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I am friends with this guy named sam and I like him and he knows it and he likes me and I know it. I even told his older brother marc I would say yes if he asked me out. He is being a chicken and he won't. Then Marc said he liked me. But I don't like him back. Marc was the one who said Sam liked me. My friend said Marc might have just said Sam liked me so I would ask Sam out and he would say no then Marc thought I wuold ask him out and then we would go out. But I wuoldn't ask Marc out. I really want to know if Sam really likes me how do I find out? And How do I know if it is the truth?
Usually when you have a gut feeling that someone likes you it's right. Guys are really not that difficult to read, but if you want an objective opinion you could always ask a friend who has often seen you guys together or read some body language signs ( tilting head to one side, hesitation, nervousness, them stuttering or looking down when you catch their eye, catching them looking your way.. you can find more on google if you search "how do I know he likes me" or something). Honestly, just trust your gut.
So you think that Marc would want you to get rejected by Sam and then go for him as a rebound? Why would he want that? Honestly I think you're being a bit paranoid.
Ask Sam out! Likely he's just shy, and will be glad that you did. Girls nowadays are so capable and so why do we have to uphold that whole tradition where only the guy can get the girl and not vice versa?
Liking someone is so ephemeral in that it can come and fade and grow if you let it. Go on some dates (casual even, if you wish), and then you guys can see how you two really feel about each other, and let your feelings for each other develop and mature. You seem to already know "the truth" =]
so this guy that used to like me told me he doesnt like me anymore. and the weird thing is is the day he told me he didnt like me this girl that i used to be friends with, who always gets in the way of anything that has to do with a guy for me, asked me if he asked me out yet. and i hadnt talked to her for like 2 to 3 weeks and it was just random. and then he told my other friend that he liked me still he just didnt want me to get hurt. then that night (the same day this all happened) he tells me he doesnt like me. and now hes hanging out with this girl. and i have a big feeling that shes got a lot to do with why he doesnt like me. and we were supposed to be best friends or whatever. and now she does this. and i dont know why she would do that. but like i just dont know what to do about anything, cause i still want to hang out with him, but he wants to hang out with her, and i dont want to be friends with he anymore, but also if i see her im gonna wanna bitch her out, so i dont know. advice would be awesome.
My advice would be not to bitch out your friend, since it may make you look like, well, a bitch. So far I wouldn't freak out yet; you aren't even sure what is happening right now. It looks like that this guy you like is slightly confused himself to be telling one friend one thing about you and another friend something completely different. It's possible that he's going through a time of mixed feelings where he's not entirely sure about how he feels about you, so whenever he gets a change of mood/heart he goes to one of his friends to rant, which is perfectly normal. Most likely he is not planning on his friends telling any of this to you.
If this is all making you feel angry at this close friend of yours, I suggest you ask her what's going on, but not in an accusing way because that will most probably make her either mad or defensive and cause her to clam up. Besides, yelling at her will just alienate you two from each other. What you really want (isn't it?) is to find out what's going on. Ask her if she and the guy you like are friends or more than friends. If it looks like one of them might be falling for each other, it's your call whether this is okay with you. It might be best, in this case, not to get involved. However, if them together will hurt you you should tell your friend. In this case she may agree not to see him because you feel this way, though it's your call whether you want to tell her that you would rather she not see him. Hopefully you are just jumping to conclusions. It doesn't seem likely that she would be getting involved in anything on purpose, but if he is falling for your friend then there is not much you can do about it. Even with the whole telling your friend them together makes you uncomfortable, you don't really have a right to stop them from being together, even though it's okay to share your feelings (in a non bitching her out way, please). However, this is probably a misunderstanding that is causing you to freak out for no reason.
The girl that you used to be friends with - who knows why she asked you that. Maybe she's seeing if the territory's clear so she can decide whether or not she wants to ask him out. Maybe she's just wondering if you got together with this guy after all since she most probably knows by now that you like him. She could be curious, she could be asking to congratulate you because she doesn't like the guy anymore and wants to be happy for you at least if you are together; I don't know this person so you be the judge.
Now on what to do about this guy. Don't stop hanging out with him. Stay calm and cool throughout the confusion. It might not be the best thing to be continually freaking out over this, and fighting with your friends over him. If he finds out you are doing this it could come off as freaky and too forward and a situation he'll want to stay away from. Let him know that you like him but treat him like a nice guy who you like but don't need. Don't let him see you getting territorial over him. Stay collected until he comes to his senses, or a less confused guy comes along.
I know this is a common question, but how do you know a guy likes you? I've read articles about how a guy likes you but it's kind of the opposite. I've liked this boy since 7th grade (Now im in 9th) and he's a grade higher (10th). I use to call him in the 7th but he didn't seem interested in me. It could've been he was nervous and shy or he didn't like me. At lunch, my table is a few yards away from his table. I could be wrong, but I think he somtimes looks at me with glances, but probably doesn't want his friends to know. I sit where I can see him, but he sits where is back is to me. Do you think I should interact more with him (i pretend im invisible because he thinks im a stalker...he doesn't notice i like him, stupid boy) so i can see if he likes me or not? Or do you think I should give up and just admit he doesn't like me. I can do that because it's easier to stop liking him that way.
A guy who looks at you or sneaks glances for no particular reason probably does has his eye on you. Look in his direction a bit the next time, check him out. If you catch him looking over quickly look away, and it'll show that you like him without being awkward or forward or stalkerish. If you do this, you'll send out signals and find out if it's really you he's looking at. You don't have much to base this hunch on and for all you know he could just be looking in your general direction for reasons completely different.
