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ahhh!!! im gonna go crazy. one of my best friends thinks her life sucks and it doesn't. because her boyfriend broke up with her and her parents don't treat her right. she said she's going to start cutting herself and that she's given up on God. I don't know what to do. and please don't tell me to talk to her. if you do tell me what to say. because i'm really confused...

well i have a friend with those problems... but seriously she life is sucking for her right now. DOnt say it isnt becuase ovbiously she is having a hard time. Other people might have biger problems but that doesnt mean that her problems dont matter. You just need to be there for her. tell her your there for her and dont put her down. she is ovbiously in a very delicate place. talk to her.
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I didn't know what to put this under. My mom and I want to help out with the tsunami disaster by sending $, but my mom doesn't think it'll help. Like it won't be enough. What do you think? Should we send the money or no?
Thanks

this was the greatest natural desastor in a century. of course any money will help.its more the thought also... i would send some in but all i have is dimes and pennies... good luck.

I'm 35, and married for three years. I got married cause I was lonely and married the first guy who came around after my boyfriend and I split. In the meantime, boyfriend married someone else and has two kids. Recently boyfriend and family needed a place to live. They now live with us. I'm still in love with him. We've had sex, with our spouses approval... It was awesome as always. I want him more than my husband... husband is lousy in bed. Boyfriend loves his wife, and really only wants her, and a traditional marriage... without his ex being in love with him. I just need some advice... or a friend... someone to understand me.

hold up your husband and you ex's wife gave you guy permission 2 have sex. thats messed up. but i know its nice 2 offer him a roof but if it is causing you emotional strain i would find him another place 2 stay.

My friend told my other friends that this kid likes me, but i don't like him. I like someone else. I don't want to hurt his feelings because i know how it feels. What should i do?

this one dude who i think is discusting asked me out 9 times. just let them down easyily. tell them that it is swet of them but you odnt feel quite the same way.

