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Rape?
I talked to this guy for a while let him know that i just wanted to be friends because i had got out of a bad relationship. we would hang out after i for off work. drive around and talk. when i would drop him off he would ask for a kiss and i would say no. he did this 3 or 4 times. i asked him to stop. well he sounded like something was wrong one day and wanted me to see him and go some place he needed to talk. so we drove to this place on top of a hill. well he goes i want to kiss you and i said no he said it again i said no. and he put his hands on my face and kissed me and i was against the door so i couldnt move away from him. he keep touching me and i would tell him no. he got my shirt off and stuff and told me to get into the other seat well at that point i just did what he said. i feel raped but i dont feel like i did everything to stop it. i was raped when i was 13 and that is how my virginity got taken from me. i just felt i couldnt get away then why would i be able to now. my question is was i? i didnt want it but i gave in.
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I am 13 and i cant picture any of this happening to me. But truth is I hope you r okay. you have been raped its clear. but there seemed like there was no way out of it. I hope you have told your mother or a female.
Get it out and calm down every time you think of it.
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That is rape, & I'm so sorry that happened to you. You clearly told him no (even if it was just to kissing), but he still continued, & even though you didn't say no anymore, it's still considered rape. It would be a good idea to go to the police, but if you don't think you can do it then it's fine. Don't do something that's going to stress you out or make you uncomfortable. I suggest this site a lot, but it's one of the most amazingly helpful sites I've ever been on. Here's the link: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). It's for survivors of rape & sexual assault, as well as secondary survivors (family & friends of victims). It has tons of helpful categories, including healing processes, & every member is so extremely supportive.
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You should call the cops now, if you haven't already. You should tell your parents first. Whatever else, they are your parents, and this is something that needs to be addressed by adults.
Yes, you were raped. He put you in a situation and made you feel helpless while he did what he wanted. That is rape.
Being a 6'2 guy, I can't really relate to the helplessness you feel and felt in the situation. I wish I could give you advice about how to handle it. You need to see a therapist. The fact that this has happened twice... did this guy know you had been raped?
If so, it sounds like he took advantage because he figured he'd get away with it.
If you ever find yourself in this position again, remember these points.
Nose. Eyes. Throat. Groin.
It is usually pretty difficult to maintain an erection when a girl is simultaneously clawing your eyes out with one hand and trying to rip your dick off with the other.
If the guy isn't armed, and its a situation like this he's looking to get his rocks off. Don't let him.
If you're being forced, as soon as the guy's dick clears his pants grab it as hard as you can, dig in with your fingernails, and twist it like its a pickle jar you can't get open. Genuinely try to rip his dick off, pull as hard as you can.
Even if he manages to get himself into you, punch him in the throat, claw at every inch of him you can reach, and its generally a great idea to try to claw his face up. Facial scars heal more slowly, and its a blaring sign.
Lastly, if this ever happens again call your parents and get to a hospital the first opportunity you get. Don't go shower, don't go to sleep, don't wait. Get it over with, get a rape kit done, and use the evidence to put the guy in prison where he'll get to know what its like to be raped himself.
He deserves it, and you just might save yourself from going through this again.
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