To be honest, from what you've written it doesn't really sound like you know this guy well enough to tell whether he likes you or not. It could be that he just doesn't know you enough to have anyone to be interested in. Your hunch not to come on too strong is a good one, but this doesn't mean that you can't make the first move. Calling him might be a bad idea since few people call other people since chatting online became popular unless they are good friends or close in some way, either that they are calling to schedule a time to meet up. Randomly getting a call from a person of the opposite gender whom you don't know just screams stalker all the way.
You have to interact more with him if you want any hope of starting anything. I wouldn't really give up on this point, because you've liked him for this long and so far you don't actually have a reason to give up. I mean, that's like forfeiting a soccer game before anyone's really touched the ball. Just - don't call him randomly until you've gotten to know him a bit better. Add him on some online community thing that you guys have in common (facebook, myspace, whatever). That way you can casually start a conversation. Comment on his profile picture. Ask how he's doing. Be random but always wait until he replies to send another message. It's online so it won't really be seen as forward, just as someone who's an acquaintance who is trying to get to know someone a little better, which in most cases is flattering. Once you've got something going in a conversation you can add him on msn. Don't necessarily join a club or a team just because he's on it, but if you are sharing some sort of extra curricular activity then don't be afraid to nod and smile, or start up a simple conversation (so you're in this club too?) Or you could ask him something about high school since he's been there an extra year (maybe I'm wrong, just an assumption). You could ask him a question like are the courses in grade nine hard? Or something less keaner-ey, like, "Omigod school's starting" or you could ask how his summer is. Don't always approach him every time you see him, just sometimes. Get to know him gradually and make sure that whenever you approach him he doesn't look bored or annoyed. It's really a lot like getting to know the person as a friend at first.
Once you have gotten to know said guy this far (or before that. Depends on how forward you want to be , and you could judge this for yourself but remember that it's a balance), start teasing him a bit. Poke him, maybe, if you two have been having good conversation thus far. Tease him and smile while you do so. Tilt your head to one side while raising a shoulder and play with your hair. When he sees you alone, always look really interested in what you are doing, and smile a lot. Look like you are approachable and hold your head high.
When you ask him out, do so in a way that's casual. Maybe when both of you are sortof alone and bored after school just say you have nothing to do would he want to chill at the park for a bit? Or something like that. Or don't even ask. Just start casually talking to him and see if he continues the conversation, and then start walking there and see if he will follow. The trick is to look available and like you are an interesting person to talk to, like you are slightly interested, but aloof about it so that either one of you could back out at any time. If he's not interested at all because he doesn't notice you, play up the flirtation and get him to notice. Talk to him and smile and tease him a bit. If he isn't interested because you are overdoing it, don't always be the first one to approach him and walk away a bit while smiling if he catches your eye. It's always a fine balance, but if you like him it doesn't usually work to ignore him completely.
Now to answer your original question. A guy who likes a girl is a little different in every case, though mostly you can tell through gut instinct. Usually they will have a different expression in their eyes when they look at you; their gaze will be more intense. They'll either look at you a lot more often or start looking down and maybe even blushing when they catch your gaze. They may start to follow you, or spend time talking to you for no reason at all when you see them in the hallways. If they are going someplace with you and some friends, they will choose to sit by your side. They may start to stutter, or not think as clearly in your presence, or smile a lot more than they normally would. If you touch a guy who likes you they'll sort of melt, breathe deeply, and collapse their chests (well, if you lean against them), and they may tease you more than usual. Mostly you'll know by the expression in their eyes.
Anyway. Don't be invisible, take a chance and see where it goes. Good luck!
Ok. so im totally in love with one shoulder shirts but i just dont find them in any stores. can you tell me if you know any.
- thx in advance : ]
If you can't find what you want in a mall, you could always try out the thrift stores/ used clothing stores. These are found in any sort of downtown area that could be nearby. Since I'm not sure how many stores are actually selling one shouldered shirts, you could always take a shirt and cut it yourself. Just remember to draw what you want on the shirt first with a crayon or eye pencil because the line is very visible, will wash off, and you won't accidentally cut it the wrong shape.
Hey everyone, just wondering if you have any good sites or books for monologs.
www.amazon.com is a good place to look for and shop for books online.
Try as well to do a google search... I tried and got several sites that had entire books online by searching online library through google including this one http://onlinebooks.library.upenn.edu/new.html
For anything else, it may be best to try to a local library or school library where there are librarians to help you find whatever you need, search engines, and plus everything is free.
If you are looking to buy books, you could walk around downtown where plenty of people sell them for a dollar, or a place like chapters where the books are more expensive but they have search engines and lots of selection.
ok so i reall want to start like a t shirt desighningm company. Except i really dont know were to begin strating with a name and ideas help
Well if it's your design company, it might be more credible to think of your own name. In any case, when naming anything in general, it helps to just sit down, clear your head, maybe put on some music, and write down whatever comes into your head. Anything, crazy, outrageous, a phrase, a word, a piece of gibberish. You can try going to a thesaurus or a dictionary that translates English into some other language, and search t-shirt, clothes, stuff like that and see if the outcome is catchy.
Whatever the name is (think of this after your brainstorm) really depends on the sort of t-shirts you will be designing - are you making simple t's with catchy phrases or really sophisticated things that you would wear with nice pants and heels? What is your target audience? Are you looking for everyone to buy these shirts, or only 20 year old males? Do you have a mixed audience or are your designs only for people with a particular style, or if you're doing the whole catchy sayings thing, sense of humor?
