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Q: Ok...i'm 14 and i have a huge problem with my friend. you see, he likes this gurl amber but she hates him (she thinks he's a stalker), he was just calling her a slut and other things like that a week ago and last night he got online and started yelling at me for saying mean stuff about her (i never liked her!) so he got all mad at me and is telling what i think of her. including her. i talked to her today and she is kool with me (well kinda, it's the type of thing where we hate each other and we both know it). but my friend is being such a pain about the whole thing and everyone thinks it's my fault! what should i do?

Well i've been where you are.. but i think he shouldnt have gotten mad at you for talking about her, because he was talking about her too, but he shouldnt have been if he liked her.. that only shows he doesnt like her that much.. if everyone thinks its your fault, dont let that bother you.. just ignore it, or tell them he was doing it to.. explain it in perfect detail.. if i were you, just ignore the people who thinks its your fault.

*Best of Luck*
CrYsTaL

Q: I need some help. I am going downhill in school because I am very lonely and i can't concentrate on my school work. The problem is that I desparately want a girlfriend and watching other people besides me dating makes it worse. There is no body special that I am attracted to in school, and even if I was i dont think i would know what to do (i am quite shy when it comes to starting conversations with girls and i dont know what to say.) Please if anyone can help me with my problems; how i can learn to be less shy around women, where i can find the girl for me, and what it will cost me to have a girlfriend. Thank you so much.

Well its not hard. It doesnt cost nothing to have a girlfriend. All you have to do is love her. Thats the only cost. If you're shy around girls, write her a note, have a friend talk to her, get one of her friends to talk to her for you... its not hard, and if you dont talk to her, you might not know if she feels the same about you.. and if she lets you down, get back up and find another. Best Of Luck!...
-CrYsTaL-

Q: im 15 and my penis is about 5 inches long and im
uncircumcised does this matter to girls?
i did'nt think that my girlfriend liked it.

Well being 15, that would probably be normal size... to some girls it would matter, but to others it wont.. trust me.. the first one i saw, didnt really matter.. but i hope things work out, and im sure your girlfriend would tell you if something was bothering her about you.. ya know? Well good luck!

Q: My boyfriend and i have been getting serious we
are both 17 and recently i gave him a hand job
and it got hard and he had trouble getting his
penis in and then he came am i still a virgin?

i am not really sure.. im sorry i cant help you there... but i would go see a doctor and check.. b/c you could also be pregnant

Q: what is the average size of a boys penis my boyfriend is 16 and about 6 inches long he is
a bit insecure about it although i tell him
that it doesn't matter.

well for his age.. i guess its okay. i mean i know older guys with bigger penis' but im not sure i can tell you exactly.. but just tell him not to worry about it!

Q: i want to make a advice columm and i have good advice for people and i need you to answer this ASAP

Well you have to register, and fill out the information it askes you to.. and as you answer people's questions, it will be put on your advice colum.. good luck!

Q: I want to start telling people that I'm Bi but everytime I've told someone I can't seem to think of a better way to say it than just to say, really bluntly-'I'm Bi'.

Can anyone thing of a more subtle way of telling people?

Well- whoever you are, i am bi as well, and i know where you are coming from. Just come out and say it, and if somene doesnt understand you, try saying something like "i think i might be interested in someone other than so n so, and its not a guy.." or "i like girls as well as guys"
Something like this should get someone to understand you. I've told many people and its gotten out to others, some seem to understand and not care, and others act like i dont exist, like they dont care about me, like they've never did.. but the only thing i can say, is do whats best, with the people you trust.
:)- hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: Ok well see i started my period like a monthe or two ago and now im on my third mothe but i havent had my period since the frtst month even though my first period went two days into the 2nd month is somehting wrong(i didnt have sex either)

Well i have been in the same place. This just means that your body is not quite finished developing, and its slowly hapening, just give it some time, and it will be alright. Once you start again, it will bleed a lot more, but just make sure you are prepared for it!
:)- hope this helps!
Crystal

Q: I'm 24 and have been married for 6 years.My husband is 32.My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep.When he sees that I'm waking up he stops.When I ask him about it he tries to denie it.I've told him that it upsets me but he keeps doing it.I don't know what to do.He also watches porn alot and masterbates.He tries to hide that from me.I've tried to join him but he won't let me.Then when I say something he just denies it.I feel very hurt by this and I don't know what to do.Please help.

This is very wrong, in this case your husband, like others said, is raping you. You need to tell someone. Maybe you dont deserve to be with someone who only wants sex all the time, or someone who lies to you. No one deserves to be hurt in anyway whatsoever. So if i could say anything helpful, i would say you need to talk this out with him and move on. I hope this helps a lot.

Q: Is it wrong to make plans with one of your best friends and after all the trouble they went thur to ask there parents,they go and make plans with someone else. After you have been planing this since like Sunday. Or is it a signal that they dont wanna be your friend anymore? help
-Me

no it doesnt mean they're not ur friend anymore... you just have to talk to them...i didnt make plans with her okay, i just need money and all.. im sorry.. w/e

Q: I have had my nipples pierced for about five months and I sometimes have pimple like puss come out. Is it infected? what can I do? It doesnt hurt or anyhting it kind of looks like there is a pimple next to my nipple.
thanks

I think you might want to go and have someone check it out, it could be infected, and if so, you will want to sue the person who did it, i hope this helps.

Q: Hi
My boyfriend and i are 17 and we been trying to have sex but he can't last to long he has quite
a small penis and he's really self conscious about it and im not sure what to do any suggestions
would help.

