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hii im a female and im 16..
One night at a party i got really drunk& my boyfriend did to and we dident even know wat
we were doing..and we ended up having sex and since we drank we did not even think to use a condom...soo its been about a month since i havent had my period...do you think i could be pregnant? like what kind of side affects would i get?..thanks katie your awesomee
You might be pregnant. If he remembers, ask your bf if he climaxed inside you. Your period can still be a little irregular so it might be that or you can be pregnant. Heres a site that explains it better than I can.
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/earlypregnancysymptoms.html
http://www.babycenter.com/pregnancy-symptoms
Hope this helped,
Katie
I have a best friend, who has a boyfriend. And another best friend, who is just about to get one. Whenever we hang out with their guys, who are also really good friends, I always feel left out. Because they'll be flirting and laughing and kissing each other. And it makes me want a boyfriend even more badly than I already did. They do hang out with a lot a of other guys. But a couple of them like one of my friends. I don't know what to do. Whenever I hang out with them, I always feel like something is wrong with how I look or act, because I don't have a guy like they do.
Any advice on what to do?
Theres nothing wrong with you. Just because you happen to not have a boyfriend like your best friends do does NOT mean there is anything wrong with you. Im sure your a great person. Don't be so hard on yourself- look at all the great qualities you have. Look at the ones you have and your friends don't, cause then you'll realize your just as good as em' ;). It boosts your confidence when you see things in you that no one else has.
I had the same problem with my 2 best friends- they both had boyfriends (who were each others best friends too) and all 5 of us would always hang out. One of my friends completely ignored me for her bf, but the other one and her bf kept me more included. But even when we'd watch a movie they would make out and i'd sit there doing nothing. I found out how to fix it.. I made whatever I did the center of the attention. I would make jokes or talk and they would all pay attention to me because of what I was doing. It wasn't as bad that way. But then when they were all together I'd feel really alone seeing how they had boyfriends and I didn't. My one best friend (who included me) would say that she hated leaving me out and felt bad that I was a 5th wheel. Maybe you should try telling one of your friends how you feel because Im sure they would understand and want to make you feel more comfortable. About feeling lonely- try and ignore it. You don't need a boyfriend to be happy, you know your surrounded by your best friends and people who love you. Try thinking of that and not being single. I really hope this helped!
hey, sorry if this is like a waste of your time..but i sweat way too much. and its like gross. i mean im in good shape, im 14, and female. and YES, i wear deodorant. but its to the point where i cant even wear cute tight shirts anymore. i have huge circles of sweat under my pits. and im so self-conscience about it now. i use secret deodarent. any suggestions on how to not sweat or sweat very little? should i start to use guy deodarent? k, thanks.
You can always try to use a guys de-o. Try perscription deoderant. Also, I heard that if you put some baby powder under your pits it can stop the smell or absorb the sweat- something like that. Try anything, what do you have to loose? Its normal to sweat alot, i know tons of people with that problem. Dont worry about it
GOOD JOB KATIE!!!! I KNEW YOU WOULD MAKE VARSITY!!! I ALSO KNEW YOU WOULD NEED THE DIAPERS!! HAHA I LOVE YOU SUPERCALIFRAGILISTICEXPIALIDOCIOUS MUCH!!!!
I LOVE YOU KELSEY! we'll see each other alot now =)
i'm 5"10 and 152 pounds. i am almost at getting a flat stomach. when i havent eaten in a while, my stomach is almost flat. also, i want to reduce my butt size by a little.
i already walk for 45 min-1 hour each day.
so i'm wondering, what are some excercises i can do to reduce my butt and flatten my stomach?
http://exercise.about.com/cs/exerciseworkouts/tp/butt.htm
I look at that site and try to do some of those, im trying to get a smaller butt too =). For your stomach, seriosly just do crunches. When I watch tv i'll just flip over to laying on my back and do 25 crunches. I do around 150-200 a day, and my stomach got alot flatter. It used to look like I was pregnant =/, but now I can't push out my stomach that much anymore.Hope this helped
how do i boost my self-asteem? i've been working out-which helps a lot. But what else?
please&&thankyou
Look at all the great things about yourself that you know someone would kill to have. Weather is your nice hair, body, personality.. anything! When I get jealous of someone I just picture them doing something only I can do and it makes me feel alot better. If you enjoy doing something that makes you happy then do that! If you hang out with friends and feel happy with your self then hang out with them. I jog everynight and I feel so proud of myself when I finish- also its nice to jog because I run outside and its so nice to see the streets and everything natureish. It also realieves stress and I can get away from anything I am unhappy with. Hah, just do what you love and anything that can take your mind off your self asteem. Hope this helped!!
