I am a father of three, girl, boy, girl, all are now over 18. I have been married for 29 years as of 6-30-07, so yes, if you do the math I was married at 18, just after graduating high school. I am very aware of the pit falls of doing so, but we made it through the really tough times. I came to this site, because of my daughter, she also uses the site.
I am an author and have written three books, only one under this name, but it is not how I make my living. I am in business, working full time and I have a seasonal business in ponds, selling Koi, goldfish, water plants and supplies. I help people to plan and build ponds, as well as, maintenance if they need it.
I am not here for the ratings and could careless what you rate me. I will tell you things I know, I will tell you what you don't want to hear, but most of all, I will tell you things from my perspective. I have experienced a lot in my life, I have not lived with my head in the sand and I'm a realist, you want someone to blow smoke up your as*, don't read my writings, (I don't do fairy tales).
I am not so foolish as to think I am always right, I can only tell you what I know and give you something to think about. It is up to you to find out if I'm right or not.
Life is complicated, because people are complicated and one answer does not necessarily fit all, but that doesn't mean you should not consider what I say as a possibility.
Feel free to write me personally if you wish, there is only so much you can say in such a restrictive environment as this site is, it doesn't allow for proper conversation.
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E-mail: gibber@cableone.net
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sometimes i get those sexual toughts and that makes me feel uncomfortable i feel like everyone knows what im thinking,i get in class sometimes too and i feel like a huge pervert,am i?
and theres this guy in my class that i sometimes stare at and i feel this strong desire for him and im thinking like: oh god i wanna fuck him. and im fucking 15,is it ok orrr? (imma gurl) (link)
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Hormones, such interesting things. So now you know what it's like to want and have to deprive yourself of what you want. There is absolutely nothing wrong if you thinking about sex, don't let your negative thinking effect this, you will become a much stronger women if you don't fill your thoughts like these. Remember that you need to keep these feelings in check, you don't need sex, or a baby getting in your way at 15, but don't carry unnecessary baggage about it either. People don't know what your thinking, but know that they have a general idea of where your at, so don't let them take advantage of that. Stay clear of anything that makes you lose control. Hormones are actually an old system that in many ways we don't need any more. It comes from way back in animal history, when we needed to be told when it was time to start having children. We know this now and can chose when we want to start to have children from a much wider time frame. Way back when our brains were small, we did not communicate, we worked on desires and chose our mates by looks, because how strong you looked and were, was important. And, there was a time that even that didn't matter, so who you matted with didn't matter. This is why you have those feelings, but there are many reasons why these things are no longer needed. Now the challenge is getting through these feeling and understanding we have much bigger brains now and there are many more reasons to consider when choosing a mate.
You have a lot of choices to make in your life to come and you have to live with those choices. Choose to make your life a good one. Be well
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I really should know better then to respond to these questions that aren't really questions. You asked 2 things, are you a pervert and is it okay to fuck some guy at 15 years of age, because you lust over him. So, you wanted to be told that you are a pervert and you should Fuck this guy and it has nothing to do with hormones. Well go right ahead and do what you want, you're not my daughter. Wake up little girl.
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How do I make my boyfriend last as long as I do to climax? (link)
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You can't, if there was a way to make that happen, it would probably solve the worlds problems. There are some tricks that can be used, but the best way is to understand the process. Here are a few facts; As the male climax nears, the testicles are drawn in closer to the body, you can postpone ejection by reversing this, but it is tough. Men are mostly visual in nature, women are mostly mental, (Leave out the jokes now guys), so it takes women longer to achieve orgasm. This is easier to work with then the old trick of men thinking things that actually serves to turn him off to last longer. Like the movie says, men think of sex on average of once every 4 minutes, (I think it's more often then that), so they are perpetually ready. The penis is more sensitive then the vagina, (the head in particular, stimulation of the head is what triggers orgasm). In difference to the vagina, which has very little feeling beyond the opening. So you see, it is easier to bring the women forward to the man by using her differences, then by slowing the male down. Work on bringing yourself into your orgasm. That's not saying you have to do it yourself, but doing it yourself can be fun too. Do the guy a favor and let him watch you masturbate yourself toward orgasm, he'll learn a lot from you that way. Sex is adult play time, have fun with it. The intense love you see in movies is mostly bull, you experience that kind of sex less then you would think, because playing can be much more exciting. The one other thing I would leave you with is, because he is done, doesn't mean you have to stop, you never know what will come up if you continue. The second time around, a guy often can last much longer. If you aren't willing to explore, you won't find out how each other works. Remember, the head of the penis is very sensitive in most guys, those lucky few guys that aren't as sensitive are the ones that last longer, but some are guys are so insensitive,that they will last for hours and can't help it. This can be as unsatisfactory to a women as premature ejaculation is, but much more troublesome. As a women, you can find a way around the premature ejaculation, but for those who can't achieve ejaculation with in a reasonable time frame, it becomes a chore that is often months apart. Work together with what you got, consider yourself lucky, find your timing and have fun doing it, that's what it's all about.
