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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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do guys know when a girl is a newbie at sex?
ive only had sex once, which was about 2 years ago. and i made a complete idiot out of myself. he told me to get on top, so i did, and i kind of just sat there...i didnt know i had to move around. anyway, it was just embarrassing. so i think thats the reason why i havent had sex again. [ive gotten plently of offers]
i know 'practice makes perfect', but i dont want the second guy im with to know i havent done this in a long time, and that i prolly suck hardcore at it.
hellppp

Everyone's first time is akward so don't feel bad. You have nothing to be ashamed of. However if you want your sex life to be better I'd get to know the partner your doing it with. Wether you guys are dating or not is besides the point. Point is however that you to do feel comfortable enough with eachother. Get to know eachother as friends first. Don't just jump into bed with somebody. Have floor play first; have him feel you up or perform oral on you. That way things will be less akward for you and him, because whether or not he wants to admit it, I'm positive it's akward for him. And for the record, unless he asks you if your a virgan, he won't be able to tell. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I heard that while on birth control you have to still wear a condom and me and I have been on birth control for 3 months and me and my boyfriend have been havind sex without a condom for 2 months and he has been penetrating in me the whole time and I of course have not gotten pregnant. I wanted to know if i kept doing that will there be a chance that to much seman can get in me and I can get pregnant? We have sex basically every other day, sometimes twice a day. is that too much?

Thank you in advance...
Ashleigh

As long as you keep taking your pill like your supposed to everyday at the same time, you won't get pregnant. I've taken the pill since I was 13 and I'm 17 now and I'm not pregnant. I wouldn't think you'd have to have a condomn unless your afraid you may get an std, which in that case, the birth control pill doesn't control. It's 99% affective; the pill as long as you don't miss any dosage. People have taken it for years and still aren't pregnant so I'd think your safe. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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As full of advice as I am, I'm not perfect, and I've lost touch with people my age. I have basically all of 1 friend and I'd like somemore. I don't know where 19 year olds hang out anymore though. I haven;t been friend-hunting since I was 15... any suggestions?

There are a lot of places you can go. You could get involved in some sort nof extracurricular activites or get involved in a church or doing some sort of community service. I'm sure that there's a lot of places such as churches that may have people your age you can become friends with. Or try to look for a part time job anywhere. I made a lot of my friends working. Also you could try to form a club on your campus where you go to college in anything your interested in. That way you may meet new people that way as well. There are a lot of ways to make new friends. Just look out for people you may have things in common with and talk to them. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i have barely any pimples at all i mostly just get them around where i part my hair because i always touch my bangs and it gets greasy from my fingers always touching... i use proactiv and it works amazingly but its kind of expensive just to get rid of those few pimples... does anyone know anything else that works really well thats maybe a little cheaper?

Nature's Cure. It works really well and you get get it from either Walmart or Walgreen's. Either that or you cold try using Clean & Clear. Those products work for me anyways. For the oilness try oil abosorbing sheets. That could help stop you from breaking out. You just take the sheet and wipe the oil from your face. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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So one of my best friends has a boyfriend, and i like him alot. not just a crush. i like him ATON, i almost want to cry when i see them together, and i almost for sure know he doesnt like me that way. but i just cant help but like him. should i tell him i like him? should i tell her? or should i just keep it a secret from everybody?
this isnt something i cant get over, i like him too much for that.



P.S were kinda friends.me and him i mean.

I don't think you should say anything just yet. Odviously it would probably hurt your friend. If they break up then yeah totally, go for it. Until then keep it to yourself. If you feel this way after a few weeks talk about it with someone your really close to that you know won't tell anybody. It'll help. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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when does the bleeding occur when a girl's hymen is broken?

The bleeding occurs after a women has intercourse for the first time. The hymen is a very small piece of skin that easily breaks. It can also if a women or girl masturbates hard. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my friends brother is always mean 2 me. he's not mean to none of my other friends though. I always say hi!! but he'll just say f u but say hi 2 my other friends so wats his problem o yeah we used to get along but now we dont because he's been being mean

Yeah I know what you mean. One of my best friends brothers treats me the same exact way so I know what your going through. What I did to deal with it was ignore him. Don't even acknowledge him. Pretend he's a non person. If that doesn't work I would approach your friend about the situation. Tell her to please talk to him about the issue. If she pretends he/she pretends they don't know what your talking about it's probably because there possibly scared of him. Although if it still continues maybe it's time you talk to his parents about the problem. Just bring it up in a nice way starting out like, " I don't want to stir up any drama but I really enjoy having your son or daughter as a friend, it seems I can't do that though because your son is always very rude." I'm positive that will help. Or if you haven't yet approach him on the situation. That is unless you are afraid too which is understandable. I would be too. Hopefully one of these methods help you.