Once you've done this play with your words that you have came up with in your brainstorm. Figure out if the letters can look like any sort of symbol, or if you just want to use a symbol to represent your name (like lulu lemon and the omega sign). If it is your company alone and you can't think of anything, you could always use your signature, which is simple and yet classy. Or take whatever cool name you thought up with and write it with a font that seems to go with the style.
On the style of the t-shirt, think of when people wear them - as souvenirs, maybe, or you could do school and company t-shirts with pre-requested designs (I know whenever I join a club I usually end up buying some sort of hoody thing with a cute sort of logo on it often designed by the club itself). Some people like to wear grungier t-shirts as a kind of look, some just wear them because they're too lazy to think about anything more stylish. In any case, make sure that your t-shirts are comfortable, and once again think of your market.
I'm not sure your age, but if you are young enough you may be able to go to the government and get some money to start a company as a kind of student grant. Ask around once you have some designs to figure out where to sell them to, and remember, starting your own company takes a lot of drive, hard work, and dedication, so don't give up!
okay
so there's this guy and i don't know who he is or any thing
but everytime there's a program i see him
he's always looking at me and smilling and following me kinda
i know he's intrested but he won't come and talk...how can i get him to come over and talk with out me doing it first??
and if i have to do it first i don't wanna say anything like "i saw you noticing me"
Wow, sounds like you got this guy intrigued. Usually I would say to go on, make the first move, but in your case, it seems like he's about to, anyway. Simply smile a little and look at him, then quickly look away as if you are slightly embarrassed and really like him, and walk away a little to see if he follows, or to get him to follow ( a little being a few steps). Pretend to be reading something on the wall, or studying a cell phone, or reading, and look up a lot to look at him and smile. This is very flirtatious and he'll be walking over in no time.
I'm bad at showing that I like someone. Whenever I see the guy that I like, I act cold towards him and I'll give him an attitude. After I do that, I'm thinking why did I do that? What do you think?
Liking someone will make you vulnerable, so in a way, giving the guy attitude and driving him off is like a form of unconscious self protection.
Accepting that you'll have to surrender some part of yourself to a guy is hard, maybe if you gave yourself a pep talk before approaching said guy and reminded yourself of all his good qualities it would help. As well, it may help to get to know the guy as a friend first. You would still be closing part of yourself off to the guy, but not so much so you would be hostile.
In some ways, maybe you aren't ready to be with these guys. Maybe you're just saving yourself in that non-conscious way, for that one guy who will slip underneath your attitude protection, or who will wait it out to see the real you.
ok when i was in third grade i went to a babysitting service my closest friends there were a guy and a girl the guy was always sweet and a good gentleman even though he was two grades higher than me now i am much older and i found someone ive never talked to before but whenever i see him i get weak and alot of butterflies well i found out that the guy i have a crush on is two grades higher than me and was my close guy friends best friend when i was in third grade i really want to talk to him but im always too nervouse and anyway ive never talked to him before so i dont want to leave him a note his locker is 9 spaces away from mine and even if i did want to talk to him id never have a chance im busy in between classes and i hardly see him before school we will be in atleast one afterschool activity together along with one of my good friends (a senior) but that hasn't started yet and i dont know when ill be able to talk to him wat on earth should i do?
Add him to some sort of online thing - myspace, facebook, whatever. Or get his email. Online convos are great because you can randomly start and stop them anytime without any pressure because most people online are just bored and waiting for someone to talk to anyway. No one ever thinks twice about it. Also, maybe when you have afterschool activities with him and some of your friends, occasionally drift over to say hi. Not necessarily too much, or your friend may think that you're ditching him or something, but it doesn't mean you can't talk to him at all. You could even get the two of them involved in conversation - your guy friend and your crush, though if they were close in third grade they may not still know each other well in the present. Also, if his locker is so close, you will see him sometimes. What's the harm in a simple hi or a casual conversation? Maybe something like, you can't believe that summer's over, or wait, didn't you know my close guy friend in grade three? You can tease him a little, even flirt a bit, though notes in lockers might not be the best way to go since they can be a little forward.
Once you've gotten to know this guy a little better you'll be able to tell more if he's more the kind of guy who leaves you starstruck or someone you would ask out. When you're ready, you could always ask him casually to do something with you, and maybe a few other friends.
Something really weird is happening to me.
I'm breaking out all over my face, my chest AND my back.
Why would this happen? What can I do?
I'm on my period, but this hasn't happened to me before when I've been on my period. Help?
Some people break out from having their period, something to do with the hormones.
It could also, however with other things that you can, in fact control. Have you eaten food with lots of sugar in it lately? Or what about other foods with lots of refined carbohydrates, such as white bread, pasta or rice or potatoes? If you've eaten more of those foods than normal, that could be your reason.
As well, since pimples are caused by clogged pores, yours could be unusually clogged because of hygiene purposes. It could be that for whatever reason you are sweating more than usual, or maybe not bathing enough.
If you are concerned, you could always see your doctor who will prescribe special cleansers to get rid of the break outs.
im 16 years old,5'8" and i weigh 270 pounds and i want to be skinny again i would like to get down 170 pounds again. i have a lot of eating problems. im diabetic and dont know how to lose weight.what should i do?
My Dad had type 2 diabetes and got rid of it only through diet and exercise; now he's borderline but definitely not diabetic.
No matter how hard it is, or seems to be right now to lose that weight, don't give up. There are classes you can join that will give you exercise and eating tips, food manuals (what worked for my Dad was the G.I. diet, which stands for Glycomic Index, I believe), doctors you can visit, magazines on diabetes to subscribe to, internet pages to visit. It might be helpful at some point to just find out as much as you can.