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I love my boyfriend a lot. I feel it in my heart, and I know it's true. But strangely I'm not in a constant state of love. I'm generally a cold person, and sometimes I feel nothing at all. I feel hollow like an empty shell. And when I feel like that I don't feel any love or anything at all for that matter. Do I love him? And should I reply with "I love you too" when he says he loves me and I don't feel love at that moment? I always know deep in my heart that my love for him is immense. I love him to death. I am so confused. Has anyone had such an experience? Is it normal? I don't know what to think and it irks me that I can't always love him. I want to. (link)
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Love is not enough for a relationship, we put so much importance on love, which is strange when you consider how freely we give it out. We love so many, but we "like" so few people, you would think people would understand that like is so much more important. Now that is the question, do you like this boy, do you want to be with him, do you like being with him just for no reason at all? What do you think will keep you together for 50, 60, 70 years, the fact that you love each other, or that you like being with each other? Your having times where you feel nothing does not concern me, your 17, hormones do strange things during this time in your life. Don't concern yourself with the question "Do I love him". Ask yourself, "Do I like him enough to spend my life with him"? I have given over 35 years to my wife and I can't imagine not giving her the rest of my years, can you say the same? When you can say yes to that question with all sincerity, you will go so far beyond love, when you think back on the way you feel now and chuckle to yourself. There is a level beyond love, beyond like, but it takes both of them to get you there.
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I never once said this did not describe you in your relationship, you do not give enough information for me to know. I only responded and imparted to you what I have learned in my 53 years of life. The fact was, it was the information you needed to hear, for that is the true question asked for in your letter, "How do you know when you are truly in love?" I never once said you weren't, I can not say either way, I only gave you the means to answer your question. Good luck in your life dear spirit. I will remember to look in on you 35 years from now to see you still remain with your true love.
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I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend since I was 18 and I currently turned 22. Before I was with him I had a crush on one guy that happened to be one of his friends ( they aren't now). It was just a crush, he tried to kiss me back in 08 at the formal but I didn't want to pursue anything I just thought he was good looking. He'd always give me attention and I would not mind it. There has always been some awkward sort of tension between us. We are always talking and hanging around when we see each other at parties but on facebook we won't talk. He'd show attention even when in a relationship with my bf but I would just act friendly. Sometime in 2011 my boyfriend and I broke up, so I was single.and went to a friends party and the guy and I spoke, he always likes to be around me at parties. I told him I was single and he asked if I was sure then I could tell he wanted to kiss me and I thought why not, might as well get it out of my system. So we grabbed hands and I gave him a quick peck. After that he would not leave my side. I went home, and bf called wanted us back together so I told him what happened and he accepted me back. Me and the guy have not talked on seen each other since but we have facebook. I know that if we do happen to be in same place, we will hang out around each other again. Now this is the weird thing, even before the kissing thing, that guy is one of the people that happen to be in my dream the most. I'm not kidding but he appears to be in my dreams almost every third night. And when I see him in it his presence makes me happy and if feel the same way I do when I see him in real life. He acts the same. Weird thing is every time I see my bf I always have negative feelings for him in my dreams or we are fighting. My bf just seems to be in the background whilst dream is focused on other guy. There was one dream I had when my bf and I were moving in together and the other guy looked upset and i rushed up to him and said 'dw this doesnt mean that there cant be an us' like WTF! I don't get it. HE NEVER crosses my mind in every day life UNLESS i dream of him. I wake up feeling disgusting that i feel this way in my dreams about him and my bf! How can I feel this way about someone i don't care about, like or see. He means nothing to me but I hate waking up with hat gut feeling.
