why do i find myself being mean or not as caring about my home life/family members/friends and "nice" to strangers/aquantinces/people that dont matter as much? its not about reputation or anything. is it just easier to be mean to them because they know youre just tired or something
You are very very right. Its easier to be mean to them because you feel that they should know your tired, or stressed out, or upset. And you feel that they will always forgive you and accept you back, because they already know you and whats going on. Where as being mean to a stranger makes you feel weird because they will automatically judge you off of that, and maybe hate you, or be mean to you, and assume things about you, that you generally wouldnt want someone to assume. We all do it, but that doesnt make it okay. Its really good that you realized that on your own. Now the next time you find yourself doing this, stop. Say "I'm sorry, I'm very tired and I dont mean to take it out on you." And there is your start. Apologize, let them know that you recognize your own problem and that you do love them and you are trying to better yourself, because of that. Family and friends are way more important than any ol' stranger, let them know that you know that. Good luck :]
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I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish)
The first couple of people who answered your question must be about 14. Comming from someone whos almost 20 years old and has been through the same thing, im telling you it does suck. But your parents are right. The same thing happened to me, I was living off my parents, not having to pay them a dime, but the second a child gets theyre first job, they start having responsibilities. There is no place in life that you can live where you get free room and board, free food, free laundry services, free clothes etc. NO place. Your parents house is the only exception, until you get a job. Its better to learn these responsibilities when your young. It may suck but this is really good for you, not only are you learning now so that its not so hard later in life, but your helping out your family. So no, you are not being unreasonably ridiclous, any kid with a first time job would feel the same way, I did too. But what your parents are doing is very good for you and them both, and you will learn that. It will suck sometimes, just keep your head up and know that some really good things will come our of this in the long run. Dont worry! :]
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Okay, so I met this girl at a party/bbq thing last night. I think she was kinda drunk, and I was tipsy. Basically, we ended up making out and stuff, even though we barely knew each other. Well basically for the rest of the night we just ended up holding each other and making out and stuff like that and talking a little. The thing is, I really don't know much about her, and she gave me her number before the night was over. I kinda want to call her, but I don't know what to talk about at all. Can anyone suggest what I should do?
what do you mean, you dont know what to talk about?? talk about whatever is on your mind. questions like those come naturally so it wont seem akward. just get to know her, ask the things your wondering about, where she grew up, where she went to school, if she works, are her parents together, has she ever been out of the country. dont be one of those guys that immediately asks her if shes a virgin or how many guys shes been with either.. we dont like that. good luck! :]
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i'm on prescription medicine. i've missed like 5 doses. if i were to take those [each at 500mg] what would happen? that's 2000mg of medicine, so i'm worried. i haven't taken them yet, and i don't think i'm gonna take 5, but i just wanna know what will happen.
your never supposed to take all of what you missed, your just supposed to take ONE pill (or dose) and let it get back into your system. just do it like normal. most medicines you can only take 800mg maximum. so like i said just take one dose, and tomorrow do the same. just try not to miss anymore because everytime you miss the medice has to re-do everything it was trying to do before and start all over.
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i live in NY. is it to late to still be wearing UGGs? to me it is.. but i still see people wearing them? do you still wear themm? ..the weather here is like in the 50's.
well i see your worried about style. you should worry more about being comfortable. if you like them and you want to wear them then do it. 50's definately make it okay. i live in texas and the girls here still wear them.. just so you know, the weather here is in the 80's. so go for it if it makes you happy :]
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ok well theres this guy i work with and i thought he hated me because he never spoke to me, but turns out he has a crush on me...someone told me! and from then on it was kinda obvious. well the person who told me is like communicating between us , and she gave me his cell number and told me that he wants me to call him! but idunno i dont want to be the one to make the first move! you know? and hes the one who was intrested in me first so i think he should do something! what should i do....i want to talk to him, but not like that. Oh and the reason we cant talk at work is cause we're from different departments! thanks in advance
well this day in age its perfectly socially acceptable for a girl to make the first move. haha.. BUT i wouldnt either! i dont think its a girls place really, especially if like you said hes the one who seemed intersted first. you said that theres someone communicating between the two of you.. well just tell that person that you arent going to make the first move, theyll tell him, and hopefully things will work out from there.
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okay well this is really complicated. i have a friend... hes a good friend of mine. during the summer we liked each other and we hung out all the time, and we were kinda together, if you will. now its the new school year and he acts like he likes me but i dont think he does. but the problem is i still like him, a lot. its ridiculous, like he acts like he likes me all the time & he flirts and he says im his favorite girl and its just so hard to let go. and im so attatched to him, still, its soo bad. i mean i hear he likes another girl and i feel sick to my stomach. i dont know what to do. any advice? xx
i know exactly how you feel. im going through pretty much the exact same thing. i want to tell you what the last two people told you "tell him what your telling us" but from experience, its a lot harder than it sounds. you do need to work up the courage to tell him, and dont hold back when you do it. my problem is that ive waited too long now.. dont make the same mistake i did.