The reason that you have diabetes is that you've given your system so much refined sugar that it doesn't know how to control dosages of refined sugar in your system anymore. Solution? Stop eating refined sugars. I'm not just talking about sugar as in the powdered white stuff, but sugars such as the things in starches and unrefined carbohydrates. To get rid of these from your diet, stop eating potatoes, white bread, that stuff that claims to have whole wheat in it but looks and tastes like white bread, white rice, white pasta, cookies, cakes, doughnuts. What helped my Dad was taking out everything with bread in it from his diet (though you should talk to a doctor before you do this). The best type of bread to eat is pumpernickel, or rye, you know, bread with really dark colours. I find, personally, that pumpernickel tastes the best anyway, so just see what works for you. Watch out for cereals in the morning. A lot of them claim to be low in something or other (fat cholesterol), but make sure you look at how much sugar is in the cereal before you eat it (the side of the cereal will list the order of ingredients and the sugar content). Look out for drinks; even juices have lots of sugars in them, but these are not nearly as bad as soft drinks, ice teas and lemonades. When you drink juice, drink it when your blood sugar is lower and make sure to get the natural, not from concentrate kind. Look for non sugar alternatives to things such as artificial sweeteners in everything from yogurt to soft drinks, and get jam sweetened with fruit juice from concentrate instead of actual sugar.
When you eat, don't eat as much red meat - stuff such as steak, lamb, or pork chops. This stuff, since you are diabetic, is probably not nearly as bad for you as sugars and starches, but try to not eat it everyday. Also, don't eat a lot of fattening cheeses. Some cheese, such as cottage and lowfat cream cheese is okay, but cheddar or brie try to only eat once in a while. Substitute butter for margarine. Eat lots of dark, leafy green foods. Tell your family you are trying to eat healthier (and maybe your friends) so that they will help you. If they get excited about you eating healthier you will have more chances of sticking with it.
When you eat, don't think you have to starve yourself. You aren't necessarily eating less; you are just eating better. It does help, however, if you don't eat until you are totally stuffed. Instead, eat until you are full, and eat snacks throughout the day. Not sugar or bread snacks, but snacks like celery, carrots, cottage cheese, instant vegetable soup (if you get really hungry).
Next, you'll have to exercise a lot. Try joining the track or cross country team ;it will really help you get motivated and anyone can join. Go for a long, slow jog every day, or get some weights and work out in your room every other day. Make sure that whatever you are doing is regular and that you will stick with it, and keep increasing how intense the work-outs are as you get stronger and stronger, faster and faster. Since you are diabetic, your blood sugar will get very low after you exercise. Be prepared for this with a chocolate powerbar or something of that sort to eat when you are done. It will make sure you don't faint or get too lightheaded afterward and it will probably help you get motivated to work out, knowing you can in some way get the food you crave afterward.
So I know it sounds tough, and that it won't be easy. Don't be discouraged if you can't loose all of that weight right away, and remember to celebrate small successes such as not eating a chocolate cake that one time (just don't celebrate with food!), or on managing to get your diet from whatever you eat now to mostly vegetables and leafy greens (not hard to cook either, just put on the stove in a pot with a little water for 15 minutes, or get microwavable for 4 minutes peas or corn, or stir fry something with lots of peppers and maybe some chicken). It's entirely a taste bud thing. Once you have been weaned off of what you usually eat, you won't feel like you're missing anything, and you'll find you feel a lot better emotionally as well as physically after you've exercised for a bit.
15/f (soph in high school)
okay so.. this is gonna be really long and confusing sooo im sry. okay theres this guy i went out with for a REALLLY long time. lets call him "A". so i broke up with A at the beginning of the summer but i still kinda like him. like whenever i talk to him again i like him more. i dont kno i never really stopped liking him. and he like keeps asking me to hook up with him and stuff. like i dont think he likes me, i mean he could but all of his friends hate me for some stupid reason (probably bc i go to a different school than him...its stupid) so he would never admit to it. but then theres this other guy. lets call him "B" (he goes to my school). hes one of my REALLY good friends. well i kind of like B but i think he likes this girl in another state. which is really stupid bc nothing will ever happen between them. she lives on the other side of the country! well he like flirts with me and we like text/talk all the time and like there was a dance last night that me & my friends decided not to go to and he texted me and he was like "where were you tonight?". which means that he like cares somewhat right? since at the dance last year he was like all over me. ok just to make this more complicated.. theres this other guy. lets call him "C" (he goes to my school also). well C is like one of my best guy friends too. i was talking to him a few days ago and he told me that he liked me. this was on aim. i havent seen him since like july but like we talk a lot and stuff. i told him i didnt know who i liked. i told him i was deciding. and he asked me if he was one of the people i was deciding between and i just said yes bc i didnt wanna make him feel bad. so now he like really thinks he has a chance. but i dont like him.. but i also dont want to hurt his feelings. so what should i do about him? theres this other guy too. lets call him "D" (he goes to my school also). hes another one of my good guy friends. i was talking to him online a few days ago and he was like "you hate me" and i was like "what? no i dont" then he told me to rate how much i like him on a scale of 1-10. he said 5 was really good friends and more than 5 was more than friends. so i said 5 (because i only like him as a friend). and he like got all mad. so i dont know what to do about him. then theres this other guy lets call him "E"..jeez this is getting complicated haha i hope youre following all of this. but anyways he goes to the same school as my ex and theyre really good friends. anyways E calls and texts me all the time. hes told me before that he likes me. and he says all this cute stuff all of the time. i like him as a friend hes really funny and nice. but i dont really like him as more. i mean i flirt with him and stuff but hes just a fun guy ya know? like even if i did like him i couldnt go out with him bc my best friend went out w/ him in like january and also hes my exs best friend. anyways hes basically like obsessive. like i feel like hes stalking me sometimes. so idk what to do about him. like i want to tell him to back off.. but then again i dont want to hurt his feelings. then theres this other guy. lets call him "F". ive been kinda on & off about this guy. sometimes i like like him and sometimes i dont. hes really confusing bc sometimes he like picks fights with me and then other times he flirts with me like A LOT. like he keeps asking me to hang out but then when we did him & his friends like ditched me & my friends. i think it was kinda a joke but i still got mad at him. so i dont kno whats up with him either.