What do you think? Is it just a dream or could it mean something? Is this an indication of being in love? (link)
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You are in lust with this guy and I think it is likely that you don't love the other one either, that I would suggest why there is so much conflict in your mind. I will warn you, the second guy is a player, from what you said he is an opportunist and wants to get in your pants. Trust me, my best friend when I was young sounds just like him. I'm going to give you the secret that many guys know, but every women should know. If your a guy and you want sex, focus everything on one target, there is no one else in the room when you are with a target. Maintain eye contact and give her all of your attention, make her feel like you are alone with her. I'm telling you, most females are suckers for this and will fall for it near every time. See what works here is most guys want to be everything to everyone. Most women want to be everything to one and guys who have a strong sex drive recognize this, but still can't fight the need to be everything for everyone. So, they learn to manipulate things so they get more sex then go do guy things etc.... Your dreams are conflicted, because you know deep down inside there are games being played and you don't have enough data. Be more critical in your view of guys and try to find the ones that are playing fewer game and learn what a man should be, before you settle for a "Guy".
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Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl. This guy and I have dated on and off for the last 9 months. We hang out and stuff but I feel like he'd rather play football with his friends. We just started dating again today and I want it to be different this time. Not me always making the plans and chasing him. I want him to be crazy about me, how can I do so? (link)
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You can't make a 13 year old boy crazy about you, because 13 year old boys are crazy about other things. You're trying to apply the adult world to childhood life. There is so much to experience as you get older, why do you insist on focusing everything on controlling another persons love life and dominating it. Sex and love are so much more then that, cool it down until you understand more and respect other peoples individuality. It's not all about you.
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so we have a female gym coach and a male gym coach at our school. im a girl and the female coach told me to give the male coach a note and he was in the boys locker room so i asked her to wait until he got out but she told me to go in there and give it to him. so i walked through a room full of naked 13 year old boys all staring at me and my guy friend, who i have a crush on, was in there. once they saw me they made a dash for cover and my friend and a couple of other boys werent quick enough so they were in the open and i couldnt find the coach so i had to ask my friend where he was so it was super awkward. that was last period so we went straight home after that. so how can we talk tomorrow without it being awkward? (link)
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The fact your teacher told you to do it does not excuse you for entering. Do you think she would have got you in trouble by reporting that you refused to go in the "Boys" locker room? When you know something is wrong, you stand on principle and refuse to do it. (Please don't take that personal, but someone needs to say it.) She knew it was wrong and would not have done it herself, that's why she made you do it. If it weren't for the fact that others are involved with this, I would say this teacher should be removed, she knew damn well what she was doing. Personally, I would go to her and tell her that if I ever hear that she does this to another girl, I would see she never worked in another school again, but that's just me. As to your friend, you should leave that alone, if he doesn't bring it up, you don't. Someday he may, deal with it then.
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today when i got home from school she told me she had to talk to me. My mother had found my tumblr. Yes, there were plenty of things i shouldn't have blogged about. I know they were wrong, bad words, drugs, anything a mother would be disappointed about was on that tumblr. She was extremely disappointed. She started crying and i started crying. Now she thinks that's the type of person i am, but i honestly am not. I just blogged those things to look cool or because other people thought it was funny. I know, very very immature. I am so stupid. while she was telling me this there was nothing i could do besides cry and tell her i am so sorry. now she won't talk to me only when she needs to. She can barely look at me. I really am a good kid. I deleted the entire blog. I am done with tumblr forever. I just want me and my mom's relationship to go back to the way that it was. Nothing good has happened between us the past couple days,I can't take this anymore. It's tearing me apart. I need help? (link)
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Your not going to like what I say. ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. Everything you do in life takes you down a path and words have power. Do negative things, negative things happen and this I think should be clear to you. I'm going to tell you a quick story of, let's just call it a friend of mine. When I was young, he was no angel, but there was a reason for it that was known by a hand full of people, a Chief of police, an Agent of a three letter government agency and another young man who was his partner. Drugs then were often deadly, but not often in his small city, but when some deadly ones showed up in his area, they agreed that they should help find and get rid of said drugs. They already had some ins to the drug world by this time, so it was easy for them to develop those connections, but over time, things got serious. See they had to become what they were not, being in a small city, this young man started to get the reputation of being a druggy among other things, which is needed to get inside. Of course this got to his mother, his father and other family members, by this time he was an adult, but the two friends could not tell anyone, it was required by the two law officers that they were never to reveal their connection to anyone. The day came when they found out why, when two men in suits got off a private plane in black suits. One of them witnessed the man who had brought him approach the two and they gave him an envelope, which once he returned to the car, he found out was full of money. When asked, the partner was told that the men in suits were mafia out of (LOCATION CENSURED). This was told to the law and within weeks, one of these two young men were told to leave town and they were never asked to help again. This young man has lived his life with his family thinking him a druggy and a generally bad person and he can't tell them the truth. Their are still people out there that would kill these two not so young men any more if they knew the truth, so they live a life of lies. If you don't want to find yourself in a life time trapped in lies, don't create them, if it is not a life you want to live.
