My favourite quote is 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'.
Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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So my boyfriend for almost a month still hasn't told his parents that we are going out. His parents are very strict, but he is 18 and I told him that he should be able to do what he wants. I wish he would tell them because I feel like I am in hiding because I can never call him because his parents are around. What should I do about this problem?
Also what is a good gift to give him for valentines. I was thinking a big card and homemade cookies. Is that to much or do you think that is just right?
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The Valentines gift sounds just right for the amount of time you two have been together. As for telling his parents, it is still very early in the relationship and maybe he doesn't want to share the newness with them just yet. My Son would not tell me if he was dating someone new until he wanted to bring her home for dinner. That sometimes wasn't for quite a few weeks. It doesn't mean he doesn't care enough for you, just that there is a lot going on at the start. Happy Valentines day. All the best.
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I've had a question like this before but I have more questions though. I am a christian so is my mom but my dad dosn't believe in God. I want to go to a christian college when I get older and he dosn't want me to because he thinks I'm gonna be a pastors wife and my husband would hate him because he drinks and all thats stuff because its a sin. I can't believe he would think that they would hate him because of that.
#2 I have been trying real hard to do my work and stuff like that but my dad just keeps putting me and down and not supporting me on what my choices are for my life. He is focusing on what I'm doing wrong and not what I'm actually trying to do.
He is putting me down on my work and my religion. And it feels as though my mom is the only one there who understands my life. I've tried talking to him it dosn't help at all he is very strict. I remember when he was so fun and there were no problems at all between us. Please help! (link)
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This is only my personal opinion, but it sounds as though your Dad is frightened of something. The way you describe his attitude sounds like he is trying to make life as awkward as possible for you in order that whatever is making his life miserable, will stay hidden. I can only suggest that you continue to study and strive for your own goals and just turn to your Mum for support.
If he was once a fun person, something must have happened to turn him into a sad man. Maybe his drinking has got out of control and he can see no way out of it.
These are not your problems and, although you may feel the need to, you cannot help him at the moment. You need to concentrate on getting your life in order. If he continues to put you down and focusing on what you are doing wrong, as a Christian you need to turn the other cheek. Continue being a good daughter to him, be pleasant and happy and maybe he will eventually see that the path you have chosen is a good one.
I hope that I have been able to help a little. I wish you all the very best.
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What does it mean when someone uses the phrase "This is boreing, but the bottom line is it's important." What does "bottom line" mean? (link)
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When someone uses the phrase "bottom line" is usually means that there is nowhere else to go or you have no choice but to do it. There tends to be nothing else after that with whatever the person is doing. For example the ultimate "bottom line" is that everyone will die eventually. Hope that helped.
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what does it mean when your with someone boyfriend/girlfriend wise and you feel completely safe like nothing can hurt you. you get major butterflys in your stomoch and feel all nervous around them. you think about them alot and when you kiss them it puts the biggest smile on your face. you want to see them all the time and it makes you sad when you cant. what does this mean? does this mean im in love? do i love them? i know i love this feeling but i dont know. is this what in love feels like? (link)
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If the worst thing that ever happened to you was to lose the one you feel all that about, then yes it is love. Enjoy every second of those feelings and remember them forever. All the best.
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My school is offering a school trip to Europe for the first time for Ap european history course (first year it's offered). My friends and I really want to go, since we're seniors and it'll be the first and last school trip we'll take. The problem is the trip overall is about 3000 dollars (for like 11 days trip) and not all of us can afford it. I know at least three of my friends 100% cant go if they cant gain any travel grants of any sorts(even 50% will work for them) and i really want them to go.
Does anyone know where we can obtain student travel grants? We've tried google but we haven't gotten any responses back yet. These are my closest friends since elementary school and i am really praying that they can somehow obtain grants and go too so any suggestions/advice will be greatly appreciated!!! (link)
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Perhaps you and your friends could organise some coffee mornings or cake sales. Anything that you could all do to try and raise some money towards the costs. Another idea worth trying would be a talent contest with a small prize for the winner. If you charged a small fee for everyone entering you might be surprised at how much interest is shown. Try asking local business people for sponsorship or doing car washes. I am sure you could come up with lots of ways to earn a little cash. I wish you all the best of luck and hope that you all get to have this amazing experience.
