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im 16/f
my parents offerd to by me a car. whats a good 1?
I have a Mazda3 5 door and absolutely LOVE IT!!!
I've been working at the same place for over a year and I really enjoy working there. I feel like I've established myself as a good employee. A past roommate of mine who I didn't get along with well and only see infrequently recently applied for a position at the same place I work. Apparently, she told my boss and others she spoke to that she knows me well and that I would be excited to work with her. She pretty much said that I really wanted her to work there and would recommend her. The problem is that I know this person is not a good worker. She is irresponsible about coming to work and tends to slack off when she does come. She's not very respectful to employers either and tends to demand that they give her time off whenever she wants it. I'm concerned that this person's job performance could reflect negatively on me, since she pretty much used me as a reference without my permission. Should I approach my boss about this? What should I do if my boss asks me about her? What can I do to distance myself from this person so that her poor performance won't make me look bad?
Definately tell your boss. Try not to bad mouth your exroomate, but make it perfectly clear that you did not agree to be a personal reference for her. If your boss asks you , don't lie. She used you, meaning, especially if she wrote you on the application, that you vouch for her. She doesn't have to agree with your voucher. For example, an ex-friend of mine used my parents as a reference to work in a daycare. My mother's honest reaction, "Well, she was a friend of my daughter's. I don't think she'd hurt a small child." Not a good personal reference. Good Luck!
I was recently terminated from a company. In my job search I've been saying I'm currently still employed. I've received an offer from another company and during the background check it has been revealed that I am no longer employed. Onmy application it says NOT to contact my current employer. So how did they find out? Was it a social security report? If so, what does this social security report state? Finally, how do I handle this so they don't recind the offer?
Thank you
Not contacting your employer, does not cover employment verification. There are services that give this information with the proper company code. This is done by credit card companies, law enforcement, and prospective employers. Never lie on your resume. The laws are not on your side.
I have sung since I was about 6 or 7 years old. I have never been too bad at it but I have always lacked in confidence. I can sing fine on my own when no one is around to hear me, but when it comes to singing in front of people, I can't. My friend and I have to sing a verse from a song together for a christmas concert. My friend always has a sore throat so she is generally out of tune and she tends to start laughing. I then have to stop singing because I am too nervous to sing alone. How can I over come this fear of singing in front of people, so that if my friend laughs in the concert, I can just carry on?
Sweetheart, I am terribly shy in front of a crowd, but I sang solo in a Christmas program once. For me the music gave me the confidence I needed. Focus on the music. Also, remember, there are very few people who find standing up in a crowd easy. That you have the courage to sing will seem a miricle enough to some in your audience. If your friend starts laughing, and you trip up a bit, don't worry. People will be looking on her mistakes not you. Just pick up as best you can and everyone will admire your ability to push through and "go on with the show." You'll do GREAT! Big hug, Sweetheart!
For like the past 4 months I have been having stabbing pains in my knee when I walk up or down the stairs, kneal down, stand up from sitting down, anything that includes bending the knee. Do you know of anything that I could have done to it or things that I can do to make it better? I went to my doctor before and he just told me there is nothing he can do and it made me really mad cause I am sure there is something he could have done but i don't know. Do u know of anything I can do to make it feel better at least? thanks alot for any help, and if you need more info just post it and I will reply again, thanks again.
Your doctor is an idiot. I had the same problem. The inner theigh muscle is not strong enough to keep your kneecap in proper place. That irritates the tondons and muscles of your knee. You need some physical therapy exercises that will help you build that muscle back up. If you don't the problem can become permanent and lead to arthritis. A little rest from stairs and asprin to reduce inflammation will help until the muscle becomes strong enough to do it's job, but it's not a good idea to use drugs of any kind as a permanent solution. Good luck!
Alright, my girlfriend just ended her period and we were thinking of sex. I tried to get a condom but with no luck. Now I checked up on it and people say after a period, there is no egg. So I thought, even without a condom, if we had sex and I,"Pulled out early." If there is a chance of pregnancy.