Katie
When you give a bloy job. is it smarter to spit or swallow? jus wondering! i've given on before.. but that taste is so gross! and its jus weird to spit.. so i'd like to know what everyone else thought about that! thanks! :)
I'd say spit. I heard like a tablespoon of sperm has like 10 calories or something- haha not the point though. But like, its more your choice weather you want that stuff inside your stomach. I heard that if you swallow too much you have to get your stomach pumped (Im not sure if its true). I say spit ;)
theres this one boy, eddie. We're best friends, and i'm in love with him(but he doesn't know). today, me, him, and two other friends were all together, and one of them asked him if he thought my other friend, kim, was hot. he kind of blushed, and he didnt really say yeah but he didnt deny it either. and then she was like, so you do? and he kinda said yeah.
but he kinda acts like he likes me. he sits next to me whenever he gets the chance, and he's really nice to me. when there are a whole group of us, me and him always end up walking behind the rest, talking to eachother.
does the fact that he thinks my friend is hot mean that he can't like me? does he sound like he might?
Just because he thinks your friend is hot doens't mean he can't like you also. Alot of guys think alot of girls are hot, but that doesn't mean they like them all. From what you said, it sounds to me like he likes you. You too seem really good friends and that can turn into a relationship easily. I think something will happen =)
~13/f~ im the kind of gothic rough girl and hes the kind of preppy nice guy.Im not sure how I like my friend bff or bf. Weve been really close friends for a long time then it started going to bffs. because I tell him more than my other bffs and he tells me a lot and were always there for each other. But then we flirt so much. people think or say were dating or should but were not. He knows I liked him I know he liked me but I have no idea now. I went to a paintball party. We both go paint balling a lot then at the party my team was my 5 bffs 3 of their bfs and him. we flirt so much that’s what im so confused about. He was showing off and when we separated he was looking for me and worried? hes just really to nice. Is that what it should be like. But now hes been wearin a lot of black and deppressed. Does that mean something. But then we do joke or do shoot each other on purpose. And my other bff and her bf broke up that night so I went with her. So he knew so he went to get him(the guy she broke up with). Then we went around me my bff(my ?bff or bf? As in him) and my other bff (she just broke up). he was talking to her about something ‘top secret’. later on she started truth or dare. I kept doing truths I was just to nervous. I knew it was a setup. He asked truth to me if id ever take a dare. Then my bff asked truth to me if I liked him then truth to him if he liked me we both said no. I regret it. Everyone already knew anyway but im just not sure if I like him bf or bff? And ive never kissed or been kissed. That’s what it was supposed to be…us kissing. I thought wed start taking it longer than just a ‘dare’ kiss like making out or something. I like him as a bf then bff then bf then bff I just am not sure whats wrong. Hes all I think and write about.
i really need help soon. we tell each other a lot of stuff and we both knew or thought before the party that we liked each other. my life is very messed up i hate it hes all i really had.
Do I like him as a boyfriend(bf) or best friend(bff). How do you think he likes me? What should we do? How do you kiss? How could i tell my mom?
this happened on friday and we still havent talked were bffs. what should i do?
You asked this question before right? I am pretty sure because I have one identical to yours in my inbox (sorry I hadn't answered yet).
Well, first of all this question was really confusing with the bf and bff, so try to limit the use of those terms next time you ask a question haha.
You asked that he wore black more and acted depressed so did that mean anything. He might want to be more in your style, or he might not even notice it. I'm not saying hes completely changing for you because that might not be true but there is a chance.
If you said you didn't like him no wonder he said he didn't like you back. If he said he didn't like you first then wouldn't you change your answer to not look stupid, or to keep things from geting akward. You know, the I like you only as a friend kinda akward. No one wants that. He might like you and just have changed his answer because he didn't want to look stupid. Or he might just not like you, which- I know- sucks.
