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giving an attitude
I'm bad at showing that I like someone. Whenever I see the guy that I like, I act cold towards him and I'll give him an attitude. After I do that, I'm thinking why did I do that? What do you think?
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Liking someone will make you vulnerable, so in a way, giving the guy attitude and driving him off is like a form of unconscious self protection.
Accepting that you'll have to surrender some part of yourself to a guy is hard, maybe if you gave yourself a pep talk before approaching said guy and reminded yourself of all his good qualities it would help. As well, it may help to get to know the guy as a friend first. You would still be closing part of yourself off to the guy, but not so much so you would be hostile.
In some ways, maybe you aren't ready to be with these guys. Maybe you're just saving yourself in that non-conscious way, for that one guy who will slip underneath your attitude protection, or who will wait it out to see the real you.
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thats something normal that a girl would do, i admit, i've done it a few times, but you have to try to be nice, maybe you can be cold to him in a joking matter (if you get what im saying) but try to not be as cold.
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The same thing happens to me and then the guy thinks I'm either SHY or...anti-social. I think (my theory) is that we know we show the feelings and we don't want to....so we try to act like we hate the person so they won't think we like them. That's what i think. You need to loosen up...and think about it this way: 'If he knows you like him, he'll prob show some interest that he has/had for you'.
Best of luck;
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Hey I had the same problem. I hated it. Sometimes I still do act mean to guys I like. But here is how you stop.If a guy starts to talk to you answer in a nice voice. And laugh at his jokes. I just thought of the guy as a friend like one of me best friends and I act nice to them so I acted nice to him. Just act yourself and if he likes you he likes you, if he doesn't he doesn't. If you say something mean, right away say just kidding and say something nice.I hope this advice will help you.
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