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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle

"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."

I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.

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How do you know you're crazy or a skitzo?

I have so many disorders and problems I never know what to do
I'm going to therapy today but
I HATE IT and I never listen.
I'm stubborn and I have beliefs and I tell myself not do to certain things because I don't want to be changed.
Don't tell me to listen
but the first question is really something I always wanted to know but nobody ever told me the anwser for.

Most people that are crazy, don't know it. so, you should start listening, so then you can find if you are or not. you cant get better, inless you try to. and being stubborn, won't help.

At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook?

depends on the person. everyones different. its not like everyone all of a sudden, goes hey, im gonna start being my own person. its takes awhile, for some to push away from crowds, and be themselves. I have some friends, who realized who they were when they were 13. I know some people, who are 18 and still don't realize it.

ooh and, i don't think that any teenager, should try to become more adult like. your only a kid once, and you learn things, and become more responsible, by making mistakes, and learning from them. if you know any teenager, that tries to act way too old. tell them to stop, because once your old you never get younger.

ok so this is so confusing and so hard i'm a 15 year old female who is madly in love with my boyfriend of 1 year his name is zach and i love him to death...but he does the stupidest shit like for example he's got arrested 3 TIMES this year and it hurts i can take it anymore and the first to time's it had to do with drugs. the third time it was because he was in a stolen car with my BROTHER and my bff HANGING AND KISSING HER!!!!!!!!! then my ex boyfriend chris is now wanting to get back with me and i like him yeah but when he broke up wit me he said he was in love with this girl melissa and now he's saying he's sorry and he loves me but i don't want to take him back he hurt me...then i'm a new student at this school in eastern washington where i'm minority because it's mainly mexicans and indians and i don't have a problem with it but it's hard when your new and everyone makes fun of you because your white and you have a punk hair cut but there is this one guy leriamy he's so cut and i really like him i've been going to school not even a month but i do like him and his friends have all told me he likes me and wants to go out with me but he doesn't want to ask me out and i'm like ok but then i see him flirt with his ex girlfriend mayra who is like my closet friend here so i don't want to ruin that but she says she doesn't care if i go out with him because she doesn't like him. and i would it's just people keep on making jokes bout us and it's really starting to get me pissed off and he doesn't say anything and when people say that we are going out he doesn't correct them i'm so confused it's not fair gosh i hate being put in this situation it's not fair to me or them i just need HELP picking one or should i go single again...

any advice would help thanks a bunch

Okay, the boyfriend you have now, sucks. I mean, hes getting arrested? and twice for drugs? ahh, thats not someone you wanna be involed with, because i was watching cops this one time [haha] and this girls boyfriend had drugs in the car, and even though she didnt know, she got introuble too. so, you most likely don't want that to happen to you, where you get introuble and you didnt do anything, yano? and then wait, was your boyfriend kissing your bff? [i couldn't tell if you were saying your boyfriend was or your brother] but if it was your boyfriend, then, omg get rid of him. i mean, ive known kids who have been like drug dealers, and i like loved them to death. and i dated this one, the ones were just friends.. and he was fine and stuff, as long as he didnt get me involved with it, i didnt care. but, if he ever ever ever would have cheated on me, he would have tottaly been done. i mean, i don't know about you, but i wanna be number one, when im dating a guy. yano? so basically, get rid of him. he sounds like he sucks.

then as for your ex-boyfriend, he doesnt sound like anything special either. he doesn't seem like he knows his true feelings right now. i'd give him some space.

and then that other kid that you just met, he doesnt seem like he knows what he wants to much either, because if he really really really liked you, hed get the courage to ask you out.

well thats my opinion on that stuff, and what i think you should do, is go single. but if you really really dont wanna do that. take those 3 guys, and put there names on seperate sheets of paper, and put there pros and cons. whoever has the best qualities, is the person you should go out with. (:

i hope everything works out for the best

I just got off of school. Are there any songs that talk about summer and summer vacation?

i know of one.
summer lovin, by like justin timberlake, but thats the only one ive heard.

