I'm not sure how to talk to my friend about getting help for his depression. He's been pushing me away lately. If it helps, my mom is a psychologist. I have talked to my parents about him, and I don't think they really want me with him. My mom is more understanding of him than my dad is. She knows he's a great guy, but he has problems. She lets him come over whenever he wants and gives me money to buy him food when he needs, but that's it. I don't know how to help anymore. A new problem is that he is sneaking around having sex with his girlfriend. Her parents took her out of our school because they didn't like him. But in reality, the girl is the problem. He hasn't done anything wrong. She forces him to do bad things. What I'm afraid of is that he'll end up a daddy, and he really doesn't need that in his life.
That's a tough one.
Honestly, the first step I would take would be to talk to someone at school--a teacher or guidance counsellor. That way it's sort of neutral territory. It's not your parents, since they don't want you involved, and it's not his parents (who seem to be part of the problem). Are there any teachers he seems to trust, or who seem particularly interested in him or concerned about him? That might be the first place to go.
If you don't feel that you can do that, even offering a few numbers of hotlines might help. That way if he needed to call, he'd be able to at least talk to someone professional, without burdening you--and I know, he's your friend and therefore it isn't (or shouldn't be) a burden, but realistically, it isn't something you can fix.
It's a tough situation. There really is no right answer. But I wish you both the best of luck, and don't give up--but make sure you take care of yourself, too. Your number one responsibility is ultimately to you; don't lose sight of that. Sometimes caring for a friend so much can end up destroying you.
Take care.
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My friend has times when he can be rather depressed. He won't want to do anything, but I'll try to get him to go do things with me to get his mind off of things. Sometimes it will help. Btw I'm 15/f and my friend is 17/m. We're good friends and I hate to see him hurting. He has a girlfriend who he doesn't see very much and she is kind of a b***h, and his father abusive. I thought my friend was getting better. He had seemed happy, but then he stopped telling me about things and started keeping in his emotions, but it didn't seem that bad. He had talked about suicide before and I talked to him about it and he said he wouldn't actually do it. I know he has a big fear of death. He hates seeing people in pain. So, what got we worrying was his sister. She said that he has been talking about killing himself a lot, and she tries to comfort him. He always asks her what she would do if he died. His home has been getting kinda bad. I told him he can always stay with me and get away and I try to help him, but he needs more. What can I do for him? Also, he knows he's depressed, and once told me, he would do anything to stop it; medication, or even suicide. I'm very worried about him. I love him very much and don't want to see him hurt. Please tell me what I should do, how I should talk to him. What are some things I can do for him myself right not without getting outside sources involved? Thanks in advance.
When suicide comes into play, all bets are off--it's time to bring in adults.
You can't save your friend. It hurts like hell to realise it, but it's the truth. You can listen, you can try and cheer him up, but ultimately, you can't save him. You don't have the training or resources that a professional has.
Please, encourage him to seek outside help, and if he refuses, talk to an adult. Maybe a teacher or school guidance counsellor, if you don't want to go to your parents?
An abusive situation has to stop, too. He's a minor; he shouldn't have to deal with that. He shouldn't have to deal with any of this.
I urge you, talk to an adult. This is beyond what you can (and should) handle. The best way to help him is to ask someone else for help.
-Daimeera, 21/female
(And diagnosed with Major Depression six years ago)
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I have three questions. Here's a pic so you know what I'm talking about. (They probably did this is Photoshop, but is it possible to do it in Gimp?)
http://a938.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/31/m_e451da66f0f5ec01cc499505ef026be9.gif
1. How do put any kind of patterned background behind a gray and white pic?
2. How do you change the colors of certain places? (like the clothes change from green to pink and it looks real and natural.)
3. (Sorry, I don't have a pic to show it) I'm friends with a layout provider on Myspace, and they had text with a pattern inside it. To be more specific, it was cursive text. (I want to learn how to do that with cursive and any other kind of text :]) It looked 3D, and it had a pattern in it. Like there were diff patterns in certain letters, and it had polkadots, maybe stripes, and diff colors. Is it possible to do that in Gimp?
Websites or anything would be greatlyyyy appreciated!!!
Oh boy, long and involved questions. I'll try to be as concise as possible.
First of all, yes it is possible.
Now:
1. To do that, you probably want layer masks, or copying/pasting. I would be inclined to go with the layer masks.
In your layers dialogue, which you can access through the file menu in the main window, I believe, you should have at least two layers: one with your image, and one with your desired background. Now, right click on whichever layer is on top, and select "Add layer mask." Now, with black and white, you're going to "paint" the areas that you want to show/not to show. If you use shades of grey, they'll partially show.
