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I'm Hallie. I'm really understanding, and love to help people. Feel free to ask me anything! I'll never be rude, unless you are asking questions that are agianst my beliefs, and you come across as totally selfish or just plain stupid. I wont answer questions that just go on and on about he said she said type of stuff. and i wont answer questions that are like "omgee, i need a personality! help me find one!" NO. thats gay, and ill just tell you to be yourself! PLEASE give me feedback. idont care about the rating, i just wanna know if i helped any!
and really, feel free to ask me stuff at anytime! ill try my best of course. :)

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My face, especially my nose and my forehead, is kinda shiny but I'm not sure why or how. Its not oily at all, its completely clean. My nose also has these really tiny dark dots all over it and I have no idea what they're from. Can somebody help me? How do I make my face less shiny and healthier looking?

hhmm.. i think those dots are black heads and all you do is place a hot washcloth over them and then wash it with blackhead face soap. I also have a shiny face and its not oily, but i figure cuz my skin is thin and it stretches over my face features, if that makes since at all. Try to wear powder foundations and not liquid, or if you do, put powder over it. But personaly, id pefer a shiny face because it makes you look all glowy:)

Well a year ago around this time I was at a soccer game and hyper extended my knee out of place.
I had to wear a knee brace for about 2 months.
My knee still hurts today if I keep it bent for long.
Or if I stay sitting down for a long time with my legs normally dangling off the couch, it still hurts my knee to be in one place for a hile.
It's only my right knee.
I was wondering if this is anything to worry about, or if I should go to a doctor, to get x-rays.
Thanks a lot.
:D

Is this claudine? lol

i feel like i'm wearing a mask . everyone sees me as this preppy girl wearing hollister & crap . but i'm really not like that at all. i listen to scremo and rock music , and i wan't to dye my hair blonde & black . i want to come out and say it . it's really hard saying this but i really wanna , and i wan't to start being more like myself . but im not sure how . i want to express how i feel . is there anyone that understands where and what im coming from and can help me? i probobly sound like some overly obsessed person whos all into lables . but i just need to start telling the truth.

Just be yourself. Wear what you want. Say what you want. Listen to what you want. Dont worry about not fitting into a stereotype. You can be preppy and punk at the same time, as long as its you!

do you think that we dont realize how much a person meant to you until they are gone?
we dont realize how much a person meant to you until they are gone like for example when your friend is moving while your avoiding them because you dont wanna get hurt but next thing you know you getting hurt anyways? i mean i think if you distance yourself from that person or spend time with them hurts the same...dont you think? sorry im not good at english so its all mixed up

You don't relize how much people mean to you intill they are gone. Intill you see them at a distance and you only have memories of them. Its very weird, because when you are TOO close to people, than you get so sick of them, and it just causes drama. Familiar faces are way different than unfamiliar. But even no matter how annoying your friends might be, be there because you are their friend and you care about them. And of course, you never know when they will be gone. Also, Try to take breaks from friends, because, this way they wont drain you down. I hope to help.

i'm thinking about getting bangs, like the straight across ones but i'm not sure if i'd look good with them. and it'a a pretty big change so like do most people look good with them? i have an oval face shape heres a picture http://i128.photobucket.com/albums/p198/hannahisgangsturr/SD532520.jpg
i know it's kinda weird ha but it's the best i have of looking straight at my face..

and heres a picture of the bangs i want
http://i100.photobucket.com/albums/m25/uniquest1/Ashlee%20Simpson/wallpaper1_800.jpg

thanks!

I recently cut my bangs and i regret it SO MUCH. it just makes me look alot younger. I like your hair how it is, maybe try side bangs if you are looking for a new look. But if you decide to get them straight across, make them long anough to pull them out of the way when you get sick of them!

alright, i called a bunch of local sport stores to get my lacrosse head restrung but none of them do that, so i was wondering how anyone else got their heads restrung and if they sent it back to the store or whatever, please helpp

no one knows this answer so stop.

What are good [romantic/comedy] books to read over the summer?

