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Q: i was straigten my hair this morning then all the suden I heard something in my neck.. Now I can't move my head without it hurting really bad I don't know how ti'm doing this..I have to hold it with my hand or it hurts.. it hurts on the right side all the way up to my ear(i think)... please help me what could i do to make it stop hurting!!!
go to a doctor asap, seems like you could of done something to a muscle or something in your neck, but until you go to a doctor, rest a lot, put ice on it, or a heating pad kind of thing, and take some pain reliever.

i hope you get better!

Q: one of my bestfriends died and i need a song to put up on myspace to show i miss her and care!

please help

i'll be missing you by "diddy" ft. faith evans
onl;y one i can think of off the top of my head.

and i'm terribly sorry to hear your best friend died. :[.

Q: hello i am new to this system so help me i am having problems with my girlfriend we have been together for 2years and 1month and im her first b.f, it all started when her best friend manipulated me into having sex with her after i cheated on my gf i swore and made a promise saying nothing will ever happen like that again, and its been the truth now all she wants is to argue she bafrely talks to me right now she asked for a break for no reason and she likes to hang out with her friends more even though she has been the best thing in my life and still is i want anyones opinion i really need help to figure her out!!!
Accually in a right sense, she has every right to be mad at you. From my point of view, when you cheat, that's it. If you truely cared about you girlfriend/ex, you wouldn't of done stuff with any other girl, and it being her best friend makes it that much worse. No one makes you do anything, you made the choice to cheat on her, and this is your consiquence. You need to realize that cheating is horrible andgives a sense to your partner that you don't care because you're out doing "stuff" with other girls/boys (for girls ovbiously.) You should sit her down, and tell her the exact truth of what happened and that you know it was wrong. I doubt she will forgive you after the talk, but she has lost her trust in you, and when you lose trust in a relationship, it goes downhill from there. Give her sometime, if you guys were meant to be, you'll eventually get back together.

Hope i helped.

Q: right ok ive got a weak bladder and wet the bed its really embarrasing and sometimes im scared to sleep at anyones house incase it happens i dont know what to do and i dont want to go to the doctors or anything cause its really embarrasing. please help
You need to see a doctor. And don't be embarressed, i'm sure they've delt with way worse cases, just tell your guardian that you have a weak bladder, and have them tell the doctor, i'm sure they will help you, i'm pretty sure that's your only help with the problem.

good luck.

Q: hey about at what age/grade are people until they get their first kiss?

and do you just like do a peck or actually french kiss, or do you open your mouth a little and sort of like suck on their lips or whatever lol.

please give me a lot of detail and I'll rate high!!!
There is no age or grade when people gets their first kiss.

It'll happen at the right momment.
And there's really no way to kiss, you just have to go with the flow. It's really not as complicated as your making it sound. Don't over analaze making out, it's not "complicated."


good luck :]

Q: how do you get guys to notice you more? i mean i'm not ugly but i dont think i'm "hott" so what should i do? i think i have a nice personality...but idk.
present yourself nicly. Walk around being smilily, just not TOO smilily. talk to some new kids in your classes, if you have a myspace, you can add people from your school and start talking to them like that (it works haha).

all things like that :]

Q: Does anyone kno any good sites to get myspace layouts?
i don't know too much because i amke my own but theres..

www.createblog.com
www.whateverlife.com

that's all i know off the top of my head, hopefully you'll find one you like there. :]

Q: i am 15 years old and i am a female. i have bean dating this guy, that ive liked, for a while now. well, when i go to his house he likes to give little kisses and stuff. well, he simetimes would try and go a little down, like to my boobs or my tummy, and i would/will get nervous and turn away.what should i do about it? how can i stop being so nervous?
thank you for answering my questions
sincerly,
babyzaboo
I had the same problem haha.
I kinda just let him do it, then i was fine with it.

gosh now i feel a little whoreish. hah.

but yeah.
or maybe put your hand on his to make sure he doesn't do anything you want to.

