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Meeting new people.
Yesterday I went up to the college I'll be starting in the fall. I registered for my classes and what not. There were other freshman there too. No one knew each other, but by the end of the day they were all talking with one another. I didn't say a word all day. No one said anything to me. I'm not saying it's all their fault. I should have spoken up and joined in the coversation, but I'm too scared I guess. I'd love to go up and start a conversation with someone, but I'm always worried they'll just look at me weird and wonder why I'm talking to them.
I'm not exactly shy, I'm just never the one to start a conversation, you know? I don't know where to start or what to talk about. On the other hand, if someone approached me, I'd talk with them no problem. So how can I fix this? I'm worried that if I wait for people to come to me I won't meet anyone. The whole reason I wanted to go away to college was so I could meet new people, but it's harder than I thought I guess.
Suggestions?
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Wow, we must be soul sisters =] Your situation is my life story. What I like to think of his how to make a good first impression and as we all know the first ones are the ones that last a lifetime. If people see you as one who is timid, it's going to be hard to break out of that type of behavior, so take some time to think of how outgoing you're willing to be and show through example just how energetic you are! You'll be fine =]
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i'm the same way, and here's what i do... i walk up to a big group and say:
me: hi, i don't know any of y'all, i'm [name], where are y'all from?
other people: hi, we're [names] from [places] blahblah
me: cool, [bring up something cool about where they're from].
if they don't really know each other yet, then they probably feel the same way you do. so when you tell them a little bit about yourself, like your name and where you're from, they can start to talk to you. and that's like having somebody approach you, right? it makes things easier. don't wait for people to go to you.
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I have the same sort of problem as you. At my registration, however, I was lucky enough to initially make friends with this girl Jessey (who I'll actually be rooming with next year). She's a whole lot more outgoing than I am, so I managed to meet a lot more people than I thought I would going in to registration. I think that if I hadn't talked to her early on I wouldn't have talked to anyone all day. That's how I am around most strangers.
Luckily what my story shows is that no matter what, someone will always talk to you because they are intensely outgoing. Make sure that the next time you're in the college situation, you look open to talk to people. When you go to college, I also suggest you buy the game Apples to Apples. It's a really popular game among poor college students because the variations on it are infinite. It's also easy to play and definitely a good way to make friends and start conversation without alcohol. You will meet people and you will have a good college experience. That's just how it works.
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Please don't worry about it, I'm the same way. It's like if you go to say something you think they'll just turn around and judge you for trying to join in on the conversation. And it'd be a lot easier if they'd approach because it'd be less pressure. But please don't worry about it. They're in the same position you are in. Try to remember that fact. Try an ice breaker like, "Hey I'm (your name), what's your name?" And ask where are they from and maybe where they went to high school. Or you can most defintely ask people what their majors are and what they're thinking about doing for professions when they get out of college.
It's normal to be afraid to approach new people. Mostly everyone when they start college are nervous especially if they're out of state. It's like they're out of their comfort zone of being home. Just introduce yourself and try to ice breakers. It'll probably help and you'll feel more relaxed. It'll help you get to know the other college freshmen at the same time.
Relax and don't worry about it though. Everyone's there to start a new chapter in their life so try to remember that.
Good luck and hope this helps.
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Although you may not think you are shy, you kind of are because you are afriad to go up to people and start talking. Dont worry about what people think, just go and say are you nervous for college too? or, what are you going to major in?
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