TWILIGHT. NEW MOON.
and any books by sarah dessen!

How do you make your arms fatter any excercises my arms are really skinny and i look like a stick in tops thank you

You dont want bigger arms haha! i wish i had skinny arms because it makes you look alot thinner. But if you really want them, you can lift weights, and do push-ups. Also, put your arms out to the side and spin them in tiney circles. All this will give you arm muscules.

Yesterday I went up to the college I'll be starting in the fall. I registered for my classes and what not. There were other freshman there too. No one knew each other, but by the end of the day they were all talking with one another. I didn't say a word all day. No one said anything to me. I'm not saying it's all their fault. I should have spoken up and joined in the coversation, but I'm too scared I guess. I'd love to go up and start a conversation with someone, but I'm always worried they'll just look at me weird and wonder why I'm talking to them.

I'm not exactly shy, I'm just never the one to start a conversation, you know? I don't know where to start or what to talk about. On the other hand, if someone approached me, I'd talk with them no problem. So how can I fix this? I'm worried that if I wait for people to come to me I won't meet anyone. The whole reason I wanted to go away to college was so I could meet new people, but it's harder than I thought I guess.

Suggestions?

Although you may not think you are shy, you kind of are because you are afriad to go up to people and start talking. Dont worry about what people think, just go and say are you nervous for college too? or, what are you going to major in?

15/f (sixteen in a week)

When taking personality tests or being asked questions, I am usually so balanced in my answers that it's hard to choose.

Example:
Q: Do you rely on improvisation or careful planning more?

I do both, in nearly every situation. I focus on details and the big picture, etc.

I love wearing high heels and being a blonde/black haired hot girly girl. And a quiet straight A, dedicated and responsible student. But I love going out with guys and playing in the mud catching frogs and snakes.

How do I figure out who I am? Nothing describes me. I try to excell at everything I do and I am a perfectionist sometimes.

How do I learn to describe myself? Am I just 'everything' and 'nothing' at the same time?

Wow I'm so confused, help is greatly appreciated, thanks! =)

You are 15. still trying to figure things out. But i love to take personality test too. Search meyers briggs test on google. And take the long ones because those are the most accuret. And when you are saying that you dont no how to describe yourself, you just did! and you seem like a really neat person! sometimes we dont always know who we are because we cant see it sometimes,
but try to take one of those personality test, and tell me if it helped you, because the description for me was so accuret and it helped me discover ALOT about myself! when you are done let me know what letters you are. And if you dont no what im talking about, you'll see when you are done! so i hope to help:)

Ok well when you're sad they say you should like tell someone and stuff but when i tell my best friends it seems liek it doens't matter much to them or they don't really feel any sympathy or they're not good at like cheering up.

And I can't jsut write all my feelings on this site and stuff you know, what can i do?

I feel so down and not even my best friends know how I'm feeling. And every part of my house is occupied so i can't even try to phone the kids help line thingy that I've always wondered what it's like.

Is there a site where you write all your feelings and people write stuff for you? I dunno I just feel so weak! I always need my spirit to be up and people to cheer me up. I'm sick of it!

This is the time in your life that you need to grow independent and realize that even your best friends won't always understand and be their for you because no one is perfect. I used to feel the same way, and i would get so angry at my friends, and they would get so angry at me for always being depressed and whiney, and stuff like that. I've learned to organize my thoughts in a journal, and work on the things about my character that i need to change to become a deeper and better person. I used to feel so weak too, and cry ALL the time. But ever since ive been upbeat about changing myself for the better, ive become alot more confident and way more happier. Ive learned that people will not always be their to help you because not everyone knows what you are feeling and thats okay. If their are specific problems you are dealing with, write them down, and insted of dreading the problems and having them way you down, look at them as something you can work on yourself. Be confident and dont let it bring you down, insted concer the problems and just GROW! yuo will become alot stronger, really. i really hope i made since but i know how you feel and i hope you can really have some personal growth. If you ever need anything just ask really, ill be more than happy to help! :)

I'm a teenage girl who has way more maturity than any other teenager you'll meet. I suffer from depression, and well everyone in my town is a shallow preppy conceited betch who only cares about their nails/hair/clothes/etc.

