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I'm 24 and have been married for 6 years.My husband is 32.My husband has sex with me when I'm asleep.When he sees that I'm waking up he stops.When I ask him about it he tries to denie it.I've told him that it upsets me but he keeps doing it.I don't know what to do.He also watches porn alot and masterbates.He tries to hide that from me.I've tried to join him but he won't let me.Then when I say something he just denies it.I feel very hurt by this and I don't know what to do.Please help.
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girl dump him he's no good for you and you don't need him anymore. it's payback time put his but on the couch and you go out to the club pick you up a few guys. i know that it's going to hurt you but you might find someone new. file for divorce or tell him to shape up cause luv ain't gonna live there any more if he don't shape up. hope i could help you and write me back. hope that everything turns out good and i hope that you dump him cause he sounds trifalin. who would do the stuff that he does. ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.
always lil attitude
p.s. i know that you might still like him alot but if he's gonna act like that he'a not worth waisting your time over
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This is very wrong, in this case your husband, like others said, is raping you. You need to tell someone. Maybe you dont deserve to be with someone who only wants sex all the time, or someone who lies to you. No one deserves to be hurt in anyway whatsoever. So if i could say anything helpful, i would say you need to talk this out with him and move on. I hope this helps a lot.
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If you're asleep when someone has sex with you, there is no way for you to give consent. Nonconsensual sex more often goes by the term "rape"
Your husband is raping you.
By the ages and years you've listed, you were 18 when you married this man, he was 26. Which means you probably were dating before you turned 18. Which means this guy was pursuing a minor. Which means he doesn't look to good in my book from the very start.
Now he's lying to you, raping you, and neglecting you.
Ditch him.
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Trust me when a guy does it to u when ur sleep he has some problems.And he lies about it.Does he use a condom if he doesnt and then u could get pregent and then he wont lie to u about it. The best thing to do is act like ur sleep and when he starts fuckin u wake up and show him that u know what he is doing at night when ur sleep. But if u end up pregent he is going to ask u if u have been sleepin with anyone because he says that he doesnt have sex with u when ur sleep. If that plan doesnt work then u need to leave him thats just nasty.
-Jess
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It sounds like your husband has a sexual dysfunction and is afraid of relationships. If you are going to remain with him, this man needs counseling yesterday!!!!! And please, you say you suspect he is seeing someone, there are a great many diseases out there these days HIV being 1 of them. Therefore I suggest you find a way to make this "sneak sex" stop, until you are sure of your man.
Good Luck
Your Sister, Softouch
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Warning - very disturbing answer ahead!
Your husband is kinky. Having sex with a sleeping person, or an unconscious person, is similar to having sex with a dead person, or necrophilia. I hope he doesn't work at a hospital, or in the medical field where people are drugged to unconsciousness.
I would leave him. Of course he needs psychiatric help, but that only works if the patient is very motivated to change. I have little faith that psychologists can change people who have a sexual abberation.
It is a difficult and sad situation. You have my sympathy.
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Hey,
Your husband having sex with you when you are asleep is quite disturbing and, in my opinion, wrong. You need to talk to him about this, and if he keeps denying it, tell him that you KNOW what you saw, you KNOW what he was doing and that you're not stupid enough to take his denial. You've told him that it upsets you and he still does it, which is inconsiderate, selfish and down right cruel. If he doesn't stop something that you ask him to, you have every right to take a break from him. Go to your family's house (mum and dad, siblings you could stay with, relatives you could stay with, a friend etc) for a few weeks and let him decide if you're worth stopping this weird thing for.
Six years is a long time, so you must value your marriage, but (i'm sorry to be so blunt, but this is my opinion) it doesn't sound like this guy loves you. I can understand how you'd think he was seeing someone else, and you don't DESERVE to be treated like that. If he won't talk to you, or stop having sex with you when you're asleep, like i said, maybe you need to take a break from each other.
It could, of course, be something more deep rooted than that. Maybe he has some psychological problem from his past, a past girlfriend who treated him badly when it came to sex and so he won't let you in. You really need to talk to him about it, you don't deserve any of the hurt that you're feeling. I hope you feel better honey, and remember, don't take any crap from this guy, whether he's your husband or not x
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you are 24 years old lady what in the world are you doing with a man who doesnt respect you at all if i were (which im not) i would leave his non respecting butt NOW the one thing about marriage is RESPECT and he is not giving it to you so leave him NOW!!!!!!!!!! this is diane answering your problems write back
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I'm taking a wild guess because I don't have a husband and I don't know your EXACT situation however I will try.
Your husband might be suffering from self confidence issues. He might be having trouble accepting his manlyhood and might be embarassed or ashamed of having sex with you while you are awake. He might have embarassing memories of his past love life that he might not be comfortable talking about. The part about masturbating looking at porn is perfectly normal and I don't see why you would "join him" but masturbating is one of those things that your husband probably likes to do alone. Try a different approach on bringing up this subject with your husband and if he still denies doing these acts, try to catch him in the act.
-Joce
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are you really sure you love this husband of yours....this might lead to a divorce....the age difference is huge but thatz not the point...ask him why he does this....ask him why he likes to have sex with you wen ur asleep...wouldnt he like it if ur awake...nd active?
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