Its possible to like someone as both. Theres nothing wrong with liking your best friend =)! It's great to be best friends before you have a relationship because it sets a good foundation kinda.
Personally, it sounds to me like he likes you back. I mean- flirting, a great friendship. Sounds like it could be something.
You should tell him how you feel. People can't get info based of hints or what friends say. Its so inacturate and it can really just make matters worse. Just because someone flirts doesn't mean they like you, and just because someone avoids you doesn't mean they hate you. You need to talk to someone and find out how they really feel. It is the simpliest and best way. And I mean even if you talk to them they STILL might not tell you the truth.. so just hope what they say to you is true.
Kissing- Ive got a site that is pretty much the world of kissing.
http://www.kissingbooth.com/kiss.htm
It can explain kissing in ways that I can't haha.
To tell you more, just tell her. Don't give her the juicy details that a teenage mom wouldn't want to hear. Just say, "mom I really like this boy and I think he likes me back and we might go out" or "mom I like my friend but Im not sure if he likes me back". Just be honest and say what you want. I don't know your mom so Im not sure what is best for you to tell her. Just say what you think is right.
I hope this helped and ask again if I didn't answer your question right.
katie
yesterday, i got so pissed at my dad
so i took scissors and cut myself.
its barely visible, but you can just see
a small scratch. i'm very scared .
i dont want to be acuuter and it was the
FIRST time i ever selfharmed. and i kind
of liked it. i dont want to be a cutter.
i know its wrong to do & i dont want to
get in a habit of cutting myself.. so
how can i stop while i'm ahead?? oh plz help
I'm not the most informed at cutting, but i'll try my best. Just, try spending time with people. If your not alone then you can't really self harm yourself, ya know? Also, try and keep away from sharp things if your tempted. It's always super hard to break a habit, but you can do it if you try.. TRUST ME! I mean, I gave up sweets for lent and I never touched one.. I couldn't believe I did it, but it wasnt even that hard.. just dedicate yourself super hard.
http://www.coolnurse.com/self-injury.htm
Heres a site that can help you im sure. Hope this helped
Katie
well my dream guy just asked me out.
And he's the whole package, but i'm worried.
Like four days ago he had just asked out
another girl and he told me at that time that
he was in love with her, four days later,
he asked me out. he said it wasnt out
of desperateness ( sorry, not word ? ) but i still feel like it was because c'mon, you
cant just fall out of love and back into it
with another girl in like three days !
so do you think i should consider our relationship? in school, he has a lot of classes
with her and i/m afraid, he'll flirt with her.
so should i stick with him or dump him
If you like him enough and you want to be with him, don't give him up to another girl he might not even care about anymore. Yeah, falling out of love in four days seems a little sudden and I understand where your coming from. But if you like him then go for it. If your scared he still likes her, then wait a little and see if he still seems into her (by fliriting with her, loosing intrest in you whenever she is around, etc.). Or, the honest and best way, just ask him. Say, "well, you told me you loved her and now your asking me out.. it seems kind of sudden and I dont know if we should go out if you still like her". If he says that he truely does like you, then go for it! If he still likes her, atleast you found out before you had a relationship and he hurt you by flirting with her. Finding out early is good so you can advoid future pain. Hope this helped
Katie
Any ideas of what kind of outfit i should wear to a fall out boy concert? I'm going in late spring so it will be warmer. thanks
Wear jeans and a band tshirt. Ive been told from an old friend.. "never wear the same band shirt of the band your going to see" Haha. Make sure youve got deep pockets too!
I had a crush on my friend for a very long time and he just broke up with is girlfriend from like 4 months. His girlfriend already moved on with another guy but I'm not sure if he is ready to date again. He has been giving me these weird signs at times but other times he just ignores me. I'm really confused about that. And everytime there was a party we would always flirt with each other and party....at this time he was still with her. DO you think i should ask him out or stay friends?