The problem is i just choose not to obsess over that inane stuff (to a certain extent- It's not like I disregard my appearance completely) and people think that's really weird.

I'm a thespian and musical theater is all I care about.

Why am I the only person in the world who has REAL values, and would rather spend time doing something REAL, like musical theater, instead of just doing something inane like shopping?

I cry about it all the time.

everyone asks me "what are you so sad about?" and i never know what to say. :(

FIRST i must say, that you are such an amazing person. I feel this way all the time, and sometimes people just make me want to throw up because of how stupid and shallow they are. Try to teach these people what life is all about, and add some meaning to your life, and try talking to people who might not be the prettiest peole in the world, and not like just preppy people. You arent the only one who has real values, because i know alot of people like you, and im only 14. You just have to find people like that, to challange you to be a better person. Not saying that you think you are better than everyone else, because i feel that way all the time, but try not to make yourself feel that you are the only real one, because sometimes even the most preppiest people are just covering up just as much pain as the next person

14/f

i hate being alive.

i hate everything i've ever done in this earth.

i don't enjoy anything, nothing holds my attention, nothing interests me. i'm always tired and pissed and upset.

i don't have any friends, and i don't have a bf.

i hate how life is only about obsession with your own body and judging people.

i wish i could die.

but i don't know how.

Okay you really need to listen. I know that it might sound like the worse pain in the world right now, but you are only 14! life will move on, and you will make friends. people will come into your life and change it. you will fall in love, and you will change others lives as well. If you are always tiered and upset, you really have to change your way of thinking. Read good books that help you see life in a different way. listen to motavating music, and dont focus on just you! because if you are looking into suicide, its pretty selfish. Although you might not see it, maybe people probably care about you, and i KNOW ATLEAST a good few people really love you, and would love to help you. Do charity work, and listen to other poeples problems. Dont keep swiming around in your own emotions. This way youre life will have meaning. if it gets work, i suggest you get help, and see a therapist. You could probably have depression disorder and tahts why you cant help feeling this way. I really wish you luck and future happiness :) if you EVER need to talk feel free too! i really want to help and ill be your friend!!

I am so vain, shallow, and pathetic. But I realized this a long time ago and cannot change it. My whole mood depends on how good I look. I skip school when I look bad (when I havn't waxed my disgusting excesive facial hair..im a girl, it unfair, i hate that i have it!) and when im forced to school, i get in fights and lots of trouble.. I fail tests.. etc etc etc.
When Im in a good mood, i get good grades, make friends, help people - all is good.

Problem is.. im getting more and more vain every day. I hate my huge nose, my excessive hair ALL OVER MY BODY, my tiny eyes, my small lips, my uneven skin. I get more and more depressed everyday. I've looked in to surgery but they refuse to do it on someone my age..too young.

Help me please.

I know you probably are looking for answers to fix your flaws, but you just need to stop focusing on looks, and relize how beautiful life is! their is so much more than to look pretty. Although their are things you can do, which is pretty much in the other advices people have given you, maybe you are just obsessed and a perfectionist with beauty. Maybe you are looking in the mirror to closely and being way to hard on yourself. I really hope to help, but if working hard on your self to be beautiful is more important than to work hard on yourself to change your shallowness than thats pretty sad. but i really hope you see what im trying to tell you.

Ok I am 15/f.I KNO I'm not bi, But when I see 2 naked girls kissing AND ONLY KISSING it really turns me on.On the internat.Is this normal?
~Athena

It is normal because sometimes we tell ourselves that we arent suppose to like certian things and so we try to block it out, but really our brain tricks us because we obsess about not liking it. try not to over think it and just be honest about it, since we are all teenagers experiencing new emotions and hormones. just dont let it get to you.

14/f

I'm just a really lonely person. all the time. I don't have siblings, and I don't have friends or a boyfriend. I can't make and keep a friend, unless THEY initiate it. I'm not really shy or anything but i just don't know what it is.

my life exists only on the internet.

