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should you forgive an ex who.....?
Should you forgive an ex who cheated on you and then the next day, he says he wants to have a single life?
Should you still be okay with an ex even though his break up reason is just a lie, when in truth he started liking that one girl?
Should you forgive that type of person?
Should you still be friends with him and act like nothing happened?
Should I forgive that one girl (who i thought was a friend) but end up betraying me in my back and act like nothin happened?
Should I still hang out with them and show them that Im good and nothing is bothering me?
Should I act fake or just ignore them?
Sorry if its complicated, but its hard to explain everything.
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Yes, it would be good, and better for your own happiness if you are able to forgive them.
Forgiving them doesn't mean you talk to them, are friends with them, or even that you tell them they are forgiven. You are well within your rights to decide that such people aren't ones that you want anything to do with.
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You should forgive them as soon as you feel comfortable to do so. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you have to be best friends with either one of them. If you feel comfortable with still being friends with them after the fact- well, you're a bigger person than I am. You should be able to forgive everyone that does you wrong, even if you can't forget for a while. Never, ever be fake around someone. You were the victim. You were the one that got cheated on and you were the one that got broken up with. You don't have to do anything but leave them alone- anything else just shows what good character you have. Hang out with them if you want. Forgive them if you want, it's all up to you.
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You should forgive them if you can. But forgiving does not mean allowing them the opportunity to hurt you again.
Forgiveness benefits you. It allows you to free yourself from what they have done. It gives you back the power. They hurt you, but you don't have to continue to let them hurt you day in and day out.
It is hard to forgive. It takes time and effort. If you can do it, though, it's worth it.
That said, unless you think they truly regret what they did, or if you really want their friendship, you are in no way obligated to continue associating with them. Forgiveness does not mean that you forget what you did, or that you'll allow them to act as if it never happened. Forgiveness is accepting what happened in the past as being reality. It's moving on.
If your gut is telling you not to hang out with them anymore, then don't. Don't pretend that nothing is bothering you if it actually is. You don't need to act fake. You need to do what is best for you and what feels right.
Resentment is not necessary, but neither is forgetting what happened.
Best of luck,
Daimeera, 21/female
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