Talking to your mother will not do much good, it is deed she will pay attention to. So be who your are and want to be, creating a persona is a dangerous thing.
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religion is a very important thing for me and i was very sure about my beliefs an year ago(im christian). but then i thought about Satan and i get a part of him,i mean he was rebelious,he was different,well yeah he is pure evil,but he was an angel before and he was God's favourite,i think that he was in lots of pain and thats why he became so hatefull and evil,does that make me a bad person or a satanist or what? is it wrong?
- ghostgirl7 (link)
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No one but yourself can answer this, people must believe what they need to get through life, that is why we have so many beliefs out there. Get to the truth dear girl and you are still only at your truth. Create your truth, but understand that it is your truth and you should not hold others to your truth. We all have our own God and none of us are wrong. Get to your place where you can accept your God. Be well.
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Hello everyone,
just wanted to know how do i demand my worth?
I always end up getting less for my skills and somehow helping foundations and giving for free.
Nothing bad about it, i think i have been charitable enough, its just that i need to stand up and demand for my rate. I have to save up for the future. And i have to start now. But i dont know why i am always shy in dealing with money, rates, and asking price, etc.
I need help phow to overcome this without feeling too arrogant or pushy or swell headed.
I hope someone out there would understand my situation.
Thank you ! (link)
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It is good to remember to help others and you should continue, it is helpful for the spirit. But you should put boundary's, on it. Place a percentage on it, say 10%, of what you make, your spare time is another thing. If you put a percentage on it, the more money you make, the more you give, see how this changes the dynamics? As to the rest, if you are controlled by the Spirit and not the Animal, you are worrying too much. Be well.
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i am a totall ignorant lately,from a couple months i cant get excited about almost anything and i dont care about anything,its good not to care about some stuff,but i dont care about anything and thats bad.maybe its apathy,i dont know...what should i do to get "better"?
-ghostgirl7 (link)
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You know, they have drugs for that. That's what a lot of people will tell you, but I'm going tell you different. No matter what anyone tells you, you are not suppose to feel any particular way, you are just suppose to feel. Take yourself out of your normal if you can. If you're city, go to the country, etc.... Feelings are changeable and should be explored in depth. You need to find out why you feel as you do, never ignore them, but never allow them to rule your life and understand that you can change them. Be the whole person.
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So my best friend has asked me out twice in the past and I've said no both times. But within the past 2 months I realized that I think I've fallen in love with him. I was going to talk to him about us possibly being a couple, but he says he likes this other girl (who he's going to prom with) and that he's trying to get over me. The girl who he's going to prom with likes him. So do I bring up to him how I really feel or should I just let him go? (link)
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At your age, people come and go. In truth, you really don't know how you feel, so how can you tell him. Let it go for now and see if life migrates you back together. I'm not saying to ignore him now, just live as you would. Be well.
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so, i am a freshman, and there is this senior who is absolutely perfect! i wish we were married haha,but i can only imagine. i see him around school,but he has no clue who i am.i know there is no chance with him, but before he goes to college and i never see him again, i want something to happen, but i dont know what! i dont know what to do or say to get him to talk to me or something. The year is almost over and i need help! (link)
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Try something simple and honest. Walk up to him and say something like, "(His Name), We have never had the chance to meet, but I would like to fix that if you have the time", hand him a slip of paper with your name and phone # on it. Turn and walk away, this could tell you much about him. If he responds, what he says could tell you if he's a player, or real. If he is silent, that will speak in it's self.
If he does not call, he's either stupid, or pines for someone else. Let me know what happens.
