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Is it true that my favorite show is going away forever? :'( One of my friends told me but she also always makes fun of me for watching Oprah ALL the time. Is she serious or just teasing me?

Please tell me it isn't true! :(

Sorry, hun. It's true. I'm reading it on the news as I type your answer:

"Oprah Winfrey has announced her daytime television show will end in 2011, after 25 years on the air."

Apparently, she will start a new show on her own cable channel OWN: The Oprah Winfrey Network in 2011. So keep your eyes open for that!

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I feel kinda dumb always calling my boyfriend the same couple things over and over but I don't know what else to call him. Could you tell me what are some cute nicknames for your boyfriend? Maybe theyu will work for me too! :)

Please and thank yoU!

I call mine:
Bubby
Bubs
Poo/Poop
Angel
Boy
Love
Lover
Cowboy
Cakes
Muffin/Muff
Monster

As well as the usual, like baby etc.

Some of the above are private jokes between us, maybe you could do that with yours, too? :)


In regards to the feedback: LOL thanks for letting me know! Quite embarrassing!!

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Sorry this is gross but I am having this clear gooey discharge and I never had anything like it before. It isn't just wet it is stick like a well, a booger!

Does this happen to any other girls? Am I sick?

Signed,

Scared of the cooter boogers.

Yes, it's totally normal and happens to others.
Discharge will vary in consistency (even if you haven't started your period yet) and unless it has a bad odor and/or turns a nasty colour (dark yellow/green/etc) then ther's no probs.

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I'm 14F and I know I'm still growing and stuff but my right boob is bigger than my left boob. Why is this? Is this normal? It's really freaking me out.

It's normal. Everyone is the same - only you can notice it more on some people.
If it's quite a bit bigger, (talking cup sizes) see your doc and he will tell you what options you have.
but seriously, they will never be perfect and exactly the same, so don't sweat it. :)

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does anyone know how i get a hear on my msn name and i dont mean the one were you put (L) i mean the black one that also comes in other colours and also you can get like music notes and other little pics. does anyone know ? thanks

Your computer should have something that's called "character map"
Search for it.
Mine is at:
Start
All programs
Accessories
System tools
Character map

All the little symbols are on there.. and if you can't find your character map for some reason, just Google it. :)

only search advicenators.com


To change the colour of your MSN name, you will need something called MSN plus. If you don't have it, download it:

only search advicenators.com


There's loads of other quirky little things you can do with MSN plus, too.

Have fun!

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17/f

I know that who ever reads this is going to have the impression that i'm cheating and not being fair and that i'm not a good person... but i need help. so before you go on thinking that i'm a horrible person, listen to me and see if you can help me..

I have a boyfriend. he's my age and we've been going out for 5 months. I really like him. he makes me happy and its going well. well he introduced me to one of his other friends, who is 2 years older (19) and at first, i thought he was a cool guy and good friend. but after talking to him for a while, he told me that he likes me. and my reaction was like "wow.... holy crap what am i supposed to do?? i have a boyfriend...." and so after he told me he likes me, i kinda shook it off and was just like "whatever. lets be friends" but then... after a few weeks, i started to realize that i really like him... like a lot.. ahhhh i dont know how to describe it. we've hung out quite a few times and i have so much fun around him and i can be myself and he makes me feel special etc. after a few more weeks, he got the courage to tell me that he loves me. and then it hit me, i love him.. but then again.. i also really love my current boyfriend..

now, i've thought about this A LOT. and my decision is to stay with my current boyfriend because i love him waaay to much to just leave him for another guy. even if that means risking not to be with my true love. and i told *jason-(19)* that i wasn't going to leave my boyfriend for him. and he is perfectly fine with that and he told me he would wait for me. even if that meant after i graduated college or until i'm 40. he will still wait for me. and i know that some guys don't keep their promises, but he told this to my face and he stared into my eyes for such a long time, that seemed like forever.

so thats that. i'm staying with my bf and *jason* is going to wait for me. meanwhile, jason and i are still hanging out frequently. and yes, it is hanging out. but occasionally there are a few kisses here and there between me and jason. i know that's really bad... but i can't help it. i'm in love with him.

another question i have is- whenever jason and i kiss, i have this feeling. its a sickening feeling in my stomach and it almost feels like i have to throw up. i have NO idea what this feeling is. i've NEVER had it before... i dont know if thats a good feeling or bad feeling? its not like i feel this way because his kisses suck or something. his kisses are AMAZING. i love them!! so it can't be because they're gross or something. i think its either- A. love. or B. feeling guilty for kissing him behind my boyfriends back.

i don't know which one it is.. can anyone help me? also any advice you have for me? opinions? stories?

thank you.

and i know you're thinking, wow shes a horrible person because she's cheating... but i can't help it.

also, this doesn't happen very often... so don't get the impression that i'm a slut/skank/whore or anything. because i'm not.

