How come im so shy?!?! >:O i guess if your outgoing your "popular" but i am outgoing sometimes,and it dosent really help! Any tips on becomeing,well i guess popular?
Okay well first personally I don't think being poplular is what's important. What's important is that you believe in yourself and have friends that you love, trust and can have a good time with.
Are you shy because your not very confident about yourself? If so your going to need to work on your confidence first. Going to a drama group can help boost that or maybe just writing down a list of everything that is good about you that you can look at whenever you feel even a little doubt.
However if you want to become popular, your going to have to pick out a certain popular person or group. To become popular usually involves liking the same things as the popular people, so find out what that person/group's interests are. Then once your clued up on them, somehow manage to introduce yourself to them and start up a conversation about one of those chosen subjects.
Keep talking to them whenever you can and eventually you'll become one of the group. Then you'll be "popular".
Really though, being popular isn't everything and to become popular is like losing yourself and becoming a lie. Take Lindsay Lohan's character in Mean Girls for example, look what happened to her!!
Well good luck hunni. Hope I helped in some way and you'll forgive all the crazy "be your own person" stuff. Smile
Claire xx
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if your going to make fun of me please dont answer this question. I feel like if my hair dosent look good,or i got bags under my eyes,because of my friend. I feel like she controls my life and if i dont use a cirtain shampoo in the shower,she'll no and make my hair look bad. Its so weird i dont want to feel this is makes me hate her,i dont want to hate her..But she also always has a good time with friends and leaves me out..could this be a part? I need help! **rate high**
Hunni, this "friend" doesn't really sound like a friend to me at all. This is obviously a serious problem for you, so what I think you need to do is ditch her and get yourself some new friends who will love you for you, not try to change you and definetly won't leave you out. I know it may be hard, but she's not respecting you the way a true friend would and the sooner you get away from her, the happier you'll become.
But if you don't want to hate her like you've said and you want to maybe sort your friendship, I'd advise you to invite her over to your house and tell her everything that you've written. Be honest and try to sort the problem together. Afterwards, if she still doesn't stop it, I'm afraid you may have to go for the first option.
You are a unique and special person and that's how it should be. Believe in yourself and only do things if you want to. Good luck hunni
Claire xx
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I'm drawing a comic about me and two of my friends and our daily life at our high school... with a little twist. What should I call it?
Me, my friends and hell. Or at least that's how I see it :-) or perhaps "You think you know what we did last week" because they probably know what happened to you at school but it will be a little different from what they remember if your putting a little twist on it.
Hope I helped
Claire xx
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Hey guys,
I have to make a poetry book in English, and I can't think of a good title that I could create for my book. My topic for the poems that I chose to pick was on LOVE. If anyone could help me try to think of a good title that I could use, I'd really appreciate it! I'll rate you a 5 if you try to help me atleast a little! Thank you so much! I have to create 4 of my own poems on love, and I've already made a few of them, so if anyone wants to read them and let me know if their good or not, please let me know. I'd share them with you so I can get your opinion on them! Alright, thank you so much! :-)
How about (your name)'s L'Amour; The Alternate Language of Love. French being the language of love and L'Amour being the French for love. Simple, but creative. What do you think?
Claire xx
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Im a 20yr old female.
Me and my b/f have been going out for 2months and we were really serious. Well he came over every day for the time we were together and we started to fight alot recently. So he didnt know what to do. So he decided we should take a break from each other. That means not seeing me everyday or talking on the phone with me that much. Well we really love each other and we both think we are the one for each other. But the days that im away from him i become so depressed and just cry all day and i cant stop and i feel so sad. He tells me hes sad to and he only wants to do this time apart to work things out cause he really wants to be with me.My question is, how do i stop feeling so sad and how can i make my self not think about it while hes away? how do i make it to where he choose to get back together faster without me asking him to. Is there somthing i can do to get him back faster?
I know this maybe isn't what your looking for, but time apart is not going to sort your issues. It's just like putting them in a box for a while until you get back together and then all your feelings come flying out of the box more intense than before.
What I think you should do is do as he says to make him happy and give yourself a couple of weeks to cool off. During that time, keep busy and spend as much time as possible with your friends in order to keep your mind off him. Then arrange to meet together and talk about what went wrong in the relationship. Talk calmly and honestly and try to find a way together to solve the problems. If you start to argue, stop and arrange to meet again in a day or two and try again to sort your issues without fighting. Hopefully you'll be able to sort everything out and get back together.