HELP?
A -- If you didn't like this guy, why did you break up with him? The reason his friends probably hate you is most likely because you broke up with him for no reason. Yes, all his friends might like him and be jealous that he wants to hook up with someone far away, but honestly, the first reason makes a lot more sense.
B -- It's not stupid to like someone who lives far away. Liking someone is liking someone and it cannot be helped; this can be romantic or stupid depending on how you view the situation. It seams like he mostly likes you as a friend. Good friends do often tease each other in a way that can be viewed as flirting, though this does not always mean that there is "something" there. He would also wonder about you not going to the dance because you were a friend.
C -- Don't tell him you like him if you don't. It'll just hurt him more later on when you have to tell him that you don't like him. Besides, how are you obligated to like people? There are so many guys that do like you and you can't possibly please everyone. This goes for just about everything in life. Do what feels right for you and then you won't have to make the situation more complicated in general, worrying about how this guy feels and that guy feels. Just worry about yourself.
D -- is being lame. For some reason he seems to expect you to like him and he's feeling bad about himself and expects you to like him and cheer him up by this. Forget about him, at least until he matures to have a brain beyond that of a five year old.
E -- Tell him that you like him as a friend. As a brother. You're life is so complicated that you can't deal with more love life trauma. If this doesn't work then tell him politely that you can't always spend so much time with him. If things get out of hand, just stop flirting with him as much, or replying to whatever kind of electronic communication so he gets the message, then start replying at a really really slow rate so that he gets you don't want to be super super close, but don't want to lose contact altogether.
F -- Well, this guy is just confused, either that or you're reading the signs wrong. Sometimes people bicker with the people they like or play pranks on people because they like them. If he is actually fighting and not in a haha-I'm-teasing-you-and-sort-of-fighting-but-not-really kind of way, then I suggest you just spend less time around him. It seems like you don't need any more confusion right now and this guy probably won't know what he wants long enough to give you what you need, anyway.
In conclusion. There are lots of guys that like you. Maybe you like some of them. It seems like your main conflict of interest is between A and B. A you're not sure he likes you and if you entered into anything with him it would be hooking up. A relationship without commitment. If this isn't the kind of thing that you are looking for, I suggest you get over this guy once and for all. For whatever reason, he isn't ready for something real and mature, and if you go and hook up with him, hoping to get back together, he could end up only wanting a hook up and seriously hurting your feelings and dignity in the process. If you like B, by all means, keep up the flirting and see where it leads. Keep in mind that you have tons of time to work this all out. There is no one standing over your shoulder (at least, I hope not) going "You must have a boyfriend NOW!!! DECIDEEEE!!!" Maybe, since you just broke up with this A guy, you aren't really ready to go into something. Who knows, with time anything could happen. A totally new guy could come into your life and take your breath away, or maybe everything just clears up a bit. Don't pressure yourself. Do something with your (female) friends, join some school clubs, answer some advicenator questions, whatever floats your boat. If none of these guys stand out to you in your head, maybe you aren't really meant to be with any of them, anyway.
wow what to say. i still like this kid named alex, and im goin out with a guy that i dated before alex so lets call him my number 2. okay well i said yes to number 2 on thursday and it was infront of the entire class and i didnt want to say no and loook like a BITCH, and hurt his feelings so i said yeah. now yesterday [friday] in school me and alex we "bonded!" and i had the best time and being with alex just felt so right. being with "2" is kind of weird and i dont like him. but he really likes me and all my friends say i should stay with him hes a nice guy but i dont want to stay with a guy that is obbsessed with me and i dont like at all and makes me feel uncomfortable. well yeah thanks!
So number two, you've dated but were you in a relationship? Did you break up with him or did you just not see him for a while because of summer or other reasons? If you haven't actually "broken up with" number 2, then of course he's a little obsessed with you. It's what happens when you like someone, and usually it's acceptable (to some extent) if you've already said yes to going out with them. If it's making you uncomfortable that he likes you, it's probably because you don't like him back. Why are you still with this guy in any way, and why do you feel obligated to him? Did you ever like him in the first place? Even if you are in front of people, you shouldn't feel like you have to say yes to certain things (going out on a date, being in a relationship, getting married, anything along those lines. I'm assuming that you said yes to a date or something?). It's okay to say no to a guy in these situations. Your being honest. It's not a reflection on them in any way, nor is it our fault, you just don't like him back. Entering anything where the guy thinks you like them when you don't is way worse than rejecting them. It ties them up when they could be moving on and meeting someone that will really become obsessed with them back. Rejecting guys is part of life for them and you in front of the whole class or not... in future you might say you want to "think about it" and then tell them no in private. Sure it might hurt for number two, but he needs to know how you feel, that you were only saying yes to him in front of the class to not look bad. It will hurt for him if he really likes you to find you may have been leading him on, but think of how much more it will hurt if he finds out months from now? It's not being a bitch to say no. It's being honest and it's sometimes the only non bitchy thing to do, in a way.
