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I'm gonna get straight to the point.My dad hates me he said it himself he told me last yr. in New Years Day that he was gonna make it hell for me and he kept his promise now he's doing the same thing this year.Im 14/f and I'm really tired of it.And my sister doesn't make it any better because she looks through my things constantly I can't hide anything cause she finds it and uses it against me.She is 2 years younger and makes life living hell for me.My older brother is going to the Army soon and he barly is never there and me and him don't get along.Then there is my mom she doesnt understand all she can say is calm down be patient and soon this will end.PLZ HELP what can I do.Thank you on advance.

Try to see if you can live with a relative. Aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, or godparents. Maybe even a close friend? Time apart from your dad will make him realize how stupid he's being. You'll get along eventually, but it'll take time. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Hey guys. Sherry here. My little sister (10) got like white stuff on her underwear like a few weeks ago and yeah I knew it was normal but she told me just today that she got a really small red spot on her underwear...I never got these spots before my period or anything so do you think she'll get her period soon? She's really young though so idk! thanks:) I'll rate!

I think she's getting her period. White stuff before a period is normal. And she's young, but not too young. Most girls get their period between 9 and 15. Sometimes younger or older.
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Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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my kid hates me what do i do they are turnin rebelous help!

Hey, don't worry, I'm sure your kid doesn't hate you. Sometimes it seems like I hate my mom, but I really don't. What helps is talking to him/her and telling them how you feel. Sounding pitiful helps, my mom's tried that and it worked on me. Lol. I guess it would help to know why they hated you. Maybe try giving them more space. Teenagers (which I am one) want more space. Time to be w/ their friends. This is the age where parents just aren't cool and want nothing to do with them. (I guess if your kid's a teenager) Try doing something nice for them. It'll suprise them, and they won't hate you. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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i really hate my dad.

no, really.

i sincerely dislike the man.

i am incredibly opinionated and very vocal about my opinions, which he hates.

i know i am smarter than him, he hates this also.

he yells at me for no reason often. condemning my use of the computer. stating that i'm on it too much.

my sister, on the other hand, watches TV all the time. he says i lack social skills because i'm on the computer "too much."

he's not around when i'm not on the computer and doing other things.

but yet i am still on the computer too much according to him.

i fight back all the time, but i hate it. i hate him.

i cant stand this anymore.

i want out.

due to his working situation i dont see him except for some weekends. (my parents arent divorced).

when he tries to punish me, he fails. he really cant. i have more power than he does in our family.

i'm 14, extremely mature and intelligent, if i do say so myself.

i dont want to kill him (in my head i do, on paper it doesnt look so good) but i'd like some way to come to peace with him.

i am NOT going to shut up and stop being opinionated however.
any advice on what i should do?

Talk to your dad and tell him exactly how you feel. If you can't do it face to face, try email or a note. Just tell him how you feel. If he doesn't understand, talk to your mom about things, and see if can do anything about it. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Tomorrow night I'm having a friend over. We'll both be home alone, cuz my rents are gonna be at the neighbors. We're both 13/F. What should we do when the ball drops??? SOMETHING EXCITING AND WILD

Invite some guys over! Play music you like, and take a lot of pics! Make punch, stuff like that. Have a great time!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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ok well my question is a bit complicated, see im 15 years old and theres this guy I like hes 16. we grew up together ive known since ive been 4 years old and ive liked him. Ive always had a crush on him since 4 years ago..so 11 years. weve been best friends. well he found out i liked him and was gonna ask me out...i know this for a fact. well i go to meet him and theres some chick with him and its his new girlfriend...shes 14 and he said he wouldnt date a younger chick. his words to me were "i like you still but i like her more sorry...can we be friends?" then she comes over and starts kising him adn they start making out in front of me....and he keeps calling asking about friendship i keep ignoring the call or haning up...im so hurt..i mean 11 years! is longer than a chick he just met....i just dont get why i cant have a bf and keep one! what to do?
-advicegivers0601
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Aw, I'm sorry. Nothing that happened is your fault, so if that's what you're thinking, don't. Are you sure when he said he was going to ask you out, he wasn't talking about the other girl? Just a thought. Maybe he met the girl before he asked you out, and when he realized he liked her more, he probably truly thinks that you'd be better as friends. He might just be afraid of losing your awesome friendship. Try talking to him about it. Tell him how he said he wouldn't date anyone younger, and then did? Just tell him how you feel, and see what he says. You're such good friends, so I don't think there's any reason to be uncomfortable asking him about it. Good luck, I hope everything works out. Anymore questions, leave em'!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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I am 23 years old. I have been having sex with my boyfriend for about 2 years now. He's the only person I've ever slept with, and vice versa. I'm having problems because sex is very painful with him and I don't enjoy it. His penis is very large and it hurts a LOT. The length isn't so much a problem, but the girth. Neither of us has any STD's or anything like that. I love him a lot and we've even talked about marriage but I can't imagine a life of not enjoying sex. Any advice?