There is ALWAYS a chance of pregnacy before during and after the period. Eggs follow a general cycle, but they don't stick to it and you can't ask them. Pre-cum, cum, and residue around the outside all contain sperm, all of it can get a girl pregnant. Even with a condom, pregnacies can still occur. Nothing is 100% effective in preventing pregancy, except a full hysterectomy. Plus, you open youself to all kinds of disease without a condom. Even if both of you don't have STDs, jock itch, yeast infections, congenital herpes and all kinds of little nasties are waiting to try for you. I'm 31, I've been around long enough to see all of this crap happen.
Ok Heres my question
My friend ×Kitty× is dating my sisters guy friend. This guy friend is 16 and Kitty is 14. She and i are in middle school and hes in high skool. My sister tells me that Kittys Boyfriend is cheating on kitty, like my sister sees him at Partys wit other girls and gets other gurls numbers and shit like that. I tell Kitty then she asks him and of course he says no he would never cheat on her. he has even told me sister after he and her have sex that he will break up wit her and i told her that and she wouldnt talk to me for a week. How do i get her to realize that he is cheating on her?!
You can't. I know you want to protect your friend, but she is in too deep. If you try much harder she will turn on you. I have seen this happen. Let her know you have never lied to her, and let life deal her the blows she's heading for. Although her parents can get the guy arrested after the statetory rape. Sorry, Sweetie. She has blinded herself to the truth and won't see the train coming.
I never really liked anyone I was dating.I used to always cheat on all my boyfriends.
I started dating this guy about 8 months ago. I really like him. In fact I don't even care about other guys. We moved in together about 3 months ago.
Here's my problem I always think he's cheating on me. I get angry at him easly for the littlest things. I find myself always trying to start a fight with him. I don't know whats wrong with me! HELP!
21/female
I think you are projecting your insecurities on him. You know how you used to be, and you are terrified that he will be the same, now that you have finally given your heart to someone. This is your contience hounding you for old wrongs. It's called transferance. Seek some counciling. You have issues you need to deal with. If you can get him to go, great, but you really need to look into it for yourself. Hugs and luck!
Ok, well, i've been looking around advicenators and stuff. I noticed all these kids between ages 13-15 are so damn caught up on sx and shit. Well, for you to know, I'm 13, and in my town people are so layed back. It's a really small town. I know almost like everyone in the middle school which are ages 12-15. No, one does any of that shit. They all think it's stupid at this age. You never have to worry about having sex at the right time and when. Everyone is like a virgin in my school. I was really confused and distirbed about this......do you think 13-15 is to young to be having sex or not? I'm so confused. Is there something in my town that we're not getting?
thnx so much
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I think it's way too young. Your town sounds like a wonderful place to grow strong in body and heart. In most places now parents and neigbors are too wrapped up in their own life to care or provide protection properly for their children. To allow a child to be a child for as long as possible. In most places now kids are forced to grow so fast that even the one's being raised well and lovingly are peer pressured into keeping up with the others. It's not a healthy way to live mentally or physically. This is my belief in why you see so much pain on this web site and so much distructive misuse of young bodies and emotions. Concider yourself blessed that your town "gets it" right. It's the rest of the world that's spinning too fast and not allowing Her children to develop properly.
my mom hits me... she tells me she hates me a lott.... i dont know how to be good enough... please help me now
Sweetheart it is not you. Your mother has something very wrong with her. There are people who can keep you from being hit and can find your mother help. Go to a teacher or a school councilor or a police officer. They will find both of you the help you need. Hug and love, Sweetheart.