Now this Alex guy. I wouldn't necessarily go be with Alex and commit yourself to him just because you "bonded". "Bonding" isn't always the same as liking someone enough to date them, and it could mean you like them in totally different ways. It's good to have connections with people, though usually it makes them your friends more than anything. I suggest you keep hanging around with Alex and see where the whole bonding thing takes you. Don't make a big deal out of this whole thing thinking you must now "choose" between number two and Alex. You can hang out with both, just keep it friendly, and unless you feel strongly for either of them, don't send out any signals that you don't mean. Don't tell one that you want to date one on one and become attached to that one person until you are entirely sure that that's what you want.
I am tremendously frustrated with trying to understand school. Whenver I get ahead in one part of school I fall behind in another. I have tried organise myself and I lose my organiser. I might leave myself a note and I forget where the note is and what was on it. All that compounds on sports and clubs. I would like to know how other people organise their life. Can anyone help me?
If you lose your organizer get another one, or write things down in several places so you don't forget.
Don't worry too much about it; everyone gets disorganized sometimes and high school is hard. Everyone is expected to do everything in some ways and having a balanced life is the hardest thing of all. Even if it looks like people are fine, very few people have it figured out at this point.
If you're having trouble with losing things, it might be helpful to clean your room. I know. Probably the most horribly mom-ish, boringest piece of advice I could give anyone but it's true. Try to have one place for your planner in your room (a certain corner of your desk, perhaps?) and a place in your bag where it will stay except for that one moment where you take it out to write down a sort of to do list on it during the time you get homework in class. Make sure to always slip it right back in afterward, so you don't ever forget it in a classroom, and always write your name on it. For each subject, either carry a different binder for each to school, or at least have a different binder for each at home. You could either stay with each subject has a different binder at all times (this could be heavy but I've had it work for me) or you could keep two separate binders for two separate days (I'm assuming your school has the same courses all year). For most schools, on one day you have four subjects and on other days you have another four. In this case, each binder would have four sections for each subject. Once you get home, you can put notes for each subject into the eight binders you would have at home. Each of the eight binders you use for most of your notes, no matter which system you go by, should be divided into different sections for notes, daily homework (stuff that isn't marked), assignments (for the courses that require extensive research whenever you get a major assignment, you can put all the research into this section and it's a LOT easier), and tests.
As for the actual getting ahead, this is different for everyone. I've read that fifteen minutes per subject to review notes helps, but this has never worked for me. I've also heard another individual who benefited by taking an hour a week to intensely study something. My best advice would probably be to figure out what's most important and focus on that first. It's not always necessary to be completely with the class on all subjects (unless the teacher does homework checks) so you may be able to use the whole getting ahead one subject at a time approach to your advantage to do one subject for an hour or so after school, and do homework from previous days in that one hour. The best thing to remember - whatever study style is best for you, is to find one spot that you feel really comfortable in with no distractions (not your bed, then your brain starts to fall asleep) and make that your study space. Then, find one or two periods of time that you can turn into your study times. For one hour, say, you can do all of the homework stuff to keep on top with your notes. After a break, you could take another hour to work on a project that's due in a month. Sports and clubs are great because they are always right after or right before school, and very few people feel like doing homework during those times anyway. If there is some sort of after school thing that requires just as much work as one of your subjects or projects (ei, school journalist), you can organize that into your life just like you would with an assignment.
Another thing to think about is what's more important to you. Think about situations where you may have to chose between school, work, clubs, and that sort of thing. Then, when you are in those situations, you will know, say, that to you maybe it's more important to do well in school than in sports, or maybe its vice versa. Remember that there are always "priorities", for example, it's more important that you do a project than if you've reviewed your class notes. Very few people are on top of everything all of the time. The trick is to always be on top on the things that count the most, and drop the things that are stopping you from doing this. Once you figure out how to do that, you will truly figure out how to be organized.
My question is pretty simple. I'm feeling really lonely and I was wondering if anyone knew what to do in these types of situations. Not like sexual lonely haha just friends lonely. I've drifted away from my current friends because they've pretty much gone down the wrong road in terms of drugs, sex, and most everything else correlated with teenage life. I'm 17 at the moment and will be turning 18 in a month, so I figure that maybe the club scene might help me branch out more. I have a myspace, many friends, but like most of ya'll, it doesn't mean anything. So I guess to break it down, what should I do? I'm pretty outgoing and I like to meet new people, but I'm really shy. I know some will say "overcome your shyness" and what not, but that's something I have to work on, on my own. Maybe you can be my friend and chat with me? Anyway, thanks and answers will be appreciated.
Just because your friends have been down the "wrong road" doesn't always mean you need to stop being friends with them... I mean, if you are really lonely you could always talk to them on the phone, or get together in a way where you know you wouldn't be pressured into anything (ei, if it's just you and them and you're hanging out casually it's less likely they'll pressure you to do drugs than if there are tons of people around you doing it).
Anyway, I guess mainly what you are looking for is a new group of friends? The club scene might not be entirely what you are looking for in this case (if you mean the ones with the bouncers and music, that kind of club) since there will be a lot of people possibly into the things that turned you off your old friends in the first place. However, the other type of clubs - school clubs, after school clubs, religious clubs, and that sort of thing - this is a great idea because it lets you get to know people without any of the pressure to have good conversation when you first meet. Get involved - if you join a sports team, cheer other people on. Joining something like debating or some kind of social planning club could actually help you kick the shyness just by being forced to speak up and be a part of something.
