Hello, all! I haven't had much life experience compared to some people, but I can give you my view of things, and I'll do my best to give an honest opinion. Ask me anything and I'll answer as best I can!
Myself, I'm a Nursing Assistant finishing up some classes before I start working. My interests include cooking, martial arts, music, video games, gardening, acting, reading, and paintball. My girlfriend is slowly pulling me into politics, but she's drawing me in none the less. =P I love her so much!
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about how much would a 9 karat diamond cost?? (link)
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Well... In jewelry magazines, a 1 karat costs about $4,000. I would say multiply that by 9 at least.
I don't know... it's just a guess. But I hope that helped. Look around at prices if you're in the market. You can find good deals if you know where to look.
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the other day, i was walking around in the woods and must have touched some type of plant that had a bunch of sharp balck things on it.the sharp black things got stuck in my fingers.i got all but about 2 out.these 2 are really deep in my finger.there kind of like bee stings.what can i do to get them out?is there some sort of cream i can put on it to make them come out?
thanks! (link)
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Are they just under the skin? If it's under the first layer you can disinfect the area with hydrogen peroxide and using a clean pin or sharp pair of tweezers you can gently cut through the top layer and get it out. If you don't want to do that, or if it's deeper, you can just wait it out and your body will push the thorns to the surface of the skin.
Be careful that it doesn't get infected, though... If it starts to get red, swollen, form puss, or really start to hurt, go see a doctor. Infections are NOT fun to deal with.
Good luck!
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I know this song is by Nickelback, what I don't know though, is whats the title of it ?
"I love your pants around your feet.
I like the dirt that's on your knees.
& I like the way you still say please
While you're looking up at me.
You're like my favorite damn disease."
♥
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That was played on a certain radio station all the time! Lol!
It's Nickelback's "Figured You Out" ^_~
I think I hear once that it's about someone who does drugs...
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Is this something wrong with me?
It's not a constant thing, but I have some real problems with anger at times. For example before.. Mom and I were in the car and I was crying.. been bogged down by stress, friends issues, and a recent breakup. Then I totally lost it because I felt she wasn't listening to me. I started throwing everything everywhere and kicking and screaming, telling her to listen to me. she tried to act all "calm" about it and even tried to change the topic and ignore what I was saying. I got mad and told her to stop being calm and lose the tone. I got even madder, and then something snapped. I put my fingers in the car window, and pushed the button up until my fingers got caught and kept doing it till I screamed in pain. I also bit hard into my hand in anger and the marks are still there.
I have never done anything like that before. Mom and I haven't spoken since. I feel terrible about what I did. I have no idea what got into me. Is there something wrong with me, or was this just a one-off thing, like losing control for a moment? I feel really ashamed because my mom is good to me, and I went and did something like that. What should I do? Is this a serious problem that requires serious help?
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There are lots of things in life that push us a little over the edge. Maybe your mum seemed cool about it, but it probably frightened her a lot. I have a bit of a problem with things like twisting a finger or something when I can't get a word out right or something, and causing yourself harm because you did or are thinking is never a good thing. You're not crazy or anything, though, and talking to someone about it might be helpful. Your mum is a good place to start, and perhaps a councilor at school could help you. Try to identify the things that push you over the edge and know when certain thoughts come up that can overwhelm you. Learn to put those down quickly before you dwell on them too much. Those would be places to start.
You do seem worn out. Perhaps you should take some small breaks during the day? Or perhaps you need to find some quiet time just to yourself? Take breaks from the things that cause you stress, and train yourself to expose yourself to smaller amounts of stress. Don't take too many things on at once. ^_^
Talk to people you trust about it, and consider talking to a councilor as well. It's not bad now, but you should identify what's happening before things get too out of hand. Good luck! Feel free to drop me another question about things if you have any more. ^_^
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Would anybody know who wrote these words please?
"Why I love thee Oh so well, I cannot tell, I cannot tell"
and
"The rolling roads of England were built by a drunken man"
and where would I find a copy of them please? (link)
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The first one I don't know of, but the second one you mention is called "The Rolling English Road" and it was written by G.K. Chesterton. Here's where I found it online...
http://www.dur.ac.uk/martin.ward/gkc/books/rolling.html
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Is it possible to fall in love with someone who you have only met once? :) (link)
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Hmm... I would define love and falling in love as two different things. It's very possible to care for someone who you've just met in a way that would be considered love, but probably a different love than you're thinking. I mean more of a caring for that person, not the kind of love that exists between a bf and gf or a husband and wife.