You're not a bad person, but the situation you're getting yourself in isn't the greatest and people WILL get hurt.

Firstly, you should break up with your boyfriend. You are seeing "Jason" and hooking up with him on occasion. You know that's cheating. and when you start to cheat, it's time to ditch the boyfriend - because you clearly aren't 100% happy with him.

You say you love both boys.. I reckon you're highly confused. You can't love 2 people in the same way - it just doesn't work like that. You either love your boyfriend dearly and would never hurt him.. or you love him as a person, but don't have the strongest feelings towards him you would like to.

How would you feel if he was doing this behind your back? Hurt? Angry? Disappointed? He will be feeling all those if he finds out. Which is why you either completely STOP seeing "Jason" - stop hanging out, stop kissing etc, or BREAK UP with your current boyfriend. You can't have both hunni.

and in regards to the feelings you have when you kiss "Jason", you're probably right - you know what you're doing is wrong and you're getting that horrible feeling in your stomach. I'm sure anyone with a heart and conscience would feel the same.

Take a long hard look at what you're doing here.. and really think about what you want. Write a list of pros and cons if you have to.. and follow your heart. but please, stop the cheating in the mean time, because if that gets out.. you'll have a million other problems on your shoulders.

Good luck and let me know what you want to do and how things turn out. x

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So do you guys think the girl and the guy (in the blue sweater) hooked up or did something shady that night at the halloween party?! Or do they just look plain drunk. Do you think something happened between them that night? Ha loads of questions.

Photo: http://s844.photobucket.com/albums/ab4/lexiegoesrawr/?action=view¤t=39.jpg

Photo 2) http://s844.photobucket.com/albums/ab4/lexiegoesrawr/?action=view¤t=328.jpg

It's impossible to tell, unless we were at the party and saw with our eyes. To me, they just look drunk. Some people do stupid things when drunk, though..

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Is it ok to hide things in vagina? I feel stupid asking this but I have something I want to put up there but i am afraid it will go up into my body where i can't reach it anymore so is it possible to hide things in (up) your vagina or not? No it is not drugs!

THANK YOU!!!

Don't bother sticking objects there to hide them - it increases the risk of infections and God knows what damage they can cause (depending on the object)
It has been known to hide things there, but there's a million better places than a vagina. and if you can't get a good grip of what you inserted up there, then you'll have a very red face explaining what you did to a doc ;)

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16/f

So my friend introduced me to this really cute guy. I think I like him and I'm pretty sure he likes me. And I know from her that he has hooked up a few times already, so he's pretty experienced. The problem is I have never kissed anyone before and have no idea how. I don't want to seem stupid. Help ?

Thanks for the Q.
I'm not sure why people worry about their first kiss.. as you're doing it, you'll be thinking "ohhhhhhh, I was scared for nothing!"
You really do just go with the flow. Since he's already kissed before, you can just follow his lead.
At first, just take it slow, with small kisses (pecks) then if it feels right (you will know if both of you want to make it more passionate), make them deeper, then for example, take his top lip with yours and suck on it for a little.
If you want to bring tongue into it, don't just shove it in. Put it in there slowly and if he responds to it, he will either suck on it or move his with yours. Same goes if he puts his tongue in your mouth first.
When your tongue's in there, explore a little, run it along his teeth, slide it against his tongue etc.. play around :)
There really is nothing to worry about and as long as your tongue isn't like a washing machine and you're not spitting everywhere (for some strange reason!) it will go fine.
The more you kiss, the more experience you will get - also, people like it in different ways, so the fun part is to experiment with your boy and find out what works for you BOTH :)

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So i met a guy named josh through a friend and i have hung out with him a couple times. Last night i hung with him at a party and we kissed for the first time. How can I tell if he is really into me or just using me?
He introduced me to all his friends.
Asked to drive me, mentions future times to hang out.
Did not go further than hooking up.
Held my hand everywhere we walked and talked and noticed my own frineds.
Kissed me goodbye =]

None of that sounds negative.
He's clearly interested and if he's already introduced you to his friends and set up future dates to hang, he sounds like a catch!

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About 5 hours ago i was laying in bed and I had to get up to do number two. I was dripped in sweat but my body was really could and my stomach was hurting so bad i could not breathe. After i layed back down for a while it went away but I still had some stomach pains. About an hour ago I had to go again and this time I only pooped blood, this has happened three more times. Should I go to the emergency room right now or wait for the doctor in the morning?

Ring for an ambulance ASAP or have someone drive you.
Please don't delay and if possible, let me know how things turned out.
Good luck and have a speedy recovery.

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Is it my dangling hymen hanging down from my vagina? How would having sex make that "pop" I don't get it??