SO theres this boy[David] , that I used to like and he used to like me too, we never went out because we just didn't believe in it really. We did alot of stuff [if you know what i mean] and that was the first time for both of us.We both never really did it with anyone else.The other day, i was at this party and these guys were all fingering me[no i didnt like it and i didnt want it]. David was there and he watched them do it and after the party, when a few of us were waiting for a ride,he brought up how they did that. And I think he seems kinda mad that they did that ,since he usually is the only one and I like david so much and he likes me to , we just dont believe in going out at our age [so please dont lecture me on that].I Don't know what to do and Im just scared that he thinks I would let anyone do that to me[and i wouldn't,they just did it and no one helped me] and that I didnt care about him and I was just a plain out slut but im not!
Please help?

Yeah, I agree with the girl below me, this is hard to understand. I mean if you didnt want it, and you said like no or something, or never said like.. hey guys come finger me! then thats basically, molesting. and what type of kid is this david kid? that he saw this, and didnt do anything about it? i wish you would have put your age down. it woulda made a hella difference in my answer. and i could have figured things out better. rewrite this, and post it again./

I'm going camping at a music festival for 3 days, and well, I have a pretty irregular period and it sort of just happens by surprise and Im so worried that it'll occur during my time at the festival.
I feel the situation is unhygeinic(sp?) as it is without having my time of the month, the only toilets will be portaloo's (chemical toilets) and they are disgusting, you have to wait ages in a queue for it aswell.
I just want to enjoy my weekend as much as posible without this ruining it.
Im currently no on the pill at the moment.
Is there any medicine/treatments you can buy or be prescribed that will posepone my period??

There supposly working on one, but its not safe yet. and i dont reccomend, trying to posepone it, thats like messing up nature. because, just wear a thin pad, or tampon on while your there.

Ok so this guy and I have had sex like three or four times before. Once we had sex in the back of his car and the condom broke, that was like three days after my period stopped. Then we had sex unprotected in his dorm and then in the middle of having that he slipped on a condom. I haven't had my period yet and it's beed a month since I've had my last period. Actually to be exact I haven't had my period since April 14, 2007 and today is May 23, 2007. Could I be pregnant? Also can you have your period and be pregnant still? BTW I am 17 yrs old.

Theres a good possiblity your pregnant, you'll only know for sure, till you get a pregancy test. And of course you cannot have your period and still be pregnant. what do you think the whole purpose of your period is? all that blood would be if you were to have a baby..

my bf and i are planning on having sex for the first time soon, and i was wondering what the best brand of condoms are?

thanks

Trojan.

Make sure you follow the directions, very carefully, if you don't then, it won't be as effective.

okay so my friend ryan had a bonfire. So my one friend lets call her rita liked my friend lets call him tom. I also had this guy lets call him mike who liked me. So they were having the guys stay over at the bonfire the girl had to leave so me rita and this other girl went back to the other girls house. Rita told me how much she liked tom and how this was the only guy she felt extremely comfortable with, may i mention they dated before but she broke up with him because she didnt like the way he was acting. WE were planning on sneaking back over to the bonfire well rita's sister was pregnant and was going into labor so she had to leave and go to the hospital. So it left me and the other girl to go back to the bonfire with the guys. WE did there was beer there. I started drinking and goin around kissing people everyone else was drinking too except that other girl. Well tom had a lot to drink around 8 and i had 6ish we ended up in the tent of the guy who liked me hooking up. WE did a lot he fingered me and i gave him a handjob(he made the first move). Then i woke up the next morning and was like did that happen to the other girl and she was like yeah. So Rita found out cuz the other girl told her which i expected would happened since they are best friends. The girl got real pissed and of course i felt horrible all she did was stare at me and make nasty comments at tom. Mike the guy who liked me threatened to beat up tom(mike has a girlfriend). Me and the girl Rita talked it out which went better than i expected. Her and tom are hookin up again. See now i want Mike but i dont know what to do, should i just tell him straight out even though he does have a girlfriend? I am just worried that because of that experience he doesnt have those feelings for me anymore. But on the other hand i feel people completely exaggerated the situation. Do you see an issue with this?

