heya guyz :-)
sorta quick question ...
me & my boyfriend have been together a couple of weeks now & we have been friendz 4 a long time be4 that. i`m 17. he is 18. i have never given a bj & i know he has received one from someone else be4. i don`t want to be bad at it so doees anyone have any tips plz. like what do i even do ha ha thanx :-)
The lollipop thing is great. Another VERY IMPORTANT tip I can give you is not to use your teeth. Don't even let them scrape against "it", it's very painful for guys. Another things I've found that guys like is to use your tongue a lot. Like, roll it around the tip & stuff, & kind of tease him a little like that.
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So on feb. 13th my boyfriend got expelled for possesion of a controlled substance. His dad, still has him grounded and wont let him see me.
This seems understandable for getting expelled and serving a week in the detention center. But his dad lets him go hang out with friends, lets his friends come over and stay the night. It would be no big deal for us to see eachother cause i could just go to his friends house, but he lives 20 min. away=/ how can my boyfriend talk his dad into seeing me?
Possession of a controlled substance is a pretty serious thing. His dad probably won't let you two see each other because chances are he knows you're one of the most important things in your boyfriend's life, so he's using that as punishment. The only thing I can suggest is have your boyfriend maybe apologize & tell his dad he knows how wrong it was, & offer to do chores & things if he lets him see you sometimes. But really, though, if his dad doesn't want him seeing you, there's not much you two can do, since your boyfriend lives with him & everything.
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I'm 13(m) and I have a crush on a girl in school. I have been trying to give her signs and I have been flirting with her, but she never seems to notice. How do I get her to notice?
If she's not noticing your signs & flirting, it may be time to be blunt. Just tell her how you feel. She'll either have the same feelings, or she won't. Either way you won't have to wonder what if, or if she feels the same way. If you're not ready to tell her how you feel, maybe try asking her how she feels about you. Either way, it's best to just come right out with it instead of trying to beat around the bush.
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I have a crush on this girl in school, but I no that she doesn't feel the same way about me(she has a boyfriend already). How do I get her to love me instead of him?
You don't. You probably won't like my answer, but imagine how you would feel if you were this girl's boyfriend & another guy was trying to get her to love him instead of you. It's definitely not a good feeling, & there's a good chance the girl will only see you as a jerk if you try to do something like that.
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where can i download songs free that will work on itunes? i had limewire 4.16 or whatever but i uninstalled it for limewire 5 but now it wont work on my computer no matter how hard i try. i've been to playlist.com but i can't figure out how to download the songs for my ipod. a little help here?
Did you try going to the help section of Limewire's website? They should have some info on what you can do it get it working.
If you're looking for another program, try Kazaa, Emule, Bear Share, or Frost Wire. There are a lot of other similar programs, too.
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I dont want to break up with my girlfriend, because I dont want to be known as the jerk by all of her friends. To prevent this, how do I get my girlfriend to break up with me?
If you keep doing things to get her to break up with you, chances are you'll still be known as the jerk by all of her friends, because they're her friends. They're going to be there for her when she's down, & they won't put the blame on her. Yeah, it might suck, but it's a girl thing, I guess. My friends are the same way. When you two break up, chances are they'll all be talking about how much of a jerk you are, regardless of how the relationship ended.
Just be straight forward with her. Tell her that you don't think your relationship is working out, & it might be best to break up. If her friends think you're a jerk, so what. Other people's opinions shouldn't be that important.
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Have u ever heard that you are not supposed to clean or work on good friday because it is Gods Day??? if so tell me what you think about that. Why arent you supposed to???? Tell me what you know????
It's a religious thing. My boyfriend's parents are extremely religious, & I think they believe that, but they also don't clean or work on Sundays because it's supposed to be a day of rest. It really depends on how religious you are.
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i read tarot cards, and i've heard that crossing your legs while your reading them is bad. is this true ?
I also read tarot cards, & I think I cross my legs most of the time. I'm sure some people might say it's bad luck, but it's just like most urban legends & superstitions. Not really true, just speculation. I wouldn't believe it unless you're a truly superstitious person, but even then I don't really think it's true.
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i bought a domain site. i dont know how to edit it though. when i try to get onto the site, the computer says that theres no such thing.
how do i get onto my site to try to edit it like a normal website?
any advice is helpful !
thanks in advance !
It depends on what company you bought it from. Try going to that company's web site & see if there's an option for you to sign in & edit your site. Most sites don't allow you to edit it by going directly to the site, you have to go through your hosts site (usually) & edit it from there. If you still can't figure it out, try visiting the help section of the site you purchased the domain from.