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I know this sounds kind of bratty, but please bear with me. I REALLY hate for my name to be yelled. It makes me mad. My parents know how much I hate to be spoken to loudly. I've asked AND told them to not yell for/to me when they tell me/need something.
A few days ago, I was taking a nap and my mom SCREAMED my name to tell me dinner was done. I said "okay" and laid in my bed for about five more minutes. After I got out of bed (I was still in my room getting clothes on so I could go eat downstairs), she then yells, "DID YOU HEAR ME? ARE YOU GOING TO EAT?". I then yelled at her, "YES I AM! JESUS!".
Today, she yelled "NATALIE, WE NEED THE PHONE!". I didn't get up and give her the phone right that minute. Within seconds of screaming that, she then proceeded to come to my room while I was getting the phone from the the other side of the room. I went, "HERE! TAKE IT!" and shoved it in her hand. She goes, "I DON'T LIKE YOU TALKING TO ME LIKE THAT!" and slams my door when she leaves.
Other information about the phone, it is the FIRST time I've ever taken/used the phone at our house since we just moved. It doesn't "belong" downstairs since there is no phone upstairs.
What should I do? (link)
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Hard I know, but try not to shout or yell back at your Mum. If you answer her in a pleasant voice the first time she calls, then follow it up a few moments later with something like "I'm just coming" again in a nice level voice so that she knows you are responding to her. It may take a little time to get her to realise shouting won't rile you, but it will be worth being patient to get a result. I feel that in this case if you act like the adult first, she may well follow suit. If it feels like you are going to lose your temper, try counting to ten before answering. Good luck and I hope it works for you.
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im having little cramps down there, and ive had a headache for 3 days now. and it looks like im "discharging" more or whatever. its not because my period is coming soon, because i just got done with it 4 days ago. yes im sexually active if that matters and i last had sex 3 days ago. i dont really get what toxic shock syndrome is but could that be what it is? i had a tampon in for 8 hours at his house on saturday and then his mom went and bought me some tampons. what do you think is wrong? oh yeah and is it normal that that ball thing inside of me (im guessing its the uterus) hurts when i have sex? like each time it goes in and hits it, it hurts? y does it hurt? sorry for so many questions. (link)
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With anything that might suggest an infection or TSS, you really need to go and see your doctor for advice and medication to treat it. The ball thing sounds like the uterus and it could be a little sore from an infection. Hope this helps a little.
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After 3 years in a relationship (2 of these living together), my boyfriend and I (we are 21 y.o.) broke up on good terms. I initiated the break up. We had been best friends for over 5 years at the time of break up but we agreed the relationship was not working and we were better off just as friends again. He said he still loved me and that he couldn't live without me in his life. I felt the same and we said we would try our best to maintain a friendship. He had no other good friends and neither did I.
For a couple of months we seemed to remain friends, but he became distant, making excuses not to see me and avoiding my calls, though denying he had found someone else (he is not the type to move on quickly, so I believe this is true). One day he said he was working, so I went to surprise him at work (some 30 minute drive out of town). He wasn't there and when I called him, he said he'd left already, but judging by the time of his txts to me, he must have lied about his whereabouts. I was angry and hurt, and decided to give him some space.
This morning, around 3 weeks after the above, I rang him and got a very cold reception. I couldn't believe this was my former best friend talking. The conversation ended abruptly when he had to go as someone had arrived at his house (an excuse, perhaps).
Here is where I need advice. I can accept losing him as a friend if that's what he wants, but I need closure from our relationship so that I can move on! But how do I get closure from someone who won't talk to me or see me? Is he likely to change his hostility toward me if I give him time?
