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Olive my 6 week old new kitten.
My sister Melissa [19] found a kitten in a box at a lake near by my house, she went around the neighborhood and asked if it was anyones kitten, all answered no.
My sister and I [14.5] decided to keep it, we took it to the vet and they said its VERY healthy and its a perfect kitten.
We told my mom she said no, but we already spent 500 bucks on the shots and everything! We love this cat and my sister and I cried for hours last night, not able to sleep. My mother said she will give my sister 500 bucks to pay back, but she wants the cat out!
We begged my mom to show her that we are mature enough to take care of the kitten, she kept saying no.
She said the kitten will ruin her furniture. We already have an older cat, she hates her but she will have to deal. And Olive is declawed, already knows how to use a litter box, and is very nice.
What can we say to her to allow us to keep it?
And adding more info.. when my sister and i were very little, were 5 years of age apart. and she still tells us to do this. if we want it "GO FOR IT" but she wants us to go for something better.
HELP! we really want this kitten!
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dear olive my 6 week old kitten,
tell your mom she is declawed and you r mature enough to have another kitten
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I have a cat they not that bad there just cute !!! All cats r different but thats probley what your mom thinks that what if this cat is different then the others!! GOOD LUCK!!!
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In the end, it's her house and her rules. That doesn't mean that you can't try to find a compromise or work things out in some way, but it does mean that you might eventually find that you can't win, no matter what you do or say.
It's my opinion that your mother is being unreasonable. If she or someone else in the house had a cat allergy, that would be a good reason not to have a kitten, but you have a cat already and so that can't be it. You have indeed shown responsibility in MOST ways. I say "most" because you really should have checked with your mother BEFORE essentially deciding that you were going to keep this kitten - she may be upset that you didn't consult her from moment one. However, you were motivated by compassion and kindness, so I think that minor breach of family etiquette can be forgiven.
There are some things to deal with. One is that if your existing cat hates the new kitten, there will be problems. She may attack the kitten or "protest" its presence by marking her territory or displaying other antisocial behaviors. There are ways to encourage an existing cat to accept a new kitten, and if you are able to keep it in the end, you'll want to look into that. You'll definitely want to double things up like litterboxes, food bowls, scratching posts, and bedding - don't give them reasons to fight!
But back to your mom, and persuading her. Here are some things that come to mind:
(1) Your older sister is 19 years old. It would seem to me that she'll probably be living on her own soon, in a few years anyway. At that time, she could take the "kitten" (who won't be a kitten anymore) with her.
(2) It is entirely possible that if you are compelled to send the kitten to a shelter, it will not be adopted, and it will be euthanized. Mention this to your mom (but try not to cry about it when you do - you don't want to look like you're going for drama).
(3) Ask your mom if you can keep it long enough to find it a good home, as opposed to sending it to the shelter. With any luck, she'll change her mind after a while.
(4) See if you actually can find a friend who is willing to take the kitten. It won't be a nice as having it yourself, but at least it won't be gone forever.
(5) If all else fails, appeal to her maternal instinct. Tell her that you've been brought up to feel that compassion and tenderness are good qualities, and that to toss this kitten back out the door is simply against your nature. This is a last resort, as it may backfire on you - your mother may take it as an implication that she is coldhearted and thoughtless.
As I say, you may have to come to terms with the fact that there is nothing you can do or say that will allow you to keep this kitten. If that is the case, try to take the bad news as gracefully as you can. It will serve you well in the future if and when you have other discussions about your level of maturity and discipline.
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You're telling your mom that you can and will take care of the cat but you haven't actually showed her. I know this sounds crazy but you could make a powerpoint supporting you and your sister. My friend made a powerpoint and got to get 2 dogs, and her mom is pretty hard to convince. I have 3 cats and one of them has no claws, so she never ever ruins the furniture. Good Luck!
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To add to the person below me, besides telling her all of the positives, explain to her how responsible you've ALREADY been by already taking her to the vet. You've already started taking care of the little thing and if she's around, chances are your mom'll get just as attached to it as you are. :]
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Explain to her how much you want it! Tell her that you will keep the litter box clean and everything. Share all the possitives about keeping the cat.
=] eventually she'll come around especially if she gets attached to it.
good luck!
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