Make sure you have the layer mask selected (it doesn't matter if you chose all black, or all white--either way you have to paint). Choose the opposite color of your layer mask and a paint brush size that will allow you to quickly do the majority of what you want to show, or what you want to hide. Now paint over the area that you want to change. It should start to either disappear, or appear, depending on what you chose. Fill in the details with a smaller brush at the end.
2. Layer masks are again your friend. Follow the same pattern as above, selecting the area to show that you want to change the colour. Now you have a few options. You can use different layer modes such as overlay, or, what I prefer, you can do many adjustments through the layer menu. There should be several options here, to change the colour, just experiment to find what you like best.
3. Yup, definitely possible. First, write your text. Then use the select contiguous regions tool to choose the letter you want. Finally, choose a pattern you want to fill it with, or find an image and paste it. It will fill only the selected area.
I hope that was at least somewhat clear.
http://www.gimphelp.org/ might also be of use to you, and http://docs.gimp.org/2.2/en/
Best of luck.
Daimeera, 21/female
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My class was assigned a persuasive essay and we had an assembly the day it was due. my hour was during the assembly. like any other class that i have ever had i assumed it would be due the next day for my hour because we didnt have that class AT ALL that day so i didnt hand it in, because i didnt go to class, because we didnt have class. the next day i went to hand it in and my teacher told me she was going to take 10% off because it was LATE! She said she told people in my class when she saw them in the hallway to pass it on that the papers were still due, but apparently no one informed me. She also said in her "class expectations" under the ABSENTEE policy it says if you are at school for any part of the day she expects all work for her class to be turned in otherwise it will be late. i wasnt an absentee if we didnt have class (&i didnt even know that in the first place, but still i wasnt absent from a class period that did not exist!). is this fair? because if it would have been the original grade i got on my paper i would have gotten an A for the semester. that 10% was the diffrence between an A- and an A, which potentially could be the diffrence between a scholarship or not, which would make a BIG diffrence in what i do with my entire life!...waht do i do? and is it fair. (i plan on writing a letter to the principal)
That's a tough one, but ultimately, I'm inclined to side with your teacher.
From the sounds of things, you know she's a stickler for getting papers and such in on time. It wouldn't have hurt you to go give it to her in case it was due, rather than assuming it wasn't.
I think maybe she's trying to prepare you for university. Profs won't look nearly as kindly upon you not passing in work on time, no matter what reason.
I'm sorry to have to say this. But I don't think she was out of line or unfair. Tough, but not unfair.
Best of luck in whatever happens.
Daimeera, 21/f
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Should you forgive an ex who cheated on you and then the next day, he says he wants to have a single life?
Should you still be okay with an ex even though his break up reason is just a lie, when in truth he started liking that one girl?
Should you forgive that type of person?
Should you still be friends with him and act like nothing happened?
Should I forgive that one girl (who i thought was a friend) but end up betraying me in my back and act like nothin happened?
Should I still hang out with them and show them that Im good and nothing is bothering me?
Should I act fake or just ignore them?
Sorry if its complicated, but its hard to explain everything.
You should forgive them if you can. But forgiving does not mean allowing them the opportunity to hurt you again.
Forgiveness benefits you. It allows you to free yourself from what they have done. It gives you back the power. They hurt you, but you don't have to continue to let them hurt you day in and day out.
It is hard to forgive. It takes time and effort. If you can do it, though, it's worth it.
That said, unless you think they truly regret what they did, or if you really want their friendship, you are in no way obligated to continue associating with them. Forgiveness does not mean that you forget what you did, or that you'll allow them to act as if it never happened. Forgiveness is accepting what happened in the past as being reality. It's moving on.
If your gut is telling you not to hang out with them anymore, then don't. Don't pretend that nothing is bothering you if it actually is. You don't need to act fake. You need to do what is best for you and what feels right.
Resentment is not necessary, but neither is forgetting what happened.
Best of luck,
Daimeera, 21/female
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I'm looking for a new digital camera, and this is one that I came across and so far I really like it:
http://www.bestbuy.com/site/olspage.jsp;jsessionid=SBPE501VS10T5KC4D3LFAHI?skuId=8463959&type=product&id=1184768130455
I was looking for small size (best if it can fit in my pocket), no shutter delay (well, as little as possible), video hopefully with sound, and at a maximum price of $400.
What do you think? What is the shutter speed on this because I am not totally sure what it means? Thanks.