That was kinda confusing. But, I think I got it, i just may mix up the names a bit, but you'll get it..

ok, that mike kid or whatever, the one who has a girlfriend, i wouldn't say anything if i were you. i mean, if he has a girlfriend, he obviously likes her. and itd just be pointless, and you may make a huge fool of yourself, but telling him you like him. or maybe like, just ask him how serious him and his girlfriend are? and if he doesnt really like her that much, then go for it, tell him.

if you dont think he doesnt have the same feelings for you anymore, then , dont bother. i mean, what do you mean exaggerated the situation how can they make it any worse? i mean that was pretty bad. so i dont know.

i think, id try to move on from this whole intire thing completely, and just put it in your past.

i hope that helped a little.

my boyfriends friends are really perverted. and im fourteen and kinda big like 36d big. and they always say grose things to him about my boobs and they always try to grab me. and he tells them to knock it off but they dont listen and he just gives it up. they keep telling me one day when i least expect it there all gonna rape me. and he just tells me they dont have the balls to do that. and it really annoying what should i do?

I mean, i've gone through that. I don't really agree with the people below me, I mean, I guess if you feel strongly enough to report them, then ok. But, in a way, those are like majorr compliments. there basically telling you, your hot. i don't know about you, but i dont mind when guys call me hot. and if you report them, basically, all the kids in school are gonna like hate you. espically if these kids are popular.

hmm, if you feel strongly about it enough, report it, if not, just tell them to knock it off.

I know this might sound stupid but stick with me.
I'm almost 16 years old, I'm 5'4 and I weight 100lbs.
I want to lose weight

Does anyone know any great ideas?

well, you can, drink 12 cups of water per day, and walk one mile each day. i lost weight pretty quick that way.

google Atkins diet. you can lose like 5 pounds a week. i forget all the things you do, i just know i lost alot of weight.

i understand its your choice, but its not the best. i mean your still average but your down there. i actually weight 90 pounds now, and im 5'3. i looked like a little kid. i had no chest. my legs were like skinnier then these 5th graders. i mean, i looked way too skinny, it doesnt look good, im gaining weight though, so, i look alot better. i mean, its just not smart.

just something to consider.

I'm failing: Math, History, and Science. I feel really terrible because Im very a determined person and never have gotten such bad grades. And I really dont like feeling this low. I never get F's on Interms. Whats a good way to help me feel better?

feel better?
well, you could get a tutor.

I was failing math, because i suck at it, but they have an after school program, every tuesday. its called homework club. maybe you can ask your principal to make one? basically, we have like a math teacher there, a science teacher, history and all that. it was alot of help for me in math. and they also have where i live, where highschool kids or whatever, go up to the rec and can help you in math. i did that a couple times, that really helps to. talk to your guidance counselor. see if they can help.

i hope it gets better. (:
cya

hi my names kristen, i live in nj.

okay i used to be best friends with this girl emily.. she started telling lies and telling people things that arent truem she turned into a real bitch. anyway we havent talked to since january, we've been bff since 4th grade but now we go to different high schools. and now tomorrow shes going to a party i am also going to, what should i do? i mean she completely and totally hates me, and i dont want her to start with me while at my friends party. what should i say to her if i see her? what do i do?

I went through something kinda similar to this. Basically, when you see her, completely ignore her. Like, don't look at her or anything, if she comes up to you, and is nice, be nice, but dont be like, really nice, just casual. if shes tottaly mean, then if you dont wanna make a scene, just walk away. if you wanna tell her what you think, then do so. i mean, what type of person is she anyways? the type that is going to stat problems? just try to ignore her and stay away from her.

i hope it works outt. (:
cya

Does anybody know anyone who has died and come back to life? The step-mom of a friend of mine died once, and woke up a little bit later. She says that she saw colorful lights and heard a voice that told her that it wasn't her time yet, but I was interested in hearing if anybody else has heard what others have experienced.

Died and come back to life?

do you mean like, they were in a car accident, passed out, and then woke up? or they in like a coma or something? or do you actually mean like, they died, was buried and everything, and then was reincarnated?

i've heard stories of people saying, that when they were in a car accident, when they passed out, they saw an angel that said it wasn't her time.

thats about it though.

this storey is kinda hard to explain because you dont really know where i live or how my neighborhood is set up.
so i made this like diagram thing because its way to hard without it. and even its prob hard. and it would make a lot more sense if you could see where i live.