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ok well this is embarassing and actually bothering me for a very long time....to start with i am a 27 year old female, before i got married i was a virgin...and guess what...i got married in august of 08...and still am a virgin! well as much as it sounds crazy and funny...this is driving my husband and my relationship downfall...i am basically scared to have sex...we have attempted several times...but everytime the poor man tries to put it in...i back off thinking its going to hurt...its been eight months now...and my husband's just a very understanding patient man...or else i feel if it were anyone else he would have cheated on his wife by now...my mom, my sister my close friends that i have shared it with...all have yelled at me about it...i am starting to hate the fact that i cant get this fear out of me...i mean come on i thought sex was suppose to be fun...and i also know it keeps a married relationship good...but thats missing in my married life..and i have to do something about it...please help!
I'm sure you probably have more than enough advice on this already, but I just wanted to throw some more in. First off, not trying to be rude to anyone, but I noticed some of the other advice givers before me saying not to make him stop if you don't feel comfortable & things like that. In my opinion, that is completely wrong. If you ever start feeling uncomfortable or too scared, you have every right in the world to say stop, & it doesn't make you any less of a good person. You have a right not to have to go through something like that if you're not comfortable.
Losing your virginity can be a scary thing, but it's not as bad as it may seem. Just make sure you're 100% ready to do it. Use lots of lube, & lots of foreplay. Then, have him start putting it in SLOWLY. I can't stress that enough. Maybe try having him just put the head in first, & not moving it in further for a few minutes while you adjust to it, then putting it in further.
And please remember that if you do not feel comfortable, don't be afraid to say something. Don't think that you owe it to him not to say anything, because you deserve to be comfortable in that kind of situation.
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I talked to this guy for a while let him know that i just wanted to be friends because i had got out of a bad relationship. we would hang out after i for off work. drive around and talk. when i would drop him off he would ask for a kiss and i would say no. he did this 3 or 4 times. i asked him to stop. well he sounded like something was wrong one day and wanted me to see him and go some place he needed to talk. so we drove to this place on top of a hill. well he goes i want to kiss you and i said no he said it again i said no. and he put his hands on my face and kissed me and i was against the door so i couldnt move away from him. he keep touching me and i would tell him no. he got my shirt off and stuff and told me to get into the other seat well at that point i just did what he said. i feel raped but i dont feel like i did everything to stop it. i was raped when i was 13 and that is how my virginity got taken from me. i just felt i couldnt get away then why would i be able to now. my question is was i? i didnt want it but i gave in.
That is rape, & I'm so sorry that happened to you. You clearly told him no (even if it was just to kissing), but he still continued, & even though you didn't say no anymore, it's still considered rape. It would be a good idea to go to the police, but if you don't think you can do it then it's fine. Don't do something that's going to stress you out or make you uncomfortable. I suggest this site a lot, but it's one of the most amazingly helpful sites I've ever been on. Here's the link: http://www.pandys.org. It's for survivors of rape & sexual assault, as well as secondary survivors (family & friends of victims). It has tons of helpful categories, including healing processes, & every member is so extremely supportive.
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Okay I heard that when you should brush your teeth until your gum's bleed is this true??
Not sure if I read that right, but are you saying that you heard that you should brush your teeth until your gums bleed?
If so, then whoever you heard this from is really wrong. Your gums should never bleed from brushing your teeth, & if they do, you're obviously brushing too hard, or you could have a form of gum disease. It is not good for your gums to bleed period, especially when doing something that's supposed to help your gums & teeth.
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when i was 4, i remember my grandpa doing some weird things. i am now 16 and have thought about it all these years. i dont remember it too clearly but i remember things that he did like pull his dick out of his pants and then put me on his lap on top of it. he did other weird stuff like that. its really weird between us now but i only see him once a year because he lives in another country. but he does things like smack my butt or put his arm around me. he doesnt do any of the stuff he did when i was a little kid though. is this considered molesting or anything? and how would this effect me now in life? thanks!
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. And yes, that would be considered sexual assault. As a victim of sexual assault myself, I can tell you that victims deal with it in different ways. But it is completely normal to be thinking about it now, because you never fully healed from it. By healing, I mean taking the proper steps in dealing with it. Along with the other sites suggested, I'm going to suggest another site for you to check out: http://www.pandys.org. It's an amazing site for survivors of rape & sexual assault. I'm a member there, & it has helped me tremendously. Everyone there is so supportive, & there are so many people who have dealt with similar things, so they can all relate. They have tons of categories, including healing steps. They also have a chat room where you can talk to other survivors. I'd highly recommend checking it out, it's so helpful.
Also, you might want to talk to a therapist, if that works for you.
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i usually get my period sometime at the beginning of the month. 31-5 sometime around there. well this month i havent had it so far and im not really sure why. me and my boyfriend havnt had sex. but we do fool around. im kinda getting worried. and im trying not to. and my boyfriend is getting scared and nervous. what should i do and what could it be.