I recently started dating this guy and he seems really nice. He's in his mid 20's, he don't have any kids, and he's a gentlemen. But there's a downside. I don't know what to think about him. Something's just not right and I need yall for some support about what I feel. First of all, he has more than 1 tounge ring. Now that's weird, but I really don't see them much so I just gotten use to that. Second, he has long fingernails. I dislike when someone I date has longer nails than me. There's more! Third, he has the most unattractive walk. I like my men to have some kind of stroll and he DO NOT have that. Finally, he don't wear underwear! Now, I don't know what to think of that. People keep telling me that he's a freak or bisexual or something and that really don't sit well with me. He's a nice guy and all but I don't want to get all serious with someone who could fall for my brother. So please, tell me what yall think!
Well, he's certainly in freak mode. Just be friends. Maybe he'll grow out of it. 20 is still young and too confusing, but he just ain't your thing, girl. Don't force it. You don't have to have sex or a serious relationship with every guy you think is nice.
Hey..me and this girl were like BFF's for like 6 years in a row. . we did everything together. . .shopped,secrets,stupid fights,nails and everything! but then i introduced her to this girl that i new because she was new to the school..now her and the new girl are best friends and they ignore me all of the time! what should i do?!
Nothing you really can do. Friendships circle around, I had a friend who started going around with this girl all the time. They never asked me along, never waited around for me.. I was hurt and started pulling away. Found out my friend was getting so sick of the girl she ended up like sneaking under windows to keep from being seen and having me lie when we were hanging out, saying my friend wasn't there. Some relationships are like that. You may be best friends again next week. You many end up hating each other. Good luck, hang in there.
um my friend says that she think she catch some nasty dieses i dont konw what is taht, she say the girl privite part itchys and alot of stiky liquid thing comes out alot she dont konw what to and she cant not go to the doctor b/c her family dont konw english
plssss help me out very much plz
ill rate highest i can
I would say yeast infection. Monostat 7 will help. She must find a way to the doctor to be sure the first time though. Can a friend go with her to translate?
My exbf chris and I only dated from march-july, then I broke up with him. It was more of a mutual break up, bc we just stopped talking and it was the right thing to do. Well I still care about him bc he was apart of my life for a while and I used to love him. I dont have any feelings for him I just want to be friends with him. We have pretty much been fighting since July 7th when we broke up. He says that he hates everything about me. I dont see what I do that makes him hate me so much. Hes like the only exbf of mine that says everything abuot me is terrible.I just dont get him. I have to see him everyday at school bc we are in a class together. I just want him to be friends with me. His best friend is my best friend nichole. So it is kind of hard not to care about him when he is friends with eveyrone but me. I dont even remember the last time that he and I had a good conversation.Thats all I want more then anything. I have been more depressed then anything right now and all I want to do is talk to him. He used to say back in september or w/e that he would always be here for me to talk to. Why can he still be like that? I gave up on being trying to be friends with him about 2 months ago. I want to try again. I miss him I guess. I almost killed myself and I wondered if I did it, then would he care, or would he be happy that I am dead. How can I be friends with him. I am such a sweet gurl and I have alot of friends. Guys like me, Im a good friend, why doesnt he?
He does, sweetie. Sometimes we feel so much for a person that when it is over the only way we can let go is by reversing our emotions. It's like you saying at the begining you didn't have any feelings for him and by the end you'd like to get back together. You're just going to have to hang in there for a while. Give him some time to come to terms with letting you go, and one day you'll both either have moved on or can come back together stronger than before. Yes it hurts, and it's very depressing, but life goes through these kind of cycles all the time. Just be nice to him, ignore his nasty attitude, and let time heal. Luck and love Sweetheart!
You know that little piece of skin between you anus anus and your vagina? Well it burns when I urinate and it started bleeding. What should I do?!