Yes, it's also very possible to have a crush on someone as soon as you meet them, but real love takes time to build, it doesn't just happen overnight. Crushes do, caring does, but not real love. But things like attraction are good, and they're there to lead on to other things much more intense like love.
Good luck! I strong relationship takes a while to build, and attraction is a very good and fun part of falling for someone. Hope things turn out for the best!
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I am a 15 year old girl in Australia. My boyfriend is getting really serious, He has started talking about how he's going to ask me to marry him sometime soon and i'm getting really freaked out. When i tried to tell him how i feel, he got all upset thinking i don't love him. I really do, but he wouldn't listen. He got sp upset he started hurting himself a little and when i apologised and everything he finally calmed down, he told me he could have killed himself, and he kept using that against me, Until i was crying.
Later he told me he was sorry and shouldn't have said any of that stuff. But every time i try to talk to him about how i feel, he threatens me with suecide. I can't do anything because i am scared he will do something really bad. (link)
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First off, I don't want to be mean, but your bf is horrible for trying to control you that way. Don't let him force you to do things, and don't do something simply because you're afraid he'll hurt himself. If he has a knife to his throat or something, then ok, talk things out with him. But the way he's controling you is abuse.
The first thing I would recomend would be to tell others of what he's up to. A suicide hotline might be a good place to start along with his and your parents. And don't be afraid to tell adults, as you and your bf are still 15. Find out in what ways he's thinking of hurting himself, if he's serious he'll have an actual plan. Once you know more, you can act better upon it.
Do not do anything that you don't want to just because he says that he might hurt himself. That's complete BS. If you ask me, it honestly doesn't sound like he's serious because he knows it's a way he can control you. But don't push things... Maybe he's serious, maybe he's not. In the end, if he does end up hurting himself, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You're not making or forcing him to do anything, despite how he's making you feel.
One more thing... He's 15, talking marriage, he's threatening suicide if you don't coopperate, he's mentally abusive to you... Sounds like you need to re-evaluate the relationship. He doesn't sound stable at all. If threatening himself stops working, what's next? Threatening you? Hurting you? It wouldn't come as a surprise, that's for sure.
Good luck! Get people to help you with what you're going through, and don't confine this to just yourself and him. Take him seriously, but don't let him control you. Also, if you've got an easy way out of this relationship, my advice would be to take it.
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15/f/120 pounds. Today I swam at a leisurely pace for about 500 feet. I used varying strokes, if it makes any difference. About how many calories did I burn? (link)
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Well, I'm not sure how long it took you, but here's a site that might help you find out!
http://www.primusweb.com/fitnesspartner/jumpsite/calculat.htm
Swimming is a great way to stay in shape! Better than almost any other activity. It's especially good for your endurance.
Good luck!
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15/f (this is long.sorry)
I've liked this guy for about a year and so did one of my best friends.but then she told me she didnt like him anymore because she was interested in another guy.
soo about a week ago,i found out they were going out!!i talked to my 'friend' and she keeps denying she told me she didnt like him anymore.but she told me numorous times.lets just say we're not friends anymore.
then one of my other friends sent me an IM covo with her and she said she never liked me as a friend.I just feel so..backstabbed & cheated.
My question is should i just kick my 'friend' and the guy to the curb or should i try to be friends with them again?If i should try talking to them again,what should i say??
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I went through something like this once: one of my oldest friends made the statement "I've greatly disliked him for several years now" about me on his blog. I don't doubt that your friend did, in fact, tell you that she was not interested in this guy. But now she's eating her words and doesn't have what it takes to admit that she was wrong. It's pride, plain and simple. ...of course there is always the possibility that there is a missunderstanding somewhere, but it doesn't seem like that because of the way she's talking about you.
You have every right to feel backstabbed and cheated. Not by the guy... but by your "friend." My advice would be to pull back from this situation. If the guy is good, he'll see through your friend and get away from her. For now, don't bother with either of them, it's not worth it. Your friend has made a choice, and if you ask me it wasn't the best. Let her live with it a while and see what happens.
Good luck! Hope that helped!
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Is god real im confused (link)
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Whether you believe in Him or not doesn't make Him "real" or "not real." If God exists, He simply exists, and if you don't like that, not believing in him won't do you any good. If He's not real, then He's not real and believing in Him won't make Him real... You see where I'm going with this?
Yes, God exists. People who don't believe He does exist want to believe that they are the highest being in the universe.