Maybe don't jump the gun and ask him out right away. If you find out stuff like, if hes ready to date again, if he likes you, if hes over her.. those kind of answers are helpful. If you have an "okay" friendship, try getting a better one so that you can talk to each other about stuff and can really trust each other. Being friends first is really nice because then you arn't shy around him or anything. So try working on geting a good friendship (if you don't have one) where you can talk to each other about serious things and flirt and hangout. Hopefully he'll start to like you a noticeable amount so you can then take another step hopefully towards a relationship. Hope this helped
Katie
i made a biig mistake. i broke up wiith my boyfriiend but now i want hiim bac but he has a giirlfriend. ii miiss hiim so much, ii cry myself to sleep just thiinkiing about hiim. what should ii do?
Probably try telling him. If your friends now and have a good friendship it might make things akward if he doesn't like you back. If you arn't friends then what do you have to loose? He might still like you, or he might have moved on. You never know unless you ask. If he doesn't like you back then you've got to try and get over it which I know is hard. Hope this helped
this is the myspace ?
no i mean like under your pics
you have two pics like a picture then
you have another one not connected, like as a caption
Ohhhh haha okay! Well get the picture code, and this is kind of hard to explain because if I tell you the part you need of the code.. the code like is activated and doens't show up how I need it to. But i'll try my best to explain.. (sorry if its confusing!!)
1. So you get the HTML code
2. Don't use the whole code, It won't fit in the caption box and you don't need the whole code.
3. (I used the underline things so the code wouldnt activate. Pretend like they arnt there) Use the part of the code that starts at the...< _i_m_g s_c_r_ and keep going untill it gets to, border_=_"0". You don't need the tinypic.com target thing or the alt image and video hosting thing.
Hopefully that was easy to understand? Sorry again if it wasn't. So thats how you get pictures as captions for your myspace pics.
hey well lately i have had this fluid comeoing out my my vagina and i dont think it is discharge, but it is sticky and clear but when it gets on my underwhere and dries it turns yellow? would that be discharge or something else i have never had sex before and im only 12? thanks
I'm pretty sure it's discharge. If you have a lot then your period might be around the corner. If you don't want it to be in your underwear try wearing panty liner. Hope this helped
this is a myspace question. how do you put like two pics under one comment, like not connected but two seperate ones?
Do you mean like commenting someone with pictures, like sending pictures in comments? If that is what you want, then find the picture code (hopefully you know how to do that already) and paste it into a comment. Then hit the space bar and put.. "" Take out the underspaces.. I had to put that so the code wouldn't actually work. It is basically a code to space things. I hope that is what you were talking about. If it wasn't then ask again with more detail so I can tell what your talking about.
Katie
hi kate.
me and my boyfriend just had sex.
and im onnly 15.
this probably sounds really weird to you
but he always pulls out before anything can happen but last time we had sex something felt wrong.
lately ive been having extra discharge
and i hear its a sign of pregnency,
but im too young to even tell my mom i have sex.
im just scared and i dont know what to do.
any sites or something i could go on?
It's not weird at all, don't worry. I think it's better to worry about being pregnant then never even thinking it could happen to you. Atleast you are thinking right, good job. Did you use a condom? If you didnt, of course there is a chance your pregnant, even if he didn't cum because you never know, there might be sperm on his junk anyways(pre-ejaculation). If you used a condom, the chances are lowered. Its good that he pulls about before he cums, it seems like a good "just incase" method, if you get what I mean.
Here are some sites-
http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy.htm (Symtoms of being pregnant)
http://www.coolnurse.com/
http://kidshealth.com/teen/sexual_health/
www.sexinfo101.com
http://www.seventeen.com/health-sex-fitness/
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=younggrandma : I love her advice, shes pretty good (recommended)
I hope this helped. If you used a condom thats great because its stupid not to, and if you didnt then.. that sucks. I hope everything works out good.
Best of luck, Katie
PS) The "pull-out" method isn't reliable! No glove, no love!
what does 69 mean>? hah cuz idkk
A position where the male licks the female's vagina and the female sucks the male's penis...could be used for male on male or female on female action it should not be considered intercourse because it is only oral...fun position that every one talks about and makes jokes about untill they experience it for the first time.
most popular number spoken about by teens next to 420.
... says urban dictionary. Just think of the numbers as peoples bodies.
Well I want to practice more cheerleading routines and stuff. Does anyone know any good websites to get stuff off of. And please dont tell me to google it. Thank you :).
http://www.mspineapple.com/
Love the site. Check out the photo albums and you'll be occupied for ever.