KEY:
house = house haha.
---- = road
| = road
" = peoples back yard property
> or ^ = the way the people's house were facing/ pointer to street

|----------|
house | |
| houses | houses....
|----------|
|houses | so there back yard was right next to there house. just the peoples backyard had like bushes and stuff so i hid behind them.
when i was behind the bushes just incase that guy passed me again i want to be hidden, i called my older brother (hes 16 im 13 turning 14 in june) and told him "come up and get me. i think somebodys following me." and i told him where i was and he was like okay okay. so he ran from my house to street 4 and i came out of the bushes and was like yessssss ah. haha.
so when we were walking down my street (street 1) i saw a silver car at the end of the street. and i sure if it was the same silver car that i had seen before since i have really bad eyesight, but it was just sitting there and then it just puled into someones dirve way. so i dont know. then we just ran home. haha.

my questions are.... do you think it was following me and do you think what i did was right. and yeah. thanksss.

theres two things, that could have been happening, A. hes some freaking stalker, trying to kidnap you. B. he was lost, and was slowing down because he wanted to ask you something.

Personally, I think its letter B. I mean, he could have been way lost if hes driving around in circles and your neighborhood does sound quite confusing. he probably was slowing down to try to get your attention, and ask where whatever is. he then later, kept driving around, and eventually found the house he was looking for.

i mean, that makes the most sense. because usually stalkers, first stalk you for like days at a time, to see where you live, when your home and so forth, then, they kidnap you. and if youve never had this type of thing before, and never noticed that silver car, then he probably was just lost.

what you did, was right though, theres a lot of crazy people out there..

my friends step brother is 25 and my friend is 13 ... he is 100 % philipino and my friend is half ... well he lives in the house with my friend and well ;awhile back like a few months ago she only told me a few things that happenedsuch as he was forcing her to touch his penis , and play around with him and other dirty stuff like that .
well her sister told my older sister that she got molested.
and i was wondering , does that me he put his penis inside of her , or did just playing with his penis also count as molestation ?
i wanna know
im scared for her
because my sister found out that she was molested and im not sure if i understood !

Anything forced is molesting. you should tell a responsible adult, immediatly.

is limewire illegal? i heard it's not because its bases are located in australia or something..? is this true? and could someone explain to me the jist of why/why not its illegal

it has nothing to do with where its at.

the only wait its like illegal, is when you download it and then drag it into like itunes.

if you smoke ciggaretts can it delay your period?

uh. i highly doubt that. and i hope that you were just curious about that, then actually plan on smoking to delay your period. one cigarette=1 minute of your life gone. (: they say even more now, but atleast a minute.

ok so there's this guy. 5'7 brown hair bright brown eyes. the whole shabang. he has a gf. but im still madly in love with him. me and him are lyk peanut butter && jelly. we're really good friends. he knows i really like him. i talked to him for 3 hours straight last night. we flirt with each other -a lot- . do u think this might me he likes me but has a gf so doesn't wanna show it or tell anyone? if not, what does it mean? PLEASE HELP ME! what should i do?

14/f

ha. that kinda sounds like something i went through. only he was like, 5'8, brown hair, green eyes. gorgeous kiddo. he didn't have a girlfriend, but he flirted with like every girl under the sun. and it was impossible to tell who he liked. and i was like best friends with him, like his best. and ha, 3 hours doesnt compare to how long we talked, it was like once or twice, aboutt 12 freakin hours. ha i know, thats pretty crazy. i bet his feelings arn't tottaly straightened out, like how alot of teenagers are, i mean, theres just so many people in school, its hard to really like just one. yano? like, the one kid i was just telling you about, once day, he IMed this one girl, who i talked to occassionaly, and he said i love you to her, and then the next day, he said it to me, but didn't say it to her. so yahh. guys are weird like that.

i'd kinda ask him about it. but don't just come right out and say, do you like me? yano, i mean kinda be like.. so, are you and whatsherface pretty serious? you guys are pretty cute together. like you dont wanna make it look like your all over him or like stalking him and whatever, so you kinda gotta throw it in a casual way.

i hope that helpss. (:
cya

i cant stand it anymore. i want it to be over and i dont feel like waiting for it to 'get better'. i just dont want to feel teh pain anymore and im going to end it. im so sick of nobody listening to me and telling me im stupid and not to 'talk that way'. i just need someone to lsiten. i need someone to ehlp me.

i'm a very good listenerr. and i can probably help you with any topic you wantt. i promisee. send me a message. (:

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