This is not a camera I would buy. Let me explain why.
First of all, you won't ever need 12 megapixels. The difference when you get up to so many megapixels is hardly noticeable unless you want to make HUGE prints--the size only professionals will want to make. Instead, you'll be paying for megapixels you won't use, and you'll need a much larger memory card because the files will be so large. That costs a lot more money.
Second, I would look for something with a larger zoom capability. When it comes to zoom, digital is useless. All it does is essentially crop the picture you take, making it look closer but ultimately it's lower quality. Look for more optical zoom.
That said, I've seen a lot worse. I couldn't find about shutter speed--perhaps I was overlooking it. It just didn't strike me as the best fit for an all-purpose camera, which seems to be what you want.
Best of luck,
Daimeera, 21/female
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What do I eat if I avoid eating carbs? (And I don't like veggies much, by the way. So no vegetarian diet for me;) ) What other food choices am I left with? (And I also try not to eat pork.) I need to lose weight because I've gained around 10 lbs. over our semestral break and I am not happy with my body. I also started to lessen my carb intake and lessened my food intake, in general. Still, there isn't much improvement.
I think the problem is really with the food (cuz I dance a lot, I exercise for at least an hour everyday), so please give me some suggestions as to what I should eat.
Thanks in advance!
Carbs are not unhealthy. Refined carbs (white bread, white rice, anything made with white flour including pasta and sugary cereals) are unhealthy.
Your brain runs on carbs. Carbohydrates are essential to your well-being. It is not advisable to cut out any food group.
Concentrate on eating high-fibre, lower calorie foods. When it comes down to it, it's calories in vs. calories out. If you eat 3000 calories of vegetables (which would be very, very difficult and is an example only), you'll still risk gaining weight.
Fruits and vegetables, by the way, are carbohydrates. That doesn't make them unhealthy. And even if you don't like veggies, the reality is that they're part of a healthy diet. They contain many essential vitamins and nutrients. Try to eat some of them.
Fad diets are not the answer. A balanced, whole-grain diet is.
-Daimeera, 21, female
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ive had a backache for 2 days now and this morning when i went to the bathroom and wiped there was pinkish read on it does that mean im getting my period help im 17 soon to be 18 by the way i never gotten my period b4
I obviously can't say for sure, but I bet you are indeed getting your period!
If you don't end up getting it, you might want to talk to your doctor. Being almost 18, if you still don't have your period, there might be a problem with your health. Best to get it checked out.
-Daimeera, 21/female
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I know there's many symptoms of anorexia nervosa, but can you have it without being underweight and dangerously skinny? Because I have all the symptoms of anorexia besides being borderline thin. I am thin, but have a healthy weight.
Actually, I have to correct Southern_Chickety. To be diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa, you do indeed have to be at least 15% underweight, have lost your period for more three consecutive months, as well as fulfill other criteria.
However, you may well fall under EDNOS (Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified) criteria. EDNOS is, as is implied by the name, for persons whose eating is clearly disordered but who do not meet criteria for other eating disorders. For example, this could include someone who exhibits Anorexic-like symptoms but is not underweight or has not lost her period, it could include someone who binges and purges less than the minimum frequency to be considered Bulimic, or other variations.
What's important, however, is not the name you give your disease. If you're concerned about your eating habits, you should talk to someone. The sooner you get help, the easier it will be to heal. Please don't wait.
-Daimeera, 21/female
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At rare times, I get binge attacks. It'll be something little, like white chocolate chips, but I'll eat and I'll eat them until I've gone through two bags by myself. Now, I a naturally thin person, but I am concerned with my binging. I don't get it a lot; twice a year tops; but I get really anxious about it. I want to stop and control myself, since I am normally a disciplined eater, but it's like my brain doesn't care and I swell up inside with so much anxiety that I give in and eat all the little chips or whatever it is. I try to stay away from these foods, but sometimes they pop up, like when my mom is baking, Hershey kisses in a bowl at my aunt's house, etc. I can't help myself. It may sound dumb, but I am perfectly serious; I feel like I have no control over what I eat from the time of my intial consumption until the food is gone. I just don't know what to do or how to stop it.
That's a tough one. Because it's so rare, it's more difficult to really pinpoint the reason behind it.
Can you think back to how you feel when you're wanting to binge? I mean, obviously you're craving the food. But how else are you feeling? What's going on in your world? Are you stressed? Tired? Guilty? Depressed? It's cliché, I know, but the reality is that binging is usually a reaction to emotion that we're trying not to deal with.
