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okay so. what are you actually supposed to put in "fan mail"?

and do the people you send it to even read it.

randomm question. (link)
I would imagine something along the lines of how they love there work etc. Sometimes they read it a lot of fan mail isn't read not because they don't like hearing from fans but because they don't have time. It's still worth writing to them because some do write back, like i got a reply from Bam Margera with autographed stuff!



Okay, so I'm only 18(girl) and i am pretty sure i have hemorrhoids. But I'm way to nervous to go to a doctor about it. In every help site iv seen they tell you that constipation is the fault for these buggers...now when your in pain, and have to go number two, what is the best way without screaming in pain from going to the bathroom.
Much help is appreciated. (link)
Try going to a local Walgreens and getting a hemorrhoid cream to help get rid of them like preparation H.

Hope I helped.


My hair is a freakish color of blonde! its coppery and i hate it. I constantly tuck my hair behind my ears, and when i untuck it it is all kinky. If possible, I'd like a shampoo or product that helps with taking chlorine out of my hair? Possibly lightening it and making it soft. I use biolage conditioner and it does make my hair soft, but it's greasy afterwards! Help needed! Thanks! (link)
Try using some kind of shampoo just for blondes. It seems to help with color a lot! Try using a baby shampoo that also helps and make your hair soft.


Hope I Helped.



How do you shave your bikini line?? because when I wear a swimsuit that is not shorts or just plain underwear... I have my pubic hair sticking out and it is just soooo gross!!! I asked my mom if I could get it waxed but she won't let me. I shaved it once but i got bumps and itchy feelings. Don't tell me to use conditioner, shaving cream or lotion because I've tried those but they don't help me. Oh and somebody mentioned a product that gets rid of those, but I can't go buy things. So it has to be with a razor. :(

please help! How do I do this, side to side, up and down???

14/f (link)
Most likely you are going to get razor burn most everyone does. Try using a fresh razor when you do it! It decreases the chances of getting razor burn.

Hope I Helped!!


Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for just about 4 months and we've been having sex for 2 months now, not a lot because we dont want our relationship to depend on that. But whenever we have sex im just not into it, i dont know why. I like sex just im not enjoying it and im not sure what to do. Also, i want to orgasm but im not sure how i will know when its comming or how long it takes, because ive never had one before.

So what i want to know is..
1. Why am i not enjoying sex? but yet i still like it?
2. How do you know when your about to orgasm? and how long does it usually take? (link)
1) You could just not be doing it in the right position... [Try something where he's infont of you]

2) You will know its not a describable feeling but most people say it feels like a rush. Depending on what way get you to that point will determine how long it takes there no specific time.



15/F
When I masturbate, after two or three miniutes i feel like I really need to urinate but hardly anything comes out. It goes on for about 3 hours but recently it went on for 3 days! What do I do to get rid of the sting?
Thankss (link)
I'm not sure. I know that not enough lubrication causes it.

Hope I helped a little.

=]


ok, so the last few weeks i've been feeling like total shit. i'm fed up with numerous things and i dont know how to control my anger. I'm trying to lose weight for the new school year, but i get so "blah" that i overeat and lose control. I'm really mad at my image..for example, i think im ugly and fat. [even though im not, i sometimes have low points in my mood and i think im so ugly // fat that no one wants to be my friend and etc.] i have so many more like.."mood" problems, that they wont fit in this question. i think all of this crap has to do with some sort of wierd mental illness, but my parents dont believe me. i dont know what to do! pleaseeee,please help me.

thanks. (link)
hey

first off, everyone is beautiful. everyone has or will feel one day the way you're feeling right now. you probably do not have mood problems, but maybe you're just battling stress right now. is something bothering you? maybe a friend, a guy, some sort of other problem? figure out what it is.

try starting a journal. i have a diary & it really helps me figure out what's on my mind, & how to deal with it.

you have friends & they love you very much. i highly doubt you have a mental illness & your parents probably don't believe you cause we're all teenagers and parents think we're just overreacting.

anyway, it's probably just a phase & you should feel better in a couple weeks. if you don't, try telling your parents again and perhaps the doctor can tell you something more.

but seriously, try writing a journal. write everything out. you'll feel a lot better.

i hope i helped

;]


My hair is a mess!!! I really need new hair products that help make my hair soft, shiney, repair damage, smell good, no frizz and straight hair.

Any good products out there?

Oh if it helps I've tried Fructis, and it was ok but I got tired of using that so i switched to dove. Dove was ok but not the best. I'm thinking about Pantene ProV, Herbal Essences, SunSilk, or Vive.

Any good comments? (link)
hey

i love herbal essences cause it made my hair smell good, stay shiny & stay soft. it didn't really help much with repairing damage & frizz, but if i straightened my hair after i used it, it wouldn't frizz up.

i also highly recommend pantene pro-v, which i'm using now. it doesn't smell amazing or anything, but it makes my hair really soft.

i haven't tried the rest, though.