Hope I helped,
xoxo,
Dottie4

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im dating this guy whos two years younger than me. Is that bad? OPINIONS PLEASE

No of course its not. I dated a guy that was four years older then me and a guy that was two years younger then me. If people say it's bad tell them they need to get a life and to but out of yours. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I'm looking into learning to play the electric guitar. I've looked at many sites and talked to a few friends, but none of their advice has helped me thus far. So, I was wondering if any of you could tell me what you guys think. What brand and model of guitar is suitable for a beginner?

Thanks alot!:]

Well it depends on what kind of guitar you want to get. Do you want an acoustic or an electric?
If you say electric, I'd go with a fender strat-200 at the most. Or try an Austin. Those are cheaper and still really pretty good guitars. If you want to try an acoustic I'd say go with an Alvarez, Jackson, or Yamaha. That's what I got and I love it. It also really depends on what kind of music you plan on learning. If you plan on learning rock, or R&B, I'd go with an electric. If you want to learn country or folk, go with an acoustic. It really all depends what you are comfortable with all in all. You may decide you want something else. However, electric guitar is pretty easier to learn on then an acoustic.

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WHat are some unique reasons why public schools should have school uniforms?

Oh gosh I use to go to a public school that had uniforms! I hated it but there are a lot of good reasons for it.
1. To lessen crime rate (gangs are less)
2. So people will get made fun of less b/c there all wearing the same thing
3. It makes the school look good and everyone looks proffesional.
4. I don't agree with this statement, but a lot of people would say it makes the scores of the school better
Those are just a few and there are mant more.
Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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what exactly is a douche ? will it help a bad smell down there?

A douche is a bag of vinegar and water. It should help the smell but so should just using soap and water. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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What are some Halloween costumes, I could make at home?
Last year, I was a biker, and I wore like leather pants and stuff.
Just homemade outfits, like flappers, etc.

Have you ever watched the Blues Brothers? One year when I was nine years old. I just wore a black suit, a white shirt, black hat, and carried a harmonica around with me. Another year, I was autumn for Halloween. I put on an old pair of jeans and hot glued a bunch of leaves on my clothes. Some other ideas I could give you could include.
-Violet from Charlie & the Chocolate Factory (just put a bunch of blue on you) LOL
-A tourist (wear a fanny pack, sandals, and a Hawaiian shirt and there you go.)
-A Hippie (bell bottoms, long wig; or hair if you have it with a headband, hippie glasses, find objects with peace signs, and there you go.
-An old Woman (Old style dress, just below knee, knee-hi stockings rolled down a little, oxfords, large black purse)
-A pregnant House Wife (a moo-moo; nightgown old people wear, put your hair in curlers, put a pillow under your nightgown, wear slippers, and a green mud mask on your face)
-1950’s “Sock-Hopper”
(a round skirt, a white short-sleeved shirt, and some saddle shoes. plain buckle shoes,cat-eye glasses if you want. hair in a ponytail, and wrap a scarf around it.)
-Baby (just a binky, cute pajamas, and a blanket will work)
- A boy (baggy pants and shirt, and wear hair in baseball cap)
I searched this one and thought it was uber cute;
Cereal Killer
(Attach little cereal boxes to a shirt, cut a slit in the boxes, glue in plastic knives into the holes, drip red paint running down from the knife hole in the box.)
A washer women- (just a long ugly raggly dress will do, an old fashioned Columbian times bonnet, and an apron)
Hope I gave you some good ideas that you can actually use.

xoxo,
dottie4

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how do you get rid of acne scars?

