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wow what to say. i still like this kid named alex, and im goin out with a guy that i dated before alex so lets call him my number 2. okay well i said yes to number 2 on thursday and it was infront of the entire class and i didnt want to say no and loook like a BITCH, and hurt his feelings so i said yeah. now yesterday [friday] in school me and alex we "bonded!" and i had the best time and being with alex just felt so right. being with "2" is kind of weird and i dont like him. but he really likes me and all my friends say i should stay with him hes a nice guy but i dont want to stay with a guy that is obbsessed with me and i dont like at all and makes me feel uncomfortable. well yeah thanks!
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ok well if you dont like number 2 then i think you should break it off with him, he will have to understand that you dont have the same feelings for him, but before you go and make a move with alex, you have to make sure that he feels the same way about you.
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So number two, you've dated but were you in a relationship? Did you break up with him or did you just not see him for a while because of summer or other reasons? If you haven't actually "broken up with" number 2, then of course he's a little obsessed with you. It's what happens when you like someone, and usually it's acceptable (to some extent) if you've already said yes to going out with them. If it's making you uncomfortable that he likes you, it's probably because you don't like him back. Why are you still with this guy in any way, and why do you feel obligated to him? Did you ever like him in the first place? Even if you are in front of people, you shouldn't feel like you have to say yes to certain things (going out on a date, being in a relationship, getting married, anything along those lines. I'm assuming that you said yes to a date or something?). It's okay to say no to a guy in these situations. Your being honest. It's not a reflection on them in any way, nor is it our fault, you just don't like him back. Entering anything where the guy thinks you like them when you don't is way worse than rejecting them. It ties them up when they could be moving on and meeting someone that will really become obsessed with them back. Rejecting guys is part of life for them and you in front of the whole class or not... in future you might say you want to "think about it" and then tell them no in private. Sure it might hurt for number two, but he needs to know how you feel, that you were only saying yes to him in front of the class to not look bad. It will hurt for him if he really likes you to find you may have been leading him on, but think of how much more it will hurt if he finds out months from now? It's not being a bitch to say no. It's being honest and it's sometimes the only non bitchy thing to do, in a way.
Now this Alex guy. I wouldn't necessarily go be with Alex and commit yourself to him just because you "bonded". "Bonding" isn't always the same as liking someone enough to date them, and it could mean you like them in totally different ways. It's good to have connections with people, though usually it makes them your friends more than anything. I suggest you keep hanging around with Alex and see where the whole bonding thing takes you. Don't make a big deal out of this whole thing thinking you must now "choose" between number two and Alex. You can hang out with both, just keep it friendly, and unless you feel strongly for either of them, don't send out any signals that you don't mean. Don't tell one that you want to date one on one and become attached to that one person until you are entirely sure that that's what you want.
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first talk to your friends about him tell them how you feel about him and they'll understand when they do talk to "2" AND EXPLAINT O HIM THE REASON WHY YOU BROKE UP WIT beacuse i always herd that if you lead a guy on rather then come wiith the truth they will hate you and be more mad at you ..trust me it happend to me dont lead "2" on beacuse he will even madder..if you tell him the truht he'll respest you for it and say we can still be friends and if yyou ever need anything im here for you he will feel like you still want him to be your friend and not otta your life...you no waht i mean..and then you will have alex ...there so just go out with him....
y&b hope i helped
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your in a pickle well its tough another week with 2 will show you how you really want to end up with either alex or 2. so try that!!!
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