What can I do to feel less lonely?

Learn to love people and just help people. Be curious of others and talk with them about their problems. That might sound weird, but if you get a different focus then you wont be lonely and your life will definitely have a purpose. Join a youth group at a church, or join a sport team. Join clubs, and just invite people over and just talk to everyone and be really nice. Everyone wishes that life was like the movies, when people just come into their lives and change it. but reality is not like that. We have to work for things, like friends, boyfriends, ect. We cant just expect it to come to us. Thats how you get to know people and see who you click with, and find a whole lot of things about yourself. you might not feel that you click with alot of people, but make yourself worth knowing. and who knows, sometimes, as twisted as life is, sometimes the most beautiful things are unexpected. But we still have to work for alot of things, and we do have to try to be friends with people, because everyone is the same way. and once you meet really close friends, you wont have to try! i really hope to help, because i kinda no what you feel like and it really does hurt like hell.

14/f

I'm more upset than I usually am right now because a guy friend of mine just told me that this other girl said i was fat and was making fun of me. I used to not think I was fat, even though I am. I'm curvy and i thought that was sexy, but apparently it's not okay. I'm sitting here crying right now and i've been doing that all day. It's not my fault that I don't have a metabolism. I eat 1200(or fewer) calories a day, only healthy food, and I work out every day, but lo and behold I'm still a fatass! And everyone else i know is an anorexic bitch who eats whatever she wants.

If you don't believe that I'm fat- take a look at this pic: (yes i know the clothes are form-fitting- that's so you can see my figure better)

http://i113.photobucket.com/albums/n210/LovelyBoylan/howfat.jpg

please don't say anything like "Oh you're so fat hunny you just need to exercise and eat right!" BECAUSE I ALREADY DO BOTH OF THOSE THINGS! GOOD LORD!

So i'd really like some advice on how to feel better about what this girl did to me.

thanks.

all you can do is eat healthy, and excercise exercise exercise! maybe you could talk to a doctor about helping you with a diet plan if you are worried about your health though, and ask them why its hard for you to loose weight. Trust me this world is so messed up and you arent fat, you just arent skinny, which ALOT of people arent, and its OKAYY because at least you are healthy. dont obsess about it seriously, because that would make you like all the other insecure girls in this world. Rise above it and look at things from a way different perspective. Charish your flaws and look what makes you beautiful! I know it might be hard to do right now because you are wrapped into being thinner, but you really need to tell yourself to stop worrying about that, and just worry about being healthy!

btw- the skinny girls that eat whatever they want, will blow up when they get older. This is because there diet habits are totally wacked, and when their matabolism slows down (which happens in the 20s) then they will BLOW! so dont be jelious, seriouly!

at night i get really scared to sleep. i always think i hear noises and i cry and shake. i dont know what to do i've been having this prob my whole life. im 13 btw. does anyone have any tips i can do. i have those night time soundtracks but they dont really work and i always get scared to listen to them considering i think someone might be in my house!! PLEASE HELP ME=[

I used to have this same problem and i would always have to go sleep with my LITTLE SISTER becuase i was so freakin scared i thought my room was haunted or possessed. I even talked to my preist and he said to say bible verses over and over while you are trying to go to sleep and its very comferting. You are either being paranoid, or maybe there is something going on in your room. Try praying before you go to bed, fall asleep watching a good comedy show.. or get a small dog or cat to keep you comferted! i have a cat and she is always on my bed sleeping beside me which is so comferting! maybe if it gets really bad you could see a therapist because you might have this paranoid disorder. i hope to help :)

im trying to loose weight. i know i have to eat healthy and all that stuff. so i dont need a lecture on that. does running or walking up and down stairs a few times help?

thanks!

Yeah, but maybe more than a few times! Walking(actrully fast walking) actrully helps you loose wait better because your heart rate is more up. if you fast walk 30 minutes a day that would seriously help you ALOT! :) and maybe even just 4 times a week!

Can anyone tell me what love is like? Decribe it to me please.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

(thats a bible verse)

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