I wouldn't worry too much yet. Periods can be a little irregular. I'd give it about a week more, & if you still don't have it, you might need to go to the doctor. If anything they should be able to give you something for your cramps.
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16/f
serious question and im looking for guys answers mostly. why cant you just like one girl? why do most of you have to been hooking up with alot of girls? i dont understand why one isnt good enough =( please help me understand.
I'm not a guy, but I thought I might try to help you out a little with this.
Not all guys are like that, but a lot are. It mainly has to do with their ages & maturity. Some guys just aren't ready to settle down with one girl, especially these days since the media & everything has made being a "player" look so good. The best thing you can do is be cautious about starting a relationship. There may be a cute guy that catches your eye, but you need to watch him & make sure he's not one of those guys who bounces from girl to girl, or has a reputation as a player. But don't give up on a relationship, though. You will find a good guy that is ready for a serious relationship with one girl, it just may take some time.
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well i love fingering myself and im not sure if my boyfriend will like to. I have loads of other canidates who would love to but ilove y boyfriend more what shall i do?
A lot of guys don't care to do that, but some guys don't like to. It's all about their personal opinion. The best thing you can do is talk to your boyfriend about it. He probably won't get offended by it, & it's best to always talk to your partner about what each of you are comfortable with doing. If he's not comfortable with it, though, don't pressure him, & please don't get another guy to do it. Imagine how your boyfriend would feel.
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before i start, let me begin by saying that i'm 18 years old, it's not like i'm some bratty teenager running away for no reason. but, honestly, i can't live in this house anymore. this is a mess. i'm not planning on running away forever, but these people have to miss me. i feel kind of bad about it, but i'm so mad right now, that i can't get over it. i'm 18 years old, i'm in college, and i don't even drive a car. i'm the only person in my family who doesn't drive a car. my mom drives a bmw and my family owns a lot. in high school, i was the angel of the class. i'm a straight A student, i didn't even go away for college. i've never gotten drunk in my life, never smoked. my best friend is literally my mother. i've never even slept over at anyone's house before. literally, i've been an angel. but, my family had other priorities than paying my insurance. they bought me cars, and then they never let me drive them because they hadn't put insurance on me. there is absolutely no point in that.... what so ever. so yes, i'm a little bit frustrated that my family keeps treating me like a child. right now, i'm on break and i wanted to go the gym to a spinning class at 12:15.... no one can take me. my grandmother is going to the doctor, and my mom and i got into a huge fight this morning and we're not speaking... plus she's at work. my cousin in 16 yrs old and he's the one i have to ask for rides. i'm sorry but this is ridiculous. my mother started the fight with me this morning and it just kept accelerating and accelerating and she left really angry, and i'm really angry. my grandmother won't even let me stay home alone. i know that i'm young, but i think i'm old enough to drive a car, and stay home alone, so that i can work on my term paper. so, yea i'm pissed. i need to find a way to run away for a little while... i can walk from here to the library... and at least i'll feel a little more independent that i can do that by myself. i just need to get out of here for a while... and i don't know how to do it without anyone noticing. i'm about to have a heart attack in here. it's a mess all the time, and no matter how much i clean, it's still a mess. i just can't do this anymore. can someone please help me?? and please don't answer if your answer is not to run away. i'm an adult, and i've already decided for myself. i'm just asking for advice on how to do it.
You're absolutely right that you're an adult & should be able to make decisions for yourself. The important thing to remember, though, is that you're still living under your parent's roof, so they have the right to kick you out at any time.
Have you tried talking to your family about all of this? It may work, but it may not. It's at least worth a try, though. Sit them down & tell them exactly how you feel, without being rude. Show them that you are an adult & should be treated like one. Running away may seem like a good idea, & if you need to get out of the house for a little while it might not be a bad idea, as long as you go somewhere safe & don't ignore your family's calls if they call looking for you, but remember that there may be some punishments that follow if you do.
I still think you should try to sit them down & talk to them about all of this. As for the car insurance, have you tried getting a job to help pay for your own car insurance? That would be a great way to show them that you are an adult & you can handle responsibility.
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i have a huge problem...
and it's pretty long but i hope someone can help because i don't think i've ever hurt this bad in my life.
ok so here's the deal. two weeks ago, my best friend and two other girls went tanning. i was under the impression that i was supposed to go, but apparently they "didn't have room" but no one told me anything, i just assumed i was still going until it got too late to go. we kind of all got into some tension about that, and i felt like they just didnt want me to go. so i felt shut out.
then they accused me of stealing my best friends purse, which i would NEVER do. can you understand where i felt like they didnt want me around?