Sounds like the "Labia Minora"
http://www.health.com/health/static/hw/media/medical/hw/h9991308-001.jpg
(sorry for the diagram!)
Everyones is different - sometimes they hang a little.

The hymen is just a thin layer of skin covering the hole. Which doesn't always break through sex.. it can break through sports etc.

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so for a good while now, ive been having a lot of discharge. most of the time its very gooey and pale-yellow. sometimes it even has a tiny bit of a pale-whiteish/green colour, but thats very rare and only lasts for about a day. and it always smells disgusting.

i got one of those home screening tests, and it said i had a yeast infection. but the test didnt have a colour for it if you didnt have a yeast infection. the test is for someone who has a yeast infection, or worse. i'm not exactly sure if i have one or not.

if i did, what can i do? i live a few blocks away from a kroger, but would they have anything there? and if so, what? and would i need a prescription? my mom and i arent on a great level of communication, and i'm embarrassed to ask her. so thanks for anyone who can help :)

"Symptoms may vary depending on the area affected. Infection of the vagina or vulva may cause severe itching, burning, soreness, irritation, and a whitish or whitish-gray cottage cheese-like discharge, often with a curd-like appearance. These symptoms are also present in the more common bacterial vaginosis[citation needed]. In a 2002 study published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology,[where?] only 33 percent of women who were self-treating for a yeast infection actually had a yeast infection, while most had either bacterial vaginosis or a mixed-type infection."

Since you said it doesn't occur much, the fact your normal discharge is "gooey and a pale-yellow" is fine - that's normal. Whenever you get the bad smelling type, ask a doc, as it sounds more like BV, which can be treated with antibiotics or over the counter meds.



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i bleed when i get fingered so is that normal?

More info is needed. but no, it's not. Is it too rough? Does whoever doing it have long fingernails? Are you wet at the time?
Do it a bit softer - the vagina is sensitive and you could be making small tears..

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I dont masterbate at all is this normal? I don't want to start or anything it is just that everyone else does it and i dont masterbate at all like as in ever never ever

If you don't want to masturbate, then that's fine. Not everyone does it.

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Is there any way you can tell a guy isnt a virgin?

No. You can base it on how he is in the bedroom, but it's not a certain way, like it could be nerves for example.

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13 year old boy in melbourne looking for a girl around carnigie or chadstone friedship or more

This is an advice column.

Save that for MySpace and Facebook.

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Okay. I'm 13 I DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX SO DON'T SAY THAT!! Haha. I Just Want To Make My Boyfriend Horny Hehe. It Is SO Hilarious WHen Guys Are Horny! The Look ON His Face And His Actions Have Me Rolling On The Floor Haha. SO WHat SHould i Do?

LOL. Strange.

Doesn't making out do the trick? :)

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alright so im not gonna tell you about myslef cause then i'll feel like you know but i've always wondered about some things. ok so on my vaginal lips i guess you could say theres white stuff. its not discharge bc its thick and its on the lids. i know what discharge looks like and this isnt it. and its been there for like since i was 14 i guess and im 15 now. i ususally scrape it off but im wondering if its normall?

Are you SURE it's not dicharge? Throughout your cycle, your discharge will vary in consistency.
Since discharge is your natural lubrication and helps to clean the vagina, I'd say it probably is that.. so yeah, that's pretty normal.
Plus, if it's been happening that long, it can't be much to worry about, but you could explain it to your doc, to rule out any slight infections etc.
Just keep up with your personal hygiene to stop it building up and becoming uncomfortable. Feminine wipes would be good for that. :)

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Icaught my dad cheating on my mom almost three years ago. walked down stairs saw him on a web cam with another women.... we stopped talking all summer, i never told my mom, i could never ever let my parents split and ruin my life, i was 15, now im almost 18. we finally kinda have a relationship, i mean.. i guess we talk. it kills me everyday, we hardly saw hi, and i never do anything with him. i caught him on weird chat sites.... all the time. and tonight, i found it again, on yahoo. i found his user name, a reallyy fuckin weird one for him, i luv9999... what the hel am i supposed to do. ive been depressedover this shit, for the fact my dad is a fake, im the only one that knows, and my mom is my best friend and im hiding this from her. its killing me. i go to collehge in a year so i cant wait to get out but to know im leaving her here with him. lately two people my parents knew husbands have been arrested for sexual predators with lil kids. it kills me, what if its that? god what am i supposed to do. i cant handle this, i cant see my family part, and i dont even know

I'm so sorry for what you're having to go through here.
Deep down, I think you know the right thing to do is tell your mum. You'd want someone to tell you, right?
There's no need to suffer in silence and make yourself sick over your dads wrong doing.
The first step is to tell your mum and THEN figure out your options.
Let her know what happened 3 years ago and if need be, show her your findings now.
You won't be the baddy for telling her.

Good luck, let me know how everything turns out.

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