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confused about a friend
~13/f~ im the kind of gothic rough girl and hes the kind of preppy nice guy.Im not sure how I like my friend bff or bf. Weve been really close friends for a long time then it started going to bffs. because I tell him more than my other bffs and he tells me a lot and were always there for each other. But then we flirt so much. people think or say were dating or should but were not. He knows I liked him I know he liked me but I have no idea now. I went to a paintball party. We both go paint balling a lot then at the party my team was my 5 bffs 3 of their bfs and him. we flirt so much that’s what im so confused about. He was showing off and when we separated he was looking for me and worried? hes just really to nice. Is that what it should be like. But now hes been wearin a lot of black and deppressed. Does that mean something. But then we do joke or do shoot each other on purpose. And my other bff and her bf broke up that night so I went with her. So he knew so he went to get him(the guy she broke up with). Then we went around me my bff(my ?bff or bf? As in him) and my other bff (she just broke up). he was talking to her about something ‘top secret’. later on she started truth or dare. I kept doing truths I was just to nervous. I knew it was a setup. He asked truth to me if id ever take a dare. Then my bff asked truth to me if I liked him then truth to him if he liked me we both said no. I regret it. Everyone already knew anyway but im just not sure if I like him bf or bff? And ive never kissed or been kissed. That’s what it was supposed to be…us kissing. I thought wed start taking it longer than just a ‘dare’ kiss like making out or something. I like him as a bf then bff then bf then bff I just am not sure whats wrong. Hes all I think and write about.
i really need help soon. we tell each other a lot of stuff and we both knew or thought before the party that we liked each other. my life is very messed up i hate it hes all i really had.
Do I like him as a boyfriend(bf) or best friend(bff). How do you think he likes me? What should we do? How do you kiss? How could i tell my mom?
this happened on friday and we still havent talked were bffs. what should i do?
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You asked this question before right? I am pretty sure because I have one identical to yours in my inbox (sorry I hadn't answered yet).
Well, first of all this question was really confusing with the bf and bff, so try to limit the use of those terms next time you ask a question haha.
You asked that he wore black more and acted depressed so did that mean anything. He might want to be more in your style, or he might not even notice it. I'm not saying hes completely changing for you because that might not be true but there is a chance.
If you said you didn't like him no wonder he said he didn't like you back. If he said he didn't like you first then wouldn't you change your answer to not look stupid, or to keep things from geting akward. You know, the I like you only as a friend kinda akward. No one wants that. He might like you and just have changed his answer because he didn't want to look stupid. Or he might just not like you, which- I know- sucks.
Its possible to like someone as both. Theres nothing wrong with liking your best friend =)! It's great to be best friends before you have a relationship because it sets a good foundation kinda.
Personally, it sounds to me like he likes you back. I mean- flirting, a great friendship. Sounds like it could be something.
You should tell him how you feel. People can't get info based of hints or what friends say. Its so inacturate and it can really just make matters worse. Just because someone flirts doesn't mean they like you, and just because someone avoids you doesn't mean they hate you. You need to talk to someone and find out how they really feel. It is the simpliest and best way. And I mean even if you talk to them they STILL might not tell you the truth.. so just hope what they say to you is true.
Kissing- Ive got a site that is pretty much the world of kissing.
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It can explain kissing in ways that I can't haha.
To tell you more, just tell her. Don't give her the juicy details that a teenage mom wouldn't want to hear. Just say, "mom I really like this boy and I think he likes me back and we might go out" or "mom I like my friend but Im not sure if he likes me back". Just be honest and say what you want. I don't know your mom so Im not sure what is best for you to tell her. Just say what you think is right.
I hope this helped and ask again if I didn't answer your question right.