i going skating with my boy friend tonight and i am going to wear some cute blue jeans with some top thats where i ned yalls help here is your chocies a jaket thats like a burgedy that says Abercombiewith the zipper pulled haft way down and you see a whit shirt or a orange that says Hollister zipper pulled haft way down with white shirt?????? any other ideas
Tanks
~~~SCM~~~

hollister becuase it isnt as widely known as abercrombie and i think it would create the illusion that you arent the ususal girl but are unique... kinda not the best advice but oh well

me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 9 months now and we havent had sex... it'll be 9 months on Jan.9th, and i was over his house yesterday when his parents werent home and he tryed to have sex with me, which he does all the time, and he got pretty far until i said no because his little sister was home and i didnt want her 2 walk in on us... but anyways getting to my point, should i have sex with him? plz help me im so confused, and i really dont no what i want to do either... oh just so you know im not a virgin either... and neither is he.
Love always,
*Court~*

I dont think any of us can tell you what to do except to make sure he respects your boundaries. If you feel comfortable with it and you trust him enough and you are all for it thats your decision. Make sure to use birth control and condom... the works to make sure you dont get pregnet. If you have a singel doubt about it... i wouldnt go for it. The best of luck

hey, well i am a 16 yr old girl. 2 years ago i was in a bad car accident and fell into a coma. i was in it for 2 years and i woke up a week ago. well, i am kinda out, and well i was wondering, what kind of stuff is in? stores, music, fashion, hair and stuff like that. i am kinda confused! thx!

wow that has got to be weird. I mean your 2 years older and you missed so much stuff. You woke up in time for christmas thats always good. well i would just go shoppign wiht your best friend talk to her and have her update you on stuff. good luck

Ok, well, right now, i'm in 7th grade. Well, a couple of weeks ago, i got bored and well, i fingered myself...i kno pretty desprit, eh? Well, anyway, me and my boyfriend r ready to go to the next step, and he wants to finger me. Well, see the only thing that's stopping me is that I don't know if there is any transmitted disease i can get. Id there any transmitted disease i can get or can i get hurt in any kind of way?

thnx for the help>> roxy

yes yo ucna get hurt but no there arent any stds with fingering. If you want to make sure he clips his fingernails. i think that would probualy hurt if he didnt and be sure you really want to let him. i havent done anything like that so im just guessing.

Okay, well, I'm 13, and two days ago I went to the bathroom and saw some blood in my...well, underwear...and I didn't talk to my mom about it I just waited to see what happened in a little while after I changed. The next day I didn't get any more blood, I just got big amounts of discharge, and this has never ever happened to me before. My face also broke out, and I was craving chocolate and I was really tired. Does this mean I'm going to get my period soon?

yes of course. So i would carry a couple of pads where ever you go. If you get a really bad feelign in your stomach like a horrible stomach ache go put one of immediatly... other wise youll have it in you underwear all day. Yuck! good luck.

I keep getting these nasty bloody noses, 5 times a day! What should i do?!

go to a doctor

I was in a mental institution and I got really close to one of the staff members that worked there, she helped me in every way possible and I thought of her as my mom. Since I have been out it seems like everytime I call the hospital to talk to her, they make an excuse for me to NOT talk to her. Last night my sister looked her up on the internet and come to find out, she lives a mile away from me, and I have her home phone number, I mailed her a christmas card this morning to her home, but I dont know if I should actually call her at home. I miss her so much and she made such a big impact in my life, what do I do? I don't want her to think that I am like stalking her or anything! ???????

of course you can call her. You should get your chance to thank her and try to bring her back into your life. goodluck

i havent had a girlfriend in a while im a 15 year old guy. im in my first year of high school. im not ugly in fact almost everyday the upper class men girls always telling me how cute i am i hate it though the only thing is im short im like 5'3 and at my school thats short i dont know why i cant get a girlfriend i dont know what im doing wrong thanks i need advice!!

well people are taller now because there aer growth hormones in certin foods like bacon and milk and eggs... etc. to get taller you could eat some of that more often. Thats just to get talelr i guess. Well i dont think your doing anything wrong i am sure that there are plenty of girls at your school that like you you just need to be roe aggresive and ask soemoen out.

ok so i have this so called friend that i hate so much and she hates me a lot to..........everytime we try to figure something out it seems to get bigger and bigger i mean i could be nice to her but it would be really hard for me to do that because i cant stand her in any way! you will probably just say dont hang out with her or anything....but my bestest friends are always hanging out with her so i have to hang out with her or i will lose all of my friends.....WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!? PLEASE HELP!

this kind of thing just happened to me. My old best friend isnt my friend anymore but we btoh hang out with the same kind of people. We just learned to tolerate eachother and make small talk when we are i n a situation where we are close to eachother. goodluck

My sister was raped and killed about a year ago ( we havent found out who it is yet but they're still looking)and I lately I have been see her well her ghost and she always says some thing but I cant hear her like she just moves her lips and I want to tell my mom but I'm afriad she will put me in some kind a hospital or something but about a week ago my sister came back and she made me fallow her some how I mean she walked through the wall and I just had to fallow her and when I did it I found an old beat down house and I really really wont to show it to some one because I think it might be the guy that killed her

freaky! i would advise telling your parents. DONT go into the house of course. I would definitly tell your parents because this could be useful info. i dotn know what else you can do besides report it.

Hi, my brother kind of has attitude problems and hes not gettin anything for xmas. My mom and dad aren't gettin anything for eachother and i feel bad for all of them. :( Does anyone hav any gift ideas? by the way my bro is 18. thx bye!

Santa will bring them gifts dont be glum!

alright...well I am going out with this guy and me and him have only been going out since friday (12-17). well he always says how much he is in love with me and I don't understand that at all, I mean I haven't even been with him that long!well we went shopping and got eachother x-mas presents but he only told me one thing he got me which was DIAMOND EARRINGS from this fricken expensive jewelry store. Well he got me something else and he told my friend but she won't tell me but she was really excited about it. I think he went way OVERBOARD and i didn't want him to buy me anything but of course he did. I do not know how to react when we exchange gifts tomorrow because I'm going be like holy crap!! So I have no idea what to do and how to react to that lol!

you need to tell him that it is really sweet of him to get you these nice gifts but it really isnt needed and that maybe he is moving a bit to fast for you in the love area. Tell him a card or something would have been fine. But dont forget to be very appreaciative of the gift.

I'm 6'11" 430lbs Male. I need a plan for weight loss, and i need to lose it soon. My doctor has suggested surgery, and i do not want to go there until i absoulty have to. It is literally killing me. Please give me some low cost solutions on losing weight. Thanks.

resist junk food remove it ALL from your hous and NOT by eating it. Replac it with healthier food. Have a daily work out. everynight before you go to bed do a certin amount of situps and push ups etc. Yo ucan rent extercise videos and go the gym. Dont go on atkins it truley isnt a healthy diet. Hope i helped a little. good luck keep me update on how things go k? I am really intrested.

I have a pretty big emergancy...
My boyfriend gave me a hicky like 30 minutes ago and I was wondering if theres ANYWAY to help speed the process of it disapearing?
please help if my parents see this then i'll get killed!

hide it with your hair or toothpaste or soem form of coverup.

I was wondering if it's possible to get pregnant from swallowing...my boyfriend and I have been messing around so this question came up. Thanks.

well i dont think swallowing your boyfriend will be anyproblems jsut be careful when you get to the fingernails. No seriously no you cant get pregnet. be more specific next time for this people who arent as bright as a new light bulb.

i Asked a question earlier about me datin a 19yr old.....ok......19 i kno but everytime someone says someone who is older than 16 goin out wit a much younger person every one first thinks "RAPE!!!!!" but i kno if i said he would neva do anything to me everyone would tell me that i cant be to sure.....well thats bull because this guy really really really likes me and im sick of hearin that sex is the only thing on his mind.....sorry but you really got to stop thinkin that every olda guy is gonna rape someone..... thanx to those who gave me good advice........i appreciate it.....

>>now ill ask again..sould i listen to my friends?....or go wit wat my heart tells me to?

well it is illegal to date someone kiss or anything if that person is overage (16) and you under. so yes if they kiss you or if you date him it IS rape. People arent jstu thinking that the yare knowing it. Rape isnt only sexuals intercourse. Think abotu that. good luck

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