Time apart will not solve this, especially as you love each other so much and time apart is making you so depressed. Good luck honey, I really hope you two are able to work it out and get back together.
Claire xx
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do i tell the guy i work with that i really like him or do i just keep it to myself? most of the time he acts like he hates me but like today he gave me a hug and i was like "aww" so im so freaking confused right now its not even funny!!! then his friend stated coming up to the movies and talking to him and he would talk to me and he seems really cool. GOSH!!!!! i dont know what to do i really like the guy i work with but then again i like his friend...if someone could give me some advice it would really help me out. thank you!!!
Well you know some guys act like they hate a girl so that their true feelings don't show, so maybe he secretly really likes you. Another sure sign that he likes you is if, even though it's like he hates you, he's always trying to get your attention while doing that. I think you should just pluck up the courage to tell him because you liked him first and the signs are there. You'll regret it if you don't tell him, so just go for it!!
Plus, even if he turns you down, you can still go for his friend. Either way you should end up with a guy that you like in the end, so really your a very lucky person :-)
Good luck, hope it turns out okay
Claire xx
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Hey, so heres my problem, theres this girl. We like each other. But we have(more like she has) made the decision not to date until were like 16. So thats fine i'm willing to wait. But theres a lot of other girls that like me. And i do want to date and she said that she doesn't care if i date while i wait. But.....well i really like her. Like almost love her. Cus we've known each other since like the age of 3. But i moved when i was 8. And now at 14 she shows up at my church. So i'm really confused on what to do. So PLEASE HELP ME!!!
You have to sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her you've tried to hold your feelings back, but you can't do it any longer as you love her so much. Why does she not want to date till your 16? Is it a religious thing or is it maybe an excuse to mask her fear? If it's the second option, then talk to her about it and try to convince her that you will take your relationship slow and will handle every problem together.
However, if it's the first option or she still wants to wait till your both 16, then I would suggest that you start having other relationships. I know it's hard but you have got to take your mind off her or you'll drive yourself insane. Whatever you do, don't compare other girls to her and try not to think about her, if you do hit yourself.
Good luck honey
Claire xx
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My sister is 18 and has recently been kicked out by my mother due to dumb issues. Now I love them both, but my sister is telling me crap about my parents and my parents are telling me crap about my sister. They basically want me to pick sides. Do I pick my parents that have raised me and that I will be stuck with for at least 4 more years? Or do I pick my sister because shes like my best friend?
No, you shouldn't have to pick a side and refuse to. You have to tell your parents and your sister that as much as you love them, you love the other(s) just as much and don't want to have to fall out with anybody. You also have to ask them if they could stop bitching about each other to you as it is really unfair and makes you feel horrible. If you say this with maturity, they should listen to you and respect your decision.
Good luck honey
Claire xx
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well lately my friend has totally been flirting with my boyfriend.She knows she does it but she just shrugs it off.I hate it!!like we will be walking in the halls together and she will come right between us and rather close to him i might add.i dont wanna ruin our friendship, but me and this guy really love each other.we've been together through thick and thin.Please help me and i hope this wasn't to long.
I sorry honey but this girl doesn't sound like a friend to me. If she truly cared and respected you like a true friend should, then there is no chance in hell that she would be flirting with your boyfriend.
If you still want to keep her as a friend though, try talking to your boyfriend about it. Make sure he knows that you trust him enough to know that he would never cheat on you, but that what she is doing is just really annoying you. Then ask him to speak to her, without mentioning that it was you that asked him too. That way she'll probably be embarrassed by your boyfriend telling her to back off more than you and she'll think that he was acting on his own, meaning you'll be able to stay friends but successfully get her to stop flirting with your boyfriend.
Good luck
Claire xx
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(14/f)
The problem is I have this boyfriend, who i care about a lot.. but.. i think he im starting to not like him like that anymore.. there are some problems.. like he wont talk to me or anything!! hes like the shyest person in the world when hes around me and i hate it!! cause when hes with other people hes like crazy.. how can i make a break up... so we can still be friends or at least talk to eachother..??