Any suggestions would be hugely appreciated :)
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I won't try to answer why he is acting this way but can I suggest you write him a letter. Tell him you would like to understand what is happening for him and if you can help in any way. Explain that you would still like to remain his friend if possible, but if not, ask if he would mind meeting up for a 'closure' chat. He may be angry for various reasons and could find it hard to talk to you, if so you may just have to accept that it is all over and try to move on. At least you will have made an effort to understand but that it is now his problem. I hope that all goes well for you and you don't lose his friendship, but if you do, try to learn from the experience. All the best.
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to detailed but i was wondering when people have sex do they automatically moan or does it just come out without even trying or effort? im really confused and would like to know. (link)
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When you are enjoying yourself a lot there is a tendency to react verbally - ie moaning and making happy noises. It is an automatic reaction the same as crying if you are sad. However, there may be some people who remain completely silent which gives no indication of enjoyment or otherwise.
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"All children mature to the age of 21 in spirit so he will be able to contact you in some way. "
Where did you get this from? How do you know they mature to 21? How do you even know they mature? (link)
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We have a brilliant lady in this country (England)who gives readings in a magazine. She has said many times that children mature to 21 in spirit. I believe she is absolutely genuine because she gives out very personal information that only the person in spirit and the person asking for a reading can know about. Apparently children mature in spirit and live their lives to adulthood where they stay the same age. I hope that I have answered your question fully. You must always believe for yourself and to look for proof in your own way. All the best.
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hi, im 19, my brtother passed away as a baby when i was around 3, i was wondering, although im no medium or anything is there anyway i can contact im on my own? if so please let me know, and wold he be able to talk? as when he passed away he couldnt, do they "grow up" on the otherside? (link)
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I am a firm believer that if you sit quietly and focus on your brother something will happen. All children mature to the age of 21 in spirit so he will be able to contact you in some way.
If you haven't tried a medium yet, make sure you use a reputable one that has been recommended.
You may not receive any quick answers - maybe something will happen a little later on in the day or week. Ask a specific question for example "Show me a sign that I will understand".
Very often a little white feather may be found in an unusual place as a sign that someone has been near you. Look for things like a picture having been moved or a coincidence of songs playing at an appropriate moment.
I hope you find what you are looking for. Good luck.
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when i wake up in the morning i sometimes cough up blood i smoke ciggys and weed but i doubt that would make me do that just in the mornings wouldnt i be like bleeding the whole time i smoke if it was from that am i going to die (link)
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To be on the safe side please go and speak to a doctor about this. Until you find out exactly what is going on you will continue to fret about it.
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Okay! I am a really nice person who likes to hug people and stuff.So there are these kids with disabilities who attend our school and I love to death because they're nice.I always hug them and stuff.well, i didn't expect for them to take it as a lead on for something more.Well, this boy named (let's say)Louie like me.I don't like him and it isn't because of his disability-I am not attracted to him at all!There are lots of boys I am not attracted too.Plus I don't want a relationship, I need to focus on school.However I don't want him to think I am denying him because of his disability.So what can I say to him that I don't like him in that way without making it seem like it's the disability?I need help! (link)
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Perhaps you could say to him if he asks you out that you are deeply touched that he feels that way about you, but at the moment you need to concentrate on your studies and feel happier being single for the moment.
If he asks whether you don't like him because of his disability say that it is because of them/it that you really like him as a friend. If he is very upset then reassure him that you want to keep him as a very good friend and that if you went out and subsequently split up you would lose that friendship.
You sound like a really good person and I am sure you will handle it very sensitively. All the best.
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Im 17 and have been masterbating since I was 12, but A few hour ago I masterbated using a vibrator(it wasnt my first time either) and was going really fast, and a little hard, and when I was done I was bleeding, i bled for about and hour almost as mush as my period, but even though the bleeding stoped i feel a weird feeling in my gut and when I pee, can you help me out here, Is this normal? (link)
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You may have just scraped inside the vagina causing the bleeding. If it burns when you pee you may have an infection. Bruising may also make you feel a bit weird.
If you continue to feel uncomfortable, pop along to your doctor (a female may make you feel less uncomfortable) and they will reassure you. They will have heard this all before so please don't be embarrassed.