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so i worked 2 days, i work at this kids salon spa and i got my two friends a job there. it is my first real job and on the second day i kinda screwed up by cursing at the place which i honestly dont remeber and now im like beating myself up over it. so then there was a staff meeting that i didnt get the email for bu my frined who never worked there yet got it so i went. and my boss brought up what happend the week before so im like oh shit. so at the meeting we tried something new where we put down our name for how ever many parties we want to do. i put my name down for every single party and put my phone and email down yet i never got the email and was never scheduled to come in. i called my boss and she was like ill call you back on your cell and she never did. i know she probablly doesnt want me working there but i at least want her to tell me straigh up like im sorry i have to let you go rather than dragging this on and plus she owes me $60!! so like the fuck am i supposed to get my money? should i just go in when its not busy and talk to her one on one? becasue this is really pissing me off that my friends that i got them the job are working and im not like this is bullshit all because i fucked up one day like i said i was sorry but im sure other people fuck up at work especially if its there first job.. adviceee? thankss (link)
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It is unlikely that you will get your money before your normal pay day, wait until then, if you haven't been scheduled by then and you get your check, just walk out and don't go back. You never worked there, don't use them on app's and try to curb your swearing, it doesn't belong in business.
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My friend likes to have sex with his dog! It's so sick! I don't even know what this kind of problem is termed. I have to help him immediately since I know he's not right. What can I do for him? I'm really sorry if this steps on someone's toes, but I just thought someone on this site might be able to help me. Thanks! (link)
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I shouldn't even answer this one, but I have too. Sex fetishes are a personal thing and passing judgement is also a personal thing. Every state has laws on the books that were in truth focused on Homosexuality. Yet, that did not stop homosexuals from coming out of the closet. Bestiality has been around throughout time. Sheep, cows, horses and others and this is not just men, women as well, there are sites out there that feature this. You know there are those that find anal intercourse just as offencive all of you have here and would put gay men in jail for practicing it. Oral sex is often treated in this same manner and has had it's time as illegal.
You can judge your "Friend" as dirty and evil, sure, it's a good reason to drop him as a friend, but I'm sure you will turn him in, because you don't want advice here, you want validation. You want people to tell you to turn him in, so you don't have to take the responsibility for turning him in. I'm going to tell you the opposite of what everyone else is. You turn him in and you are the worst kind of friend, you can not be trusted as a friend and should not have them. Be smart, get out of this relationship, have the balls to tell this friend that you can not be his friend, for you can not except this fetish. Do you really think the law can change a man's, (or woman's) sexual fetish? It has never worked, you will only ruin his life, over what may just be a passing phase.
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Hello All, for the past few years I have stood up to my mother and sister. I have helped raised my nephews for years now. They are finally grown and they live on their own now because I won't allow them to live with me anymore. They have done everything you can think of in the past. Examples: robbery, stolen been disrespectful, stabbed one another, brought a gun in my home etc. My mother and sister think I am just being selfish and mean. One works and the other one doesn't my mother supports him totally so much that she can't support herself. I support her I have given her four of my cars in the past. I don't allow them to come over to my home and take advantage of me and my children. I use to cook Sunday dinner I have stopped that as of this past weekend. My oldest nephew recently came and stole food out of my freezer and my mom had the nerve to call me selfish. It's not that I just can't be apart of the enabling anymore. She pays a car note for him and he doesn't work or go to school but, she doesn't have a car. Oh, forgot to mention that Child Welfare took my sisters boys and placed them with me years ago. I am just wondering am I wrong for wanting to live my own life now and putting space between my family and I. (link)
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Enabling, Oh how I hate that word! I don't care what you do, when you help someone, you are not enabling them. You are either doing the right thing for them, or the wrong thing for them. When you step in and give them something, you change their life, their path, their fate. A persons choices directly effects their lives and no one has an obligation to help anyone, much less help those who continually make bad decisions. You are not looking at dreamers here, dreamers are not lost causes, they are needed in this world. You are dealing with people who are being controlled by the Human animal, not the spiritual Being. You are being dragged down to the animal level by them, make sure that you are the spiritual Being using the animal to help you do what you have to do. Whether you have heard this principle or not, you understand it. Don't finance bad and cloak it in good intentions. Be well dear spirit.