:]

Q: how do you get a comment box for myspace?
http://www.profiletweaks.com/comment.php

Q: How can I make myself more attractive with out looking like a slut? How can I make more guys interested in me? particularly the guys I want to like me? Alsoo. How can I get out of being seen as a slut? please help! i need it bad!
Not saying you do, because i obviously don't know you, wear more clothes that show less skin, obviously don't make things always so sexual, cut down on doing sexual things, (not kissing but stuff like at "3rd base" or "home"). All things along those lines.

And as for looking more pretty, wear make-up (not too much though, enough to look semi-natural even with the make-up on). Maybe wear some new clothing styles., a new hair cut. Try new things.

Q: i have an iMAC. i also have iPhoto and thats where i keep all my pictures. i used to have this brightness thing where i could drag this button and it would change it to darker or lighter. one day it just went away! how can i get it back
I don't have iPhoto but i'll take a guess on what happened.

You probably got rid of the toolbar that it was on.

Go to view on ttop of the window (probably next to file) and click toolbars. and it will probably be on the "picture" toolbar.

again, i don't know if this could be correct, but i tried.

sorry if it doesn't help.

Q: My boyfriend went away and I'm not that kind of person to just sit around and wait. I met someone I use to like and still like and he still likes me. I now go with the other boy and don't know what to do. I feel really bad but...I need advice and thoughts on what I should do.

thanks in advance
XOXO i rate 5s
Follow your heart. If you want to, then go for the boy you used to like. But explain to your boyfriend now what's going on when he comes back. It'll make things better.

Q: Okay so me and this guy just started dating and I lack like all experience. Ive only kissed one guy and only once. And that would be him. And I just want to know how experienced he is but I don’t want to just come right out and ask him. How would any of you consider asking your boyfriend/girlfriend that. Or should I just not even ask?
Yeah i agree with the person below me. you'll eventually become experienced. :]

And if you really wanna know, just be like, i'm curious, how far have you gotten?

simple as that :]

Q: So im 17 (female) and I just recently had my first kiss. I know seems kind of sad that im just getting it now. But it was just a peck and I thought I was going to pass out I was so nervous.
I was just wondering what good ways to kiss are, you know like different techniques, and where to put the ends, etc. thanks you guys!
there really no "techniques" to kissing.

If you mean making out by kissing then, you jsut pretty much have to go with the flow.

And if it's just a peck, then just close your eyes, it's not nice to stare. ;]

Good luck hun

Q: I have really dark brown hair, its almost black.
What color should I consider dying it?
Not blonde, I'm asian, & I really blah dont think thatd look too neat.
thanks.

Maybe consider light brown hair? or very very dark blonde.

Maybe red too?

Q: how do i lighten my hair on my arms and but and stomach because its really dark hair and imbarising and i dont no how to make it a light color can u help please !!! thanks i rate high all the time
i heard orange juice works. I'm not quite sure though.

or maybe consider shaving? a lot of people shave their arms.

hope i helped a little.

Q: this summer i am wanting to go to Warped Tour. where can I get the tour information to know where the tour is coming and when? i rate high!!
http://warpedtour.com/pre06map/index.php

Q: you said i could ask you how to put an icon on manually, so could you tell me how?


thank you very much = ]]]]]
okay, so what you do it you go to "my aim" on the top of your buddy list.

edit options
edit preferences
expressions
browse PC

and then upload it.

hope you get your icon on :]

Q: for aim, when i go on iconator.com to get a new icon and try to download it, it says that i cant for some reason. is there any way to fix this????


thank you = ]
it might be because you have AIM triton ( or something like that )

from what i've heard you can't get your own icons on there that you want.

if you have the older version of aim (AIM 5.9) then it should work, but if it doesn't, left click the icon, and save it.

and then put the icon in that way.

if you don't know the steps to putting an icon on manually, then you can ask me how on here and i'll tell you how. :]

Q: is there any way to clear your aim history? like the conversations you've had...
not unless you have aim +.

on aim + they have an aim history, and just hit delete on all the screen names.

I'm pretty sure that would be the only way to delete past conversations.

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I'm a sophomore this year at Quinnipiac University.
I'm majoring in Interactive Digital Design.
I haven't been on this site in years, maybe I'll pick it up again. (:
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