Myspace is actually also a good idea, not to meet people, but to get to know acquaintances better. Say you met someone once at your school, but never really got to know them. First you could open a conversation online. Say you like their profile picture, or just say hi, that kindof thing. Then they will reply something simple back, like another hi, or a thank you, and then you can make a comment that ventures a little further, like how are you doing, or you can never find good profile pictures, that sort of thing. Soon you will have conversation, and no one will think it's weird if it it fizzles out or if you initiate conversation a lot since you are online, and everyone is bored and randomly talking to everyone. Then you can ask them to go somewhere with you, like, you really want to see a movie and no one will go with you and maybe the person you are talking to likes the same movie. Casual stuff like that.
If you are shy it might be nice to find a group of people (part of a club, or a sort of clique thing that sits together a lot at lunch) that are friendly looking, not into behavior that turns you off, and that look inclusive. You can then do the simple act of sitting with someone there at classes or in lunch and start talking to them about something, anything. Smile and look friendly, and see if they will talk to you. Say hi to people you've talked to before, or that are in your classes in the hallways. If you are shyer, it might be a good idea to try to get to know the more talkative people first as they will help get the conversation going. Being part of some sort of group is a little like being in a club because then you automatically have some way of spending time with people and of feeling less lonely.
Talk to people in your classes and in clubs you join. I guess you're right that it's a little of your own thing to deal with; just try to remember how much it sucks to be lonely and how much better it is to have taken that chance to open up to people, even if you do end up making a fool of yourself. IF you don't take a chance on things such as talking to that person that one time - you could be there friend or not, but if you never talk to them you'll never know.
Okay, so there's a guy that I really like; he's really nice, sweet, funny, and we share a lot of the same interests. We flirt with each other sometimes
I asked him to dance at the school dance, and he said that he just wanted to go shoot some hoops.
Then, to make matters worse...
His friends came up to me at the dance like 10 minutes later, asking me if I still wanted to dance with him.
Then they were like pulling him towards me, and he kept running away!!!
Then I saw him after the dance in the hallway when I was going to my locker, and we were both blushing so badly... lol
Cause my friend gave him this note like 6 months ago, saying it was from me, and she signed my name in cursive to make him think that it was from me!!! It was one of those, check Yes or No if you want to go out... And, of course, in Science class he said he didn't want to go out with me, and then I told him that it was a forgery. But I'm debating on whether he really doesn't want to go out with me, or if he said no because he didn't want to tell my friends his response. Or, I think that one of my friends had a crush on him, too, and by doing that, they knew that he'd say no to me...
Well, anyways, I went to this pizza place yesterday with my family and 2 of my guy friends met us there, too. Well, anyways, we went off to go play some pool and stuff, and then I came back, leaving them there, cause I ran out of money. :( So I was walking outside to our table, when I saw the dude that I like! Right when we both saw each other, he looked like he almost choked on his drink, and his eyes were all big! :S So, anyways, I went back to go play foosball with my 2 guy friends - me versus them. So we started playing, and then the dude that I like came up and was watching us play. And, of course, when he came up to us, I was all nervous and was totally sucking at the game. :S So now I'm really mad that I didn't ask him if he wanted to be goalie on my team... :(
Then, last night I went to the high school football opening game, and he was there! My friends that I was with said that he kept on staring at me! :S
What should I do? Does he like me, or am I just wasting my time? :(
Thanks
It sounds like your friends just really enjoy social drama. They really really want you guys to be together because you guys obviously like each other and they have no love lives of their own (just an assumption from what I read) either that, or if they do there's nothing really interesting for them going on in that field. As far as they are concerned, you are lucky that you guys like each other and they want it to work out and happen immediately so they have something to do and something to talk about.
It seems like you are both really shy (you and the guy you like) so this is making both of your friends groups feel the need to get rid of the shy for you! Make everything happen because you are slower and they are more capable. As for what you should do. Ask him out, if you want to, but be aware that things could maybe feel too fast for both of you just because of all of the pressure from your friends. Tell your friends (and possibly his) to back off if they are making you uncomfortable (sounds like they are) that it is your "relationship" and not theirs, that you do like each other but will work things out in their own time. Keep flirting with the object of your affection and do not be afraid to bask in the attention that your friends are now paying you, they are going to embarrass you/ make you uncomfortable when you have a crush because in some ways that's just what friends do. Don't worry. When they like someone else you can have your fun :P
Oh in case this wasn't clear from before, he does like you, even if his friends are making it awkward.
I am 16, and I like this girl at school. We have been in class together often for the past two years. This year I'm a Junior, and I am finally feeling more confident but everytime I get around her my mouth turns to jello, and I sound like a fool. She is so beautiful, that I can't help staring at her sometimes. She thinks it is sweet. I have even told her I like her and she really has not even said a word about it. She is a great friend, but it seems like thats all we will ever be. She says she only dates older guys but I am a great guy too. How do I make her notice that about me?
She may say she likes only older boys but this doesn't really prove anything. The truth is, while girls may tell themselves that they only fall for a certain type of person, stuff like how tall you may be, how old you may be, none of that will ultimately matter in how much they will go for you. It happens on a completely different scale.