Maybe try telling him to move slower. Or go to the doctor and see what they can do. There's penis reduction, I think, I'm not sure if that's real. Lol. If nothing works out, maybe just masturbate. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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yesterday i was watching tv and i changed tha chanel and it was porn!! i didnt even bother to change it and i wanted to watch it and im 15/f is that normal?!?! i got really horny and i wanted to call my bf to come over! whats wrong with me?!?!

Nothing's wrong, that's perfectly normal. Lol, don't worry.
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Don't bother reading this unless you have gotten a perm before. I want to get a perm like so it is wavy or whatever they can do but i am afraid they will mess up or it will totally mess up my hair. I use to dye my hair alot and that never messed it up at all. i guess my question is how did your perm turn out and tell me anything that happened that i shuold know about before i get it done? thanks alot

I got my hair permed wavy 2 years ago, and it turned out awesome! It depends on where you go, I guess. Where I live, there's Holiday Hair. That's where I went. I would try it, it'll look awesome. And if they screw up your hair (which WON'T happen, lol), you can squirt shampoo in their face until they run away, lol. J/k, it'll turn out great! It takes about 1 1/2 hours to get it done. They wash your hair, and then they put rollers on your head and put plastic on top. Then they make you sit under a dryer for a while until your hair dries. Then they wash your hair again, and put the chemicals in it. The chemicals smell really bad, I have to warn you. Lol. Also, your head will get itchy, but you're not allowed to scratch it. Then they just dry it again, and put like, hairspray and stuff in it. It turns out really nice! You're not allowed to shower for 2 days, because that screws up the perm. And whenever your hair gets wet, you can smell the chemicals. It smells like skunk, but it only lasts a few weeks. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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i go to a private school and play bball but i may go to a public school next year. if i go to a public school i will play football. it is my choice what should i do

Do what you enjoy doing most! Maybe try both of them, and see what you like better. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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This year i made a lot of friends and they are alll really popular and they are my really close friends. They used to invite me to everything that they did and now they don't so i don't no if they still like me as their CLOSE FRIEND! COULD HELP ME OUT HERE!!

Wow, the same thing happened to me. I know how you feel, it sucks. In my case, they didn't like me anymore for some reason. I started hanging out with other people, and now I have lots of other friends. If they still seem to like you, maybe try inviting them to something. If none of them go, they probably don't like you anymore. If you want to, tell them you feel left out, and see what's up. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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I'm 15/f in highschool and I know this girl who is pregnant. This isn't about wether its right or wrong, but, she's 15 also, and in my grade. I've known her since 4th grade(just about). She just found out she was pregnant, and I'm on good terms with her and everything, but were not best friends. Y'know? I was thinking I should go up to her and tell her that if she needs anything, I'd be there for her. Should I? Would it be inappropiate? -Sarah

Nope. Go up to her and tell her that you're always gonna be there if she needs you. It shows you're a good, caring friend, and she'll appreciate it. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Ok, well, I weigh 120 lbs. and I'm only 13, female. Well, I want to start all new this year, so how do I lose weight fast! I want to lose 3 pounds a day! please help me. thnx for the tips



xoxox luv always Chelsey

Ok, well first, u have to understand that you're not gonna lose 3 lbs in a day. That's just physically impossible. But, if you do 20-30 pushups, situps, and crunches each night, you'll see results within 2 weeks, and just keep doing the exercises until you reach your desired weight. Good luck!
P.S. Try running and jogging too.
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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about a month ago..my neck was very itchy..so i started 2 scratch it..nd it got 2 a lil scab..nd i would always peel off the dry skin..and now its like really big!..and dark nd wont go away..i keep puttin my clearasil ultra 3 day acne treatment..and well iono..i juss kant stop peeling tha scab and it just gets worse! any advice?

