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so this guy that used to like me told me he doesnt like me anymore. and the weird thing is is the day he told me he didnt like me this girl that i used to be friends with, who always gets in the way of anything that has to do with a guy for me, asked me if he asked me out yet. and i hadnt talked to her for like 2 to 3 weeks and it was just random. and then he told my other friend that he liked me still he just didnt want me to get hurt. then that night (the same day this all happened) he tells me he doesnt like me. and now hes hanging out with this girl. and i have a big feeling that shes got a lot to do with why he doesnt like me. and we were supposed to be best friends or whatever. and now she does this. and i dont know why she would do that. but like i just dont know what to do about anything, cause i still want to hang out with him, but he wants to hang out with her, and i dont want to be friends with he anymore, but also if i see her im gonna wanna bitch her out, so i dont know. advice would be awesome.
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My advice would be not to bitch out your friend, since it may make you look like, well, a bitch. So far I wouldn't freak out yet; you aren't even sure what is happening right now. It looks like that this guy you like is slightly confused himself to be telling one friend one thing about you and another friend something completely different. It's possible that he's going through a time of mixed feelings where he's not entirely sure about how he feels about you, so whenever he gets a change of mood/heart he goes to one of his friends to rant, which is perfectly normal. Most likely he is not planning on his friends telling any of this to you.
If this is all making you feel angry at this close friend of yours, I suggest you ask her what's going on, but not in an accusing way because that will most probably make her either mad or defensive and cause her to clam up. Besides, yelling at her will just alienate you two from each other. What you really want (isn't it?) is to find out what's going on. Ask her if she and the guy you like are friends or more than friends. If it looks like one of them might be falling for each other, it's your call whether this is okay with you. It might be best, in this case, not to get involved. However, if them together will hurt you you should tell your friend. In this case she may agree not to see him because you feel this way, though it's your call whether you want to tell her that you would rather she not see him. Hopefully you are just jumping to conclusions. It doesn't seem likely that she would be getting involved in anything on purpose, but if he is falling for your friend then there is not much you can do about it. Even with the whole telling your friend them together makes you uncomfortable, you don't really have a right to stop them from being together, even though it's okay to share your feelings (in a non bitching her out way, please). However, this is probably a misunderstanding that is causing you to freak out for no reason.
The girl that you used to be friends with - who knows why she asked you that. Maybe she's seeing if the territory's clear so she can decide whether or not she wants to ask him out. Maybe she's just wondering if you got together with this guy after all since she most probably knows by now that you like him. She could be curious, she could be asking to congratulate you because she doesn't like the guy anymore and wants to be happy for you at least if you are together; I don't know this person so you be the judge.
Now on what to do about this guy. Don't stop hanging out with him. Stay calm and cool throughout the confusion. It might not be the best thing to be continually freaking out over this, and fighting with your friends over him. If he finds out you are doing this it could come off as freaky and too forward and a situation he'll want to stay away from. Let him know that you like him but treat him like a nice guy who you like but don't need. Don't let him see you getting territorial over him. Stay collected until he comes to his senses, or a less confused guy comes along.
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what i think is he really does like you still. maybe hes just trying to make you jealous so he can see if u still have feelings for him. i suggest you confront her about it, if she was aware that you liked him thats no way for a best friend to act, theres many other guys why him. or what you can do is ask him to be honest to tell you the truth tell him how you feel maybe this may be a big mis understanding. hope this helped : ]
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