On getting her to notice you - it seems like she's in a phase where she appreciates the admiration she gets from you - so keeping up whatever you are doing that makes her appreciate this could work. The only danger to this is that she may still see you as just another guy and take you for granted. Girls like to feel like the guy that they're with is some one who isn't just average and who was harder to get in some ways, even though they like to be admired. It's paradoxical. Now you should just listen to the cues she gives you. Tease her a little, maybe slightly physically (ei jokingly poke her) and see how she reacts. If she smiles and laughs a lot and flirts back, you may want to take the approach that turns you into her adoring person that "chases" her. Give her flowers if she succeeds somehow (I don't know, was she in any way involved in some sort of school play, performance?) Go to her sports games (or to things that she's in), tease her a lot in a slightly flirtatious way while getting to know her more as a friend. When it's her birthday, or when it's christmas, write her a card that's slightly more personal than everyone else's, and some kind of inside joke present. If you notice that she is away from school one day then send her a short but concerned email asking maybe if she's okay, saying you missed her in (lunch, whatever class you guys have together). And then there is the whole basic courtesy thing - hold doors open for her, give her lunch money if she doesn't have any, or lend her subway tickets when she's forgotten, let her use your phone, friend stuff.
Second scenario - she isn't flirting back, or looks slightly annoyed when she sees you. It could be possible, then, that she is using the "older guys" thing as an excuse to avoid you asking her out and having to reject you/ having you pursue her. In this case, doing any of the above could really make her uncomfortable or scare her off. You'd have to approach more cautiously. Maybe sometimes you could sit next to her and joke a little, but not everyday you would sit next to her. Focus a lot on who you are, your own passions. When you walk into a room, look confident and tell yourself that you are an awesome person. If you believe this then there are way more chances that she will see this about you (and even if she doesn't, it's not a bad thing to do in general). If you are really getting vibes that you shouldn't chase her or whatever as much, or that she won't like you back anytime soon, the most you can do is be the best person you can be. Who knows, she may notice and come to her senses. Or you could start liking someone completely different.
From what I read, however, it seems more like the first situation. Good luck, but just remember to keep reading the situation to tell how much is enough and how much is too much. You want to flatter her and make her feel appreciated but you don't want to look like a creepo stalker. You can't really make her notice anything, ultimately, everything that's amazing about you she'll have to see for herself. Confidence helps.
Hi,
I need to make an energy converter for science by tommorow or I fail. (eg: potential energy to kinetic energy, or chemical energy to electric energy etc.) Can someone please help me?
It doesnt have to be a really detailed model or anything. I would prefer it to be just made out of something i have at home.
Thanks.
Try making some sort of car out of cut out cardboard/ card paper/ a tissue paper box. You could either do elastic energy into kinetic energy or potential to kinetic for this one (are you allowed to do one type of kinetic into another?) Search "mousetrap car" or "elastic band car" to get instructions, but it wouldn't be that hard. This would probably earn you a higher mark, since you would be making something.
If you really wanted to take the easy way out (and don't think your teacher would mind) you could always do something like holding a ball up and then dropping it (potential energy to gravitational energy) or do the same by rolling some sort of round object down a slope. You could also crack an orange peel in half near a flame of some sort (a bunsen burner flame? a lit match? A lit lighter?) and watch the flame get huge. Then you can explain that the orange peel contains orange oil which contains d-limonene, a substance which is flammable. Flammable substances contain lots of potential energy, and when they react it is... okay it's been a while, I don't remember. Hey, it's your homework, combustion energy? Anyway. Or you could do something similar just burning about anything. You could explain how a piece of paper has lots of potential energy for combustion. These are just a few ideas, though I suggest you choose something to do right away. Good luck!
This guy likes me. He hasn't told me yet but I can tell just cause the stuff he does. And well I don't really like him.. how can I tell him without him hating me??
In most situations (if the guy is a normal, mentally sound person in general), he will not hate you for not liking him back. He will realize that he is a guy who some may like and some may not but will not necessarily expect you to like him back unless you flirt with him constantly or give him any sort of cues which you would only give out if you actually liked him or wanted to believe this.
You don't actually have to tell him you don't like him at this point, especially since you don't actually know for sure that he's trying to pursue you (you're not in his head, right?). If you are really concerned about this, you don't have to be afraid of getting to know him as a friend, but stay away from too much flirting, or teasing that can turn into flirting, and if he asks you to go alone with him to the movies and to dinner you can calmly decline. You could always (if you really feel like you have to tell him you don't like him) just tell him. You could go up to him and say "DO you like me?" and if he says yes say "I'm sorry but I don't feel the same way and I would rather be your friend" or something like this. However, I wouldn't worry that much. Plenty of people like other people that don't like them back, or like people and choose not to pursue anything for whatever reason. His crush on you could come and go, it could be gone tomorrow, he could not even realize now that he likes you while secretly being extremely attracted to you. Don't worry so much about this for now, you only really have to say anything if he asks you out. In that case all you would have to do is say no, or that you don't feel that way about him. If you are mature about it then he won't hate you.
---> if you wanted to, you could also always drop a few "hints". Tell him about boys you think are cute/ have a crush on, or talk about your crush (real or imaginary) in front of him. Mention how glad you are that you two are friends without you having to worry about all that relationship stuff, tell him innocently that you don't get high school relationships and don't want a boyfriend, tell him you like him so much platonically/ like a brother/ like a friend.
Are there any websites where I can watch south park for free. I've tried TV-links but half of the stuff doesn't work there.
Youtube isn't any good either.
Can anyone please recommend some sites?
Thanks.
Peekvid.com
Flickpeek.com
alluc.org
dailymotion.com
ovguide.com
These are all sites that are good for watching tv online in general.