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Okay I like this guy and he is so sweet! I want him to know but I also don't want to. Do you think it would be best if he found out? He is a real nice guy though. I have a feeling if I don't go for him then someone else will take him. He might have a feeling that I like him since I stare alot and he looks back. And when he walks by my friend starts talking like oh don't you want to go that way now? Like in mushy way. So what do you think I should do? Any advice would be awesome!
i think you should tell him. why not? things are much better when theyre out in the open. things are never good kept inside. doing that will just cause a lot of un nessecary heartache and/or frustration..jealousy. etc. never hide your true feelings :)
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do you know where to get a freshlook contact lens free sample?
dont hold me to this..
but go to freshlook.com and most places like that will have a form you can print out, and take to your eye doctor to get a free sample. im almost 100% sure you can do that with freshlook. :)
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Is there really a way to get one of them??
yepppp go to trackzor.com
ive got it. its not perfect, but its as close as your going to get because myspace doesnt want you to be able to track people. the thing about trackzor, is you can see other users who are looking at your myspace IF they also have trackzor. so you need to get more people to join. ALSO, if you can look at what day and time someone left you a comment, and then what day and time the "random" person in your trackzor shows. you can match them up and figure people out that way too. :)
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I turn sixteen in about a month, and I'm thinking about having a Phantom of the Opera party. I absolutely love Phantom and I think it's a good idea. Kind of a masquerade type thing. I'm on kind of a budget, though. I'm thinking about having it in a hotel ballroom. Anyone have any ideas that will be easy and cheap for my Phantom theme?
no ideas.. but i cant wait to see what youve come up with once youve invited meeee :) haha im just kidding. i think its a wonderful idea, i wish id thought of that at some point in my younger days. youll have a blast. or you know, i dont really have any ideas, but why dont you go to some kind of search engine like yahoo and type in phantom of the opera. or even type that in under "images" and look at the different types of sets people have come up with and work off of that. theres a lot of stuff you can hand make prop wise that im sure would work out perfectly.
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can someone tell me honestley through expierience how much getting your belly button pierced hurts on a scale of 1-10.
whoever said three hundred and something is a sissy. the first answer you got was more like it. a 3 or 4. for sureee
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OK well u see iv been talking to this girl over for about 10 months we have so much in common i have only seen her twice i really have feelings for this girl but ppl always seem to bud in like on of my best friends practically was trying to get with her and it caused this whole arguement between him and i.i had just recently had surgery and he came over to argue with me well didnt turn out as an arguement we basically got in a fight so i end up hospitalized surgery again and i didnt get to see her that weekend and things just happen when im about to go meet up with her so what should i do???
first of all, this "best friend" of yours.. is no best friend. obviously. friends dont do that to eachother. and second, if its meant to be and she likes you back, then you shouldnt have to worry about other guys. BUT you say youve only seen her twice? how do you expect that to work out, dont you think you should see her more to have a working relationship? try talking to her about it, shes the one to ask about this situation, so good luckkk :)
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Ok, so here is the speel, i really really like this girl and im not sure if she feels the same way. I've had this crush on her for about 3 years now almost. But im so far out of her way. I live 2000 miles away right now. Sometimes i feel like she does and sometimes i dont. If she does care about me like i do her does distnace matter. i come home when i can, sometimes once a month and sometimes once every two. Does the distance inhance whats not there. Give you time to guenually miss that person and appriciate them? Or does it tarnish all hope? I have to know....
well, honestly. the distance does matter. im sure at some points you may feel that the distance will inhance whats not there. but in reality, you know as well as i that you cant hold a working relationship on seeing someone 6 or 7 times out of the year. youll be missing out on so much together. missing out on things she'll be doing with other guys.. i dont mean sexually. i just mean experiences you know. dates, movies, bbqs, parties, carnivals, get togethers, lunches, stop bys.. things you need to have a happy relationship. if shes anything like how im going to assume she is.. she needs someone whos there with her all the time. someone she can hug, sit around in her living room with and goof off, meet up with after school or for breakfast. not someone she'll see MAYBE once a month. but that doesnt mean you cant still see eachother when your in town and have a good friendship though. i hope you understand.
