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my boyfriends friends are really perverted. and im fourteen and kinda big like 36d big. and they always say grose things to him about my boobs and they always try to grab me. and he tells them to knock it off but they dont listen and he just gives it up. they keep telling me one day when i least expect it there all gonna rape me. and he just tells me they dont have the balls to do that. and it really annoying what should i do?
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To the person down there a bit, so maybe the boys DO think that you're hot. Are you going to let them walk all over you and threaten to rape you -even if they are kidding, just because they think you're hot? There's limit to when guys can show that they think you're attractive, and those boys crossed the line. No group of boys should ever say that they're going to rape you when you least expect it, and they should NOT be grabbing your boobs when you don't want them do. You have to tell your boyfriend that you're extremely uncomfortable when you're around his friends and by the way that they act. If they keep it up, you have to tell a trusted adult. Even if they're joking now, things can get serious because the boys know that they could walk all over you. You never know, they might take advantage of you when you least expect it.
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oh hun,
i had the same exact problem.... Dont let your bf tell you that it wont happen because "they dont have the balls to do it" you really never know. I think your safest bet is to try to trick them to say something to you when someone older is around so they will get in trouble for it. Or tell and uncle or an older friend. Soeme one who cares about you enough to say something else other then just "knock it off". Its womanly degrading and i went through hell for my boobs all my life. Good luck!
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The problem is you haven't told them off or been assertive here. Tell them the next time they try to grab your breasts or make comments about rape that you'll kick them so hard where it hurts so they'll never mess with you again.
As far as comments about rape and their behavior goes tell an adult close to you ie a teacher what they have been saying and that they are harassing you daily.
This person will set them straight but telling them you'll kick them hard in the groin if they touch you again let's them know exactly who is the boss here. You need to stand up for yourself or they'll contiue walking all over you.
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I mean, i've gone through that. I don't really agree with the people below me, I mean, I guess if you feel strongly enough to report them, then ok. But, in a way, those are like majorr compliments. there basically telling you, your hot. i don't know about you, but i dont mind when guys call me hot. and if you report them, basically, all the kids in school are gonna like hate you. espically if these kids are popular.
hmm, if you feel strongly about it enough, report it, if not, just tell them to knock it off.
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Tell an adult. That's sexual harassment & it needs to be reported. The more you just sit there & do nothing about it, the more they're going to do it. Open up your mouth & tell someone.
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You do not have to put up with any of that crap and they are threatening to be violent, so you need to report it. Tell your parents, teachers, their parents or the police. Someone...an adult, needs to have a serious talk with them. Your boyfriend's comment about them not having "the balls" to commit rape is obscene and very offensive! Rape is a cowardly act of violence to begin with and does not require balls. Furthermore, your boyfriend should be defending YOU and not his lewd friends, and if your boyfriend had balls, he would not let anyone ever disrespect you. I would demand respect from your boyfriend in this matter and the harassment must cease immediately. You are worthy of respect and I want you to know that there is never a moment that you should not be treated with dignity as a young woman and human being.
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