If you never allow yourself a treat, that's also potentially part of the problem. If you wait and wait until your cravings grow overwhelming, you're going to eat a lot more than if you had just a bit of what you want to begin with.
If you are thin, and it's not very frequent, is it even something you need to worry about? I think we all have those times when we just eat things that aren't healthy for us. Would it be easier if instead of fighting it, you gave yourself permission to eat such and such amount? Or told yourself that you'll go for a walk, and if you still want the food in ten minutes, you'll have some then?
It's not really an easy thing to fix, and it's hard to know what's going on in your head--for you too, I bet. But there are a few things to think about, anyway.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 21/f
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15/f.
this kid, told my friend, that he wants to kill all the people that are mean to him in school. and he tried to buy a gun, but he like couldn't. or something. but he wants to kill all the mean people there. he said, "all the people that just even look at me wrong, i want to kill them." and now im scared. i mean i'm not sure how serious he was. because he is veryyy emotional. like he has major mood swings. but i just don't wanna walk into school one day, and hes having an off day, and die for it. you know? and hes like, well it doesnt matter. because the most that will happen to me is ill get 25 years in jail. and thats not a big deal.
so i dont know. what should i do!? :/ should i tell someone? or just let it go.. and risk it?
I think you need to tell someone. If there are other people who witnessed it, get them to go with you. Even if he's joking, which hopefully it is, it's still a sign of a deeper problem. Happy, healthy people don't joke about things like that.
Talk to a guidance counsellor, teacher, the principal, even a police officer--just tell someone. It's important that you don't have to deal with the situation on your own. You'll probably get some help for this kid, and you might even prevent some deaths.
Please, tell someone. It's the right thing to do.
Daimeera, 21/f
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Im in a nursing class at my highschool. I know Im very luckly to be able to be taking this class in high school for free. Its 300$ to take a class like this outside of school. I got into this class to learn about physical therpy, but today in class, something else that my teacher mention, caught my attention. A nurse that takes care of people that have like bipolar, many personalitys, and so on. What is this nurse called? OR what is that field called. I think that would be a very good job, Im soo intersted in what makes people do surrent things, such as being bipolar, or why people hears voices and so on. Im not smart enough to become a doctor for this, but I think being a nurse in this field would be like Whoa, to do.
So again, what is this field called, and is there anyone on here that is this kind of nurse that could tell me about their job and if they like it. Thank you!* =D
I believe you're thinking of a psychiatric nurse, or psychiatric nursing.
I can't tell you anything about the field as I do not work in it, but wikipedia might be a good place to start:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychiatric_and_mental_health_nursing
It's not the most reliable source for, say, research papers, but it's great for getting a general overview of things.
Best of luck,
Daimeera, 21/f
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i really hope someone can answer this. im a junior in high school. part of my school is mixed in with a technical college, therefore high schoolers get the chance to take real college courses [not AP] and receive both high school and college credits as long as we pass the compass test and all that good stuff. im currently taking health occupations, which is a high school course, but was thinking about taking Patient Care Assisting [PCA] my senior year, which is a college course that is 2 blocks long and will certify us to be CNA's at the end of the semester and can go right on and land a job in a hospital. the thing is, i want to be a veterinary radiologist or anesthesiologist, so would being a certified CNA even help me? the class interests me, but i want to work with animals. so would there even be any point in taking it or would being a vet be TOTALLY different? people are telling me that it could still help me, and that being a CNA and/or having worked in a hospital would look really good to colleges [which btw im trying to get into a major university], but i havent had time to talk to any counselors or anything at the school. any input?
I don't entirely know how your school works, so it would be best if you do talk to your guidance counsellors as soon as possible, but hopefully I can help a bit.
The first thing to do would be to figure out what courses exactly you NEED in order to get into the university program you want. If you figure it out and discover that you have no room for the PCA course, then your problem is solved. If you still have room in your schedule, move on.
You say you're interested. That's important. I do believe the course could be useful to you. The very fact that you (presumably) pass it will show universities that you're able to tackle the work required of you. You might want to consider checking the programs at specific universities that you want to attend, however, and see if they have any recommended courses that you take--some aren't required, but suggested. If you still have room for the PCA course, keep considering it. Take a look at the other courses too, just in case there's something that interests you more, or is more relevant to your intended field of study.
It really comes down to figuring out if it's even an option, then figuring out if you really want to do it.
Best of luck!
-Daimeera, 21/f
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16.f.
Ok, what's the best way to study? I read the chapter and I take notes, but then I can't remember certain things & sometimes even the order things happened! The questions are SO specific!
