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Mother screaming


Question Posted Sunday February 4 2007, 6:02 pm

I know this sounds kind of bratty, but please bear with me. I REALLY hate for my name to be yelled. It makes me mad. My parents know how much I hate to be spoken to loudly. I've asked AND told them to not yell for/to me when they tell me/need something.

A few days ago, I was taking a nap and my mom SCREAMED my name to tell me dinner was done. I said "okay" and laid in my bed for about five more minutes. After I got out of bed (I was still in my room getting clothes on so I could go eat downstairs), she then yells, "DID YOU HEAR ME? ARE YOU GOING TO EAT?". I then yelled at her, "YES I AM! JESUS!".

Today, she yelled "NATALIE, WE NEED THE PHONE!". I didn't get up and give her the phone right that minute. Within seconds of screaming that, she then proceeded to come to my room while I was getting the phone from the the other side of the room. I went, "HERE! TAKE IT!" and shoved it in her hand. She goes, "I DON'T LIKE YOU TALKING TO ME LIKE THAT!" and slams my door when she leaves.

Other information about the phone, it is the FIRST time I've ever taken/used the phone at our house since we just moved. It doesn't "belong" downstairs since there is no phone upstairs.

What should I do?


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Elcee answered Monday February 5 2007, 6:36 am:
Hard I know, but try not to shout or yell back at your Mum. If you answer her in a pleasant voice the first time she calls, then follow it up a few moments later with something like "I'm just coming" again in a nice level voice so that she knows you are responding to her. It may take a little time to get her to realise shouting won't rile you, but it will be worth being patient to get a result. I feel that in this case if you act like the adult first, she may well follow suit. If it feels like you are going to lose your temper, try counting to ten before answering. Good luck and I hope it works for you.

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christina answered Sunday February 4 2007, 9:41 pm:
Talk to your mother about it, and don't be rude with her during that talk. Don't be rude with her period. The screaming will just get worse.

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