*Scared*
Wash and keep it as dry as possible. Use A&D ointment (found in the baby care section) to reduce the irritation and to keep the area protected. If it isn't better in a few days or gets worse, go to your gyno. It sounds like you just have some irritation or a tiny rip (no big deal). Just pay attention to it. Good luck.
my bf and me have been going out for 2 weeks now. and it just weird. he has already told me that he loves me and everything. i can't stand that and when i told him not to say that, he got kinda upset. so then he told his friend that i said i love you first, and then his friend wants me and him to break up with him. and today when i wrote him a letter about it i was kinda mad. and during the passing period he came right up to me in the big lunch room and started yelling at me infront of god and everybody. i walked away trying not to cry, but when i walked into 3rd period i was balling. he told me later that i started it. and that he is tired of my prissy attitude. what do i do? what would you do? would you stay with him? should i dump him? i like him a lot
Dump his ass. This guy is going to go to jail for spousal abuse in the future. No good. Too clingy, too psycho. Get out while you can. Hope I'm wrong, pretty sure I'm not. Good Luck!
ok, my parents, dont smoke..or say they dont. when theyre in their room, and they leave and let me go in there..it smells horrible..like smoke, but not cigarette smoke. ive been to a concert...and smelled mostly everything there is to be smoked, and one of the smells is what i smell in my parents room. last year i was looking for presents around xmas(hehe) and i had heard of looking in btween the bed and the mattress, so i tried there. i found a couple of baggies with something in them..and no it wasnt a cd or anything.. well everyonce inawhile, i see a pipe stickin out from under the bed.the othr nite it finally hit me what the smell was..pot..so jus a second ago, i went in(theyre not home) and lifted up the matress, what do i find?the pipe i saw, and some baggies with the same stuff. so i went to freevibe.com to see what it could b..and i think it is pot. if they are, i need them to tell me, even though i noe that wont happen. if they are i wanna get out of the house and go stay with my aunt. the thing is, i love my parents, and theyre BOTH sunday school teachers.do u think they are? and if they are..how can i stop it or let them realize i know?
Boy, this is role reversal. The only kids I've ever known who's parents smoked also grew and passed it around. They were more worried in school over getting their ciggs taken up. Start by asking what the smell is. Start really complaoning about it. THC builds up, they'll buy it. If they know you notice... Progress from there. I mean you don't want them poking through your stuff, do you? If you can't guilt them into it in a few weeks, just straight out ask. The worst that happens is the worse case you've already got in your head. Good luck, sweetie.
I like this guy.. a lot. But all my friends say he's a dork and crap and I really don't think soo... I know I should listen to them but its hard not to, I mean, they're my friends!! What should I do? Choose the guy over my friends or vica versa?
A friend doesn't just dump you because you like a guy they don't approve of. There is no reason to choose one or the other. If they start acting like jerks, just tell them.
All my friends do all this oral sex crap with all the guys... im waiting till im married to do all that stuff. I think they are total sluts for doing it with just a radom guy they know, when they dont even have feelings for them at all, just friendly ones. I really think its gross i mean were only in 8th grade and were 14... i mean makeing out and that is ok but yeah ... am i wrong?
No, you are not wrong. In fact you seem to be the only one of your friends with any sense. Do they know where those things have been? Yuck! In the right time with YOUR guy, tt can be fun, but quite frankly if I'm not willing to go all the way it's a waste of my time. Random acts of sex are just stupid. Plus anything you can get from sticking it without a condom down there, you can also get the same way in your mouth. Happy Herpes to your friends!
In the last year my periods have been really irregular. I'm 17 and I started my periods when I was 9 and they used to be quite regular, as far as I can recall because I never used to pay much attention to them.
In Spring my period was 3 months late and so I took a pregnancy test which was negative. In June and July my period was normal but the it was nearly 3 months late again. I had my last period late in October.
Does anyone know what is going on?
Lots of women have irregular periods, but they should always be discussed with your gyno. There are so many factors that can cause it from stress to cancer. Only your doctor can give you accurate advise on this after a full exam. Most of the time though it is a simple hormone imbalance that can be regulated with birth control pills. Good thing about that, with a medical neccessity, you can get birth control with just a pescription card co-pay. Your doc's office will have to arrange that, and it'sa hassel, but it can save you lots of money.