I know that he may be driving you crazy, but it may just be because he is really nervous that he'll make a mistake or not meet your expectations. Try talking to him before you definetly decide to break up, tell him exactly how you feel and what you think is going on. Ask him to explain why he's been acting the way he has. Then once he responds, try working through the problems because if you don't try fixing it first, your taking the easy way out and that is how most divorces are decided. Soz know itz deep but hey you gotta start somewhere :-)
Then if he still is buggin you, get him on his own and tell him that as much as you like him, you think that you work better as friends than as boyfriend and girlfriend. Hopefully he'll take it well. Then you need to give him some space to move on. After 2 weeks or so, try talking to him and invite him to go to the cinema with you and some of both of your mates. In time you'll talk more and get used to being just friends.
Good luck honey
Claire xx
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i've been really doubting Jesus Christ these past few days. i believed in Jesus before and i trust that i'll believe in him once again, i just need some motivation and i need to be reminded again of his grace and glory. please help me turn my life back to God.
Think of all the good things that have happened to you in your life and all the happy times you've had. They were all thanks to Jesus and God. Then think of all the sad times you've experienced, but how you managed to pull through them. He was the one who helped you make it. If you still doubt read the bible and all the miraculous and brilliant things He did. Also go to Church and pray, for that is where His presense is felt the strongest and He'll be able to draw you back to believing.
Good luck
Claire xx
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ok my boyfriend invited me over to his house to watch a movie and his parents were not home. and about half way in the movie he leaned over and kissed me and we started making out and them he took all of my clothes off and we started having sex it was so much fun!!! My friends were all asking what happend at his house should i tell them?
Only if you trust them 100% and definetly would want your friends knowing what the two of you got up to. You don't want one of your friends falling out with you next week and it ending up all over the school that you had sex. Plus sometimes just you and your boyfriend knowing about it makes it even more exciting and special. Personally I think you should keep it to yourself for the moment, give them the toned down version if you need to and in time maybe tell your closest friend. That way it won't be used against you and it'll continue to be an exciting secret that you and your boyfriend share.
Good luck and have fun
Claire xx
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hello to get straight to the point i lost some one i loved and i dont mean a family member.im happy he moved on and im happy i have a boyfriend now to. he says i can talk to him about anything its werid to talk to him now though. and i like my boyfriend alot but i still think about my ex ALOT and i cant get him out of mine. its driving me crazy. please help
I think the fact that you and your ex are still pretty close is what is stopping you from completely moving on. I think that you have to get some space and point this out to him. Tell him that although you still like him loads, you need to have some time apart so that you both can move on. Then try to not call him whatsoever, only txt him every once in a while and try not to see him too much or at least as much as can be helped. Spend a lot of time with your boyfriend getting to know him better and every time you think of your ex, slap your hand.
In time you should eventually realise that now you are over your ex and that you like your new boyfriend better now in a romantic way. Then you and your ex can start to spend more time together again and re-build your friendship. I know its rotten but if you really want to stop thinking about him, it's what you have to do.
Good luck honey, remember the pain won't last forever. Better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all.
Claire xx
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A girl in my group of friends who i HATE is moving ..all my friends are like crying but i cant wait till she moves -is this wrong of me? Im kind of confused and its hard to keep it from my friend but i know if i told them i was happy theyd think i was a bitch ..what do i do??
It's alright that you can't wait till she moves, after all you can't expect yourself to like everyone that you know or that your friends like. Don't get confused about it, it is simply that, although it's not very nice, you don't like this girl and thats okay because everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
However I don't think you should really say anything to your friends. It would just start an argument over nothing. Be civil to the girl as long as you have to see her and talk to her. If your friend does notice that something isn't right and she asks about whether you've got something against this girl, just say that your don't hate her but your not exactly her biggest fan. Your friend should understand this as it's not up to her who you choose to be your friend and point this out to her if she doesn't understand.
Apart from that keep it zipped and you should be fine. Good luck
Claire xx
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okay i have a BIG problem , i hate going to the school i go to and ive been really depressed lately. I try to tell my parents i dont want to go to that school but of course like most parents they dont listen. All i do is cry and i hardly get any sleep at night..i need a break from all of it i try to tell them i need a break before going to school to clear my head so i can actually pay attention. How is the best way to tell them all of this and how do i get their attention for atleast 5 minutes? Thank you sooooo much!! Xoxo
Okay, well if you aren't getting through to your parents, try telling the relative that your closest to, eg. your aunt. Tell them everything you have said here in a very serious and mature way. Do not say anything like you are going to kill yourself if they don't listen as this will just result in them thinking that you are just trying to get attention and they will then not listen to you. Once your relative fully understands the problem and that your parents don't seem to understand how important it is, get them to speak to your parents. They will be more willing to listen if it is coming from another adult who completely believes how terrible the situation is. Then hopefully they will take steps to make your life happier.