Sometimes a rhyme or song or other type of mnemonic can help. Most people know the example of Christopher Columbus, for example (in 1492, Columbus sailed the ocean blue). And I modified that to help me remember one fact for my psychology course ("in 1892, the APA was formed--woohoo!"). It's a little more difficult to make it work for a lot of things, but if there are a few specific facts you're having trouble remembering, it might be useful.
Another way is to tie things together in a logical way. Again using my psych course, I remember that Freud published "The Interpretation of Dreams" in 1901 because I mused over how he might psychoanalyse that date. And don't get hung up on logic, either--when I say a logical connection, it's about one that makes sense to you, that you can remember.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 21/f
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there is a big high school poetry contest coming up and i want to enter it. I am a pretty good writer, and capable poet but not extremely experienced. If I want to enter it has to be soon, but i can't seem to write anything! I don't need help with what or how to write, I'm just wondering how other people get inspiration? what can i do to jumpstart my creativity!
thanks
Music is often helpful. Sometimes a change of venue is great as well. If, for instance, you can take a pen and paper outside, especially if you can find a park or something, it can be very freeing.
Let's see . . . sometimes prompts are good. Random words can inspire you. Thinking about what makes you happy, or what makes you sad. Watching a TV show, or the news. Reading a book.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 21/female
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"Hello, you either have JavaScript turned off or an old version of Macromedia's Flash Player. Click here to get the latest flash player"
i've already downloaded it like 3 times. half of the javascript works wehile the other half doesn't
how do you turn it on ? or what else could be a problem?
Have you restarted your computer? That often fixes many problems that arise.
Sorry, no ideas other than that. But that's generally a good fix. Even if it installed properly, sometimes it takes a reboot if your computer's been on for awhile.
Oh, you could also try doing a complete uninstall (through My Computer, System Tasks, Add/Remove a program), rebooting, and then reinstalling. If there were problems when you initially downloaded/installed it, you might be having residual effects.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 21/female
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Okay, this is a little embarassing, but I have a bad habit of picking at any scabs that are on my skin... HOW DO I BREAK IT?!?!?!?!? I don't want to end up with any scars, but I probably will. Any suggestions would be wonderful. THX in advance!
Try to keep your hands busy doing something else. Knitting, writing, playing cards, sewing--anything that uses your hands can help you.
If you do it without realising it, a bandaid as suggested might help. If you have someone you trust and don't mind talking to about it, you could ask him or her to tell you when you're doing it, if they see.
Rewards might also help. If you go a week without picking at your scabs, buy yourself something small as a treat--new lipgloss, a necklace, a book, something like that.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 21/female
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so my family is a little low on money and i was wondering what are some ways to keep the house warm since it is getting close to fall and winter.. i dont want to put the heat up high because that will cost too much
Keep windows and doors shut whenever possible. You might want to do a thorough check around your house for areas where drafts can come in. It might cost a few dollars to get the insulation fixed, but it will save you bunches in heating costs.
Sweaters are good, and blankets as mentioned. Um, using the stove can also heat up the kitchen, but I don't imagine that is cheaper than actual heat and is probably actually more expensive (worth keeping in mind if you're baking or cooking, though).
Moving around and exercising can generate heat. Having multiple people in a room heats it up as well.
The biggest thing really is to check for drafts and keep doors and windows closed, though.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 20/F
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What products test on animals? Links would be greatly appriciated. or a good list.
This is a good start:
http://www.caringconsumer.com/resources_companies.asp
It gives companies that do, and companies that don't.
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I don't know why but my left ear hurts occassionally. It is a sharp low, dull pain. I think I might have causes it because I got the feeling of not being able to hear from one ear- the feeling you get if you dunked your head in water and one of your ear seems to be cloggy. I pinched my nose and blew from my nose- but since I pinched it air came out of my ear. (ever happen to anyone of you?) but it is weird i know but it helps, my ear didn't clog up anymore but now, my ear gets this pain. I'm afraid it is something bad, does anyone know about this?
You might have wax buildup. If so, the doctor will probably syringe out your ears. Wax buildup can cause pain as well as the sensation of having plugged ears, so that would be my best guess.
I agree with the others; you should see a doctor. If it is a buildup of wax, the cure sounds worse than it is. Basically, the doctor sticks the type of a large syringe into your ear and pushes water out, gently forcing it into your ear canal so that it flushes out the gunk inside. It can be a tiny bit painful--more uncomfortable than anything--but it's quick and easy.
Best of luck.
-Daimeera, 20/f
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