Well about the only thing i can say to you is just try. Are you saying that he cant go too long b/c he gets tired or what? I do hope this helps, just give it time, and it will work out!

Q: Well first of all...everyone of my friends are having sex now and im only in the 8th grade...i'll b in high school in a couple months and everybody will be trying to get me to have sex??...should i just try it ..like everybody else..or just tell them that im waiting for a special guy?...but the point is ..is that if im goin out with a guy i might think he is the right guy and go for it but i know we wont last long..will sumone pleez talk to me?

Well honestly you dont have to do something just because everyone else does it. I will be in high school in a few months as well, the only real thing you can do is whatever makes you happy. Dont have sex with someone UNTIL YOU KNOW, he is the one. A lot of people might be pressuring you to have sex in high school, but do what you feel like doing, if you are not ready, don't do it, WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE READY! I hope this helps!

Q: My Friend doesnt like me anymore! I dont know why.. she just wont talk to me!

Well then try talking to her and see whats wrong, maybe she just doesnt want to be bothered so she doesnt talk to anyone. All i can say is just talk to her alone, or bring another friend and work out whats wrong. I hope this helps!

Q: I have had my period since I was 7 I am now 12, I have it for about 2-3 weeks at a time and I hate it!! What helps it to slow down?

WEll the only thing you can do is just relax, calm down, rest, eat good foods this should help (drink water).. hope this helps.

Crystal

Q: Im not sure what to do? My best friend moved away and her dad doesnt let her come in contact with people who dont live near her anymore. We were so close we hung out and did everything all the time. And now that she cant contact me or i cant contact her, we've fallen apart. I've made a new best friend (of 2 years) and we're slowly fallin apart b/c we dont talk much, and she likes the same guy that i like, but i dont mind, what do i do, im afraid, i dont want to hurt my new best friend (2 years).. how do i talk to her anymore?

well the only thing you can do is talk to her and hope she understand, tell her you dont mean to hurt her in anyway, you just want to be close again. I hope this helps.

Q: Hearts and roses and kisses galore,

What the hell is all this shit for.

Poeple get mushy and start acting queer,

This is definitely the most annoying day of the year.

This day needs to be over, come and pass,

Before I shove a dozen roses up cupids ass.

I'll spend the day so drunk I can't speak,

And probably wear black the rest of the week.

Guys act all sweet but soon it will fade,

For all they are trying to do is get laid.

The arrow cupid shot at me must have not hit,

Because I think love is a big crock of shit.

So here is my story what more can I say,

Love is a bitch so fuck Valentine's Day

I like it, i do. But why be so vouge? Maybe you should write about something thats happy, and you wont feel so sorry.
Hope this helps..
CrYsTaL

Q: O.K...i knew my friend liked this guy at our school & he had wanted me to go down on him & i was like no i cant do that..then 1 day i was walkin home & he had asked me again...i was thinkin & i asked him did he think my friend wouldnt mad & he said they werent talkin..(mad) & i was like well O.K.so after i got home i felt bad & told my friend..she said she was very disappointed & that our friendhip was frozen! So she got all mad & i was like whatever.see i had also did 1 of her other friends guy too. but ive done him before & them goin out didnt change nothin.(he said)They simply told me i did somethin they wouldnt do! So whats the big damn deal!!..what should i do???

Do what you think is best for you and your friend. Dont do something that your mom wouldnt, lol is this to bad? Im sorry but i hope this helps.

Q: like when u have a period wat does it mean and wat happens pleeze help

Okay, since im 14 and i've had many periods since 12, its easy to say that you shouldnt be worried about it. A period is something natural, every gurl gets it, it usually last about 3 days- 1 week, depending on your body cycle, the period happens every month. All you have to do it buy some pads or tampons, and know how to wear them. Its just blood, and by your period stricking, it just means your body is developing. Nothing harmful. Just make sure you know when you start, record it and that way you know or should know about the time you will start the next month.
Hope this helps.

Q: Hi my name is Misty and I am 35 years old and have three children. I was in a long time relationship with my childs father and the man left me, then I met a new man and started a new relationship. Because the first man decided to come back to me I wanted to try and make it work so I explained to the new man and we stoped that relationship. Now the first man left me again and I want to explore the relationship that I had tried to have with the new man but he wont allow me to. I just need one more shot and I know I can make it work with him, I just need him to notice me and help him to understand that I will never leave him again. What can I do to make this man notice me and know that he can trust me and understand that the first man will never again be a part of my life again.....PLEASE HELP ME....I have a girlfriend who is trying but she just dosen't have the answer to this one.

Well im 14. I do not know anything about things like this, but the best thing that i can say, is make sure you give yourself a chance to love again. Obviously you still loved your childs father enough to have taken him back, but he didnt love you if he left you again, so the only thing you can do, is make sure the guy you want back, understands who you are inside, an understands that you didnt mean to hurt him in anyway. Make sure you find the YOU in Yourself before you talk to him. You have to know what makes you happy, and if you want this guy back but he dont think he can trust you, believe in yourself and make him believe. I hope this helps.
Crystal

bio

Hey! I'm Crystal, as you know. I am here to give advice to those who need it the most. I've given much advice in my time and I plan to keep doing it. Don't be afraid to ask me any personal questions or even random questions, I can help with anything, because believe it or not, I've been in some of the same situations that most people have been in. I love giving advice, its my life, Not only am I good at it, but I understand where people are coming from. So, Don't take anything to seriously and ask away, Thanks! :)