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I need some help. I am going downhill in school because I am very lonely and i can't concentrate on my school work. The problem is that I desparately want a girlfriend and watching other people besides me dating makes it worse. There is no body special that I am attracted to in school, and even if I was i dont think i would know what to do (i am quite shy when it comes to starting conversations with girls and i dont know what to say.) Please if anyone can help me with my problems; how i can learn to be less shy around women, where i can find the girl for me, and what it will cost me to have a girlfriend. Thank you so much.
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I WOULD RECOMMEND THAT YOU JOIN SOME TYPE OF CLUB IN SCHOOL WHERE GIRLS ARE INVOLVED, THAT WAY IT WON'T SEEM SO OBVIOUS. GET TO KNOW THE GIRLS IN THE CLUB AND STRIKE UP A MUTUAL CONVERSATION THAT THE BOTH OF YOU KNOW SOMETHING ABOUT.
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to be honest with you when you really dont look for it you will find someone with your same interest,dont rush into anything you might regret being in a rush relationship most start with friendship anyway do you have any good female friends? that might be a good start you never know who might have a interest in you,and also be too shy to cross that friendship barrier take a closer look @some of your girl friends and see what is really there...
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Well, start off with a simple hi. Awkward silence is common anywhere, so don't let that stop you, unless she doesn't want to talk. Just talk about something interesting that happened recently, see if she's interested in what you have to say. Eventually move on to likes and dislikes, if you have a lot in common, you got yourself a friend whose a girl. Eventually they'll see that you're easy to talk to, if you're not now, you'll learn how to be. After which you'll see if there's anything there beyond friendship. But don't wait to long to look, sometimes girls feel awkward dating friends. All it will cost is maybe a little self-esteem at first, but I'm sure after a while you'll get used to talking to girls. I used to have the same problem.
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Well its not hard. It doesnt cost nothing to have a girlfriend. All you have to do is love her. Thats the only cost. If you're shy around girls, write her a note, have a friend talk to her, get one of her friends to talk to her for you... its not hard, and if you dont talk to her, you might not know if she feels the same about you.. and if she lets you down, get back up and find another. Best Of Luck!...
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As a girl, here's my advice. It sounds like you're dwelling too much on what you don't have, rather than what you can do. It sounds like you're a sensitive guy, and a lot of girls really like that. But we don't want someone who dwells on their negatives all the time. Many other girls around your age (assuming you're an adolecsent) already have issues with self-esteem themselves. What you need to do is stop focusing on making yourself complete through a girlfriend. Sind happiness doing thing things for you; try to find a sport, club, hobby, etc. that you can enjoy, and pretty soon other girls will be digging you for your confidence. Make sure to keep your sensitivity also; that's cool one thing that a lot of guys don't have. Another thing: if you get into a sport, hobby, club, etc., that's probably where you'll meet a girl with similar interests; that will give you something in common to talk about. As for money, it really depends on the girl; you have to draw the line between being a gentleman and being an ATM machine. You should offer to pay for things like movie tickets, etc., but any girl who starts trying to mooch unnecessary money off of you just isn't worth your time. Good Luck! :)
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