You can tell that God exists by looking around you. None of what you see around you could have been left to chance, or happened just because an a cell happened to mutate over millions of years into a living, breathing, RATIONAL human. Look at the complexity of even a single cell. There is no possible way in 26 billion years that something as "simple" as a cell could have evolved from nothingness. Not only that, but something that is left to chance results in chaos, yet everything created in the universe complements something else and is upheld by another. It's definately not the work of chance.
As for the "big bang" theory... Matter does not beget matter without taking in something else. In other words, you couldn't just have two atoms and then BANG a universe. Even those few atoms had to have an origin. Well, I guess there's one way you could explain the "big bang" theory. God said:"let there be light" *BANG!* And in that case, He created the matter.
Hope that helped! Good luck!
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my hamster jimmy just died on father day and today i got a new teddy bear hamster and iv never had one befor and i wanna know how to take care of it i also wanna know how old it is and if it help i have a pic of it on my myspace and myspace.com/alleyx69xlol and no im not trying to show off my myspace i just thought it would help if u no what it looked like (link)
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A teddy bear hampster is pretty much like any other. But some things to watch out for would be how clean the fur is, in other words: does the hair look ratty or smooth? Make sure it has a wheel, fresh water, something to chew on like a seed stick or a wood block (as the people at the pet store about what would work), and fresh food. Let it sleep when it wants too and don't always be pulling it out of it's bed. =P But hold it enough to where it's used to your scent and used to being held so it won't bite. Might want to use a glass cage and plenty of shavings as well.
I've had 3 teddy bear hampsters, and they make awesome pets. Just be gentle with it, and your pet should be perfectly happy.
Hope that helped! ^_^
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I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years. During that time, we have had some problems but have worked them out and have been doing very well, until lately. I don't know why I did this, but I cheated on my boyfriend with someone who is a very close friend of mine and have even developed strong feelings for...but I still honestly love my boyfriend. I didn't know it was possible for me to not only cheat, but do it for a few months while my boyfrined thought everything was fine. I also didn't know it was possible for me to love two people at the same time.
So, as much as it hurt to do this, I told my boyfriend about everything yesterday and, of course, he is beyond hurt. I knew I had to come clean with him to start setting things right. I want to be with my boyfriend and that's why I needed to tell him - to start to put the trust back in the relationship. However, I am still very confused about my feelings for the other guy, which are very valid and real (and he feels them for me as well). It killed me to hurt my boyfriend like that, and to keep something going outside the relationship for so long, but I really need advice at this point. I am lost and don't know what to do... thanks for any help! (link)
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First, you need to ask youself the question of who you love more. If it's not your boyfriend that you love more, then maybe you should talk to him about things? Perhaps it's time to move on if that's the case? Communication is essential in a relationship whether it's begining, continuing, or ending.
You stated that you want to be with your boyfriend. That can only happen if your relationship with the other guy is non-existant. So don't be confused about your feelings for this other person, because he's obiviously second to your boyfriend. And in something like a bf/gf relationship, there is no room for seconds.
A true relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend is exclusive. There shouldn't be "other interests" or "flings" durring the time you are together. I don't mean to be harsh, but if you can't be faithful to your boyfriend now, how will you be able to stay faithful to him as a wife? I believe that being someone's boyfriend or girlfriend gives you a little taste of what it would be like to have that person as a spouse.
You came clean about it to your boyfriend, and that was very brave of you. In my oppinion, the next step is to continue to be faithful to your boyfriend if you know that you love him. That means cutting off contact with this other guy. A new person can seem exciting sometimes, but you'll almost always find that once you really get to know them, they aren't as great as you thought they were. On the other had, you have your boyfriend who, dispite what you have done, probably still loves you very much.
If you do love your boyfriend, he's the only one that you have room for, so to speak. You've both been hurt, but things can heal. It will just take trust, commitment, and some time. You'll find your way thought this, I know it seems impossible, but you'll get through it.
Hope that helped somewhat! Good luck!
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Okay she has always been my best friend, but she can be soo immature and really embarressing and it drives me crazy. And i tell her that shes immature. Ive always felt wierd opening up to her or telling her you know "secrets". (like talking about boys our partying or the how far have you gone thing.) We are more like the hanging out watching the t.v. or with the whole group of friends thing. When we do hang out with other people together everybody loves her and shes like the center of the croud and it makes me super jelous. And every body tells her everything in there lives and ect. I just dont know what to do, i hate opening up to her and it seems like shes better friends with them when we both know we are best friends. Well any advice that would be great! But please no rude comments.
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There's no problem with not wanting to open up to a person, unless it's someone you're in a relationship with and then it can cause problems. There are lots of reasons you might have for not telling her: everyone else tells her things, she might gossip about what you say, she might not take you seriously, and so on.