In future, try to be a little less vigorous with the vibrator, although not easy in the heat of the moment. Always make sure the vibrator is very clean before use too to minimise the risk of an infection. All the best.
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First of all, I have been in a very calm, steady & fulfilling relationship. The person I am involved with completes me. I am emotionally dependent. I centered my whole 4 yrs. never cheated, always thoughtful and caring. However, just two days ago, we had a heart to heart talk. We both feel it is time to move on. No 3rd party involved on both our part but I guess we both feel it is time to move on. The hard part is that I want to cling, remain & continue but I know in doing so I will completely lose myself. Right now, I am suffering. Have anxiety attacks & feel like my stomach turns upside down. Part of me died too.
Please don't ask me details why do we have to part ways... All I am saying is that it is time to do it. My question is --- what should i do to feel once more... What should I do to stop the nervous attacks? What should I do to stop being emotionally dependent. I am tearing apart. Anyone??? Please... (link)
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No matter how a relationship ends it is always going to hurt. You will be going through a bereavement period now, mourning what has been and what will no longer be.
You must allow yourself to grieve for what you had and this will help you to move forward.
Write yourself a letter noting all the good times and all the love you felt between you. Put it in a pretty envelope and seal it with love. Put the letter away until you are ready to read what you have written and can accept it was the past. It may sound crazy but it might just help.
You will be able to detach yourself from your ex-partner by thinking differently about things. Believe that you can do things for yourself and find a way of doing it. The more you can do alone, the better it will get.
Give yourself time and emotional space, but above all, love yourself. Good luck.
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Can you get pregant from dry humping? Like if both people have all there clothes on.
~Eli (link)
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No you can't get pregnant from dry humping.
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Ok. About a year ago, I was masterbating and I started to bleed. It was almost time to start my period, but I didn't start until about a week after. I know I popped my cherry. But is it possible to have my cherry popped again? I don't want to go through the humilitation of telling my husband [or boyfriend if I feel I am ready] that I popped my own cherry. Please help ASAP. (link)
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Once you have broken the hymen, it is only possible to break it again if it is surgically made intact again, or if it (very highly unlikely) repairs itself.
You do not need to tell your husband/boyfriend that you popped your own cherry because it could have happened using a tampon, vigorous exercise or even something as simple as horseriding.
Don't worry about it all at. All the best.
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My fiancee and I started having sex a few months ago, sometimes with a condom. (yeah I know i am asking for it when you don't use protection..) Well, In November I had my period for not even a day, it started in the morning and ended by afternoon. In December it lasted 1 day, seemed to stop and then I had 1 more day and then completely stopped. I am still waiting on my period for this month. My question is, could I possibly be pregnant? I've read that you could have light bleeding for the first 3 months (My mother did with my sister). I will probably take a pregnancy test this weekend. I am due for my period Thursday.
and for the record, if by any chance I am pregnant, its not a bad thing. I'm not worried or anything like that, I would LOVE a baby despite my age (19, engaged to be married in a year).. I was just wondering if an abnormal period could be a sign of pregnancy. Thanks!
oh, and since I started my period when i was 13 I have had a pretty regular period, lasting 5 days every time, so its kinda unusual at 19 for it to change. (link)
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Sounds to me that you are quite likely to be pregnant. To be absolutely certain after you have taken a pregnancy test, go along to your doctors for confirmation.
If you are and you are happy, congratulations as the last person said.
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Okay, for myspace really want a cute name. like my friend has hers as Ma-di-suhn™ but I can't think of anything cute for the name Brianna any help?
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Bree-Anna
Bree
Bree-an-nah
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ok so i like have dark hair on my arms, and it really pisses me off and like makes me hate my body is there anything i can do about them?and im not hsaving my arms by the way (link)
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My daughter has this problem and she bleaches the hair on her arms with a product from Nair. Try asking at your local chemist for a suitable product. By doing this regularly she has also noticed that the hairs are also becoming finer.
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