If this doesn't work, try telling one of your teachers at school about it as this will really force your parents to face the problem. Also, you could try phoning a helpline found in the phone book or the advice sections is magazines to ask for further advice.
Hope your okay. Good luck
Claire xx
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what do you say to a guy when you want them to fall in love with you?.. irate 5s.
Well firstly I'd tell the guy how you feel about him. If you want him to fall in love with you then you obviously have strong feelings for him. You have to let him know this so that you can move forward, perhaps date and then he would eventually fall in love with you.
Alternatively, you could always flirt with him a lot and give him loads of compliments as these always go down well with a guy. Tell him how hot he is, how cool his jacket is, how brill his hair looks etc. Most importantly be yourself. I'm sure he'll be unable to resist you. Good luck
Claire xx
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i think my best friend is either bulemic or anorexic. she weighs about 119 pounds, wears a size 0 jeans and she constantly goes on about how shes fat. SHE IS NOT AT ALL. she graphs her weight on a chart (i saw it) and it's REALLY starting to scare me. what should i do? talk to somebody about it, talk to her...? please help!!
You have to seek advice from somebody else. People who suffer from diseases like anorexia probably will not take you seriously and will continue to think that they need to lose weight, are fat, etc. First what you need to do is contact a helpline (these can be found in the phone book or teen magazines in the help sections). They will be able to give you better advice on what to do and how to handle the problem.
I would also advise you to either tell your parents and then get them to talk to your friends parents as this will make them take the problem more seriously if it is coming from another adult. Or, if you know them well enough, you could tell her parents yourself. Either way, her family must be notified of their daughters condition so that they can take steps to prevent it from getting further out of hand.
If you really want, you can try to talk to your friend about it, but I honestly don't think you will get through to her.
Good luck honey
Claire xx
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Hi there, I'm 14 years old and I have a problem with self harm. It used to be controlable, but now it's an addiction. No one else knows, and I don't know how I can stop, because it's getting really bad. How do I control it??
You need to get help. The best person to go to is your parents, close friends or someone that you trust. If you can't face them, go to your GP or phone up a helpline that specialises in teens that self harm (these can usually be found in teen magazines or in the phone book). You need to talk to someone about this. Only with the love and support of another person will you be able to work out exactly why you choose to self harm and how to control it or stop it all together. Please talk to someone about this before it gets worse. You've made very important steps by realising that you do have a problem and asking for advice. Now you need to go one step further and seek someone who can help. If you need someone to talk to at any time, e-mail me on csbubbles@aol.com. Good luck honey.
Claire xx
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Ok i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months now and in the beginning of the realtionship my bestfriend thought we were perfect for eachother... well about 2 weeks ago he fractured his ankle and was really upset about becuz he couldn't play baseball and baseball is his life!! so he got really angry and took it all out on me! well now were both over it and we couldn't be any happier with each other... well the problem is i always told my bestfriend wat was happening and she kept telling me to break up with him and that she doesn't like him... how can i prove to her that my bf and i are perfect for each other and everybody has their fights!?
Although what your friends think does matter to you, remember the only thing that really does matter is what you and your boyfriend think and what you both know to be true.
However to get your best friend back on your side, explain to her how happy you are with him and ask her to think of all the times her parents have fought. She'll soon realise that every relationship does have their fights. If she doesn't, then I don't think there is much more that you can do to convince her. Just ask her do what a friend should do ie. support you and keep her bad opinions about your boyfriend to herself! Then the longer you and your boyfriend are together, the more she will come around to your way of thinking and realise just how perfect you two are for each other. Good luck
Claire xx
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ok i saw hitch today and it made me think even more of him! i just can't stop thinking of him. its driving me insane too. what should i do... i mean i really like him but im shy, i think hes shy too but i mean is it crazy that i think of him like evey second?
PLZ HELP! i rate high
*me
I think of the guy I like constantly too, so don't worry it is normal. If you like him this much honey, you have to be brave and ask him out. You will regret it so much if you don't. Alternatively, you could get a friend to do it for you, but this way things might be awkward the first time you see each other after it. Go on, think about how happier you will be if he says yes.
However there is a chance that he will say no, so if your too scared to take the risk why don't you try to find out if he likes you too from one of his mates? This will take longer though, but at least you will get a heads up on what his answer will probably be when you ask him.
In my opinion I think you should just ask him outright. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Claire xx
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