama going on at that exact moment. I pulled out a book and was lost somewhere else.
A book opens up new doors and thoughts for people. They are what others create just in words and on paper. It is just good to know you can open a book and read your life on several pages.
Trust me, I think it will help a lot.
Let me know.
-KD/f/15
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hey
well I'm going to go see scary kids scaring kids in the city on the 3rd & i have no idea what to wear.
i know its not that big of a deal, but i never been to a show so i have no clue. also since its stand up, i have no idea what shoes to wear.
the problem is i'm 5 feet tall & i'm sure i wont be able to see a thing so me and my friend were thinking about wearing heels, but idk. it sounds a little foolish to wear heels to a show.
do you think that would be stupid?
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Thanks for inboxing.
Well Shows can usually be about 2-3 hours so if you think you can HONESTLY manage heels, good luck.
I went to a Josh Groban concert last year and I'm 5'3 so I feel your pain. But honestly. Heels don't help that much and I was 12th row from the stage wearing a pair. I was seated and had to sit on 3 coats to see the stage.
Shoes I would say it honestly doesn't matter. Wear what is comfortable or if you want which is a good idea, wear heels there and bring a pair of other comfortable shoes, and if you find that it really isn't worth the pain, switch while the band takes a break which is like an hour or an hour and a half into the concert. [[ If you do this, bring a bigger purse to carry them in]]
As far ass apparel goes, I would wear a band t-shirt and jeans. Maybe put the band colors in your hair if you want but don't go over board because it isn't like you're going to come out looking like you want in after all of that sweaty screaming lol. I would suggest spicing up the make up, if you wear any, to a wild style but don't over do it and make it look like you painted your face lol.
But honestly it doesn't matter. And I was 12th row from the stage and the heels didn't save me much. My feet killed when I got home.
I hope this helps but it doesn't matter what you wear. Even just wearing a band shirt and jeans would be fine.
Hope this helps and tell me how it goes!
-KD/f/15
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this is soooo long sorry haha....ok so this guy and me have been best friends for like a yearish. we seriously like besties for reals he is the only person who knows EVERYTHING about me and same with me about him. he broke up with his girlfriend at the begining of the summer and the first time we hung out while he was single this summer(i was grounded for a long time) we were out at like 3 and ended up getting pulled over and i got in trouble for breaking city curfew but he is 18 so he was good to go. we hung out a couple weeks later, my mom had kicked me out of the house and he rescued me and we went the movies twice that day haha and made out like hard core. im not allowed to see him anymore cuz my parents found out that he's been in trouble with the cops a bit. and i cant text him. but i like him sooo much i have no idea what to do. we are going to date if we could actually see each other but until then i have no idea what to do? i know if were together we will be together for a long long time. ahh i just dont what to do. i cant get in anymore trouble but i want so bad to see him! (link)
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Okay well you have to ask yourself
"Is putting a boy before your family the best idea?" I mean is it what you really want? I do not mean to sound harsh but you have to think what is the best for everyone including yourself.
Can you personally and honestly handle that stress of your family trying to protect you from a guy that may not be in your best interest? or do you think that boy is more important.
Yeah this seems like the most unselfish option but it is good for everyone including yourself if you can find someone that can protect you from hurt. Not get you wrapped up in it.
Just think about it. There are many guys out there. You may have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your handsome prince. Trust me I know the feeling.
I tried to hide a guy from my mom. My first boyfriend. The day he dumped me, my mom found out we kissed. It was a double whammy. Don't make this guy more trouble than he's worth if he's causing you to get into high tension with your family.
You have more chances of your family being there for you than that guy will.
Just please think it through.
-KD/f/15
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Ok so I'm new at the whole boyfriend / girlfriend thing, and I feel like the process of me becoming more comfortable with the more physical (though not sexual) aspect of a relationship is going extremely slowly. I'm okay when my boyfriend initiates hand-holding, hugging, whatever, but for some reason I'm having a really hard time reciprocating - as in initiating anything myself. It would probably be useful to mention that I'm generally not a touchy-feely sort of person, and I tend to have a large personal space bubble. Plus, I'm kind of shy, so I think I've developed a sort of avoidance mentality where I often purposely try to avoid contact/interaction with people (yes, I probably act a bit anti-social at times, but I'm not a recluse or snob, just more of a natural introvert). Obviously, I want to get over this habit / mentality at least with my boyfriend. I don't hug him as much as he would like, nor frankly as often as I would like - half the time I feel like hugging him, I just don't for whatever reason. Irrational inhibition. He's also trying to get me to flirt more with him, which I haven't been able to bring myself to do yet (I've never flirted intentionally before :P). I really do want to do these things, so why don't I? Any ideas for how I can overcome my problem?
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Well first, you must ask yourself "When did I start acting like this at one point in my life and what caused it?"
Once you can diagnose where, when and why it all started, you can share more with your boyfriend about why it is that you're not so "touchy-feely." and then you guys can work together through it.
I know how you feel. I'm not like that either but I've had things happen in my past to back that up. It makes me sketchy [I can't remember the right word] on relationships period. But I try my best.
I hope this helps.
-KD/f/15
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I am 18 years old and I just had my first kiss a few days ago. It was kind of awkward and didn't go as well as I would have liked. He could tell I was nervous and still am, so he hasn't kissed me again since, but I know he wants too. Anyway, I am planning on going for it again the next time I see him, does anybody have any tips on how I can make this time better? I'm still really nervous... Thanks :) (link)
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I know what that is like. I just had mine about 3 weeks ago.
Usually guys want you to make the first move but if they know you're stubborn about it, they will go ahead because they know you're nervous and that you don't know what you're doing and they KNOW it will happen sometime that day....whenever.
"You're first is never the best" a close friend told me. But I've never had anything to compare it to lol.
But it wasn't so glorious, so if it wasn't for you either, don't worry. I felt funny after mine, but in a "Oh my god what am I DOING?!" way. I wasn't sure how I felt until later that night.
The kiss didn't even affect me. So if you feel like that. Give it another go. The feel just probably hasn't hit you yet. I don't think it has hit me yet and that was weeks ago.
I wish you luck!
-KD/f/15
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