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What to do?what to do?-need help!
Okay! I am a really nice person who likes to hug people and stuff.So there are these kids with disabilities who attend our school and I love to death because they're nice.I always hug them and stuff.well, i didn't expect for them to take it as a lead on for something more.Well, this boy named (let's say)Louie like me.I don't like him and it isn't because of his disability-I am not attracted to him at all!There are lots of boys I am not attracted too.Plus I don't want a relationship, I need to focus on school.However I don't want him to think I am denying him because of his disability.So what can I say to him that I don't like him in that way without making it seem like it's the disability?I need help!
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Well, you can just tell him that it's because you would like him better as a friend. You might not want to "hug up" to him as much though. He might've felt as if you are leading him on. But when you tell him, if he thinks its because of his disability then re-assure him that it isn't. But don't go up to him and be like, I don't want to date you. But it's not because of your disability, I SWEAR! Because he might've not even thought of that, and that might put thoughts into his head. And we don't want that.
Hope I have helped. :)
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Hey! I hug people alot also and yeah. So this "louise" likes you kinf of, right? So you dont want him to take it the wrong way. If I were you I will say somethin' like this: " Hey! When I hugged you before, It didn't mean like 'i like or anything' but I like you as a great friend so I hug my friends" you got it? So, you do that if it doesnt work, you ask me again for another. Bye Bye!
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Why don't you begin a casual conversation with him, and then tell him (make this up in advance and have details) about a guy you knew before you knew him who was also handicapped and took your hugs and friendliness for something more, and what a problem you had dealing with it. Then smile and give him a hug and tell him how glad you are that you have him for a friend--that it makes you feel better to tell him about problems like that--and how happy you are that he lets you be yourself around him.
I think this will work, and it won't make anyone feel uncomfortable or singled out. Good luck! gigi
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ALrighty. Im glad that it is not because of his disability.Believe me I know what your going through, I am a hugging person too. SO, the key to this is frienship. Tell him that he is a very good freind, and that moving feelings up, might alter somethings in the freindship to a point of no return. And that he is too good of a freind to go farther. Remember friendship. Be nice, genuine, and sincere about it!
Hope I helped
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Perhaps you could say to him if he asks you out that you are deeply touched that he feels that way about you, but at the moment you need to concentrate on your studies and feel happier being single for the moment.
If he asks whether you don't like him because of his disability say that it is because of them/it that you really like him as a friend. If he is very upset then reassure him that you want to keep him as a very good friend and that if you went out and subsequently split up you would lose that friendship.
You sound like a really good person and I am sure you will handle it very sensitively. All the best.
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