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i was trying to help my dad today but he got mad because i wasnt doing it right, ive never been so hurt of what he said to me. i cried alot. i feel so alone because my dad was the only person i can really talk to.. i just want to know is it ok if my dad swears at me sometimes? (link)
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I'm a dad, let me share this thought with you. I have at times redirected my frustration at my most precious loved ones for my inability to explain how that person can help. I get mad at myself for not being able to explain something, so I verbally lash out at them, when it is my failure I am lashing out at. I know I do this and I try not to, but it's tough. It is also hard to admit this when you do it, but you deserve to know. Dads have much you can learn from them, so please don't stop helping him. Remember, you can help him understand himself as well, so he can be a better person, just watch the way you word things.
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A lot of people talk crap about me at school and I'm just getting tired of it. There's nothing I can do, so please don't say "tell someone" or whatever because I've tried everything. But anyways, I'm just getting tired of it and I want to be homeschooled. Some people that talk crap moved to the schools I was thinking about moving to, so they'll just say stuff about me and have MORE people not like me.
How can I talk my mom into letting me be homeschooled? I always have a parent here to homeschool me, so that's situated. But how do I talk my mom into saying "ok"? (link)
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I didn't read the other posts, so excuse me if this has been said.
Life throws a lot of things at us and expects us to learn from it. When it is something that happens over and over, that means we are not learning the lesson life has for us. This is the kind of thing that makes us who we need to be to get through life. We deal with people like these all our lives and you obviously have learned that this is not who you want to be. So many of our lessons in life are learning what we don't want to be. But, I would ask you, do you not want to be the object of learning for others, for they are living the same life, they need to learn too. We travel the path to learn and teach, don't let them damage your spirit. Understand!!! What we are and our reason for being. You will be a wonderful spirit, for you "know" now, now learn to "understand", then we work on "excepting". Be well dear spirit.
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My "friend" told me that people talk bad about me at school. I know that, but she said there will be something "going around" about me. She sort of overreacts and stuff, so yeah.
One time, our friend moved and she said "Once it'll get around, you'll know the story", and it never really "got around"... It only got around to a few people. So do you think she's serious, overreacting, or just trying to scare me? I'm having like a panic attack so yeah... (link)
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Be careful who you give your friendship too. Friends protect their friends from things that they know will hurt them, so why is it she brings something to you attention when she should be minimizing it?
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I dated my first boyfriend for almost three years. He was my best friend since I was 8 years old. The entire time we were together he was in and out of rehab and group homes. I was 16 and he was 15. A month before his rehab stay ended, (he was in a home in Utah and I lived in Pennsylvania), I ended things with him. I was extremely overwhelmed with the idea that he would be home all the time, and that I would be partly responsible for helping to keep him sober. I was almost 18 at the time.
He came home, we didn't talk for a while, he went to jail and I moved out of state. Basically our lives just went in different directions. When I came back to Pennsylvania we started talking a bit again, and I realized that I had been carrying a huge weight about how guilty I felt for leaving him. He was my best friend and I abandoned him when he needed me the most. Ever since I ended things he has never been able to pick his life back up. Hes 21 now and been in jail 3 times. The most recent was for a year. He wants to be friends again, but I know that "friends" to him will turn into something more in his head. It always does. I have a boyfriend, and I love him and don't want to do anything that will mess up my relationship. I guess my problem is I feel like if iI don't have a friendship with my ex, this guilt that i feel for leaving him will never go away...maybe if I do pursue a friendship with him he will quit messing up? But if I do, I risk messing up what I have with my boyfriend. I just don't know what to do at this point. He claims that if I'm in his life he knows he can fix himself...I just don't know if I believe it. (link)
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If is never a way to start a life together and it's something he needs to understand. He had you at one point and that was not enough to keep him from keeping his life straight. Now it's time to straighten your life out. Fact is, there are many loves that just can't be, together they are doomed and neither person is listening to their Spirit. You are starting to listen, he is not. Your friendship keys on his ability to except that your futures do not lie together and we will love many people in our lives, but there is only one only who you are suppose to be with at any given time in your life. Your path in this life must be decided by you, so I'm not going to tell you what to do, but you already know don't you? Be well dear one.
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So I'm in 7th grade and I always see people kissing at my school. It makes me depressed, because I've never had a boyfriend and it makes me feel unwanted. I don't even know if I'll ever get one...
It's making me feel really bad about myself. Any advice? :( (link)
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Look for friends miss 13, not "boy" friends. Learn how to act and behave around both sexes. Find friends and in these friend, you will find yourself and your future. This life is a grand search for like, love and brilliant friendships. Don't miss it in regrets, get out there and explore, you will find what you want. Be well dear one.
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