You gotta stop peeling it, lol. Keep using the Clearasil stuff, but it'll never heal unless you stop peeling it. Occupy yourself with other things, like popping some popcorn, lol. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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okay so a little while back i wrote about how I 16/f liked a boy 14/m...and i wanted to tell him i liked him. Well. tonight I was talking to him and he ended up telling me he likes me, so i told him i liked him. Now we both know we like each other which is really good...only he doesnt think its gonna work because I live an hour away from him AND his sister...is one of my friends...we both know for a FACT that his sister would NOT like the idea of me and him dateing...at all. and well, he and his sister are gonna sleep over sometime, and itll probably happen everyonce in a while...only thing IF we start dating..we cant let his sister or parents know because then he wouldnt be able to sleep over. SO..problem. It would be backstabbing his sister in the back and I dont like doing that to people. so help me you guys :( I dont know what to do!

I don't think you should go out. Long distance relationships don't usually work out, especially when you actually do see each other, you have to pretend you're not dating. Think about it? It'll never seem like you're dating, what's the point. Just stay friends, ok? Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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please help me. im 14 and when i was 9 my mum left me and i was left with my dad but my dad blaimed me and he started hitting me and then he has been taken to court but he wont get sent to prison because i cant give evidence because i cut myself and im 'suicidal' so they say im mentally unstable what shall i do i want to die and im scared.

Don't kill yourself, please. If your mom isn't around anymore, talk to a close friend, relative, anyone. See if you could live with one of them. Do you have godparents? You could live with them instead. But don't kill yourself. Just get away from your dad. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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i have been going out with this guy brandon,brandon has an ex gf thats very jealous and wants him back shes made a huge deal about it she threatened me, my friends,shes been saspended.brandon said he would never go back out with her that shes stupid shes gotten so many people in trouble and upset.I kno the only reason why brandon ever went out with her in the first place is becuase he wanted sex,she did everything for him she did his hw,shed sleep with him whenever,just everything.he called me and told me things werent working out between us and he wanted to break up i agreed are relationship wasnt as good as i thought it was i wasnt upset about it i didnt really care until my friend karina called and told me he was hooking back up with his ex gf.I think thats so fucked up its really bothering me and i dont kno how to face it school starts agian monday and i have to see them both i kno someones going to mention something and ask me why he is with her i dont kno what to do help

None of this is your fault. You're right, he's a bit fucked up in da head, lol. He probably went back out with her for the same reason. Sex and whatnot, and you weren't giving it to him. But that's your problem, it's his. Just try and forget about both of them. And don't worry, you'll find someone better. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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My left foot feels really strange. It feels af if it doesn't get enough blood flow, because it feels numb, but on the top side of my foot. It has been doing this for a long time now. My right foot feels normal though. Also, I play tennis, so I'm usually on the courts about 5 times a week. Tennis requires lots of footwork, including mainly smaller steps. We also do lots of conditioning. Sometimes I step on my left foot wrong, and it hurts very badly. I think that I've strained it once before and it hasn't totally healed yet. It's a different pain than the other one I first mentioned. It's like a muscle limping type pain and it hurts very badly. It's been like this for a long time. I'm not really sure what I should do. My mom said that we might go see the doctor sometime, but does anybody know any thing that I can do at home to ease the pain. And don't tell me to lay off tennis, because I'm not about to do that. Please help and I rate.

You should a doctor fast. In the meantime, whenever you're playing tennis, make sure you wrap your foot with an Ace bandage. When you're not playing tennis, take it easy. Put your foot on a pillow and do something unproductive like watch Happy Gilmore. Good luck, I hope you foot gets better!
Hope I helped!
Happy New Years!
~*Erin*~

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Happy Birthday Erin from your baby. I love my hunny bunny. lol

Haha, thanks, luv ya 2,
Erin

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I am sooooooooooo bored. What is there to do on the internet? I've played games and a bunch of other stuff. I'M BORED. Help!

Try going to www.funnyjunk.com, www.ebaumsworld.com, www.homestarrunner.com, and www.bored.com. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
~*Erin*~

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