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Q: Ok, Im turning 15 soon can you guys give me some things i can do for a birthday party. That will be fun and not major expensive. Thanks so much! Btw, please dont delete

Do something you are really into. Or just invite friends ova for something fun. I dunno. Just do something YOU would like to do! Hope I helped! Rate me pelase!

xoxo, Maris

Q: Okay...There's this guy that likes me at school. And he's really short well for me anyway because im 5'4 right now. He doesn't bother me at all, but it's his friends. All they do is say things like "Will you go out with him, do you like him, he's in love with you!!". I wouldn't have any trouble with it if they didn't harass me every minute. It's just so distracting because now every time a guy asked me if i like him i scream, "NO I DONT GO THE F- AWAY!" or something real close to it. Im at the end of the rope because it's been happening for osme time now and i cant seem to know what to do! please help me!!! thank you
signed,
stressed out!

Well, It's weird that afta you screamed at them they were still bothering you, I would say something like, if you don't get the hell away from me I'll embarass,_________(the guy that likes you) really bad. They may stop. If they don't drop one in my inbox, xoMarisox. Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: My boyfriend who I was with for 8 months cheated on me and I don't even know what to do. I'm so hurt, I'm like in love with him and right now I jsut want to die. What should I do?

You should dump him, no girl should be cheated on. You can find some1 else, some1 better and love him even more. Forget your other boyfrined. It will be hard, but you can do it. I mean, what if he cheats on you again? Good luck! Hope I helped! Rate me please!

xoxo,Maris

Q: i was thinking of babysitting for people..(most likely people i dont know) with a friend of mine..this way the job is easier. Is this a good idea? Do you think i`ll be successful? How should i get perfect strangers to trust me to babysit their kids...any tips? thank you :)

Tell them how old u and ur friend r, u r very responsible, ur # and name any otha experiences u hav had b4. u may hav 2 split the money though if u do it wit a friend! Have fun! Good luck! Rate m please! Hope I helped!

xoxo, Maris

Q: is it a good way to make money

Babysittin is a great way 2 make money! I got payed $40 dollars for 4 hours! It's great! I highly recomend it!HOPe I helped! Rate me please! Good luck!

xoxo, Maris

Drop 1 in my inbox if u hav any otha ques.

Q: Hi!
Im the on e who has a problem about a mom paying $5.00 per less than 4 hours.
Im thinking everybody who answer my question really help, so thanks to every single one of you.
But what if im only 14, maybe she think that im only 14 that's why she need me to pay less than.
What should I do help.

When I was 12, I once got payed $40.00 4 2 kids for 4 hours. The kids were in bed most of the time. I think you shoukld say $5 an hour or sompin like that. No1 should get payed $5 for babysittin 4 kids! Hope I helepd! Good Luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: ok i have 2 questions

1. my ex-boyfriends when we broke up he said 4 me to promise to call him everyday still (we dont go to the same school) what does this mean??

2.we or he still says "i love you" and is always askin me out but then after he says sumthin he'll tell about this girl at his school how he walks her to class and holds her hand and it makes me sooo SAD that im not that girl....is he trying to make me jealous???...cz its workin!!

3. how can i tell him that i still care 4 him and why he keeps makin me jealous and that its hurtin me ...bad...too!??

I would forget about him. Try to make him jelious 2. You shouldnt b the only 1 getting hurt! He may like you alot. Or he may just want to hurt u. I mean he neva calls, makes up excuses, goes 2 a diff. skool, (doesnt always work out that way), holds hands wit diff. girls. He sounds like a cheater 2 me, look I'm sorry I had to say this but its the truth. U deserve some1 better! Hope I helepd! Rate me please! Good luck!

xoxo, Maris

Q: Hi.Yesterday i went to the doctor for a checkup and discovered im still only 5`3 and a whopping 206 pounds :( I gained about 8 pounds in 7 months. My weight has gone up and down for a few years, but this is the highest its been . I almost broke down crying in the office. Ive played the weight loss game..but in the end i keep losing. I dont want to lose the battle of being overweight.My mom and a couple friends who know my weight tell me I dont look like im 200lbs.
Im very athletic and muscular..but i hAVE to lose weight for good. I play tennis, basketball, softball for the school. Im pretty good at all of them...Im sorry this is long and its asking for a lot..but..im lost, depressed, and i dont know what to do. I dont want this to get out of control. I need to stop it now! Please, anything..i promise to give you the good ratings you guys desserve.
~desperate n depressed~

My friends sister is really over weight adn has ben having a hard time. It seems like you are very active. The only thing I could say for you to do is don't eat very much. When your hungrey, grab an apple or grapes, not a bag of chips or cookies. Don't eat when your bored or upset. Eating is usually the main couse of things like these. Just keep beening active and eat healthy! You'll feel better about yourself! Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: I have a big problem. Its this boy that i know but he is my friend though but i like him as more than a friend. But when we are talkin on the phone its like were boy friend and girlfriend.I had went out with him b 4 we b came friends then i ask him would he ever cheat on a girl and he said yes. So should i go back with him?

If you really really really like him, go for it, but if you don't I'm not sure. MAke sure you really know him. And also, tell him, u wont go with him if he cheats on him... no girl deserves 2 b cheated on!!!! Good luck! Hope I helped!!! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: My ex-boyfriend, and I really need 2 talk, and discuss our break up. But I dont know if I should or not cause we broke up on a bad key. And even if i did talk 2 him i wouldnt know what 2 say. Please help, and i'm 13.
*Sign*
Confused

Only talk to him if you want to be friends with him.