Whenever i shave my binkni area its nice a smooth right after. But then when i put my underware on with in like an hour i have like a million bumps where i shaved. I use a sharp razor, soap and i just dont get it. It seems like the other girls i see who wear their bathing suits dont have any bumps at all. My sister also has this problem. It seems like me and her are the only ones. Is there any way i can stop these anyoing bump from coming???

thank in advance (link)
hey

oh dear, no no you are not the only ones.

they're probably dry! try putting some lotion where you shave & see if it improves. you should also use shaving cream [a little] if you already don't.



never thought i'd be asking this question but i just got my period today and saterday i'm leaving for splash lagoon water park and i'm going to geauga lake! i've never put in a tampon and i need some advice on how to.. does it hurt? and you can go swimming in them right? a visual or something would help a lot!

thanks sooo much (link)
hey

omg sweetheart you should definitely try tampons. they are the best invention in the world.

no, the only times they hurt are the first one or two times. after that, you get used to them.

okay, it's really simple.

http://www.tampax.com/howtouse.php

you should put it in farther than you think because if you feel it inside of you or while you walk, you didn't insert it far enough.

the box instructions don't help at all.

try playtex slimflits.

i seem to get a lot of tampon questions, so feel free to inbox me if you have any other questions!



for facebook where it shows upcoming birthdays, does it do that for everyone? or do you have to do something special to let all our friends know? (link)
hey

if you have registered your birthday into your facebook account, it automatically shows up under "upcoming birthdays"

i do not believe there is a way to get rid of it though [like if you don't want it to show up].



I am in a group of 4 girls. They are always complaining about being fat(because they are very "womanly" with well defined hips) and point at me and my other friend(aka.May) saying we are sticks whitch we aren't. I am like 5'9" and 127-130lbs and May is 5'9" and 125-128lbs. We both don't look like a "woman" we don't have hips our like an 'hour glass' shape we have more of a boys body i guess you could say.

My question is are my friends actually fat?
Meg: 5'6" and 136lbs
Sara: 5'5" and 140lbs

IDK why i need to know i just do. Its been bothering me and i need to show them that they aren't fat. They won't beilieve me or May. (link)
hey

you haven't given their ages, so no one can really tell you if they're fat or not.

http://www.halls.md/body-mass-index/bmi.htm

i said you guys were 16 [haha] & they seem to be in normal range.



I read this phrase once and thought it was just a cute phrase but then on Hannah Montana i heard Billy Ray Cyrus singing it. I only remember a few words. The beggining is like:
If we were a movie, id be the best friend

and it ends

and we watch the sunset as it fades to black or something like that. What song is this? (link)
http://www.lyricstime.com/hannah-montana-if-we-were-a-movie-lyrics.html


Ok I just had my period yesterday. I have an A cup already. Im not completely flat chested, you can still see my boobs trough my chest. But I just want to know how much longer it will be since I grow bigger from my periods. I know everyone is different, but just an average time would be helpful. (link)
hey

a few months? maybe 3 months to a year until you get to a B [if ever].

don't worry too much about boobs. bigger = not necessarily better



Ok I just had my period yesterday. I have an A cup already. Im not completely flat chested, you can still see my boobs trough my chest. But I just want to know how much longer it will be since I grow bigger from my periods. I know everyone is different, but just an average time would be helpful. (link)
1) It normally depends on the age for that kind of deveopment.

2) Girls start growing breasts from as early as 9 to as late as 15. The average age when start growing breats is around 10-12.

3) When girls start their period, it's normally 1-2 years after they develop their breasts.

4) The average age for breasts to stop growing can be as early as 15 to as late as 21! Like you said, everyone is different.

5) If your asking when you will stop growing, it's normally after a few years after you start growing.

6) There are stages for breast development. Search it up because sites have plenty of information for you to explain it. There are 5 stages and normally a young teenager such as 12-15 can be around stage 3.

Good LUCK!
Ask any more questions if you need to!


Maroon 5 is coming in concert in awhile! I really want to go but in the song "makes me wonder" they use the f- word a lot, and my mom doesnt like that. do artists usually say these things in concerts during their songs?

thx! (link)
First of all, if you are able to go to their concert, YOUR SO LUCKY! Second of all, Adam uses the F word only three times. See for your self!

http://www.lyricstime.com/maroon-5-makes-me-wonder-lyrics.html

From experience, singers skip the F word. They might say other swear words if there in the songs, but the skip the F Word...if you watch their video Makes Me Wonder, they skip it so he'll do that. Tell your mom it's a safe concert!


heyy. can i have some catching tips in lacrosse?

i'm a righty. (link)
well just keep your eye on the ball
best thing to do is go behimd your house and just practice against a wall


heyy. sorry i didn't really know what category to put this under... but before getting a bikini or Brazilian wax is it good to like shave some already but still keep it long-ish or have it like not shaved at all and long? thanks. (link)
if you shave, waxing wont work
hair should be about 1/4" about
so trim it not shave it =]


lately, one of my friend were getting bullied, and i stood up to the bullie.. and now shes threating me and everythink! and the problem is shes really popular!!

(link)
It doesn't matter if she is popular. You need to tell your friend to stand up for herself. If she is getting made fun of or something than tell her to make fun of the popular girl. No ones perfect. If she starts bothering you than just stand up for yourself if it gets way too out of hand than tell a principle or something.

Good LUCk!


i'm 15, and i've never used a tampon before. i've had my period since i was 11. i'm just scared because i've heard it hurts and that some girls can't put it in. should i just suck it up and do it? what are the best kinds for first time users? (link)
hey

the only girls who told you it hurts weren't doing it right.

if you do it right, you can't even feel it.

the first one or two times may hurt, but you just have to get used toit.

you have to put the tampon in farther than you think you should. believe me. it can't get "lost" in your body or anything like that.

don't use tampax. use playtex.

like the girl under me said, start with a thin, light one. like playtex slimfits.

girls can't put it in cause they're scared. you just have to put it in really far & you can't even feel it. when you walk, you should NOT feel it inside you. if you do, push it up farther.

yes, just suck it up & do it. believe me. pads suck. they are so messy & smelly & HORRIBLE. you can do so much more with a tampon, like swim, wear thongs, & no one will have any idea you have your period.





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