Sorry but you didn't specify whether you were a guy or girl but I'll try to give some advice anyways. There really is no way to get rid of them. You can clean your face and wash your hands all you want but that still won't get rid of scars. Once you have a scar, there's really no way to get rid of them but you can make them a lot less noticeable by using some lotion and some oil-free lotion. I suggest foundation like Neutrogena Skin-Clearing make-up. It actually seriously helps your skin and helps smooth out scars. Also if you do get more acne, DO NOT POP THE ZITS! That is the worst thing you can do and the quickest way to get scars. Also eventually with time they'll probably fade a bit so don't really worry about anything major just yet. If you really want to make them fade faster I suggest you use a cocoa butter based lotion. I know what I'm talking about, trust me. I've dealt with acne since I was nine years old and I'm 17 now.Hope I helped =D

xoxo,
dottie4

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why is it bad to wash your face more than 2-3 times a day? when people say that do they mean not to wash your face with cleanser more than 2-3 times a day?


and is it okay to splash water on your face a lot throughout the day to get all the oils off?

Washing your face more than 2-3 times a day will rid your skin of it's natural oils it needs to stay healthy. And when you do wash your face, you use the same cleanser as many times as you wash your face in a day. If you were to use regular soap on your face, that could actually make your face even more prone to oil. It is okay to splash your face with water, but that wont get rid of all the oil bacteria built up in the skin. I use Neutrogena's oil-absorbing sheets to get the excess oil off my face. Its only like maybe 5 bucks at the most to pick some up from the drugstore or wherever you shop. If your face does start to get dried out, what I would do is, use a tiny bit of face mosturizer like, Olays and use that to help you out by getting your skin back on track. Hope I helped.

xoxo
dottie4

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14/f
yesterday, i had sex w/ my bf for the first time and it hurt, of course, but like it kept coming out & we had to keep putting it back in. so, is that normal?

Yes thats completely normal so you have nothing to worry about. The first time it hurts for the girl but feels great for the guy. "The Curse" females have to go through to pleasure there man. But anyway, if it was his first time as well, he probaly didn't know how to act to it, and not very used to the feeling. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my boyfriend and i have only had sex twice.. but he can only last literally like 5 seconds.. how can he last longer?

Yeah. I know what your going through. Thats actually completely normal. There are many different methods to making him last longer. I would have him have an orgasm before you have sex. Whether you give him a hand job or perform oral, it can help a lot. There are also a lot of positions you could try. Usually if the girl is on top it can help, because the blood flow is reaching downwards instead of upwards, which as a result, causes him to last longer. Maybe even just take time to just get to know each other would help to. He could feel pressured into having to perform. My boyfriend and I had the same problem, so what we did was just take time to get to know each other and made sure our relationship wasn't only based on sex. If you feel you want more tips, I suggest picking up a copy of the latest Cosmopolitan. There is always loads of tips in there on how to deal with this kind of thing. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Would aloe vera gel work as a lube in the case of giving a hand job? I dont really want to be carrying lube around in my purse.

Yes you can use it. It moistens your skin and can be used for personal lubrication for both men and women. It's also better for your skin. If you use regular hand lotion often, it can actually dry out the skin. Aloe vera wont do that. If you run out of aloe vera lotion, i suggest using vaseline.

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Okay, so i shave my armpits. Is it still supposed to have those little hairs lleft? And it it supposed to be sort of pointy?

Yes that is normal. Unless you get a really good quality razor, there will be little hairs left. And yes, they will be a little pointy. TThat is normal. Everyone has that. Sometimes hairs will grow back in like a day. Just depends on your hormones. ^.^ Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my boyfriend is a super sweetie. but, there's one problem.his grades r kinda sucky. he most the time dosn't have his book report, homework, and things like that. he's really sweet. i mean, he's super cute, nice, funny, polite, and he likes me a lot. i also like him A LOT. i mean like, "crush on him since fourth grade" a lot.i DO NOT want to dump him. i want this relationship to last a loooong time.

I totally know what you are going through. You must like him so much, yoy don't want to see him fail. That's perfectly normal. I think you should invite him over to your house to study. Maybe help him with his book reports. Just make sure you leave plent of "study breaks." That way he won't think all your trying to do is change him. If he does ask why your so worried explain to him, you like him so much, you dont want to see him have to repeat the grade you guys are in now over again. He should understand than. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Ok I just broke up with my boyfriend and he hates me. Should I back of and let him chill or should I keep trying to talk to him?

My ex seems to hate me to. This is very common. Just give him space and if he wants, he'll come to you. Or give it about a month and then talk to him. Tell him you still want to be friends and that you still care about him. Just not in that way. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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