If you want to be friends with him--- Call him and say we need to taalk. Talk to him about all of this going on. IMing helpes more then face to face, the phone will work 2!

If you don't want to be friends with him--- There is no point in talking to him. Don't waste ur time, like someone else!

Good luck hope I helped! Rate me!

xoxo, Maris

Q: Okay, this guy really likes me and stuff like that. i am starting to like him to, but he isn't the cutest guy ever, what should I do??

Don't go out with him until you like him more, don;t go out with some1 just cuz you wnat a b/f. Tell him that you don't like him as much as he likes u. Don't worry,it will work out! Hope I helped! Rate me please! Good luck!

xoxo, Marissa

Q: okay well see im going to the movies with my 2 bestfriends and they are bringing their boyfriends!! see i dont have one so i feel left out what is a good way to get someone to like you?

That's hard. If you really don't want to go, try making up an excuse or just say I don't feel comfortable. I don't know how to get some 1 2 like u. Flirting always helps! But be yourself! Have fun! Hope I helped! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: okay well my two best friends go out... why does that bother me i mean i dont have feelings for my friend [hes a boy] but why does it bother me?? please answer people keep sayin i like him but i dont i need help soon

u may be a lil upset that ur friends r goin out and u arent. dont wry though, u no when the time is rite. maybe ur friends arent even ready yet! beleive me, its better to wait then rush 2 do sompin. hope i helped! good luck!

xoxo, maris

Q: Okay well see.. i like this guy names Tyler! He really likes me but see.. my BEST friend that i have known since i was like 3 or 4 likes him A LOT and she doesnt know i like him. He asked me out tonight and i dont know what to say.. i REALLY need you adive as soon as possible! Please!

Tell your friend you really like him. MAke sure she knows how you feel. You also like him too, she can't have everyone. Adn maybe if you say no to Tyler he may ask your friend. So ask if shes ok with it. And then tell Tyler your answer! Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: hey i have a problem my b/f asked if i wanted to feel him up and i said no not yet i'm not compfortable doing that yet cause i don't know what it means. so what should i do next time? should i tell him i don't know what it means or should i don't know can you guys help me and tell me what it means please? i rate good.

Look, I'm just gonna say 1 thing, don't do anything you don't want to! :) Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, maris

Q: Ok me and my 2 friends lyke this guy and i found out that he lykes me should i go with it cuz i really lyke him but i dont want to hurt my friends! Plz help

First, ask your friend how she feels. If she says I'm ok with it, go out with him. If she feels a lil uncomfortable, don't. The only thing is, you also like him too, I don't think you should just make the world revolve around your friend. I mean what would she say in this situation? Also, I TRUE friend would say yes to you for going out with him. Overall, I think you should ask your friend and go with it. Make sure your friend knows how you feel! Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: i've known him like forever, hes my bestfriend since we ran in diapers. recently ive noticed that whenever hes around me, my heart just pounds like crazy. i dont know why i feel that way.. i fear that i might be falling for him! if i do, what if he doesnt accept my love? i dont want our friendship to end if our relationship doesnt work out.. please help

First, see if he acts a little weird around you. Like he does like you. If he acts like that I think he may like you. The one reason is of what you said in your question " if i do, what if he doesnt accept my love? i dont want our friendship to end if our relationship doesnt work out" also, if you do date and you break up, that may end your friend ship. But if you rreally like him and you think he likes you, go for it! Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: what r some cute styles to put up hair
my hair is past my shoulders, brown and really think!!

I just got this idea yesterday. Take just a very little bit of hair in the front of your face. Pull it back so it is diaganol, not staright back, then clip it. Do the same with the other side. Make sure your hair is parted. I like to keep a few strans down in front of my style. Hope I helped! Rate me please!

xoxo, Maris

Q: I've been dating this guy for a year..and i love him with all my heart..But my mom doesnt approve and she doesnt want me being around him without her around..She doesnt trust me at all..what could i do to get her trust back?..i really need help!!

You need to be honest with your mom and tell her how you feel. If she still doesn't approve of it, you may want to brake up with him. Sneaking around with him won't do any good. Your mom knows best. But make sure your mom really hears you out. If she can't trust you withhaving a boyfriend, what about marriage? Hope I helped! Good luck! Rate me please!
xoxo, Maris

Q: Well i have been friends with this one guy who wears his mom's thongs, bras, and pantyhose. Everytime i'm talking to him on AOL, he always asks me if i can give him one of my thongs. He also always asks me if i get creeped out by it. I always lie and tell him no even thought it does. I don't want to hurt his feelings but he starts to creep me out because he swears he's not gay. Should i be supiscious...and how do i know if he's lying. I need some advice...Thanks

You need to tellh im the truth. Also, tell his mother what he is doing. Or, you could ask ur mom to talk to his mom about it. that is a lil creepy. but u need need need to tell him the truth! hope i helped! rate me please!

xoxo, maris

bio

Hey! I am Marissa and I'm 16. I live in South Carolina and I love to dance and laugh. I liek to give advice and help people a lot so feel free to ask me anything and I promise I will get back to you! &hearts