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ye sound like really close friends but i defintaly think theres more to ye than just best friends.you say that he likes you too so why dont you ask him straight out could ye be more than best friends and if he looks confused then dont think he doesnt want there to be just say like could we be boyfriend and girlfriend.the reason i said is if he looks confused is because boys dont always know what you mean when you say them sort of things.
well to the kiss thing i havent kissed anyone yet but im going out with a boy called stephen and i think i will have kissed soon.my friends have and they just tell me to just tilt my head and lean in and close my eyes (if you want to close your eyes you dont have to)and most of all not to be nervous because if you are it will ruin the kiss and you want to enjoy the kiss not to be worrying about it.and you shouldnt just kiss someone because you feel you have too make sure your 100%ready.GOOD LUCK!xxaoifexxx
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okay listen.. THE SAME EXACT THING IS HAPPENEING to me and my best friend alex.
from what i read..
1) i think hes confused he might be thinking about how liking you would affect things. and alot of things must be running through his mind.
2)it sounds to me you like him, but you dont want to do anything unless you no for sure whats going on, just talk to him about it if hes your BFF he'll understand.
3) Dont kiss him yet, trust me DONT. wait until you figure things out.
4) Just tell your mom you found yourself liking him more then just your best friend, and she will respect that, if not try to explain to her whats been going on.
5)Hmm, maybehe hasnt talked to you becuase hes trying to figure things out to himself. trying to put things back in order. and see where he can put you in his life, BFF or GIRLFRIEND.
i hope i helped. :]
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Alright. Well, it DEFINITLY sounds like he likes you. And he's a really sweet guy, you shouldn't have said that you didn't like him. Ya'll were probably just embarrased, I would have been too. Not most boys & girls are that close. Ya'll really have something. I think you should just say "Remember when our friends asked if I liked you? Well... I lied." Because, I mean, it has to start somewhere. And it seems like he is too scared to make the first move. How do you kiss... well... Ya'll will be talking... then ya'll will keep looking at each other's lips, and when then one of ya'll will lean in. If he leans in closer to you, lean in closer to him while closing your eyes. And then you just kiss. Ya'll can do the opposite-head-thing, where if he leans his head to the left, you lean yours to the right. If he opens his mouth, open yours and let his tongue in. Like, massage his tongue with yours. Remember to breathe, though! lol. Just tell your mom casually, likes it's no big deal. Don't tell her that ya'll kissed though, because that's none of her business. Just say, "Hey mom! Guess what? I have a boyfriend..haha." But if you act like it's a big deal, then she probably will too. So just be casual. Or, if you don't have his phone number yet, you could ask him for it. That would be a good first-move. If you have anymore questions, just ask. :) Good luck!
Oh yeah, and I forgot to say... If he is dressing in black now and stuff, he might be trying to impress you! Or, he could be depressed that he can't get you.
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To the "his style changing" thing, friends rub off on friends and he might just be getting some influence from you.
Well, here's a question to answer your bf or bff question: would your hug him or kiss him? Which are you more comfortable doing? Also, are you willing to sacrifice a good friendship such as this one and go out with him?
I can't tell you if he likes you or not because I don't know him nor have I even met him nor am I him. So, I think you should just straightout tell him that you like him instead of playing a cat and mouse game. Just tell him "I think I like you more than a friend and I was wondering if you do too." or if there is a school dance coming up, aks him to it. If he says no and says he sees you only as a friend, back out of it saying that you couldn't find someone so you thought you two would go together as firends but guess ont.
But my best advice for you is to tell him directly yourself "I like you more than a friend, I think" or somehting like that. Go out with him. See what it feels like. If it's awkward, remain friends. If not, pursue it.
How do you kiss...hmmm well, it will come naturally. Just let him take the lead and follow what he does. There is not guidelines as to how people kiss. You just sort of go with the flow and get used to it naturally and figure it out yourself.
You can tell your mom directly or indirectly by just dropping hints here and there. You should just approach her one, regualr, normal, blunt day and say "I like so and so" and just start with that. If you don't want to, don't. If you want to, go ahead.
;) Good luck
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