Open up to her only if you feel like it. Is she asking you to open up to her? Maybe there are other reasons that she seems to be better friends with people besides you. Do you show her as much attention as they do? That could be a reason.
Don't do anything just to get more "popular" in this person's eyes. Try to become her friend because you WANT to. You wish that people would show you more attention, and that's what is blocking you mostly from getting closer to this person. Don't focus your attention on the attention she's getting, but focus on being a good friend. That may attract more people to you.
Good luck!
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so i party alot and so does my boyfriend and recently i walked off with my friends boyfriend and my boyfriend freaked out like saying he wasnted to kill her boyfreind so i broke up with my boyfriend ))who i really liked(( in front of everybody like cusing at him and the works and so i left ((this was a 3 am ) and he called a million times that night and the next day and he still thinks we going out but i clearly stated ITS OVER but i dont thin he gets that> how should i tell him i want to be friends nothing more and also its hard because we are going to six flags on saturday with his family ugh what should i do? (link)
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Well, if you really like him, why did you break up with him? That seemed like a small, jealous outburst and nothing more serious on his part. ...Unless he actually has a habit of hurting people or making constant threats, then it would be a good idea to get away from him.
You're probably not getting through to him about this because he refuses to believe that you've broken up with him. And considering when and where the break up occured, he might think that you weren't serious. The best remedy for that is to cut contact with him for a while. If you can, pull out of going to the theme park with him and his family. You'll miss out, but what's the point of going with them? It would be like pretending you and he are still together and that's not going to get you anywhere. Furthermore, it would just be giving your ex what he wants.
Tell him again clearly and calmly that things between you two are over. If you choose to not go to the theme park as well, tell him that you won't be going with him, and tell his parents that you won't be going just so there's not failure of communication (but only tell them about the break up if you want).
Good luck! Hope that helped you out.
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i have this friend called Matt who i've been mates with for a couple of years now. he confessed he liked me early last year, then got a girlfriend and we just stayed friends. they broke up last year. well a few months ago, we were in his room and kissed. now we're basically together, seeing each other constantly. i really, really like him and have ever since we met.
problem is.. there's this other guy online, named Pete. i live in the USA and hes in france. we're sorta in a internet relationship. however, i'm not getting to see him until earlyish next year when he flies out. i haven't told him about my "friend" because quite frankly, i'm not sure what to say.
i feel like i'm stringing two guys along. everyone tells me i'm not doing anything wrong because my online guy is so far away. but i still feel guilty. i'm not going out with matt officially but we do act like it.
i don't want to "break up" with pete because hes spending all this money to see me, and i feel that would be unfair. however, i really like matt and it would be perfect if it wasn't for the timing.
i just would like some opinions on this situation. should I just continue what I'm doing? am i a cheater? i never intended for things to get like this, and it's depressing me to think of what i could be doing. i wish things weren't so complicated.
thankyou. 5's for everyone.
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The best thing that you can do in this situation is to be honnest and tell the other two people involved. Honnesty is what is lacking in this, and being honnest is the best way to sort this out now. If you're not honnest, you can't hope to have a relationship with either of them.
I don't mean to be hard on you, but don't listen to the people that are telling you nothing's wrong, because there IS something wrong. Online or not, it doesn't matter, they are both people with feelings and affections. The feelings of both of these guys are probably going to be hurt, but that's the situation that you've put yourself in. And even though people will get hurt, telling them is doing the right thing, and perhaps they will be accepting of the situation and it really won't be that bad.
You have to ask yourself the question "which guy do I want to be with more?" You can't have both, and if you continue to try, you'll probably lose both of them. Who knows, though? Maybe you'll end up with one and the other will still want to be your friend.
You probably did never intend it to go this far and I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope that everything turns out as painless as possible. Feel free to send me another question if you need more help on this. Hope that helped, and good luck!
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do you think its bad that ive never had a boyfriend or have never kissed someone when im 14 getting ready to be 15? (link)
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I'm 21 and just became the boyfriend of a wonderful girl 7 months ago for the first time (my first and only girlfriend). ^_^ I've also never kissed her, or any girl for that matter. >.>
Waiting around for the right one can be can be much better than going through relationship after relationship, I think. Sure you learn along the way as you go through new loves and break ups, but learning with one special person who is willing to stick with you through rough times is amazing.
Good luck! And when you do find that certain guy and kiss him, it's going to feel a lot more special. ^_~
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16/F, You know that typical story of if the most popular guy likes a girl who is considered a geek/loser that everyone likes to pick on and his friends don't approve by saying that you're reputation will be ruined etc. Then his friends would give them both a hard time in school. I'm in that type of situation and I'm wondering why does this happen? (link)
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To put it simply: because humans are scum.