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Me and my b/f have been together for 3 weeks. out of those 3 weeks we have only spoken and seen eachother for 1 week. no were not avoiding eachother. before we got together he signed up to do this lincoln challenge thing. so he will be gone for 6 months.I have liked him since I was in 8th grade which was like 2 yrs ago and he has liked me for 3 yrs. He will be home on labor day for a break. should I break up with him when he gets back?
why are you asking us if you should break up with him? either you like the boy or you dont. its your decision on weather you want to wait for him or not. how much do you like him? you have to decide if hes worth waiting for and how its going to be if you do break up, when he gets back. i hope you make the right choice ♥
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OK I was talking to a dude and that is one step before dating and he said that he wanted us to work out and i was like aww he really likes me and he was like you are so sweet and i dont know why your last boyfriend cheated on you so i was like ok we are going to start dating and we are going to work out well not to long after that we didnt talk for a week so he called and he was acting really weird and i said is there another gurl and he said no and i was like ok well i called him the next day and he was at that girls house and today i saw them in the store together it made me sick I need help trying to get over him because i need to have fun not worred about him plz somebody help
block him out completely. block him off your aim list..dont go around him at all type of thing. you may not want to, but it seems to be the only thing that works. i know, because im doing it for the second or third time. keep yourself busy because when you find yourself sitting around is when you start thinking, and when your missing someone you dont need to be, thinking always leads to, not good things. when you DO start thinking about him, try to tell yourself how much better you are without him. even if you dont really believe it, just say it. it all may sound weird but trust me..sadly it works. good luck with this. you really dont need him ♥
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alright, i got my nose pierced in march, for the
second time, the first time i took it out too soon
and it closed up. anyways, ive had it in for about
5 months, i had a fake nosering in, the one they
pierced me with in the first place, but im really
sensitive and cant have anything fake in my nose,
so i put in this solid white gold ring and it was
doing completely fine, for 5 months. then recently,
within the past week theres been this bump outside
my nose, i woke up this morning and it was HUGE.
so i took out the ring and put some cleaning stuff
on it, and now its all puss filled, i know it sounds
gross but if you have alot of piercings youd be used
to hearing this kind of stuff, anywayss.
tomorrow my mom is taking me to get it lanced?
is there anything i can do in the meantime to help
the swelling and stuff, is it possible to keep the
ring in? i rly dont want to close it, again.
you dont need to get it lanced. that happened to me when i got my nose peirced, and my belly button, and on one of my cartilages. haha just take a clean needle and poke a hole in it, hold a paper towel or rag on it, and keep it clean. you dont need to pay money for something you can do yourself. you can keep the ring in, as long as you keep it clean too, and make sure it doesnt scab into one place or anything.
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ok, so right now, i only have 1 piercing in each ear. im thinking about getting more, but the thing is i either get a lot, or stay with only a few, because thats the way i like it.
so i was thinking:
3 on each ear -- 1 ear would have 3 in a row, and the other would only have 2 in a row, with a cartilage.
i really need your guys' opinions/advice,
& if possible, any other piercing combinations you have/want/like
THANKS!!
weeelll. i have three on each ear. i have two on both bottoms and one in both cartilages. i also have my nose and belly button peirced. the thing is, i think its somewhat of a stage people go through. because i let my nose and cartilages close up. the thing about my nose was that id get it caught on too much stuff being rough with friends or even on my pillow. and it would rip out and hurt REALLY bad. so theres something to think about with the eyebrow ring. the cartilages just took too long to heal and my hair lady would always comb over them and it hurt like a bitch..and she NEVER learned. but cartilages are always cute. and the idea you have i think is great. stick with what you think you would like otherwise youll get it done and it wont be what you want, but for sure wait to do any other peircings for a little while. you can always let them close if you reaaaally dont want them though ya know? i hope you like what you get :)
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if a person is bipolar how do they act..?
-thanks
from personal experience..the person can be happy and smiling one minute and then the next either pissed off, or depressed and crying. its like a light switch. sometimes you cant always tell if someone is bipolar, but other times its very obvious. some people think a lot of teens are bipolar, but thats just hormones and mood swings. being bipolar is a more advanced and dangerous level of..teen. haha i hope you arent thinking your bipolar, you should talk to your parents about it. not knowing your age doesnt help, but my mom thought i was bipolar because of my mood swings and took me to the doctor. they put me on birth control (im 18) and it leveled me out a lot. but it is a sickness and whoever it is that could possibly have it, should moct likely see a doctor. also, it could just be a stage, maybe give it some time? good luck :)
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There is this guy, Zack I really like. He used to like me but now he doesnt. I dont know why he doesnt anymore. I didnt do anything wrong. We barely ever talk to eachother. I think he hates me but I really like him. What should I do?
talk to him..tell him whats on your mind. people say "its easier said than done." no its not. its only complicated when you make it that way. if he really hates you, he can tell you why and maybe you can fix it. but maybe he thinks you dont like him..youll never know unless you ask.
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