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Im not sure what to do? My best friend moved away and her dad doesnt let her come in contact with people who dont live near her anymore. We were so close we hung out and did everything all the time. And now that she cant contact me or i cant contact her, we've fallen apart. I've made a new best friend (of 2 years) and we're slowly fallin apart b/c we dont talk much, and she likes the same guy that i like, but i dont mind, what do i do, im afraid, i dont want to hurt my new best friend (2 years).. how do i talk to her anymore?
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no boy is worth fighting over just trust me let your friend have him cause if you go out with him you guyes friendship is going to fall apart. you might be jealous if they go out but soon you will find someone new. since you and your old friend can't come into contact then maybe try writting her. friendships come and go and maybe it's time for that one to go. that might not be what you want to hear but it' the truth. Try to make your friendship stronger with the other friend like talking on the phone more. if it doesn't get any stronger in like 2 week then try to make new friends. remember that friendships come and go. make sure to choose your friends right.
try to write me back because i would like to hear what happened and give you more advice
always lil attitude
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I'm a little confused which friend likes the same guy that you do, but if it doesn't bother you, I guess it doesn't matter that much.
I'm wondering exactly why her dad won't let her be in touch with people who don't live near her. That sounds kind of bizarre, to tell you the truth. (I mean, I would understand if he didn't want her making expensive long-distance calls every night, or spending all her time online, but *no* contact at all seems awfully harsh.) Is there some way you could talk to him, or have your parents talk to him, and see if he would consider letting up on that rule a little? Maybe you could call her once a week? Or send letters through regular mail? See if a compromise is possible here.
If your friend's dad is really determined that she shouldn't be in contact with you, I'm not sure what you should do. The only thing I can think of is that you could send a letter to your friend c/o her class at school, or c/o one of her new friends, and then her dad wouldn't see it. But I don't know if that's a really good plan, because I'd hate for her to get in big trouble with her dad if he ever found out.
It really shouldn't hurt your new best friend if you want to stay in touch with your old friend, so don't worry about that.
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tell her how you feel tell her the boy that you two like can't come between ya'll. make a pac saying neither one of ya'll will go with him as long as ya'll are friends.
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aww poor your, its so hard to keep long distance friendships even when your older!
one of my closest friends moved to go to drama school but i make sure i call her once a week if i can or send a text.
have you thought about maybe writing letters?
you could write it as a diary to your friend saying your feelings and thoughts and what you did and save it on your computer and every week print it out and send a copy and maybe your friend would do the same?
does she have the internet? you could email?
but if you can get her phone number and give her a call!
good luck and if you want to ask more let me know
kat xxx
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As far as the long-distance friendship goes, if you REALLY want to make it work there are ways around parents. Get her phone number and if her dad picks up say it's a friend from school or something. I don't know why he'd be so uptight.
And the new friend, find out what's coming between you two. If it's the guy, don't let that happen. There are plenty of other guys out there but not many good friends that you can keep for two years. If you guys aren't talking suddenly it's because something's come in between you. Find out what it is and then decide if it's worth it to get whatever's blocking you out of the way.
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It sounds like there is no way to talk to your friend that moved. I mean you can't even write her a letter and tell her whats goin on? Anyway back to my point this friend that you have made if she hasnt talked to you then it sounds like shes not a very good friend and doesnt want this friendship to go any further. I just have to say talk to someone tell your friend ( the friend you have made) how you feel and if she doesnt understand then it wasnt meant to be. make other friends and dont forget your former friend. Someday you will get to see her again.
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well the only thing you can do is talk to her and hope she understand, tell her you dont mean to hurt her in anyway, you just want to be close again. I hope this helps.
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