You've been labled; probably since you started school you've carried a lable that others see. Stereotyping, essentially. Labels are almost a form of "class" in schools. You step out of your "class" and you're persecuted for rattling people's cages and screwing up "the way things work." It's done because many of the popular teens feel that they HAVE to have lables, as it gives them their little groups where they can feel special. Once they get out into the real world, none of that is going to matter, though. The reason you're being persecuted is that you're standing up to this structure, almost a revolution, you might say. And it makes people who believe they have "power" very nervous. (good on you!) They don't like it when someone defies lables like that. It's sad, pathetic, superficial... yeah. But that's most teens for you. Sorry that you're caught up like this.
The best thing to do would be this: talk to the guy about it. If he's understanding and sees what these people are doing, AND is willing to not let it bother him, he's a great guy. A person who can withstand that type of pressure is one in a million. Don't let these people push you around and tell you what you are and who you're "allowed" to love. Giving in to them will tell them that they have power over you, and that's what they crave. Don't give them that satisfaction.
Good luck! I hope that everything works out! ^_^
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My best friend ALWAYS has to have all the guys like her. Well, if a guy likes me or shows any signs in liking me she will try to get him to like her. She brags about all her guys, and she tries to flirt with the guys that like me. Why does she do this? I can't talk to her. What should I do? I'll give 5's. Thanks. And if you have good advice I'll give you the name of my column so we can talk more. Xoxo (link)
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Collecting guys is pretty typical for some girls. They do it for a lot of reasons such as insecurity, attention, sex, popularity, and so on. Flirting with them would be a way to "keep" them, I would guess.
Well, I can't blame you for being annoyed. It's one thing to enjoy the company of guys, it's another to "collect" them. I wouls say that your friend has issues... If there's a guy you like, don't tell her about him and keep him away from her. =P Don't talk about her with your friends behind her back, as that will cause you a lot of trouble. The best thing to do is try to ignore her if you're not willing to talk to her about things. A guy that's worth it will see that she's nothing more than a superficial flirt, I would think.
In the end, I do believe that people like this get their due. She'll have a nasty situation on her hands if there's ever a guy that she actually falls in love with. Hope that helped!
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omg i hate myself sooo much....i'm not supposed to miss my ex and stuff. i'm not supposed to cry over him when i'm going out with my bf joe. god i'm soooo stupid and i shouldn't cry over schuyler i'm like joe a lot i'm a bitch and a whore i don't know what i should do. (link)
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First off, (and don't get pissed at me for this) putting yourself down when you already are feeling down never got anyone anywhere. I say things to myself a lot like "I hate myself" or "why do I do such stupid things?" and "I'm a terrible boyfriend" but it never helps, it just makes things worse.
You're not a whore, and you're not a bitch. Even though I don't know you, I can say that honestly. It looks like you jumped into a new relationship to cover the pain of a pervious one. You don't seem like you're over your old bf, and that's ok. It's normal for your heart to take a while to heal.
My advice would be to suspend the relationship you have at the moment for a little while. Not a break up, just take a bit of time to think things over and to heal. These things never go away by drowning them in a new love, they just have to "dry up" on their own. Once you're feeling better, then you'll want to get involved more in your relationship with this Joe guy. ^_~
Also, let your bf know what is happening. If he's an understanding person, he'll help and support you the best he can. Good luck! ^_^
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i am very perplexed. i attended a christian school since i was kindergarten and i already accepted Christ as my Lord and Saviour. but i'm moving to a new school this year, a catholic one. but since i'm not baptized christian,and i was baptized catholic when i was a baby, so i'm technically a catholic.but since i'm not baptized christian, people will never think i'm christian.so people will really think i'm catholic because i was baptized and i have certificate as proof. i need help because i dunno should just go on prtending i'm a catholicwhen i'm really not. i really dunno what to do. sorry if its a bit confusing but pls. help.
Maddie (link)
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A baptism in the Catholic Church is the same as a baptism in a Christian church. "Christian" is a broad term for a group of religions that includes Catholics, actually. Baptisms by religions such as Baptist, Lutheran, Protestant, Evangelical, Catholic and many others are regarded as the same as far as I know. This is because the form of the sacrament is the same ("I baptize you with water in the name of the Father, of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit"). An exception to this is the Mormon baptism, because it is argued that they do not understand and accept the true Christian deffenition of the Blessed Trinity.
I hope I got all that right... Good luck at your new school!
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