well when my boyfriend heard about the situation he made the suggestion of not eating with those girls at prom with the exception of one (one of them is dating his best friend, and they live two hours away so they have to ride together) so i texted that girl and said "hey maybe you and i and our boyfriends should just eat together at prom..." and she kinda got upset about it and i said "oh ok well it was just a suggestion from my boyfriend because i felt like you guys didnt want me there anyway. no big deal, we can still all eat together if you want me and my bf to" and it was fine and everything was settled by thursday. everything was perfectly fine.
well, the girl i was talking about (my boyfriends best friends girlfriend...lol) was supposed to borrow a prom dress from me. i guess my mom thought she said that she was going to buy it, because the girl texted my mom and asked how low we'd go on the cost. so we were under the assumption that she was going to buy it. mom needed to know if she was still interested because if not she was going to go sell it so that we'd finally have a little bit of money. so i texted her friday and said "hey my mom said if you're going to get the dress you gotta buy it because if not we gotta sell somewhere else it or i can't get a dress" and she got sooo pissed off because she thought i was demanding payment right then, when really i was just telling her the situation. we just needed to know if she was still interested. i apologized for the misunderstanding and thought everything was fine. until i tried texting the girls and no one answered. and when i drove by where my best friend and her boyfriend live, the girls were there. so once again i felt shut out.. i didnt know they all hated me.
so i texted my best guy friend (best friends boyfriend) and asked to talk to my bff. he said no. and i said why, and he said because i said no. i thought he was joking around, cuz he always says stupid stuff like that. so i just said please, and he said it depends on what its about. i didnt have anything to hide, so i said well i just need to know why everyone is ignoring me. and he said "because you're a stupid bitch and you think you're better than everyone and no one likes you" and i still thought he was kidding......
so i said whoa what did i do?! cuz i wasnt sure what to think. and he said "that was a stupid question" and i said no, its not because i have no idea what you're talking about.
and he said:
"i'm talking about the shit about you saying that only you and *alex* and *tory* and *Joe* could only eat together at prom and you demanding that *tory* pay you for that dress right then. you think youre better than everyone and we're all sick of you"
so i said "no, that was a suggestion from *alex* because he thought the girls didnt wanna be around me after the whole tanning thing and the purse incident. it was all settled by thursday though so what changed"
and he said "nothing was settled about you eating with us, but now it is and you and *alex* arent invited"
thats fine, i dont care, but now they all say they hate me except my best friend, but her boyfriend will not let her talk to me or my mom, so i lost her too.
and she let her boyfriend tell my mom that her daughter was a stupid bitch and that if she would pull her head out of her ass and look around she might see how worthless her kid is" my mother saved her from abuse and neglect! we let her live with us for six months, and paid for everything for her. even bought her a brand new cell phone!
so they left, and now everyone hates me...but i really didnt do anything wrong! i live in such a small town, and they were really my only friends...
and they have forgiven the girl who called us all sluts and hoes, and stole our boyfriends. (the same girl who is dating my boyfriends best friend and who told them the doctored and edited dress story) they gave her a thousand chances to prove herself, but yet no one bothered to ask me about any of this before they made up their mind to hate me.
these are friends i've had since i was three.... what do i do?
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. As hard as it might be to hear this, these people obviously aren't good friends. You deserve much better. You haven't done anything wrong, & as horrible as it might seem, it sounds like they're just looking for reasons to turn against you. It sounds to me like a case of jealousy on the girl's parts. If I were you, I'd go to the prom with just your boyfriend & have a great time. Act like they don't matter to you at all. By acting like they're really upsetting you, you're just giving them the satisfaction that their stupid little plan worked. Sounds like they all need to do a little bit of growing up. And it is absolutely wrong of that guy to say those things about you to your mother. He sounds like a huge coward. It's hard, I know, but don't let it get to you. Hold your head up high, & enjoy your life.
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Hi i as wondering how do people get taller? i am an asain american so therefore it's a bit hard however,my whole family are around like 5'5-5'9 but i am barly 5'1.I am 15 .Female. I eat regulary and eat calcium but i dont know what to do.I am scared that i wont be able to grow anymore and be short forever,
which will really suck when i reach my 30's.
Is it also true thatgirls stop growing as soon as their period begins?
From what I've heard, most girls stop growing at around ages 16 to 18, but it could be different for different people. The period thing isn't true, though. Some girls start their periods really young, & they still get taller. 5'1" isn't a bad height. I'm almost 19 & I'm just 5'1". The calcium thing might help a little, but not much. You might be able to ask your doctor more about this, but I doubt there's much you can do.
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I found brownish spotting in my toilet paper 2 days after fingering.I am a virgin,but have been fingered before and I had bleeding when I was fingered for the first time .This is my second time to be fingered and I had this brownish spotting.Its 19 days after my periods.
Brown spotting is normal. It's a form of discharge & it happens to a lot of girls, whether they're virgins or not. I had a similar situation, but it turned into heavy bleeding shorty after my period that was really dark. That's the only time you need to worry.
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