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really confusing love life. sry. please answer though. =]
15/f (soph in high school)
okay so.. this is gonna be really long and confusing sooo im sry. okay theres this guy i went out with for a REALLLY long time. lets call him "A". so i broke up with A at the beginning of the summer but i still kinda like him. like whenever i talk to him again i like him more. i dont kno i never really stopped liking him. and he like keeps asking me to hook up with him and stuff. like i dont think he likes me, i mean he could but all of his friends hate me for some stupid reason (probably bc i go to a different school than him...its stupid) so he would never admit to it. but then theres this other guy. lets call him "B" (he goes to my school). hes one of my REALLY good friends. well i kind of like B but i think he likes this girl in another state. which is really stupid bc nothing will ever happen between them. she lives on the other side of the country! well he like flirts with me and we like text/talk all the time and like there was a dance last night that me & my friends decided not to go to and he texted me and he was like "where were you tonight?". which means that he like cares somewhat right? since at the dance last year he was like all over me. ok just to make this more complicated.. theres this other guy. lets call him "C" (he goes to my school also). well C is like one of my best guy friends too. i was talking to him a few days ago and he told me that he liked me. this was on aim. i havent seen him since like july but like we talk a lot and stuff. i told him i didnt know who i liked. i told him i was deciding. and he asked me if he was one of the people i was deciding between and i just said yes bc i didnt wanna make him feel bad. so now he like really thinks he has a chance. but i dont like him.. but i also dont want to hurt his feelings. so what should i do about him? theres this other guy too. lets call him "D" (he goes to my school also). hes another one of my good guy friends. i was talking to him online a few days ago and he was like "you hate me" and i was like "what? no i dont" then he told me to rate how much i like him on a scale of 1-10. he said 5 was really good friends and more than 5 was more than friends. so i said 5 (because i only like him as a friend). and he like got all mad. so i dont know what to do about him. then theres this other guy lets call him "E"..jeez this is getting complicated haha i hope youre following all of this. but anyways he goes to the same school as my ex and theyre really good friends. anyways E calls and texts me all the time. hes told me before that he likes me. and he says all this cute stuff all of the time. i like him as a friend hes really funny and nice. but i dont really like him as more. i mean i flirt with him and stuff but hes just a fun guy ya know? like even if i did like him i couldnt go out with him bc my best friend went out w/ him in like january and also hes my exs best friend. anyways hes basically like obsessive. like i feel like hes stalking me sometimes. so idk what to do about him. like i want to tell him to back off.. but then again i dont want to hurt his feelings. then theres this other guy. lets call him "F". ive been kinda on & off about this guy. sometimes i like like him and sometimes i dont. hes really confusing bc sometimes he like picks fights with me and then other times he flirts with me like A LOT. like he keeps asking me to hang out but then when we did him & his friends like ditched me & my friends. i think it was kinda a joke but i still got mad at him. so i dont kno whats up with him either.
HELP?
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A -- If you didn't like this guy, why did you break up with him? The reason his friends probably hate you is most likely because you broke up with him for no reason. Yes, all his friends might like him and be jealous that he wants to hook up with someone far away, but honestly, the first reason makes a lot more sense.
B -- It's not stupid to like someone who lives far away. Liking someone is liking someone and it cannot be helped; this can be romantic or stupid depending on how you view the situation. It seams like he mostly likes you as a friend. Good friends do often tease each other in a way that can be viewed as flirting, though this does not always mean that there is "something" there. He would also wonder about you not going to the dance because you were a friend.
C -- Don't tell him you like him if you don't. It'll just hurt him more later on when you have to tell him that you don't like him. Besides, how are you obligated to like people? There are so many guys that do like you and you can't possibly please everyone. This goes for just about everything in life. Do what feels right for you and then you won't have to make the situation more complicated in general, worrying about how this guy feels and that guy feels. Just worry about yourself.
D -- is being lame. For some reason he seems to expect you to like him and he's feeling bad about himself and expects you to like him and cheer him up by this. Forget about him, at least until he matures to have a brain beyond that of a five year old.
E -- Tell him that you like him as a friend. As a brother. You're life is so complicated that you can't deal with more love life trauma. If this doesn't work then tell him politely that you can't always spend so much time with him. If things get out of hand, just stop flirting with him as much, or replying to whatever kind of electronic communication so he gets the message, then start replying at a really really slow rate so that he gets you don't want to be super super close, but don't want to lose contact altogether.
F -- Well, this guy is just confused, either that or you're reading the signs wrong. Sometimes people bicker with the people they like or play pranks on people because they like them. If he is actually fighting and not in a haha-I'm-teasing-you-and-sort-of-fighting-but-not-really kind of way, then I suggest you just spend less time around him. It seems like you don't need any more confusion right now and this guy probably won't know what he wants long enough to give you what you need, anyway.
In conclusion. There are lots of guys that like you. Maybe you like some of them. It seems like your main conflict of interest is between A and B. A you're not sure he likes you and if you entered into anything with him it would be hooking up. A relationship without commitment. If this isn't the kind of thing that you are looking for, I suggest you get over this guy once and for all. For whatever reason, he isn't ready for something real and mature, and if you go and hook up with him, hoping to get back together, he could end up only wanting a hook up and seriously hurting your feelings and dignity in the process. If you like B, by all means, keep up the flirting and see where it leads. Keep in mind that you have tons of time to work this all out. There is no one standing over your shoulder (at least, I hope not) going "You must have a boyfriend NOW!!! DECIDEEEE!!!" Maybe, since you just broke up with this A guy, you aren't really ready to go into something. Who knows, with time anything could happen. A totally new guy could come into your life and take your breath away, or maybe everything just clears up a bit. Don't pressure yourself. Do something with your (female) friends, join some school clubs, answer some advicenator questions, whatever floats your boat. If none of these guys stand out to you in your head, maybe you aren't really meant to be with any of them, anyway.
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well dont go out with someone you dont love and even if there nice dont flirt with them becuase when you tell them you want to be friends theyll be heart broken i think you should date the one you love the most the one thats right for you
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The boys you dont like just tell them you wwant to be friends if they like you. They may take it the wrong way, but why lead them on?
Your REALLY good friend, he needs to stay that. Cuz if you and hime date, and you break up then you might hate each other. But if you really think its worth it then go for it.
If you really like the first guy and he really likes yo be with him. That isnt hard.
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